newgirl Posted December 15, 2020 Author Share Posted December 15, 2020 5 hours ago, Sleighcaptain said: @newgirl, of those, I think only a couple are still around. Woodworker1968 posts in PPS quite a bit I've been getting Aven nostalgic lately and I've been thinking about past and present members. I forgot, I join this group in 2005. I wish , I would have establish better friendship with people in this group during my 15 years. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
will123 Posted December 15, 2020 Share Posted December 15, 2020 1 hour ago, newgirl said: I've been getting Aven nostalgic lately and I've been thinking about past and present members. I forgot, I join this group in 2005. I wish , I would have establish better friendship with people in this group during my 15 years. I can't imagine my post count if I had joined back then LOL 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
JaySexual Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 Where are they now!!!??? How are U? ... @JaySexual ... @newgirl: I haven't posted in quite awhile, but do still try to visit the site on occasion. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TerriMI Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 I am an old virgin at 48. I am not into one night stands or casual relationships. I am not one of those people who needs to be in a relationship. I have a belief that sometimes it is better to alone than in a toxic relationship. I have looked high and low for someone that I can connect with emotionally and intellectually. I have not found the person yet. 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
OldNews Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 1 hour ago, TerriMI said: I am an old virgin at 48. I am not into one night stands or casual relationships. I am not one of those people who needs to be in a relationship. I have a belief that sometimes it is better to alone than in a toxic relationship. Absolutely! For some of us, being in a "relationship" isn't really an option at all. I do prefer to say "single", rather than "alone", because I have other social connections. No relationship is definitely better than the wrong relationship! 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Let Them Beet Cake Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 Well said OldNews! Single being my natural resting state it was always friendships not relationships for me. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted December 29, 2020 Author Share Posted December 29, 2020 Welcome to the thread @TerriMI Right now, I just want to be around a man and friends who are emotional available. At 50 years old, I've only been around men and people who are emotional UNavailable. This is why I have no friends or have no boyfriend/husband 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
will123 Posted December 29, 2020 Share Posted December 29, 2020 On 12/26/2020 at 3:25 PM, TerriMI said: I am an old virgin at 48. I am not into one night stands or casual relationships. I am not one of those people who needs to be in a relationship. I have a belief that sometimes it is better to alone than in a toxic relationship. I have looked high and low for someone that I can connect with emotionally and intellectually. I have not found the person yet. Welcome to AVEN! You're not alone by any means. I was 44 when I found out about asexuality (turned 59 in October) And I'm still a virgin! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TerriMI Posted January 4, 2021 Share Posted January 4, 2021 On 12/28/2020 at 8:40 PM, newgirl said: Welcome to the thread @TerriMI Right now, I just want to be around a man and friends who are emotional available. At 50 years old, I've only been around men and people who are emotional UNavailable. This is why I have no friends or have no boyfriend/husband Thanks! I totally understand where you are coming from. I am in the same situation, I don't have a partner. I do have one friend I had since childhood but she lives on the other side of the country. I'm having difficulty finding that one person that I can develop a deep emotional bond with however I kept on searching. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TerriMI Posted January 4, 2021 Share Posted January 4, 2021 On 12/28/2020 at 9:37 PM, will123 said: Welcome to AVEN! You're not alone by any means. I was 44 when I found out about asexuality (turned 59 in October) And I'm still a virgin! Thanks! I'm glad I know I am not alone. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
StasiaOB Posted January 24, 2021 Share Posted January 24, 2021 Wow - I haven't been on here a LONG time!!!! I have to remember to visit here more often. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted January 24, 2021 Author Share Posted January 24, 2021 15 hours ago, StasiaOB said: Wow - I haven't been on here a LONG time!!!! I have to remember to visit here more often. Please do! There are allot of Aven members who haven't posted on the site in over 5 or more years 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
dogwithbooks Posted January 24, 2021 Share Posted January 24, 2021 I’m an old virgin at 48, 49 in March. I‘ve had opportunities, but I wasn’t “ready” I thought, when I was younger and I when I got older I felt like it was a fetish for those who were interested... and I just wasn’t interested back. I never say never, but I would have to feel very safe and very emotionally attached and in love for it to happen. I honestly don’t really worry about it. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
