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I have paraphilias - not sure that any of them count as festishes though (festishes are a subset of paraphilias). They're my exclusive sexuality, though, and some are romantic attractions as well. I hate that I don't have any other attractions (except aesthetic & platonic ones), but I'm also kind of glad that I won't ever have to worry about dating or sexual relationships.

Someone asked if us fetishists (or people with other paraphilias, in my case, if my answer counts, too) would ever consider bringing them into a relationship. Nope, never, not under any circumstances. I don't have any that could be acted out in reality or consensually, so I am celibate.

Oddly enough, despite having a sex drive, I have never masturbated or even wanted to, so I've never had any kind of outlet for my sexuality.

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GwendolynAngel83

This is probably a stupid question, but what exactly is a fedish? Like, what qualifies as one? And how do you know if you have one?

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This is probably a stupid question, but what exactly is a fedish? Like, what qualifies as one? And how do you know if you have one?

A fetish is something - a particular object, body part, action, or situation - which is not inherently sexual in and of itself, but which causes intense arousal in the fetishist. You know if you have one when you obsess over and have feelings of arousal toward the object/body part/action/situation in question. Very often, though certainly not always, these obsessive feelings toward the object of the fetish are present from an early age, so most people pretty much know when they have a fetish.

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GwendolynAngel83

Oh...could these things be...like..bad...or fantasies of some sort...cause I tend to get aroused when I write/daydream about torture or rape....

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Oh...could these things be...like..bad...or fantasies of some sort...cause I tend to get aroused when I write/daydream about torture or rape....

Yes, that would be considered a fetish. I have that one, too. That being said, as long as you distinguish the difference between it being a fantasy and that you don't think you really want it to happen, you're still good to go.

Also--and yes, I realize this is unhealthy, but--I like the BBW look.

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Lady Bookwyrm

Okay, so here's something I have never discussed or admitted to another living soul. :redface:

I am a coprophiliac and an emetophiliac, but only in imagined/written/drawn situations. Those same bodily functions in real life or even on live-action television/movies don't do it for me. In fact, IRL I'm downright emetophobic. I have genuine panic attacks if someone around me vomits or even talks about doing it. But give me a fictional character doing it, and it gets me hot.

I can and have masturbated to animated characters sitting on the toilet. When I'm not aroused it sounds absurd even to me, but when the mood is right, it gets me going like nothing else.

As near as I can tell, it stems back to when I was very, very young--around four or five--and I discovered that rubbing something between my legs felt good. I had no concept of what genitals were, so my mind fixated on the only thing I knew took place in that area of the body: defecation. (Well, and urination, but that's never been an interest of mine for some reason.)

The appeal to me is the vulnerability of the characters in such situations. They're suffering, miserable, embarrassed, sick, in need of comforting. And there's the sequence of "building tension, desperation, release, relief" that mirrors sexual acts.

It's been a really strong fetish of mine for basically my entire life. In fact, my weekly-ish masturbation sessions usually involve reading/writing scat scenarios exclusively, with nothing that would be considered sexual in the usual sense. Not even like, "hot couple prepares for anal play" or "character who also has a scat fetish has their partner poop in front of them." Just straight up, "This character had a bellyache and hurried into the bathroom to take a dump" narratives. (Or, if I'm in an emeto mood, "This character leaned over the garbage can and threw up" plots.)

I'm somewhat ashamed and very embarrassed about it (even though technically I know it's completely harmless and not even that unusual), but there it is. My Deep Dark Secret that I've never told anyone, ever.

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Okay, so here's something I have never discussed or admitted to another living soul. :redface:

I am a coprophiliac and an emetophiliac, but only in imagined/written/drawn situations. Those same bodily functions in real life or even on live-action television/movies don't do it for me. In fact, IRL I'm downright emetophobic. I have genuine panic attacks if someone around me vomits or even talks about doing it. But give me a fictional character doing it, and it gets me hot.

