booksoversex Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 I have an onyx ring. It's plain and black, a bit shiny. I have been wearing it pretty much non-stop since I bought it, but sometimes takes it off at school or at work. I have been taking it off at this course I go to because I know one of the women there is ace, and she might think it would be stupid/silly or something like that, she is not someone who wears pride stuff at all. I also chose not to wear it at a family dinner this weekend. No one has asked about it, except one person telling me it was nice and asking where I bought it. I have prepared a lot of answers if people ask me, for instance why I wear it on my middle finger (I'll just say that the one I ordered was too big for my ring finger). I am horrified someone will believe I am a swinger, as a black ring on the right hand is apparently something they do. That would be awkward. Link to post Share on other sites
Little Sparrow Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 I bought a black ring years ago in a museum's souvenir shop. They had a whole little basket of wooden rings in all colours. I liked the black one best and bought it. It's quite big, so when I've worn it, it went on the middle finger of my right hand. Thing is, until, like, a month ago, I had absolutely no idea it meant anything. I just thought it was pretty. I'm not in a jewellery-wearing phase at the moment, so I'm currently not wearing it. Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 ^^ maybe your subconscious was telling you something? :-P Link to post Share on other sites
AceWolf Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 I wear mine sometimes, I never wear it when I am working as I work outside and do physical work its not really practical and I never wear it when I visit my mum as she will only hassle me about it, even more if she knew what it meant. I've never seen anyone wearing one either but its not commonly recognised since asexuality is mostly unheard of so a black ring doesn't always mean that someone is ace, I suppose. Link to post Share on other sites
012 Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 when I visit my mum as she will only hassle me about it, even more if she knew what it meant. Uggh. Parents need to just let their kids be who they are. By the way, Tomboys rock :) Link to post Share on other sites
BobRossRules Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 I wear one. Until recently I wore a matte carbon fiber ring. I got mine on Easy.com. I liked it as I was able to get a smaller band width and I did not want it shinny. However, as a gift to myself...celebrating my divorce and discovering my asexuality, I bought a black gold and black diamond ring. Ohhh fancy!!! Apparently, though, black diamonds are the most affordable, as is back gold. Even though you need a magnifying glass to see the diamonds, I really like it. I've been wearing it everyday and no one has asked me about it yet. If someone does, however, I'll be happy to share. EDIT: I meant Etsy.com - not easy.com (sounds like a porn meet-up site !!) :lol: Link to post Share on other sites
Phantasmal Fingers Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 I wear one all the time but the only people who have ever remarked on it are other aces! It's Tungsten. Someone advised me that steel tends to freeze your fingers in cold weather but tungsten doesn't have this effect. It cost £25 on amazon. As to whether I'd explain what it stands for if someone asked, well, I have the option, don't I ? I'll play that one by ear if and when it happens. Link to post Share on other sites
012 Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 I wear one. Until recently I wore a matte carbon fiber ring. I got mine on Easy.com. I liked it as I was able to get a smaller band width and I did not want it shinny. However, as a gift to myself...celebrating my divorce and discovering my asexuality, I bought a black gold and black diamond ring. Ohhh fancy!!! Apparently, though, black diamonds are the most affordable, as is back gold. Even though you need a magnifying glass to see the diamonds, I really like it. I've been wearing it everyday and no one has asked me about it yet. If someone does, however, I'll be happy to share. Cool. Celebrating a divorce can be a positive and liberating thing, sounds like you have a great attitude. I just got a ring for myself recently. I wear it some of the time but not always. There are some people who couldn't deal with this from me right now, I think. If someone asks I guess it'll depend on who it is and my mood at the moment. Would be nice to meet an ace girl someday but not holding my breath for that lol Link to post Share on other sites
Stargazer365 Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 I started wearing one two weeks ago as a reminder that I'm not alone with how I feel. I had my mom ask about it at Thanksgiving last week, which surprised me since she's never commented on any jewelry I have ever worn. I froze, since I'm still coming to terms with the realization I am asexual. I definitely didn't want to say what it really was for. Luckily I was saved from having to give a reason. She then asked if it was a stackable ring. I said yes, but she looked at me oddly the rest of the weekend. Link to post Share on other sites
