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I'm sure there are actually quite a few people here who enjoy porn. I enjoy it. I also enjoy sex with myself, just not with anyone else.

It just seems curious to me sometimes, you know?

I DON'T like watching sexual stuff with other people, like in regular movies. And I hate seeing it in other forms of media like TV, video games, ect. If it's overtly sexual my brain automaticlly thinks it should be in a porno and not where it is currently.

I read a LOT of sexualliy charged fanfiction and web comics, especially yaoi themed. And I'm even working on developping a sexual web comic of my own; gay-centric with a slow-building relationship. I'm not a girly girl, but I don't think sex is really a reward unless you go through some character growth first. Gotta have dat story, tho.

I don't know. Does anyone else do this kind of stuff or is interested in this kind of stuff?

This is kind of a random, rambling post. I'm just curious to see what people think.

Thanks! Happy Holidays!!

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I don't like porn, but anime acts like porn to me, so I avoid it :D Metal music videos act like semi-porn, and I semi-avoid them. See autochorissexuals' threads for more info.

Lol, yeah anime is pretty sexual too, isn't it? It's one one of the reasons I've been avoiding it the last few years.

Thanks, btw. I'm not interested in all of these labels that are floating around. I don't think we need them so much. But I appreciate your input.

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Ya, I'm an asexual into porn, but I don't like the term autochorissexual either. It's fine if you want to use it, power to you, but to me it sounds like you are describing the kind of sex you are into, and though that may indeed be a VERY important part of who you are(I suppose in the same way that BDSM can be), it's not really your sexuality. You like to fantasize, and that's great, but I would just tend to say, I'm an ace into porn. I just find it more simple that way.

I'm into all kinds of stuff. I'm finding I'm getting more and more into yiff though. Not cause I'm turned on by that specifically(anything sexual enough can turn me on), but it seems to be a lot nicer then most of the other stuff. I really like drawn stuff, but yaoi can often be transphobic and hentai can be pretty mean spirited towards women. Yiff seems to be nicer a lot of the time and seems to stay away from to much rape and objectifying. Maybe cause it's often written by the queer community so they know what it's like to be mistreated? Not to sure. All I know is it tends to be a lot more nice, well at least MOST of the time.

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Conscientious Ghost

Although I'm not in love with porn, I'm particularly interested to the consensual and intimate parts of it. I often find it fascinating how a simple act of touching or foreplay between people or characters can stimulate my libido. Despite the arousal, I can't imagine myself having sex with or forming sexual attraction to anyone real or fictional.

Besides the AVEN community, I'm likely closed about discussing these certain interests to other people. A lot of them already assume I'm innocent because I'm asexual and I'm in no mood to elaborate how that's possible for me.

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Maybe you enjoy the fantasy that surrounds it more than the action of sex itself? Idk.

I used to watch porn but I realised it was more of an overarching curiosity. I found it so intriguing, but I saw it more from the point of a completely disconnected spectator than anything else. I.e. I'd watch it like I'm watching a YouTube video - I wouldn't be doing anything else while watching. I didn't get turned on or whatever. You know how people on reddit and stuff joke about dubbing the act of watching porn as 'research'? Well I think that actually applied to my reasoning of watching porn quite literally. Haha

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This is me all over. Im into anything. Whatever my partner is into so am i. I just like the sexualness of it all. The bonding the connection. Very sexy. But whenever sex actually comes up, i cant get myself to do it. Its perfectly fine. You arent a repressed sexual or anything and dibt let anyone twll you other wose. You are what ever you are. And i for one am right behind you.

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I never understood what I was supposed to like about porn, it just always seemed boring and repetitious to me, but I think it is possible to be asexual and still like porn.

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You can be asexual and still watch/enjoy porn (I find most of it boring, but still like some of it). I do watch it from time to time and that doesn't mean I enjoy having sex.

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I watch some porn as entertainment, but it doesn't arouse me. It's just more media. When I watch mainstream media, however, I'm repulsed by gratuitous sex scenes. When I watch porn, I guess I know what to expect.

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I read and write a lot of sexually explicit fanfiction and I quite enjoy it. Porn movies or videos, however, or graphic representations of sex usually bore me. I'm not always repulsed (sometimes I am, there are things I just don't want to see), just not interested.

But then, I know straight sexual people who enjoy gay porn, and sexual people who are repulsed by graphic depictions of sex. I think enjoying sex and enjoying the representation or the concept of sex transmitted by whatever chosen medium are not necessarily connected. It's a bit like watching and actually playing sports, or enjoying music without actually wanting to create music.

