A list of romantic orientations

[Amy Ghost]

Hulloo guys! ❤️

I thought the purpose of this topic to make a list of all romantic orientations in use. There are many and it is not easy to find them when you don't know about them. And many web sites accomodate only the basic ones. And then you can be surprised what are others using.

So how about we makea list of those orientations with their definitions to perhaps make it easier for the users?

Since this topic is meant to be for posting romantic orientations and have them all in one place, but also discussing them I put them all here into this first post, so they are not scattered around all around and are easily accesible.

 

Orientations

Abroromantic - Is someone who experiences a fluid or rapidly changing romantic attraction to different gender expressions.

Acoromantic - Is someone whose negative experiences with romance has alienated them from their allo-romanticism.

Adfecturomantic/Affecturomantic/Adfectual/Adfomantic - Is someone whose romantic attraction is affected by their neurodivergency.

Aidoromantic - Aidos was the the goddess of humbleness, respect and modesty. So an Aidoromantic is a person who finds themselves attracted to these qualities in a person only and feels strong aversion towards Egocentrics and arrogance and selfishness all the things that are similar to narcissist behaviours.

Alloromantic/Zedromantic - Is someone who experiences romantic attraction to other people. Also commonly just called a “romantic person.”

Alterous - Is someone who can't be described as neither being (entirely/completely) platonic nor romantic, & is an attraction best described as wanting emotional closeness without necessarily being (at all or entirely) platonic &/or romantic, & is used in the place of -romantic or -platonic (so say bi-alterous instead of bi-romantic).

Someone can be both alterous & romantic &/or platonic & can have varying degrees on attraction, ultimately feel discomfort / unease / or just a sense of inaccuracy in calling it wholly romantic or platonic.

More examples:

• Androalterous/Manalterous* - Alterous attraction to men and/or masculinity.
• Gynealterous/ Womanalterous* - Alterous attraction to women and/or femininity.
• Panalterous - Alterous attraction towards people regardless of sex and gender.
• Polyalterous - Alterous attraction towards people of more than one multiple sexes and gender, yet not all.
• Heteroalterous - Alterous attraction towards the opposite sex or gender.

Androromantic -Is someone who is romantically attracted to masculinity, the male sex and male identifying/presenting people.

Apathromantic (The root word being Apathy) - Is someone whose orientation form of "romance indifferent" which can also be used as a title. It does not distinguish if the person does or does not have romantic attraction, but just that they are indifferent in receiving it or acting it out.

Apothiroromantic - Is someone who (also known as anti-romantic, or romance repulsion) is an aromantic that does not experience any romantic attraction whatsoever, in any shape or form, and is romance-repulsed. They do not wish to be in any type of romantic relationship.

Apresromantic - Is someone who only experiences a romantic attraction after another form of attraction is felt. The original attraction may or may not fade/be replaced by the new attraction.

Aroflux - Is someone whose romantic orientation is on the aromantic spectrum & is defined as.....

• someone who's romantic orientation fluctuates but always stays on the aro spectrum. (ex. one day you're demiro, another day lithro, the next aro, etc)
• someone who's romantic orientation fluctuates from, experiencing romantic attraction, some romantic attraction, & experiencing no romantic attraction.

some people who are aroflux feel as if they are alloromantic at times, while other aroflux people don't feel that way. aroflux people can be romance repulsed, romance indifferent / neutral/apathetic towards romance, or romance positive. & can have any sexual orientation.

Aromantic - Is someone who does not feel romantic attraction.

Arovague - Is someone whose status as an aromantic is uncertain or affected by mood.

Autochorisromantic/Aegoromantic - Is someone who enjoys the idea of romance, but not wishing to be a participant in romantic activities (based off of autochorissexual / a disconnection between oneself and a romantic target or fantasy).

Bellusromantic - Is someone who is fine with cute fluffy stuff with anyone but you don't want a relationship at all / not necessarily arospec identity, similar to nonamory. The prefix comes from the Italy “bella” meaning “pretty.”

