Kink, BDSM, and Cake

[batmmann5]

18 hours ago, queenofaces said:

Ugh, I feel you. I'm a paraphilic as well and constantly feel like there's something wrong with me : ( Can I ask what your kinks are? If you're comfortable with sharing

Rope is definitely my main fetish.  I love being tied up.  Love tying others.  Love images of it.  Though, the fetish does turn me on, I could care less about sex.  Are you on Fetlife?  There are 2600 members part of a Group called Asexual and Kinky on there.  What fetishes do you have may I ask Queenofaces?  Brian

[queenofaces]

6 hours ago, batmmann5 said:

Rope is definitely my main fetish.  I love being tied up.  Love tying others.  Love images of it.  Though, the fetish does turn me on, I could care less about sex.  Are you on Fetlife?  There are 2600 members part of a Group called Asexual and Kinky on there.  What fetishes do you have may I ask Queenofaces?  Brian

Just bondage, watersports and choking things like that. no I have no interest in a fetish community sorry

[ElasticPlanet]

On 10/29/2018 at 1:07 AM, Brahmacarya said:

Weirdly the vast majority of fetishists like the fetish and want to enjoy and engage in it.

I'm not quite sure how I should read this... If you mean disliking the object of your fetish, I don't know if I've heard of that before. On the other hand, liking your fetish but feeling shame about the fact of being a fetishist: yep, been there, got the T shirt! I think the only solution is to learn to be happy wearing that T shirt...

[Brahmacarya]

On 11/8/2018 at 4:49 AM, ElasticPlanet said:

I'm not quite sure how I should read this... If you mean disliking the object of your fetish, I don't know if I've heard of that before. On the other hand, liking your fetish but feeling shame about the fact of being a fetishist: yep, been there, got the T shirt! I think the only solution is to learn to be happy wearing that T shirt...

In some cases, this is very inappropriate. You should not learn to be happy enacting a behaviour that is the product of childhood trauma, violence and drug abuse in my opinion. In some cases, the paraphilia must be completely removed and that is the only option. Unfortunately this is nigh on impossible from all the research I have done, both reading about test cases and through my own experience. It may mean no sexual function whatsoever, permanently, if it can even be accomplished via surgical means.

[kaysir]

On 11/9/2018 at 7:56 AM, Brahmacarya said:

In some cases, this is very inappropriate. You should not learn to be happy enacting a behaviour that is the product of childhood trauma, violence and drug abuse in my opinion. In some cases, the paraphilia must be completely removed and that is the only option. Unfortunately this is nigh on impossible from all the research I have done, both reading about test cases and through my own experience. It may mean no sexual function whatsoever, permanently, if it can even be accomplished via surgical means.

If the paraphilia isn't distressing and doesn't impede a person's life, especially if they may suffer from efforts to change, why should they try to get rid of it? Just because it has negative origins? I disagree.

[Brahmacarya]

6 hours ago, kaysir said:

If the paraphilia isn't distressing and doesn't impede a person's life, especially if they may suffer from efforts to change, why should they try to get rid of it? Just because it has negative origins? I disagree.

Ah I was being self centred and referencing my own situation there. Of course if the individual has no negative feelings about it, however it originated, they should absolutely go ahead and enjoy themselves. 😊

But for me this is not possible, so I resist being told to just get used to it, accept or embrace it as if that is the only viable response. To me this ... perverse, in a way. For me it must be removed by whatever means necessary. 

[bunnyhabit]

my husband has kinker moments i just go along with his fantasies to keep peace and visa card activated. 

[dragonharpy]

Anybody else get aroused/turned on by tying someone up or seeing them tied up, but don't actually want to do any sexual acts? I mean, if somebody gets turned on, I guess it's technically a "sexual act," but, I mean, you don't want anybody to get naked or have sex?