In any case, nobody should have to feel the need to explain why they enjoy porn but don't want to participate in sexual acts. It's a personal preference, nothing more, nothing less.

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I watch some porn as entertainment, but it doesn't arouse me. It's just more media.

I've got some great porn drinking games! Like you, watched it for entertainment value (with others, not alone) and found it much more fun to turn it into a game. For example, if you are watching lesbian porn, take a drink every time you see an inappropriate body hair. :D

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Depends on what counts as porn. Sex? Nah. Porn with sex? Nah. Kinky fun with someone? Nah. Fetish porn with zero actual intercourse? Yes! Then again, I'm an autochoris-fetishist :P

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I'm sure there are actually quite a few people here who enjoy porn. I enjoy it. I also enjoy sex with myself, just not with anyone else.

It just seems curious to me sometimes, you know?

I DON'T like watching sexual stuff with other people, like in regular movies. And I hate seeing it in other forms of media like TV, video games, ect. If it's overtly sexual my brain automaticlly thinks it should be in a porno and not where it is currently.

I read a LOT of sexualliy charged fanfiction and web comics, especially yaoi themed. And I'm even working on developping a sexual web comic of my own; gay-centric with a slow-building relationship. I'm not a girly girl, but I don't think sex is really a reward unless you go through some character growth first. Gotta have dat story, tho.

I don't know. Does anyone else do this kind of stuff or is interested in this kind of stuff?

This is kind of a random, rambling post. I'm just curious to see what people think.

Thanks! Happy Holidays!!

(TMI ahead possibly)

I watch a lot of porn, but I don't know if I'd say I love it. While watching porn, I feel like I love it. But after it's served its purpose, I push it away like "ok, I'm done."

I have to be in the mood for porn. And the "mood" is basically when my body decides I need to self-pleasure myself. I assume it's from hormones or something. Before the mood strikes, I don't care much for porn or sex. I don't view people around me in a sexual light. So the fact that I suddenly feel "horny" (I hate the word but it's all I got), is quite out of character for me. That's why I think it's probably hormones.

I guess I enjoy self-pleasuring myself. If I had a choice, I wouldn't want to feel like I have to do it. It's kind of like holding in my pee. I don't like the feeling of "gotta go!" but I of course feel better once I get to the restroom. The need to masturbate isn't as urgent as that though. It can be like a chore at times. Most of the time I feel better afterward. I don't, however, feel like doing it again (for a while).

The urge to self-pleasure occurs less and less now. Oh, I forgot to say WHY I watch porn. I do so because it's the only way I can "get off." I can't picture someone (and I don't get crushes so I have no one to choose) or fantasize about something. The only thing that works is porn. So maybe it's more like I appreciate porn rather than loving it. I appreciate that porn can help me release the buildup of sexual urge.

I'm not really into fanfiction or erotica. Those would fall under "fantasizing," which doesn't work for me.

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Oh actually, I just remembered something. I once watched a European porno that was about 75 minutes long where everyone was dressed in Louis XIV-era clothing. They had some sort of elaborate fucking machine that involved a woman sitting on something and other people turning this big crank. It looked like a torture device. I wasn't the least bit interested in it sexually and wasn't turned on, nor had I been searching for stuff that would turn me on (I think I just searched for weird porn out of boredom), but I just HAD to finish watching it for hilarity's sake and simply to say that I'd done so. I wanted to be able to tell the story and be truthful, haha. I treated it like watching any other film... got up to make some tea or something to eat at one point, if I recall correctly.

My favorite is Rollerbabies. It's like sci-fi/ Star Trek themed until the end, when it becomes a rollerskating contest where the contestants have to have sex while rollerskating. It's of course from the 70's (like all the best porn).

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LeeTheGirl, your sentiments match mine entirely. I am a sex-repulsed Ace, but I also have a libido. Therefore the only way I can reconcile the conflict is by self-stimulation. The easiest way to achieve arousal is, and always has, been by watching porn, This does trigger feelings of guilt and regret, but, for want of a better way of expressing things, needs do as needs must.

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I watch a lot of porn, but I don't know if I'd say I love it. While watching porn, I feel like I love it. But after it's served its purpose, I push it away like "ok, I'm done."

I have to be in the mood for porn. And the "mood" is basically when my body decides I need to self-pleasure myself. I assume it's from hormones or something. Before the mood strikes, I don't care much for porn or sex. I don't view people around me in a sexual light. So the fact that I suddenly feel "horny" (I hate the word but it's all I got), is quite out of character for me. That's why I think it's probably hormones.