Biromantic - Is someone who enjoys behavior typically associated with dating and love, like cuddling, hugging, gift-giving, love notes, but probably not kissing, etc. and enjoys it with two sexes or genders.

Borearomantic - Is someone who has a set romantic orientation but with an exception.

Burstromantic - Is someone whose romantic attraction comes and goes but does not specify if it has a reason or not.

Caedromantic - Is someone who used to experience romantic attractions, but no longer does due to past trauma.

Cupioromantic - Is someone who is described as aromantic (people who never experience romantic attraction) who still desire a romantic relationship. Is a subset of aromantic.

Demiromantic - Is someone who only experiences romantic attraction after developing an emotional connection beforehand. Demiromantics do not experience primary romantic attraction, but they are capable of secondary romantic attraction.

Frayromantic - Is someone who experiences romantic attraction towards strangers and people you are less familiar with, which fades away when you get to know them more

Grayromantic - Is someone whose romantic orientation is somewhere between aromantic and romantic.

For example, a gray-romantic may:

• Experience romantic attraction but not very often. But when so, it is usual strong attraction.
• Experience romantic attraction, but not desire romantic relationships.

Also used as a catch-all for other non aromantic, non alloromantic/zedromantic orientations, like demiromantic and lithromantic.

Gyneromantic - Is someone who is romantically attracted to femininity, the female sex and female identifying/presenting people.

Heteroromantic - Is someone who is attracted to the oppostite sex or gender in a romantic way.

Homoromantic - Is someone who is attracted to the same sex or gender in a romantic way.

Hyperromantic - is someone who is extremely or excessively romantic.

Hyporomantic - Hypo is from Greek and means low. Quite the opposite of Hyper. And as Hyposexual mean low sex-drive, this is it's romantic synonym. Low romantic drive.

Idemromantic - Is someone who does not internally experience romantic and platonic attraction differently; they distinguish between romantic and platonic based on other factors. "Idem" means "the same" in Latin.

Idemromantic people categorize their interest in others as romantic instead of platonic based on age, personality compatibility, emotional closeness, ease of living together, presence of sexual attraction, or other factors. However, their feelings toward their romantic interests would not be particularly distinguishable from platonic feelings and may be similar to how they feel for a best friend or beloved family member. They may pursue platonic, quasiplatonic, romantic, or no relationships.

Lithromantic/Aporomantic/Akoi(ne)romantic - Is someone who can feel a romantic attraction towards others and also enjoy romantic relationships in theory, but not needing that affection to be reciprocated or be in a relationship with the one the feelings are directed towards. Either that, or they may stop feeling the attraction once in a relationship or stop enjoying it.

Note: There is a certain level of controversy linked to the prefix "litho." It was first coined referring to Lesbian Butch culture and some lesbians object to it being appropriated to describe a sexuality/romanticism.

Nebularomantic - Is someone who has a hard time or cannot tell romantic attraction apart from platonic due to being quoiroromantic or due to their neurodivergency.

Noviromantic - Is someone who experiences a complicated romantic attraction (or lack thereof) such that they do not feel it can be described in a single term

Omniaromantic - Is someone who feels no romantic attraction whatsoever. In no way, shape, or form do they fall in love or feel any attraction to anyone.

They are completely non-romantic, and will not fall in love no matter how long they stay with someone or any other factor that could/would lead to a romantic interest in any other type of aromantic or alloromantic relationships. They do not wish to be in any romantic relationships,are not attracted to anyone. (Excepting experimentation.)

They are asensual, have no aesthetic attraction to others, and no squishes. They can experience platonic love or familial love, though not all do so.

This term was made to made a distinguish between being on the aromantic spectrum and specify from the common definition of a aromantic person, since saying someone is "aromantic" could mean they could be demiromantic, gray-aromantic, and such other types of aromantics who do feel sensual, have aesthetic attraction and such.

Panromantic - Is someone who is romantically attracted to others but is not limited by the others sex or gender. Panromantics will tend to feel that their partner's sex and/or gender does little to define their relationship.

Placioromantic - Is someone who feels little to no desire to receive sexual/romantic acts performed on them but expresses interest/desire in performing them on someone else. Not necessarily arospec, but a useful term for the community. The prefix for this term comes from the Latin word “placere” meaning “to please.”