012 Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 I started wearing one two weeks ago as a reminder that I'm not alone with how I feel. Yeah that's the best thing about it for me. Link to post Share on other sites
BobRossRules Posted December 5, 2015 Share Posted December 5, 2015 unless you're an ace, the ring itself is unremarkable. there really isn't anything about it that would prompt others to say..."oh your ring, what's it stand for?" whereas the asexual flag button that people wear may prompt more "what's that mean?" at least that has been my experience...it just looks like jewelry. Of course I don't get out much..so what do i know. Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted December 5, 2015 Share Posted December 5, 2015 Try buying a black ring, then you'll discover how unusual they are. I tried every jewellery shop in three towns and not one had a black ring for sale. Yays for Amazon Link to post Share on other sites
Yuko Posted December 6, 2015 Share Posted December 6, 2015 I consider to buy a new black ring to wear everyday. I wore one which i bought on the internet, but the size was too big even I choose the right number. It wasn’t comfortable. I had to pay attention to the ring not to slip from my finger (especially waving my hands). Later on, I put it somewhere in a drawer a few weeks. Now, I decided to wear a black ring again as a token of self-proudness. I especially need one now. I believe that it will help me to overcome coming divorce. I made a list on Etsy. The ring with engraving option looks to be nice, so that I can see an encouraging quote anytime. The thin ring looks also nice. It won’t disturb the feeling of my right hand. (The feeling of my right hand is very important for my work.) I stumbled across this VERY cool, carbon fiber ring on Kickstarter last night. Might have to back it. https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/2032033024/carbon-6-forged-carbon-fiber-and-luminescent-rings I love their Carbon Lume Ring - Purple. It's nice that they have a ring size exchange guarantee. Buying a ring on the internet is hesitating, even though it’s difficult to find a nice black ring in the shop around here. I was afraid of getting an unfit ring again. I wear this black silicone ring most of the time. It's really comfortable and it was cheap. You get 5 rings, 2 of which will probably fit. I have never had someone mention my ring to me, much the less know what it means. Never met another ACE "in the wild" except of course, at a meetup. Maybe that's a good idea for the first purchase for guys... I guess my size is around 6 or 5. Link to post Share on other sites
012 Posted December 6, 2015 Share Posted December 6, 2015 Try buying a black ring, then you'll discover how unusual they are. I tried every jewellery shop in three towns and not one had a black ring for sale. Yays for Amazon It did take me a little while to find one in a store. Link to post Share on other sites
moonnymph Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 Found mine on etsy.com Link to post Share on other sites
Nidwin Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 Wearing mine all the time and only remove it when I shave to avoid scratching my skin. Link to post Share on other sites
Mocha Jo Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 Faraday- your ring sounds really cool! I've been looking at the Carbon6 rings. I don't think I want one that glows, but their plain one is pretty. Diamonds are even prettier, though :) I've never heard of black gold or black diamonds. I think it is time I bought myself some jewelry since my divorce is finally final. Link to post Share on other sites
BobRossRules Posted January 2, 2016 Share Posted January 2, 2016 Faraday- your ring sounds really cool! I've been looking at the Carbon6 rings. I don't think I want one that glows, but their plain one is pretty. Diamonds are even prettier, though :) I've never heard of black gold or black diamonds. I think it is time I bought myself some jewelry since my divorce is finally final. I edited my post above. I got mine on Etsy.com (not easy.com). I never heard of black gold or black diamonds before either. There are also black silver rings too - kinda pretty. Congrats on the big D being finally final. ^_^ Link to post Share on other sites
Hypergraph Posted February 12, 2016 Share Posted February 12, 2016 Got my first ring "recognition" today. :D Actually, I saw the ace flag button on the woman's backpack and commented on it, then held up my right hand. She recognized the ring instantly. It was just in passing, but it was nice to get that smile of understanding and comradeship. Link to post Share on other sites