[Bloc]

1 hour ago, dragonharpy said:

Anybody else get aroused/turned on by tying someone up or seeing them tied up, but don't actually want to do any sexual acts? I mean, if somebody gets turned on, I guess it's technically a "sexual act," but, I mean, you don't want anybody to get naked or have sex?

I am not getting turned on by tying somebody up, but it is fun, even when it is exhausting. With being tied up it is different for me. Depending on the mood I am in it is either just extremely relaxing or it can be a turn on, but it is some kind of weird non sexual turn on and I don't want to do anything sexual. But it surely changes my state of mind and I can feel the pleasure from the rope.

[batmmann5]

I love being tied up, but it isn't sexual.  I just love the feeling.  I wish I could find a woman who felt the same.  Tying is fun as well, but I am not as confident there.  I have always been into bd/sm, so either role would work with a woman who likes the same things.  For me, the compression is what I really love.  Rope bondage is like a tight hug.  It feels great.  Are you part of the bd/sm community Dragonharpy?  Are you on Fetlife?  There are like 2600 members in the Asexual and Kinky Group on there.  I don't suppose you live in the Northwest USA?  Smile.  We could have some fun.  Brian

[Catmangoes]

Im a really kinky person with a lot of fetishes. My partner shares some of those kinks with me and there's a kink group I meet with once every month or two. I know I'm really into my kinks, but for some reason I just can't bring that energy I have in my head into the physical world. I could think about stuff thatd be fun to do and enjoy that but I have no interest in actually doing it. Its so frustrating. Has anyone felt similarly?

[Small Horse]

I am pretty sure I have exclusive schediaphilia, aka toonophilia. I am sexually attracted to cartoons, and I've crushes on cartoons since I was 8. Some of them are human, some aren't. Just think of a fangirl who draws fanart and writes fanfiction of their favorite fictional crushes (some are even my own creations), but they never grow out of it or pursued a real relationship. I've never been in a real relationship because I feel nothing towards real people and the thought of actual sex squicks me so hard. I'm in my mid 30's now, and I should have grown out of it long ago, but I haven't and I don't want to give it up. Because of this, I consider myself asexual. I'm also autochorissexual because I can't even imagine myself with these characters.

 

I consider it to be a fetish because it involves no real people, but I'm a little hung up and ashamed about it because some of the subjects I like to write about are extremely taboo and would be very unacceptable in the real world, but I like to write about them because it's kinky. Supposedly if you like the fictional version of something, then you must like the idea of the real thing, and constantly exposing your mind to it will make you crave it for real (slippery slope). But this has never been the case because I'm actually afraid of sex and I'm perfectly content in fantasies, drawings, and writing. In reality, I'm a huge wuss that hates taking risks or doing bad stuff, so cartoons have always been a way of coping.

[Skycaptain]

@Small Horse, one of the "advantages" of cartoons and animation in general is that it can adapt to cover stuff otherwise taboo, along with body shapes and positions which would be anatomically impossible IRL. The sheer quantity out there suggests that you are far from alone 

[Small Horse]

48 minutes ago, Sleighcaptain said:

@Small Horse, one of the "advantages" of cartoons and animation in general is that it can adapt to cover stuff otherwise taboo, along with body shapes and positions which would be anatomically impossible IRL. The sheer quantity out there suggests that you are far from alone 

I don't know how many people are exclusive schediaphiles, however. The UK made lolicon/shotacon illegal because they believe it leads to the real thing, while in Japan schediaphiles are so widely accepted that there's a huge market for stuff like body pillows and dating sims and niche fetishes. A lot of people seem to have a knee-jerk reaction to fictional taboo stuff though, because there is a large risk involved due to overlapping interests (a furry might be a zoophile, or a lolicon might be a pedo, or a guro fan might be into actual mutilation/necrophilia). Though I can't imagine someone into vore actually wants to be eaten or swallowed whole, for example. Fantasy doesn't have to make sense. But how do people deal with shame and guilt over their fetishes or fantasies, when the world thinks you are a degenerate, when in reality you don't want to cause harm? A big part of BDSM and fetishes is being safe and sane, but the common outsider does not realize this.