Polyromantic - Is someone who experiences romantic attraction towards people of more than one sex or gender, but not all. Unlike panromantic, this term implies that sex or gender is still a factor in attraction, and it does not imply the gender binary as biromantic does.

Post rubor - Is someone who quickly gets crushes/squishes/etc on others, but after the initial excitement of said crush/etc vanishes so do their feelings.

Proquuromantic - Is someone masculine who only experiences romantic attractions to those perceived as also being masculine.

Quasiromantic - Is someone who identifies as quasiromantic may see their attraction as non-traditional or may feel it differs from crushes, perhaps a mix between platonic, romantic, aesthetic, or somewhere completely different and/or it involves other non-traditional aspects, such as rare attraction, or attraction but non-physical, non-platonic but romantic, etc.

Queerplatonic - A queerplatonic relationship is a relationship that is not romantic but involves a close emotional connection beyond what most people consider friendship. The commitment level in a queerplatonic relationship is often considered to be similar to that of a romantic relationship. People in a queerplatonic relationship may be of any romantic or sexual orientation. It may include any romantic or sexual elements the people in the relationship feel they want, or none at all.

Quoiromantic - Is someone whose romantic orientation is on the aromantic spectrum that describes people who cannot differentiate between platonic and romantic attraction, cannot define romantic attraction and therefore are not sure if they experience it, experience attraction somewhere between romantic and platonic, or want to be in a queerplatonic relationship. It’s also known as WTFromantic or Whatromantic or Platoniromantic.

Recipromantic - Is someone who only feels romantic attraction only if the other person feels romantic attraction to them at first. If there is no one around to feel romantic attraction to them, largely recipromantics may feel like simply defining themselves as aromantic describes their experiences just fine.

Requi(es)romantic - Is someone who feels little to no romantic attraction due to some mental or emotional exhaustion, the exhaustion might have been caused by bad experiences of romance during that person's history.

Sapioromantic - Is someone who is attracted to intelligence or human minds.

Schromantic - Is someone who is aromantic and romantic at the same time, or some mix of the two. (A term used here on AVEN)

(describing romanticism in terms of Schrödinger’s cat as having the possibility of being romantic and aromantic at the same time).

Skilo/Ceteroromantic - Is someone who experiences romantic attraction towards non-binary genders.

Note: There is a certain level of controversy linked to the prefix "skolio." It is very similar to "scolio," which means crooked, twisted or bent. Lately the prefix "cetero" has started to be used instead of "skolio."

Transromantic - Is someone who experiences romantic attraction to people that they perceive as being transgender.

Related helpful terms

Amatonormativity - A tendency of society to treat romantic relationships as more valuable than non-romantic ones.

Aromate - A platonic friend who’s pretty much your soul-mate but in a friend way. you’d totally hold their hand and take them out to movies though. In other words Aromantic partner.

Lush - A sensual equivalent of a squish or crush.

Nonamory - Not wanting to form romantic relationships no matter one's orientation.

Peach Fuzz - When people in queer platonic relationships pretend their partnership is a romantic one to stave off questions from family and friends.

Plush - Queer platonic crush, strong desire to join in a qeer platonic relationship with someone.

Soft Romo - Low level romance/romantic attraction/crush/etc.

Smush - A sexual crush aka Lust.

Swish - An aesthetic crush.

Squish - In the asexual community, the equivalent of a "crush", but explicitly lacking an interest in forming a romantic couple or having a sexual relationship with the person in question. It does not matter if they are "in a relationship", as long as you two can have a deep connection. A squish is an intense feeling of attraction, liking, appreciation, admiration for a person you urgently want to get to know better and become close with. It is different from "just wanting to be friends" in that there is an intensity about it and a disproportionate sense of elation when they like and appreciate you back. ~From Urban Dictionary~

[faffinsinley]

Why don't you just link people to mogai-archive? They have a pretty huge list of identities people have coined for themselves

[Amy Ghost]

Why don't you just link people to mogai-archive? They have a pretty huge list of identities people have coined for themselves

First off, why do people have to go elsewhere? This website is here to help aces. I doN¨t see it as much of a help to be sent elsewhere when it can be here, when this website is for this.