This is pretty much how I feel about it. It's kind of like pouring diethyl ether into an engine to get it started. I don't know what it is, and very little porn actually works that way for me (it almost has to be people by themselves). Once things are going, I can keep them going. And yes, after the purpose has been served, I'm generally not too keen on it.

Interestingly though, because of antidepressants, my natural libido cycle is much weaker. If I do anything now, it's because I want to, not because I feel like I have to. Which is nice, but also not nice, since libido really helps things along. Now, it's almost like I have to have that diethyl ether to get things started. That, or take a serious amount of time on my own. I don't have that kind of time.

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I watch a lot of porn, but I don't know if I'd say I love it. While watching porn, I feel like I love it. But after it's served its purpose, I push it away like "ok, I'm done."

I have to be in the mood for porn. And the "mood" is basically when my body decides I need to self-pleasure myself. I assume it's from hormones or something. Before the mood strikes, I don't care much for porn or sex. I don't view people around me in a sexual light. So the fact that I suddenly feel "horny" (I hate the word but it's all I got), is quite out of character for me. That's why I think it's probably hormones.

This is pretty much how I feel about it. It's kind of like pouring diethyl ether into an engine to get it started. I don't know what it is, and very little porn actually works that way for me (it almost has to be people by themselves). Once things are going, I can keep them going. And yes, after the purpose has been served, I'm generally not too keen on it.

I'm seriously blown away that you watch porn, Hadley! Blown away. BTW, the being done with porn once it's "served its purpose" is true for a lot of sexuals too... it's a weird thing, right? It becomes instantly disgusting.

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I watch a lot of porn, but I don't know if I'd say I love it. While watching porn, I feel like I love it. But after it's served its purpose, I push it away like "ok, I'm done."

I have to be in the mood for porn. And the "mood" is basically when my body decides I need to self-pleasure myself. I assume it's from hormones or something. Before the mood strikes, I don't care much for porn or sex. I don't view people around me in a sexual light. So the fact that I suddenly feel "horny" (I hate the word but it's all I got), is quite out of character for me. That's why I think it's probably hormones.

This is pretty much how I feel about it. It's kind of like pouring diethyl ether into an engine to get it started. I don't know what it is, and very little porn actually works that way for me (it almost has to be people by themselves). Once things are going, I can keep them going. And yes, after the purpose has been served, I'm generally not too keen on it.

I'm seriously blown away that you watch porn, Hadley! Blown away. BTW, the being done with porn once it's "served its purpose" is true for a lot of sexuals too... it's a weird thing, right? It becomes instantly disgusting.

Hahaha, am I really cultivating that kind of image here? :P

Yeah, I kind of figured the whole "being done with it after" wasn't unique to me, or even asexuals, but I've never really talked about it with anyone in real life.

I hesitate to say I "watch porn" because there are connotations about what "porn" is, and a huge chunk of it just upsets me. It's hard to describe, so I guess I'll say, if it's a person experiencing genuine pleasure, I'll be interested. If I have any sense that it's not genuine, my libido better be sky high, because otherwise, I won't be interested at all. It'd be interesting to really get into the TMI zone about it, since like I said, I never discuss this kind of thing in real life, but I'm not about to annihilate this thread with that much TMI ^_^

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My favorite is Rollerbabies. It's like sci-fi/ Star Trek themed until the end, when it becomes a rollerskating contest where the contestants have to have sex while rollerskating. It's of course from the 70's (like all the best porn).

...must...watch...

It's true--the best porn is from the 70s. The hair! The decor! The clothes! (They do wear clothes.)

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Oh actually, I just remembered something. I once watched a European porno that was about 75 minutes long where everyone was dressed in Louis XIV-era clothing. They had some sort of elaborate fucking machine that involved a woman sitting on something and other people turning this big crank. It looked like a torture device. I wasn't the least bit interested in it sexually and wasn't turned on, nor had I been searching for stuff that would turn me on (I think I just searched for weird porn out of boredom), but I just HAD to finish watching it for hilarity's sake and simply to say that I'd done so. I wanted to be able to tell the story and be truthful, haha. I treated it like watching any other film... got up to make some tea or something to eat at one point, if I recall correctly.

My favorite is Rollerbabies. It's like sci-fi/ Star Trek themed until the end, when it becomes a rollerskating contest where the contestants have to have sex while rollerskating. It's of course from the 70's (like all the best porn).

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Am I seriously considering watching? Oh my..