 

I'm glad I'm asexual in this case, and I'm curious how many asexuals that have schediaphilia/fictiophilia are actually out there. Interestingly enough, most asexuals I've met are into shipping or rule34. There may be a lot of schediaphiles out there that have no idea they may actually be asexual, since it's gray-ace and therefore confusing. 

[BarioFiesta]

I've never really felt 100% comfortable with my fetish. I've been into bondage since a kid, never understood why, it just kinda developed as a thing. In my teens, I began to really question myself, as to whether this made me a dangerous or wrong person. I mean, you read about killers and kidnappers tying their victims, and there's this unshakable doubt in your mind that, even though you know there's no way you'd ever do such a thing, the dark twisted mindset is there.

 

I'm not really into anything heavy, but for some reason I enjoy roleplay that leads into tying a partner and teasing their body while they writhe around. All round sensual, really. 

 

As the years went by and I had two partners, I told them about my kink, and luckily for me they were okay and comfortable to engage. I felt for the first time somewhat validated. But despite enjoying playtimes together, I was never interested in sex. At all. I tried on a few occasions, but went flat near immediately.

 

I've only really became aware of my asexuality of late. I accept my asexuality, and my fetish, moreso these days. Though I still feel uncomfortable in finding new partners. Not only do I see myself as broken in a twisted mind sense, but also that it's now impossible for me to realistically date anyone, because I know I'd let them down because of my lack of functionality. I'd just feel so guilty, they'd be better off finding someone who is more capable.

 

I'd class myself as romantic grey asexual. I really enjoy physical closeness and everything related to normal loving relationships. I just have been feeling low of late, I'm 33, getting older and all I want is to settle down with a young pretty lady in her mid-20's with interests similar to mine. But my low esteem and crap social dynamics are getting in my way.

 

I'm sorry for the long rant, I guess I'm looking for some kind of validation. And a cuddle. It's been too long since my last one.

[Frac]

On 11/30/2018 at 6:21 PM, Small Horse said:

I don't know how many people are exclusive schediaphiles, however. The UK made lolicon/shotacon illegal because they believe it leads to the real thing, while in Japan schediaphiles are so widely accepted that there's a huge market for stuff like body pillows and dating sims and niche fetishes. A lot of people seem to have a knee-jerk reaction to fictional taboo stuff though, because there is a large risk involved due to overlapping interests (a furry might be a zoophile, or a lolicon might be a pedo, or a guro fan might be into actual mutilation/necrophilia). Though I can't imagine someone into vore actually wants to be eaten or swallowed whole, for example. Fantasy doesn't have to make sense. But how do people deal with shame and guilt over their fetishes or fantasies, when the world thinks you are a degenerate, when in reality you don't want to cause harm? A big part of BDSM and fetishes is being safe and sane, but the common outsider does not realize this.

 

I'm glad I'm asexual in this case, and I'm curious how many asexuals that have schediaphilia/fictiophilia are actually out there. Interestingly enough, most asexuals I've met are into shipping or rule34. There may be a lot of schediaphiles out there that have no idea they may actually be asexual, since it's gray-ace and therefore confusing. 

 

I'm an ace fetishist too, but I don't really understand rule 34, because I have no desire for any particular person or character. I can understand how exclusively being into cartoon characters would make someone consider themselves effectively asexual, though. It definitely fits in the grey area.

 

I think the UK is particularly afraid of people with "deviant" sexual inclinations. There was a case there where some people faced charges for completely consensual sadomasochism after posting a video of it on the internet. Everyone who participated was an adult who actually wanted to be there, and no permanent harm was done, so being punished for that is really unfair, in my opinion!  I don't think banning drawings about taboo topics really helps, anyway. If you ban them, I think potential predators would be more likely to do something bad in real life rather than less, because they'll have no safe outlet then. Yet on the other hand, I think Japan is a bit too lax about sexualization of underage people, though, and too much normalization could again lead to more abuse. It's difficult to find the right balance where ideally no one gets hurt.