Secondly, I don't know about it! And I'm sure there are more people!

[deltaX]

If you want a list of romantic orientations, but in a way that's related to AVEN, you could also use the AVEN wiki as a resource. A quick search found this page about romantic orientations, with links to pages about a few of the major ones on the bottom: http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Romantic_orientation

[Amy Ghost]

If you want a list of romantic orientations, but in a way that's related to AVEN, you could also use the AVEN wiki as a resource. A quick search found this page about romantic orientations, with links to pages about a few of the major ones on the bottom: http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Romantic_orientation

There are only few. There a far more than that. So, no.

And again, why? Why go elsewhere when you can have all here. This website is made for it. Why don't we have them all here? "Yes, we are an information website, but we are sorry, you have to go elsewhere for this information." Doesn't make sense. Why?

[Lost247365]

• Abroromantic-A person who experiences a fluid or rapidly changing romantic attraction to different gender expressions.
• Acoromantic- A person whose negative experiences with romance has alienated them from their allo-romanticism.
• Adfectual/Adfecturomantic/Affecturomantic/Adfomantic- A person whose romantic attraction is affected by their neurodivergency
• Adfecturomantic/Affecturomantic/Adfectual/Adfomantic- A person whose romantic attraction is affected by their neurodivergency
• Adfomantic/Adfectual/Adfecturomantic/Affecturomantic- A person whose romantic attraction is affected by their neurodivergency
• Aegoromantic/Autochorisromantic- A person with a disconnect between themselves and the target of their romantic attractions/desires.
• Affecturomantic/Adfomantic/Adfectual/Adfecturomantic- A person whose romantic attraction is affected by their neurodivergency
• Akoi(ne)romantic /Apromantic/ Aporomantic aka Lithromantic-Person who experiences romantic attraction to others but does not care or does not want that person to reciprocate
• Alloromantic- A person who experiences Romantic Attractions
• Alterous-A person who experiences attraction for emotional closeness that cannot be described as being completely/entirely romantic nor platonic. Can be used as an alternative suffix to romantic.
• Androromantic-A person who experiences romantic attraction to people that they perceive as being male
• Antiromantic aka Apothiroromantic-A person who does not experiences romantic attraction and does not want others to be romantically involved with them.
• Apathromantic-A person who is indifferent/apathetic to romantic attraction.
• Aporomantic/ Apromantic/Akoi(ne)romantic aka Lithromantic-A person who experiences romantic attraction to others but does not care or does not want that person to reciprocate
• Apothiroromantic aka Antiromantic-A person who does not experiences romantic attraction and does not want others to be romantically involved with them.
• Apresromantic-A person who only experiences a romantic attraction after another form of attraction is felt. The original attraction may or may not fade/be replaced by the new attraction.
• Apromantic/ Aporomantic/Akoi(ne)romantic aka Lithromantic-A person who experiences romantic attraction to others but does not care or does not want that person to reciprocate
• Aroflux- A person whose romantic orienation fluctuates between/or within the romantic and aromantic spectrums.
• Aromantic-A person who does not experiences romantic attraction
• Arovague- A person whose status as an aromantic is uncertain or affected by mood
• Autochorisromantic/Aegoromantic- A person with a disconnect between themselves and the target of their romantic attractions/desires.
• Bellusromantic- A person who enjoys the endearing aesthetics of romance but does not want a romantic relationship.