As for the thread title, my little brain agrees, but my big brain does hate the idea of both.

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I watch a lot of porn, but I don't know if I'd say I love it. While watching porn, I feel like I love it. But after it's served its purpose, I push it away like "ok, I'm done."

I have to be in the mood for porn. And the "mood" is basically when my body decides I need to self-pleasure myself. I assume it's from hormones or something. Before the mood strikes, I don't care much for porn or sex. I don't view people around me in a sexual light. So the fact that I suddenly feel "horny" (I hate the word but it's all I got), is quite out of character for me. That's why I think it's probably hormones.

This is pretty much how I feel about it. It's kind of like pouring diethyl ether into an engine to get it started. I don't know what it is, and very little porn actually works that way for me (it almost has to be people by themselves). Once things are going, I can keep them going. And yes, after the purpose has been served, I'm generally not too keen on it.

I'm seriously blown away that you watch porn, Hadley! Blown away. BTW, the being done with porn once it's "served its purpose" is true for a lot of sexuals too... it's a weird thing, right? It becomes instantly disgusting.

Hm, actually, I think I've heard that before.

I watch a lot of porn, but I don't know if I'd say I love it. While watching porn, I feel like I love it. But after it's served its purpose, I push it away like "ok, I'm done."

I have to be in the mood for porn. And the "mood" is basically when my body decides I need to self-pleasure myself. I assume it's from hormones or something. Before the mood strikes, I don't care much for porn or sex. I don't view people around me in a sexual light. So the fact that I suddenly feel "horny" (I hate the word but it's all I got), is quite out of character for me. That's why I think it's probably hormones.

This is pretty much how I feel about it. It's kind of like pouring diethyl ether into an engine to get it started. I don't know what it is, and very little porn actually works that way for me (it almost has to be people by themselves). Once things are going, I can keep them going. And yes, after the purpose has been served, I'm generally not too keen on it.

I'm seriously blown away that you watch porn, Hadley! Blown away. BTW, the being done with porn once it's "served its purpose" is true for a lot of sexuals too... it's a weird thing, right? It becomes instantly disgusting.

Hahaha, am I really cultivating that kind of image here? :P

Yeah, I kind of figured the whole "being done with it after" wasn't unique to me, or even asexuals, but I've never really talked about it with anyone in real life.

I hesitate to say I "watch porn" because there are connotations about what "porn" is, and a huge chunk of it just upsets me. It's hard to describe, so I guess I'll say, if it's a person experiencing genuine pleasure, I'll be interested. If I have any sense that it's not genuine, my libido better be sky high, because otherwise, I won't be interested at all. It'd be interesting to really get into the TMI zone about it, since like I said, I never discuss this kind of thing in real life, but I'm not about to annihilate this thread with that much TMI ^_^

Yeah, I think porn is better when the people seem into it. And I'm guessing sexuals, especially women, would feel the same.

There's something about the way I view porn that I suspect is specifically asexual. (TMI ahead possibly) I like seeing breasts in porn, but in everyday life I'm not ogling women's breasts. I rarely even notice breasts. So I think maybe that the idea of women being topless in porn is what's arousing to me. I really don't know yet, I feel like I should have the answer by now haha.

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I don't watch porn, I think it would probably gross me out too much. But give me a well-written, slow burning yaoi fanfiction and I'll get lost in it for hours! :D

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I once looked into this topic and found an article (It was a a while ago so sorry I don't have a link) that talked about sexual pleasure/attraction/porn and all that stuff. The main thing that I found interesting was the point that many heterosexual heteroromantic males enjoy porn. In many cases this porn featured a man having sex with a woman. We all don't think twice about it, but these men are sexually aroused by an image/movie that involves a man despite them having 0 interest in men. This is because they are not directly involved but rather they enjoy the fantasy and also vicariously experience the sexual satisfaction of the actors portrayed. So while they may not be gay or even bi, they still enjoy a media that involves men sexually. This leads me personally to believe that asexuals experience something similar. We see sexual gratification being experienced and we may enjoy it through the same process even though we don't really feel sexual attraction to the porn or its subjects. It should also be noted that in humans and many primates there is a cognitive process wherein visual stimuli involving ones own species in an act triggers the same neurons to fire in their brain as in the observed subject, i.e. when you see someone get hurt you might wince, because both you and the person you saw had the same neurons activate. (Monkey see, Monkey do) Therfore there is not much gap between individuals. What this means in all is that humans can experience what others do simply by seeing others experience it; sometimes whether we want to or not.

But obviously I could be wrong about that haha.

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