[Guest]

On 12/7/2018 at 2:17 PM, BarioFiesta said:

I've never really felt 100% comfortable with my fetish. I've been into bondage since a kid, never understood why, it just kinda developed as a thing. In my teens, I began to really question myself, as to whether this made me a dangerous or wrong person. I mean, you read about killers and kidnappers tying their victims, and there's this unshakable doubt in your mind that, even though you know there's no way you'd ever do such a thing, the dark twisted mindset is there.

 

I'm not really into anything heavy, but for some reason I enjoy roleplay that leads into tying a partner and teasing their body while they writhe around. All round sensual, really. 

 

As the years went by and I had two partners, I told them about my kink, and luckily for me they were okay and comfortable to engage. I felt for the first time somewhat validated. But despite enjoying playtimes together, I was never interested in sex. At all. I tried on a few occasions, but went flat near immediately.

 

I've only really became aware of my asexuality of late. I accept my asexuality, and my fetish, moreso these days. Though I still feel uncomfortable in finding new partners. Not only do I see myself as broken in a twisted mind sense, but also that it's now impossible for me to realistically date anyone, because I know I'd let them down because of my lack of functionality. I'd just feel so guilty, they'd be better off finding someone who is more capable.

 

I'd class myself as romantic grey asexual. I really enjoy physical closeness and everything related to normal loving relationships. I just have been feeling low of late, I'm 33, getting older and all I want is to settle down with a young pretty lady in her mid-20's with interests similar to mine. But my low esteem and crap social dynamics are getting in my way.

 

I'm sorry for the long rant, I guess I'm looking for some kind of validation. And a cuddle. It's been too long since my last one.

There is nothing wrong with bondage. And it for sure doesn't mean you want to hurt anyone ! A lot of people enjoy ropes and cuffs. It's actually a very popular, very common thing to be sold even to vanilla couples to play around with. Fuzzy handcuffs ? Love play sets? All involve light bondage. 

 

As for sex... that one is trickier cause a lot of people do combine the two. But, you could probably find a lot of people in the BDSM scene that are OK not mixing too. It's just about finding people into that. Teasing without sex is a lot of fun!

[Issy_Marie]

HI guys,

   I recently sat in a psychology form on sexual relationships and human sexuality. There was a speaker who talked a little about bdsm specifically about doms/subs and bigs/littles (is that the right termology).  Can someone who is in the community explain the difference for me, and what each relationship is about/like? Or direct me to some reading materials? 

 

   Thanks in advance!

[Small Horse]

On 12/9/2018 at 11:38 AM, Frac said:

 

I'm an ace fetishist too, but I don't really understand rule 34, because I have no desire for any particular person or character. I can understand how exclusively being into cartoon characters would make someone consider themselves effectively asexual, though. It definitely fits in the grey area.

 

I think the UK is particularly afraid of people with "deviant" sexual inclinations. There was a case there where some people faced charges for completely consensual sadomasochism after posting a video of it on the internet. Everyone who participated was an adult who actually wanted to be there, and no permanent harm was done, so being punished for that is really unfair, in my opinion!  I don't think banning drawings about taboo topics really helps, anyway. If you ban them, I think potential predators would be more likely to do something bad in real life rather than less, because they'll have no safe outlet then. Yet on the other hand, I think Japan is a bit too lax about sexualization of underage people, though, and too much normalization could again lead to more abuse. It's difficult to find the right balance where ideally no one gets hurt.

