Bezzy-Loo Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 I've been trying to get an better idea of what lithromanticism is, but the more I look, the less any of it seems to fit together. Based on some of the descriptions I've seen, I worry that I may be lithromantic, but based on others, it doesn't fit right. Could those who identify as lithromantic describe what it's like? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Star Bit Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 Lithromantic aka Aporomantic (which i prefer because its prefix is not a metaphor) is basically an unpositive reaction to reciprocation. More specifically it results in indifference, loss of interest, aversion, or repulsion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasha the Derp Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 You can be romantically attracted to people, but if they romantically like you back, then it has a negative effect to your feelings for them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SkyWorld Posted December 11, 2015 Share Posted December 11, 2015 Moved thread from Asexual Q&A to Romantic and Aromantic Orientations. SkyWorld Asexual Q&A Co-Moderator Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin L Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 Scenario. You're attracted to someone, and you really want to be in a relationship with them. You ask them out, they accept, and confess their attraction to you as well. Now you're not attracted to the person anymore. There's also another definition. You're attracted to someone, and you don't want to be in a relationship with them. You're content with the attraction itself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
19ace91 Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 Yep. Also, with me, it can extend to suspecting that they fancy me, and then the feelings vanish. They don't actually have to say the words or carry out explicit actions. Probably because I'm a sensitive person, I pick up on possible signs and that's enough for my feelings of romance to flee. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcutie418 Posted December 18, 2015 Share Posted December 18, 2015 Stumbled upon this thread and because I keep seeing lithromantic but never really feel the need to google it, I clicked on it . Totally sounds like me. Like I was at a video game bar last weekend and I saw this really cute guy so I chatted him up, started flirting, and offered to play a game with him, thought he was really funny and nice, but the moment he started flirting back and stuff I was just like eh why did I even like you? And countless other times this happens to me. The more you know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jack616 Posted December 19, 2015 Share Posted December 19, 2015 (Not sure which thread to put this in but) Can anyone help with the pronunciation of lithromantic and aporomantic? How would you say these? Come to that, do people say 'A... romantic or Arrowmantic? X Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue Phoenix Ace Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 I'm pretty sure it's A...romantic, but I really like how Arrowmantic sounds. Or, it's more like arom-antic. Heck, how do I know? mcutie, that sounds like lithromantic to me, if it happens consistently. That's the same boat I'm in. Crushes feel all nice, but actually going through with it for a relationship makes me cringe. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bezzy-Loo Posted December 21, 2015 Author Share Posted December 21, 2015 This is mostly making me think my concerns may be unfounded, but I'm still unsure. When I was younger, I enjoyed all the love talk as much as any stereotypical girl and described myself as a romantic, though I was a little more quiet about it than most. Love songs, love stories, writing poetry about love... even getting downright philosophical and pseudo-scientific about the nature of love. The idea of someone being attracted to me in some way always made me nervous, but also happy. Quite opposite of what is being described here, there were times I only developed a crush after first having some reason to believe that the person had a crush on me. My sense of romance has always been slightly skewed (for example, pretty as I think jewelry is, I would usually rather get something fun and/or useful), but I seem to be losing interest in it as a whole. I have plenty of things that could be causing it, but I'm not sure what actually is, but if feels important to figure it out. It could be my age (nearing 30), it could be my medication (Prozac), it could be because I haven't really had any proper time being single as an adult, it could just be another aspect of my seeming inability to stick to any one thing... I don't know. What I do know is that my boyfriend feels no different from a very close friend except in that I don't care if he sees me naked, and I seem to be disinterested in having a romantic-type relationship with anyone anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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