Christian Sexual Woman married to Christian Asexual Man

[charmainer]

Is there any women out there that can relate to my relationship?

I am a Christian remarried woman who is sexual. My first husband was not a Christian and he had an affair and divorced me. I met a wonderful Godly man who was romantic, honest, funny and loving. We didn't believe in sex before marriage, so I admired his streght to absain from sex before marriage. However, on our Honeymoon I knew something wasn't quite right. I blamed his lack of desire on his being tired form the long drive, but over the years our sexual differences created problems. We went to several counselors and they always gave us assignments to help his sex drive. He did make an effort but always defaulted to not having sex at all. I was young, thin, attractive and aggressive sexually when he married me. I couldn't understand what was wrong with our relationship. I thought he might be Gay or that he was having an affair. Later in our marriage, I thought he might be getting his sexual needs met through Pornography. I always thought it was something wrong with Me. My self-esteem has been deeply affected by years of what I thought was rejection. I started turning to food full pleasure and gained weight. After, years of questioning and trying to figure him out, he told me that he doesn't like sex, that he never has. This wasn't a total surprize but now I have to deal with accepting him as an asexual person. We have two teenagers and are partners in ministry. There is no way I would divorce him, so I just need to know how to cope. Is there any women out there that is coping? How are you doing it?

Am married to a guy who i think might be asexual. He doesnt like to smooch /kiss..very rarely hugs...is not turned on my sexy lingerie. I know hes not having an affair or is gay. But i think he might be asexual. Its frustrating as he doesnt accept this. and claims hes interested in sex.How do i get him to see that hes asexual. He has an excuse of work pressure for the past 5 yrs.. Our honeymoon sucked!!!!!! he wanted to go around touring instead of being in bed.

Also feels funny kissing him. Weird. Am so depressed!!!!!!!!!!!!