Supportneeded Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 Im a sexual person and always have been and its been a roller coaster of emotions these last few months. I met the most amazing guy by chance and we hit it off almost instantly. He invited me over and even though I didn't expect it, we ended up having sex with in the first few hours of my arrival and again in the evening. Downside - I realized he was an alcoholic and getting to know him more, had a history of hard drug abuse and had been prescribed dopamine blockers and Vailum. A visited often and we spoke everyday. Bar his demons and addictions, we match perfectly. He still calls me his female double. We were intimate often but I noticed that the longer we spent together, the difference how many times we had sex quickly diminished. I asked him to be sober alot more so I assumed it was a side effect at the time. In the months to come, he ditched the drink and came off his brain altering medication, bar the anti-depressants he's been taking since he was 16 years old and began a vegan diet. Assuming his lack of interest in me came from a compiled side effects of years of drink and drug abuse with the brain altering medication and would return in the time to come. Finally, he researched into Asexuality and found the title he had been looking for and though it broke my heart to hear our perfect relationship wouldn't be as black and white as it was like the vast majority and relationships I was used to, but I was happy for him. His interest in sex with me dwindled as we became closer and though he has no sexual attraction to me, or anyone else.- He still loves me unconditionally. It was a relief for me to know that his lack of interest was not because of me and the frustration seemed to settle. Though he has no natural desire, we still have sex. Though he doesn't enjoy sexual touch directed at him, he cant keep his hands off me. He may not get the physical gratification (or not as intense) and bonding that comes for me when we have sex but he gets his kick knowing hes made me happy and reaps the cuddles and attention that comes from a very satisfied and very grateful woman and then indulge in our many shared interests. Though I'll miss the passion that comes with Sexual/Sexual relationships, I have so much comfort know this man loves me for reasons beyond physical intimacy and our relationship is based on mutual respect and love. Is relationships like mine common? Do they go the distance? Link to post Share on other sites
sailordude Posted February 6, 2015 Share Posted February 6, 2015 I think these relationships are very common. A healthy loving relationship that allows each person to grow and discover themselves, definitely has a possibility of someone coming to terms with their sexual preferences and ending up on different sides of the bed. Link to post Share on other sites
Blinkin Posted February 7, 2015 Share Posted February 7, 2015 Although I wouldn't ecpect it I heard these kinds of relationships are common. As long as each of you communicate good. Link to post Share on other sites
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