• Biromantic-A person who experiences romantic attractions to people they perceive as one of two different genders
• Borearomantic-A person who has a set romantic orientation but with an exception
• Burstromantic-A person who experiences sudden idiopathic and sporadic episodes of romantic attraction.
• Caedromantic- A person who used to experience romantic attractions, but no longer does due to past trauma.
• Ceteroromantic/Skolioromantic - A person who experiences romantic attractions toward people that have an a nonbinary gender.
• Cupioromantic-A person who does not experience romantic attractions but wants to be in a romantic relationship
• Demiromantic-A person who experiences romantic attraction only after establishing a strong emotional bond
• Frayromantic- A person who experiences romantic attraction to others inversely proportional to their familiarity with said person.
• Grayromantic-A person who experiences very little if any romantic attraction
• Gyneromantic-A Person who experiences romantic attraction to people they perceive as being female
• Heteroromantic-A person who experiences romantic attractions to people they perceive as different from one's own gender
• Homoromantic-A person who experiences romantic attractions to people they perceive as the same gender
• Hyperromantic-A person who experiences a high degree of romantic attractions.
• Hyporomantic-A person who experiences a low degree of romantic attractions.
• Idemromantic-A person who cannot distinguish between romantic and platonic attraction
• Lithromantic aka Apromantic/ Aporomantic/ Akoi(ne)romantic-A person who experiences romantic attraction to others but does not care or does not want that person to reciprocate. (Controversial prefix)
• Manalterous- Androalterous, an Alterous attraction to men
• Nebularomantic- A person who has a hard time or cannot tell romantic attraction apart from platonic due to being quoiroromantic or due to their neurodivergency.
• Noviromantic-A person who experiences a complicated romantic attraction (or lack thereof) such that they do not feel it can be described in a single term
• Omniaromantic- A person who does not experience romantic, sensual, or aesthetic attractions.
• Panromantic-A person who experiences romantic attraction to people of any gender
• Placioromantic- A person who wishes to perform romantic acts toward others, but does not want to receive romantic acts toward themselves.
• Post rubor- A person who quickly gets crushes/squishes/etc on others, but after the initial excitement of said crush/etc vanishes so do their feelings.
• Polyromantic-A person who experiences romantic attraction to people they perceive of one of multiple different genders
• Proquuromantic- A masculine person who only experiences romantic attractions to those percieved as aslo being masculine.
• Quasiromantic-A person who experiences nontraditional romantic attractions
• Quoiromantic aka WTFromantic-A person who is not sure if they experience romantic attraction or not.
• Recipromantic-A person who experiences romantic attraction only after they feel that the other person is romantically attracted to them first
• Requiesromantic-A person who does not experiences romantic attraction due to emotional exhaustion
• Sapioromantic - A person who experiences romantic attractions toward people that they perceive as having a high level of intelligence or a keen minds.
• Schromantic- A person who feels that they experience being both romantic and aromantic at the same time.
• Skolioromantic/Ceteroromantic - A person who experiences romantic attractions toward people that have an a nonbinary gender.
• Transromantic-A person who experiences romantic attraction to people that they perceive as being transgender
• Womanalterous- Gynealterous, an Alterous attraction to women
• WTFromantic aka Quoiromantic-A person who is not sure if they experience romantic attraction or not.
• Zedromantic- A person not on the Aromantic spectrum. Alternative term for alloromantic.