One of my closest friends has emetophobia and emetophilia. It's interesting how our real-life fears can correlate to our imaginary fantasies..

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Okay, so here's something I have never discussed or admitted to another living soul. :redface:

I am a coprophiliac and an emetophiliac, but only in imagined/written/drawn situations. Those same bodily functions in real life or even on live-action television/movies don't do it for me. In fact, IRL I'm downright emetophobic. I have genuine panic attacks if someone around me vomits or even talks about doing it. But give me a fictional character doing it, and it gets me hot.

I can and have masturbated to animated characters sitting on the toilet. When I'm not aroused it sounds absurd even to me, but when the mood is right, it gets me going like nothing else.

As near as I can tell, it stems back to when I was very, very young--around four or five--and I discovered that rubbing something between my legs felt good. I had no concept of what genitals were, so my mind fixated on the only thing I knew took place in that area of the body: defecation. (Well, and urination, but that's never been an interest of mine for some reason.)

The appeal to me is the vulnerability of the characters in such situations. They're suffering, miserable, embarrassed, sick, in need of comforting. And there's the sequence of "building tension, desperation, release, relief" that mirrors sexual acts.

It's been a really strong fetish of mine for basically my entire life. In fact, my weekly-ish masturbation sessions usually involve reading/writing scat scenarios exclusively, with nothing that would be considered sexual in the usual sense. Not even like, "hot couple prepares for anal play" or "character who also has a scat fetish has their partner poop in front of them." Just straight up, "This character had a bellyache and hurried into the bathroom to take a dump" narratives. (Or, if I'm in an emeto mood, "This character leaned over the garbage can and threw up" plots.)

I'm somewhat ashamed and very embarrassed about it (even though technically I know it's completely harmless and not even that unusual), but there it is. My Deep Dark Secret that I've never told anyone, ever.

I'm into weight gain/stuffing and one of the artists that I follow for that kind of content occassionally does vomiting and recently, some scat too. In case you haven't heard of Squidbiscuit, look her up. She puts her more risque, fetishy stuff on Furaffinity.

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mischevious_koala

Compared to a lot of others I have read here, mine is very tame XD I have a sneaker fetish. I won't go into the specifics but I love looking at sneakers on feet of either gender as well as shoeplay. A big issue I have is sometimes the thing I look at focus more on the feet which is very annoying. I've been wanting to explore my fetish more, but because I am sex-repulsed I'm too hesitant to start going through different places which have a 100% sexual focus :/

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Well here goes my first post.. :unsure:

I know this isn't that much of an unusual one but the only way i can become sexually aroused is by fantasising myself in situations where i am so sexually desired by people. I often fantasise about being a stripper/prostitute and seducing older men. I think the reason why i am so turned on by the thought of inflicting sexual pleasure onto someone is because it makes me feel superior. However, what is confusing is that if i were to recreate this act in real life, it would not make me feel any sort of sexual attraction or the want to have sex whatsoever. Because my fetish is so closely linked to sex, it made it very confusing when it came to identifying my demisexuality/asexuality as my sexuality is kind of a contradiction to my fetish. I guess even to turn someone else on you at least need to be turned on by the act of sex, and that i am just not.

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Compared to a lot of others I have read here, mine is very tame XD I have a sneaker fetish. I won't go into the specifics but I love looking at sneakers on feet of either gender as well as shoeplay. A big issue I have is sometimes the thing I look at focus more on the feet which is very annoying. I've been wanting to explore my fetish more, but because I am sex-repulsed I'm too hesitant to start going through different places which have a 100% sexual focus :/

Hi Pac the Yak: don't mean to pry, but when you say your sex-repulsion has made you hesitant to follow through on exploring your fetish, do you mean you're uncomfortable with the idea of following through or using the arousal you experience?