will123 Posted January 24, 2021 Share Posted January 24, 2021 2 hours ago, dogwithbooks said: I’m an old virgin at 48, 49 in March. I‘ve had opportunities, but I wasn’t “ready” I thought, when I was younger and I when I got older I felt like it was a fetish for those who were interested... and I just wasn’t interested back. I never say never, but I would have to feel very safe and very emotionally attached and in love for it to happen. I honestly don’t really worry about it. I was 44 when I found out about asexuality. Losing my virginity (no longer worrying about it to be precise) was one of my first thoughts that day when I identified as asexual. I know others like you have said never say never, but the way I feel, I'm not looking (I'm aro as well) for a partner long or 'short' term that would result in sexual activity. Plus what allo would be interested in having sex with a 50+ male virgin? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted January 25, 2021 Author Share Posted January 25, 2021 19 hours ago, dogwithbooks said: I’m an old virgin at 48, 49 in March. I‘ve had opportunities, but I wasn’t “ready” I thought, when I was younger and I when I got older I felt like it was a fetish for those who were interested... and I just wasn’t interested back. I never say never, but I would have to feel very safe and very emotionally attached and in love for it to happen. I honestly don’t really worry about it. Welcome to the group. My birthday is in March too, I turn 51. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BlueAce Posted January 26, 2021 Share Posted January 26, 2021 On 12/26/2020 at 8:25 PM, TerriMI said: I am an old virgin at 48. I am not into one night stands or casual relationships. I am not one of those people who needs to be in a relationship. I have a belief that sometimes it is better to alone than in a toxic relationship. I have looked high and low for someone that I can connect with emotionally and intellectually. I have not found the person yet. Hi, Virginity does not define you, all that really matters is that you're happy. There are fewer and fewer people out there looking for an emotional & intellectual connection - that's unfortunately a sad truth. I'm like you, I'd rather be single than in bad relationship. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted February 8, 2021 Author Share Posted February 8, 2021 Does anyone have any Valentine Day plans? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TerriMI Posted February 8, 2021 Share Posted February 8, 2021 17 hours ago, newgirl said: Does anyone have any Valentine Day plans? Nope. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Homer Posted February 8, 2021 Share Posted February 8, 2021 A 12hr shift 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
stuttrboy Posted February 12, 2021 Share Posted February 12, 2021 I'm new to AVEN but I'm 46 year old virgin. I've sometimes thought maybe I should try it once to see if the lack of interest was just me being Ace or if sex was just as mind blowingly awesome as all my friends make it out to be. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
will123 Posted February 12, 2021 Share Posted February 12, 2021 1 minute ago, stuttrboy said: I'm new to AVEN but I'm 46 year old virgin. I've sometimes thought maybe I should try it once to see if the lack of interest was just me being Ace or if sex was just as mind blowingly awesome as all my friends make it out to be. Welcome to AVEN. I found out about asexuality when I was 44. Up to that point I had really become concerned about losing mine. However it was more thinking than doing. Once I identified as asexual, it became a non-issue. I was quite happy to know why I wasn't interested in sex or the fact that I was still a virgin wasn't a big deal after all. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted March 1, 2021 Author Share Posted March 1, 2021 Any new members bore before 1973? let me know. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sheddy Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 On 3/1/2021 at 1:35 AM, newgirl said: Any new members bore before 1973? let me know. 1972 vintage me 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sheddy Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 (edited) On 2/12/2021 at 6:51 PM, stuttrboy said: I'm new to AVEN but I'm 46 year old virgin. I've sometimes thought maybe I should try it once to see if the lack of interest was just me being Ace or if sex was just as mind blowingly awesome as all my friends make it out to be. Sex can be rather good, as I've said elsewhere that was a long time ago though! It all depends on who you are doing it with. Even when I felt some urge to have sex, when I was very young, like 20, it had to be with someone I had a strong bond with and trusted fully. Sex, or attempts at sex can also be a soul destroying experience with the wrong person and in my case there seem to be a lot of wrong people! Edited March 2, 2021 by Sheddy 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sheddy Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 On 2/8/2021 at 8:12 PM, Homer said: A 12hr shift Hummm, been there, I have been a workaholic in the past in order to cover up my lack of romantic opportunities. Having said that I do generally enjoy my work though. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted March 7, 2021 Author Share Posted March 7, 2021 I could be wrong but ..... We never hear from gay or lesbian asexual older virgin. Do older virgin asexual get tease for being older virgin too? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
will123 Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 3 hours ago, newgirl said: I could be wrong but ..... We never hear from gay or lesbian asexual older virgin. Do older virgin asexual get tease for being older virgin too? I has been my experience that after your 30s, people don't bring it up... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LeChat Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 3 hours ago, newgirl said: I could be wrong but ..... We never hear from gay or lesbian asexual older virgin. Do older virgin asexual get tease for being older virgin too? If it helps, I remember reading a few gay/homoromantic aces mention they were virgins (in the following thread links), and that, sometimes, other potential dating partners were surprised that they were virgins. Homoromantic / Asexy lesbian time! - Romantic and Aromantic Orientations - Asexual Visibility and Education Network (asexuality.org) Homoromantic guys chat - Romantic and Aromantic Orientations - Asexual Visibility and Education Network (asexuality.org) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted March 9, 2021 Author Share Posted March 9, 2021 Hey! Did anyone know about Aven members Caryne speed dating event "I run a zoom speed dating event with 2 friends, I would run a Ace event if we had at least 12 people." Http://www.zoomdating.ca 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TerriMI Posted March 14, 2021 Share Posted March 14, 2021 On 2/28/2021 at 8:35 PM, newgirl said: Any new members bore before 1973? let me know. I am. I was born in 1972. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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