The thing with Japan is that they try to be very clear about the boundaries of fantasy and reality, while the UK is thinks fantasy will ultimately turn to reality. Japan sees Western English speakers as ridiculous for not being able to tell the difference between lolicon and real CP, for example, while the UK has outright outlawed lolicon because anything degenerate, despite being harmless by itself, is not worth the effort of defending or keeping around, and because it *might* cause someone to eventually go for the real thing. The same with sadomasochism, the UK believes that finding pleasure in causing pain or receiving pain will lead to much more dangerous desires. Australia bans porn that contains fantasy incest and porn models over 18 that have tiny breasts because the ideas themselves are immoral, and bad ideas should be illegal to kept citizens' morality in check. America's laws are more focused around the harm of acts themselves, and have been moving away from immoral ideas and puritanical laws in favor of freedom of speech and more libertarian views. Of course you'll still find states in America that outlaw things that are "obscene" yet harmless, like sex toys in Alabama.

[Frac]

On 12/11/2018 at 12:32 AM, Small Horse said:

The thing with Japan is that they try to be very clear about the boundaries of fantasy and reality, while the UK is thinks fantasy will ultimately turn to reality. Japan sees Western English speakers as ridiculous for not being able to tell the difference between lolicon and real CP, for example, while the UK has outright outlawed lolicon because anything degenerate, despite being harmless by itself, is not worth the effort of defending or keeping around, and because it *might* cause someone to eventually go for the real thing. The same with sadomasochism, the UK believes that finding pleasure in causing pain or receiving pain will lead to much more dangerous desires. Australia bans porn that contains fantasy incest and porn models over 18 that have tiny breasts because the ideas themselves are immoral, and bad ideas should be illegal to kept citizens' morality in check. America's laws are more focused around the harm of acts themselves, and have been moving away from immoral ideas and puritanical laws in favor of freedom of speech and more libertarian views. Of course you'll still find states in America that outlaw things that are "obscene" yet harmless, like sex toys in Alabama.

 

The Anglosphere is definitely way too worried about harmless things like unusual but consensual sex between adults, but I'm not sure if your claim about Japan's attitudes is entirely accurate. I heard that Japan only recently banned a genre of adult videos that sounded like it was essentially softcore CP, I mean like clothed underage people posing in suggestive ways. 🤢 They used to justify it based on the fact that no sex or nudity took place, but it was still clearly a way of sexualizing actual minors, which is still unacceptable, if you ask me. If they only allowed drawings, I could see how that wouldn't necessarily translate to real life crime, but having previously allowed videos like that is definitely not the kind of acceptance that I want to see here in the West. All in all, being able to make a distinction between fiction and reality is definitely a healthy thing, though. I wonder if certain countries will ever get over that moral panic, but sadly I feel like many people crave that kind of social control, even if it doesn't actually serve to protect anyone.

[Small Horse]

5 hours ago, Frac said:

 

The Anglosphere is definitely way too worried about harmless things like unusual but consensual sex between adults, but I'm not sure if your claim about Japan's attitudes is entirely accurate. I heard that Japan only recently banned a genre of adult videos that sounded like it was essentially softcore CP, I mean like clothed underage people posing in suggestive ways. 🤢 They used to justify it based on the fact that no sex or nudity took place, but it was still clearly a way of sexualizing actual minors, which is still unacceptable, if you ask me. If they only allowed drawings, I could see how that wouldn't necessarily translate to real life crime, but having previously allowed videos like that is definitely not the kind of acceptance that I want to see here in the West. All in all, being able to make a distinction between fiction and reality is definitely a healthy thing, though. I wonder if certain countries will ever get over that moral panic, but sadly I feel like many people crave that kind of social control, even if it doesn't actually serve to protect anyone.

It's certainly not okay that Japan mostly did that due to being pressured from the West, and they only illegalized real CP in 2014... They are very attached to their culture, even stuff that is bad (cultural differences think different things are bad), so it takes them awhile to move forward. They did actually try to make lolicon illegal, but Japan decided that way too many people are into it and it's too ingrained in their culture to ban it, which is why it's even more important for them to draw a line between reality and fiction. Once you deem fiction is harmful too, a massive chunk of Japan's current culture is going to be threatened and entirely change, and that scares a lot of Japanese when so many of them are the fan junkie type. Japan feels very threatened by "gaijin" to pressure them to get rid of all their stuff they cling to just because they view it as deviant. They aren't okay with thought policing. They have been slowly changing over time though so that the West finds them more favorable, so maybe lolicon will be illegal one day. They are pretty worried about their image when the Olympics will be hosted there in 2020.

