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What age is too youngt to identify as ace?

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Cake-Loving Dragon
On 3/15/2016 at 3:22 PM, dissolved said:

Providing they accept that things can and (judging by 99% of the world) likely will change, that they should only identify as something as long as it fits, and to not force themselves to "stay" as that identity, then I don't see an issue with age.

Wow this just helped my mini crisis, so thank you! 

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Cake-Loving Dragon
On 2/28/2018 at 3:09 AM, fiver said:

honestly it doesnt matter that much, but i'd say it's possible to know you're ace during and after puberty, but not before. this is different from other sexualities, because asexuality deals only with sexual attraction, and ace people are more likely to have a different romantic orientation, while hetero/homo/etc sexual people usually have matching romantic and sexual orientations (unless theyre aro of course). since young kids experience romantic attraction, but not sexual attraction, i'd say it's not possible to know if you're ace before puberty, but it is possible to know if you're aro. 

This explains so much for me. I'm 14, and I knew I was different romantically from a very age, though I didn't identify as aro until recently. But my sexuality, though I'm fairly sure I'm ace, is still a bit up for question. Your comment just made everything click for me. :)

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Lgbtq+

I am struggling with that as well. I am questioning if I am asexual because I would not want to have sex and I can't imagine myself doing that but I feel like I might be too young and it might just be because I'm not old enough to have/ want sex. By the way I'm 13. 

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Sally
On 8/27/2019 at 12:28 PM, Nylocke said:

 

My ex told me that he was "advanced" in this area probably because he was exposed to porn at a young age 

Some people like to kind of brag about how early they thought about sex.  

 

@Lgbtq+, wait until you're at least 15-16 before you try to define yourself.  

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CBC

This thread was started over three years ago, why on earth did someone revive it instead of making a new one ffs. Especially as this topic comes up like every week.

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SithEmpress

There is a time when you're too young, but it varies from person to person. It's easier to tell when you're aromantic since as a kid romantic and sexual attractions feel the same. Like as a kid I thought I was straight because I knew I was interested in boys, even if never pursued anything. I just never had the "switch" or whatever when people started developing sexual attraction. 

 

I wouldn't tell someone they're too young, though. They can choose whatever label they want and see if it fits. It's part of growing up and discovering yourself. 

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Nylocke
On 8/28/2019 at 9:14 PM, Sally said:

Some people like to kind of brag about how early they thought about sex. 

 

He went through, seen and experienced things that no child should ever have to so when he said how he used to finger girls in the back of the bus I definitely didn't think he was lying ...

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a fancy fish

I'm currently 13 and I believe I'm asexual however I'm gonna wait until I'm 15 and if I still don't experience sexual attraction, I'm gonna come out to my friends and family as asexual.

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helana12_03

It's never too early, but I feel like most asexuals start to realize that they may be different around their tween or teen years, when their friends start talking about cute/hot guys/girls, dating and then sex.

 

I feel like it started for me when I was around 9-10 when my friends showed interest in "dating" and romantic relationship (but I'm also aromantic. Romantic asexuals probably experience this few years later when their friends start talking about sex). I also hated all the boys in my class, so I thought it might change in high school when the boys were more mature and less stupid. For the longest time I thought I was just a late bloomer until I found out about asexuality. 

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Sally
On 9/10/2019 at 12:41 PM, a fancy fish said:

I'm currently 13 and I believe I'm asexual however I'm gonna wait until I'm 15 and if I still don't experience sexual attraction, I'm gonna come out to my friends and family as asexual.

There are a number of stories on AVEN about teens telling their families -- parents -- that they are asexual, and it often does not work well.  Think about it very carefull before you do so.  

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Olivia_
On 3/14/2016 at 10:51 PM, Maiflower said:

I don't think you're ever really too young, but the age I think where they're most likely going to be ace forever would be around 12-14.

What do you mean by "The age where they're most likely going to be ace forever would be around 12-14"?

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Beanie7

I didn't know about sex at all till I was like 11 and I just started identifying as asexual last year (I'm 14). I know i m asexual even hough i doubted it for a while and have never had sex, i just can understand that i would not like it. You can choose what you identify as at any age and it can definitely change. All that matters is you know what you like and don't like, doesn't matter how old you are. 

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cAROlyn

If you've been told you're too young or that there is an age cutoff, ignore that. Everyone realizes these things at different points in their lives.

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