Eri Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 I put 2-3 times a week but I want to work on whittling it down; it's so annoying. It's like, when certain subjects come up, and I find it physically pleasurable, but morally reprehensible. Interestingly, some of these involve hugging and kissing and touching males, but when I think of the real me, not this "fake" "fantasy" me, actually on the verge of doing so, I shudder and one thought jumps into my mind: "NEVER!" I would not want a man "entering" me for the sake of physical pleasure, couldn't imagine it, absolutely hate the thought. Ewwww. I'd be so grossed out by that. I am also grossed out by wet kisses, or even drier kisses, and confounded by the thought that sticking your tongue into another person's mouth would give you pleasure. I just don't get it...So, in summary, I wish I didn't have a sex drive; makes things so much more complicated, and is half the reason I'm "questioning," not definite. (Would you say I am asexual or not, based on the description above? If not, do you think I'll "change my mind" as so many people in my life seem to think? [i don't want to change that particular aversion, by the way.] If I am, why would my fantasies involve that? Conditioning by society? Maybe because none of the ickiness, the fluids, all that disgusting stuff is there? I would hug and hold hands.) So, recently it's been getting better, and by that I mean "less," but I want to know if anyone has any helpful suggestions for decreasing the sex drive...a case of Type C wanting to be Type B. Link to post Share on other sites
Brodertun Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 This is the dictionary def I came across (meriam webster online) 1 : to awaken from sleep2 : to rouse or stimulate to action or to physiological readiness for activity : EXCITE <the book aroused debate> intransitive senses : to awake from sleep : STIR I awaken from sleep at least once a day. As for arousal more along the lines of what people are talking about I never want to have sex with a guy, or even do something specific with one. (There is one sexual thing I would like to do again, but I've never seen someone and thought "Oh, I want him to do that"). Sometimes I see a cute guy and I get a good feeling. My heart may even flutter a bit, but it's not a sexual feeling. I kind of want to kiss a guy, as in I want to kiss a guy, but I know I never enjoyed kissing, so I don't know why I want to kiss a guy. And I've never seen a specific guy that I would want to kiss. If I watch gay guys together, I might get somewhat horny. But not so much so that it can't be turned off in a moment by another distraction (ie phone ringing). I always thought I had a low sex drive but after replying to this thread it might be more accurate to say I have a nonexistant sex drive. Link to post Share on other sites
Eri Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 You lucky, lucky person. Link to post Share on other sites
Astryda Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 Never, I guess :P Link to post Share on other sites
Shinnok Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 More than once a day. I'm usually always in the state of being aroused lol.. Link to post Share on other sites
AkiraCoinTykiGotBetaMuffin Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Never, nor have I ever really been. Link to post Share on other sites
superscyther Posted May 8, 2009 Share Posted May 8, 2009 I said never . . . but I don't even know what it is. So maybe I have been and just didn't know it? Though I rather doubt that. haha yeah that's what i wonder...i mean, i guess if it happens fairly often you know that it is...but idk what it feels like to know if i'm it :lol: I agree. Link to post Share on other sites
midsummer.mist Posted October 10, 2009 Share Posted October 10, 2009 Mostly once a week, sometimes more often. While I have my menstruation it occurs more often in usual. Link to post Share on other sites
articvibe Posted October 10, 2009 Share Posted October 10, 2009 I only skimmed over the posts, but there seem to be differing oppinions of what arousal implies... so here is the definition I used:"To stimulate sexual desire in." lol really? think your train of thought might be a little flawed lol i go more with Xeno's definition :D It's pretty easy to know if you are a guy :D I put arousal as when I "stand up" which with most guys can happen rather randomly. and it does happen fairly randomly, might be because im stilla hormonal teenager but at least once a day just a question is my libido going to go down as i get older cause its becomeing.... inconvineint to say the least. Link to post Share on other sites
kt8 Posted October 12, 2009 Share Posted October 12, 2009 I only get aroused if I make the effort to do so... Link to post Share on other sites
Dara_Effe' Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 I didn't vote because my option wasn't up there. I might get aroused maybe once or twice a year........maybe. Link to post Share on other sites
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