These were the ones I could think of and find.

[Miav-desu]

Alloromantic

Heteroromantic

Homoromantic

biromantic

Polyromantic

Panromantic

Grayromantic

Demiromantic

Aromantic

Transromantic

Androromantic

Gyneromantic

WTFromantic

AproRomantic/ Akoi(ne)romantic aka Lithromantic

Requiesromantic

Quasiromantic

Cupioromantic

Idemromantic

Apothiroromantic

Recipromantic

These were the ones I could think of and find. Ill try and edit in definitions.

hey

what does idemromantic and apothiroromantic and Recipromantic mean?

[Lost247365]

Alloromantic

Heteroromantic

Homoromantic

biromantic

Polyromantic

Panromantic

Grayromantic

Demiromantic

Aromantic

Transromantic

Androromantic

Gyneromantic

WTFromantic

AproRomantic/ Akoi(ne)romantic aka Lithromantic

Requiesromantic

Quasiromantic

Cupioromantic

Idemromantic

Apothiroromantic

Recipromantic

These were the ones I could think of and find. Ill try and edit in definitions.

hey

what does idemromantic and apothiroromantic and Recipromantic mean?

Just edited those in.

Idemromantic-Person who cannot distinguish between romantic and platonic attraction

Apothiroromantic-Person who does not experiences romantic attraction and does not want others to be romantically involved with them....aka "anti-romantics" though I think that term sounds a bit offensive myself.

Recipromantic-Person who experiences romantic attraction only after they feel that the other person is romantically attracted to them first

[Amy Ghost]

Thank you for you contribution Lost247365! :)

[fuzzipueo]

A nice, interesting list. I've not heard of a number of these orientations before. Thanks!

[Miav-desu]

Alloromantic

Heteroromantic

Homoromantic

biromantic

Polyromantic

Panromantic

Grayromantic

Demiromantic

Aromantic

Transromantic

Androromantic

Gyneromantic

WTFromantic

AproRomantic/ Akoi(ne)romantic aka Lithromantic

Requiesromantic

Quasiromantic

Cupioromantic

Idemromantic

Apothiroromantic

Recipromantic

These were the ones I could think of and find. Ill try and edit in definitions.

hey

what does idemromantic and apothiroromantic and Recipromantic mean?

Just edited those in.

Idemromantic-Person who cannot distinguish between romantic and platonic attraction

Apothiroromantic-Person who does not experiences romantic attraction and does not want others to be romantically involved with them....aka "anti-romantics" though I think that term sounds a bit offensive myself.

Recipromantic-Person who experiences romantic attraction only after they feel that the other person is romantically attracted to them first

thank you.

[Amy Ghost]

'Requiesromantic'? Really? Some of these are very useful terms, some I question the need for (but hey, whatever... just don't expect everyone to know what you're talking about), but 'requiesromantic' honestly sounds ridiculous to me. So, like... a depressed person? Someone who's fed up with relationship drama and has lost interest in romance for a while? Those are not orientations.

Perhaps it does sound odd, but people still may want to use it and actually do use it. That's why it is here.

I personally don¨t really care. If it helps someone, why not?

[Amy Ghost]

'Requiesromantic'? Really? Some of these are very useful terms, some I question the need for (but hey, whatever... just don't expect everyone to know what you're talking about), but 'requiesromantic' honestly sounds ridiculous to me. So, like... a depressed person? Someone who's fed up with relationship drama and has lost interest in romance for a while? Those are not orientations.

Perhaps it does sound odd, but people still may want to use it and actually do use it. That's why it is here.

I personally don¨t really care. If it helps someone, why not?

Thing is, they're still gonna have to explain.

"I'm requiesromantic."

"You're what?"

"Requiesromantic."

"What's that mean?"

"Eh... I'm just not really feeling too romantic these days. I'm kinda depressed, and after that whole messy relationship with Jill, I don't even feel like I'd be capable of falling for anyone else for a while. It's like I'm emotionally exhausted, I guess."

"Oh, okay."

Yes, but that is true for many of us

[Amy Ghost]

'Requiesromantic'? Really? Some of these are very useful terms, some I question the need for (but hey, whatever... just don't expect everyone to know what you're talking about), but 'requiesromantic' honestly sounds ridiculous to me. So, like... a depressed person? Someone who's fed up with relationship drama and has lost interest in romance for a while? Those are not orientations.

Perhaps it does sound odd, but people still may want to use it and actually do use it. That's why it is here.

I personally don¨t really care. If it helps someone, why not?

Thing is, they're still gonna have to explain.

"I'm requiesromantic."

"You're what?"

"Requiesromantic."

"What's that mean?"

"Eh... I'm just not really feeling too romantic these days. I'm kinda depressed, and after that whole messy relationship with Jill, I don't even feel like I'd be capable of falling for anyone else for a while. It's like I'm emotionally exhausted, I guess."

"Oh, okay."

Yes, but that is true for many of us

Indeed, fair enough. But things like asexuality or aromanticism are not concepts that are already covered by other terms. People have to explain, because they want others to understand that they're not celibate or ill or bitter or repressed or whatever. It's important that asexuality and similar concepts are understood by society. This 'requiesromantic' thing is a term for something that many people of all orientations already understand: emotional exhaustion and temporarily (or I guess permanently, if the emotional issues are not resolved) not being interested in or capable of romance.