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mischevious_koala

Compared to a lot of others I have read here, mine is very tame XD I have a sneaker fetish. I won't go into the specifics but I love looking at sneakers on feet of either gender as well as shoeplay. A big issue I have is sometimes the thing I look at focus more on the feet which is very annoying. I've been wanting to explore my fetish more, but because I am sex-repulsed I'm too hesitant to start going through different places which have a 100% sexual focus :/

Hi Pac the Yak: don't mean to pry, but when you say your sex-repulsion has made you hesitant to follow through on exploring your fetish, do you mean you're uncomfortable with the idea of following through or using the arousal you experience?

You're fine. I should have said that I'm not 100% sex-repulsed, I have a libido and act on it when I need to and that doesn't bother me. What I meant was that I'm uncomfortable with exploring the internet and seeing what I like and dislike. I guess you could say I am repulsed by sexual acts and porn but when that is where my searches will probably take me that's the reason why I'm hesitant.

EDIT: Oh yeah, one other point: I live at home with my parents, so there is very little opportunity to even think about physically exploring the fetish

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Compared to a lot of others I have read here, mine is very tame XD I have a sneaker fetish. I won't go into the specifics but I love looking at sneakers on feet of either gender as well as shoeplay. A big issue I have is sometimes the thing I look at focus more on the feet which is very annoying. I've been wanting to explore my fetish more, but because I am sex-repulsed I'm too hesitant to start going through different places which have a 100% sexual focus :/

Hi Pac the Yak: don't mean to pry, but when you say your sex-repulsion has made you hesitant to follow through on exploring your fetish, do you mean you're uncomfortable with the idea of following through or using the arousal you experience?

You're fine. I should have said that I'm not 100% sex-repulsed, I have a libido and act on it when I need to and that doesn't bother me. What I meant was that I'm uncomfortable with exploring the internet and seeing what I like and dislike. I guess you could say I am repulsed by sexual acts and porn but when that is where my searches will probably take me that's the reason why I'm hesitant.

EDIT: Oh yeah, one other point: I live at home with my parents, so there is very little opportunity to even think about physically exploring the fetish

I can see that. I think, for me, the idea of separating libido from attraction has helped me to not feel conflicted about why I can get aroused when my fetishes are in play, when I don't have the slightest interest in partnered sex.

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Some fetishes seem very strange, maybe even "gross" to my probably naive eyes. But even though I might not personally like a certain fetish or fantasy, I find myself amazed and even very much drawn to a mind that does like these things. A fetish for people with fetishes that I don't understand or share? I have trouble reconciling whatever that is. :P

Edit: In fact, really horny sexual people _seem_ to me to be acting like they have a genital fetish. They don't call it that,but to me, it looks like that's exactly what it is sometimes. I don't share that deep fascination, but I'm still fascinated by the mind that does care so much about such things, so different from my own mind.

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This thread is about fetishes specifically, yet I haven't elaborated on what exactly are mine. Maybe it's time to do that. I love things under the transformation umbrella, like people changing from one body type to another, to more exotic things like werewolves and people literally turning into monsters and stuff. To a lesser extent, I also like hypnosis, since it often presents itself as personality changes, and goes well hand in hand with the main deal. Perhaps the more bizarre aspect of this fetish is just how overboard it can be. As in literally physically impossible, cartoonish stuff, such as flattening or inflation (like, a character being squeezed so they become paper thin, or filled with air like a balloon). Needless to say, I have a hard time taking my own sexual preferences seriously, due to just how silly they are!

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Yeah um hi.

So my main fetish I tend to view as more of a sexuality even though I officially classify myself as a gray-ace I privately view my main fetish as my sexuality. That's probably one of my most extreme fetishes and considered as highighly taboo.

I have many other fetishes that I'm not keen on mentioning and I feel that I often go through cycles of what arouses me out of these.

I have two fetishes which are almost always presen, one of those being a gore fetish which is highly tied in with my main fetish, the gorier the better. Probably says lots about me that gore is one of my least extreme fetishes lol

Sry if this was a long post

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