Actaeon70 Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 I've been wearing one for about three years, but nobody's ever asked about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Tja Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 I doubt many people are thinking of rings as a "statement". So, no one has asked me what the ring is for. Only a fellow ACE would know what it meant. One woman asked if it was a LOTR ring. She'd been looking for one, for her husband. Link to post Share on other sites
Phantasmal Fingers Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 In answer to the OP's original questions:- yes; no. I also wear what looks like a wedding ring on my left ring finger. Been asked about that a few times. It allows me to claim to be married, engaged or self-married (or whatever else I feel like saying). The only people who have ever commented on the black ring are other aces at meets... I suppose that means we aces really are in a minority :o Well I never... Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Phoenix Ace Posted March 2, 2016 Share Posted March 2, 2016 I've had a tungsten ring for about a month now and I wear it pretty much all the time. I've had people ask me about it, and I just call it my wedding ring and then hold up my middle finger all by itself... I looked at a YouTube review of the Carbon6 Lume rings and it looked very disappointing. In order to make it glow, you have to use this silly little flashlight it comes with and charge it up for like a minute. Then it lasts for five or so minutes. It was very unimpressive in the video. However, the carbon fiber part itself looked pretty nice. I'll have to lookup this black gold stuff. That sounds really cool. Link to post Share on other sites
MenthaPiperita Posted March 2, 2016 Share Posted March 2, 2016 I have a shiny black stainless steel ring that I recently began wearing in public on most days. Honestly, even if I didn't know about its connection to asexuality, I would probably wear a ring like this anyway (just maybe not on my middle finger) because I love the look of it. No one else comments on it, but it makes me feel happy when I look down at my hand during the day and see it. Besides the simple beauty of it, like Stargazer said, I wear it to remind myself "that I'm not alone with how I feel". Link to post Share on other sites
teatree Posted March 6, 2016 Share Posted March 6, 2016 I ordered myself a black ring! I don't usually like wearing rings, but this seems important to me, so I hope that I like wearing it. (And if not, I can always put it on a cord and wear it as a necklace; I know that it won't have the symbolism to others that way, but this is more for me, anyway.) It should be here in a couple of days, can't wait! Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Phoenix Ace Posted March 6, 2016 Share Posted March 6, 2016 I'm in the same boat teatree. I had never worn a ring before, but now I really like wearing this since it feels important. This is me showing it off: This is what I do when people ask me if I'm married or why I am still single: Link to post Share on other sites
BobRossRules Posted March 6, 2016 Share Posted March 6, 2016 It must of been another thread about black rings....but I made a post about this guy I saw wearing a black ring on his right middle finger. I've seen people wear them, but on different fingers or the other hand. Anyway, I was really surprised, and I blurted out "are you ace?" He looked at me with a blank stare...."a what?" I immediately knew I was mistaken. I told him what ace was, about the black ring, and where it's generally worn. He exclaimed an exploitative and immediately removed it. :o We chatted for a bit and had a good laugh. He then put it back on, but on the other hand and a different finger. It was kinda funny. :lol: :lol: Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Phoenix Ace Posted March 6, 2016 Share Posted March 6, 2016 Different hand and finger? Then you should have said "hey you must be a swinger!" Link to post Share on other sites
012 Posted March 8, 2016 Share Posted March 8, 2016 Different hand and finger? Then you should have said "hey you must be a swinger!" LOL that was my first thought too Link to post Share on other sites
teatree Posted March 11, 2016 Share Posted March 11, 2016 My ring arrived...and I don't like it. :( The ring itself is fine, but I didn't order a big enough size for my middle finger--I have a big knuckle-to-finger ratio, it turns out, and in order to get it over my large knuckles, it then swims on the finger. And I've been trying it out on my ring finger (where I can get it over my knuckle) but it's annoying me because there is the same problem with it being too big around the finger. So now I have to send it back--what a pain. (I decided I don't want to just wear it on a necklace, after all.) I thought of getting a silicone ring since they are stretchy and might work (I could possibly get away with getting a bit smaller size), but the width is just too big for me--the narrowest I can find is 5 mm and that's just too obtrusive for me. So now I have to send the ring back. A pain! And I am disappointed.... Link to post Share on other sites
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