Anyways, I know it's not a term that you personally made up, and I get where you're coming from. Just kinda wondering at what point we really need to stop coming up with terms for things that are already understood.

No I understand you too. But I guess we will see.

Or like Quoi, right? I had to explain that several times now

[Amy Ghost]

Quoi... yeah. To be honest, I feel the way I do about 'requiesromantic' about many other terms on the list as well. I guess time will tell whether they catch on or not, and whether people come to understand them without having to ask for a definition.

Well, my intentions starting this topic were to cover all posibilities.

And as for Quoi, well, it is true actually. I can't tell the difference. I questioned myself again now, and came to no conclusion. I can't even really tell what romantic really is. I just don¨t know. And I don¨t know a better word fot it *shrugs*

[Miav-desu]

I think it's cool with the decription. it's helpfull for people like me who arn't really sure where to label myself.

[DiEvAl]

Never heard of idem before. I think I can kinda relate to that... or maybe not...

I'll have to think more about it in the morning.

[cosmosredshift7]

Could we PLEASE NOT use the phrases 'both/opposite genders/sexes '? It reinforces the idea that gender and sex are binaries, WHICH THEY ARE NOT!

[Amy Ghost]

Could we PLEASE NOT use the phrases 'both/opposite genders/sexes '? It reinforces the idea that gender and sex are binaries, WHICH THEY ARE NOT!

No, they are not, but in certain cases they specify the attarcation and simply are part of the definitions

[cosmosredshift7]

Then we should change the definitions.

For bisexual, I prefer to use Robin Och's definition- "I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree."

[cosmosredshift7]

Hetero-liking one/a gender that's different from your own

Homo- liking someone of the same gender as your own

[Lost247365]

Could we PLEASE NOT use the phrases 'both/opposite genders/sexes '? It reinforces the idea that gender and sex are binaries, WHICH THEY ARE NOT!

Let me apologize.

I was trying to specifically trying to avoid doing that when I put down my definitions. That is why I said "perceived opposite gender" on my list. I thought that would prevent reinforcing that idea.

Do you have a better suggestion for heteromantic? I can't make changes to the original post but will make the appropriate changes to my list.

[Lost247365]

@Ghost, I just now saw that you added a few other romantic orientations. If it is okay I will update my own list so both include the same elements.

Hetero-liking one/a gender that's different from your own
Homo- liking someone of the same gender as your own


Homophobes

Ill make those changes.

[Amy Ghost]

Hetero-liking one/a gender that's different from your own

Homo- liking someone of the same gender as your own

Homophobes

So we are homophobes for using deifitions that are widely used? Except that sex DOES play a role.

[cosmosredshift7]

Oh my god I DIDN'T MEAN TO TYPE THAT!!! I don't even know where that came from oh my god what a spelling error I'm sorry I use swipe in my phone keyboard I must have swiped it on accident but oh my god @_@;;;;;;;;

[cosmosredshift7]

Hetero-liking one/a gender that's different from your own

Homo- liking someone of the same gender as your own

Homophobes

So we are homophobes for using deifitions that are widely used? Except that sex DOES play a role.

Maybe sex or gender, or sex/gender then?

[Amy Ghost]

Hetero-liking one/a gender that's different from your own

Homo- liking someone of the same gender as your own

Homophobes

So we are homophobes for using deifitions that are widely used? Except that sex DOES play a role.

Maybe sex/gender, then?

I guess that could be

[cosmosredshift7]

If you have a better definition or idea, then propose it; of anyone is uncomfortable with this or it doesn't feel right to them, say so. These definitions should be as accurate as possible.

[Viridzen]

Can someone explain the difference between "idemromantic" and "quoiromantic"?

[Platitude]

Can someone explain the difference between "idemromantic" and "quoiromantic"?

Idemromantics typically have a set (either explicit or subconscious) of "rules" that help them differentiate between a romantic and platonic relationship. Quoiromantics are people that can't, or have trouble, differentiating between platonic, queerplatonic, and romantic feelings/relationships.