 

Personally, I'm not okay with thought policing either. If nobody is being harmed or planning to be harmed, then people should be able to enjoy their privacy. The only problem is when people are so mentally ill that they don't know know that they are harming or don't care, and laws are put in place to prevent it happening in the first place, but this is unfair to people who are already safe and sane. Is it right to take away freedom from everyone in a trade off to protect people, when a lot of people don't care or want it around anyway? It's hard to say.

[BarioFiesta]

On 12/9/2018 at 8:42 PM, Serran said:

There is nothing wrong with bondage. And it for sure doesn't mean you want to hurt anyone ! A lot of people enjoy ropes and cuffs. It's actually a very popular, very common thing to be sold even to vanilla couples to play around with. Fuzzy handcuffs ? Love play sets? All involve light bondage. 

 

As for sex... that one is trickier cause a lot of people do combine the two. But, you could probably find a lot of people in the BDSM scene that are OK not mixing too. It's just about finding people into that. Teasing without sex is a lot of fun!

Thanks for the positivity, Serran. I'm not very outgoing, so the whole BDSM scene feels a little too much for me. I enjoy the traditional loving relationship model with the kinkiness thrown in. Couldn't agree with you more though - most of the fun comes about through play.

[jay williams]

On ‎12‎/‎10‎/‎2018 at 2:47 AM, Issy_Marie said:

HI guys,

   I recently sat in a psychology form on sexual relationships and human sexuality. There was a speaker who talked a little about bdsm specifically about doms/subs and bigs/littles (is that the right termology).  Can someone who is in the community explain the difference for me, and what each relationship is about/like? Or direct me to some reading materials? 

 

   Thanks in advance!

Got to http://www.fetlife.com This is a huge website with kink interests for everyone.

[Toothlesss]

So I relatively recently realized that a lot of my fantasies when my libido is high is lots of BDSM. I mainly lay low and browse in the few spaces online, and there's a space to talk about this stuff on another site I'm on too. I'm not very outgoing and the thought of ending up in a toxic relationship scares me. 

I'm strangely up for bondage and sex at the same time but outside of that, vanilla is ok but BDSM turns me on.

[waterenthusiast]

Okay, my first post, here we go. While I realize this post is more fitting for an autochorissexuality thread, thought I’d share here as well, as I am curious to meet, chat with and better understand the relationship between (gr)a(y)sexuality and fetish; and one of mine is BDSM related. 

 

Rather than get into an elaborate introduction unpacking my sexual identity (can you guys say Confusing!?), I thought I’d make it fun by throwing out some key themes comprising my sexuality and sexual confusion thereof, and see if you can relate, share these yourself, and see what associations you have to these in general: 

 

- kink: Erotic Hypnosis (hypnotized guys) 

- kink: (Male) Feet

- identity, related question: Autochorrisexuality—does a graysexual individual who is almost always turned on by erotic content related to their fetishes fit this category, or is there a better subcategory for their sexual identity?) 

- psychological (nurture/environemntal) etiology of kink, complex PTSD, and related questions (for those who identify as or know about how autochorissexualty works): 

My kinks came about as a direct result of verbal and emotional abuse at ages 4,5; by chance, I came across related content on the tv screen and found great comfort in the notion of magical control amidst the abuse I was undergoing, and the groundwork for what would later become a compulsive fetishistic-disordered sexuality was cemented. Can any of you relate? Is anyone also interested in the origins of their kinky interests and find them to be intertwined with complex trauma? Do you know any literature on this that you can recommend? 

- acting out your BDSM-related or other kinks and finding it is never the same in real life (fantasy is better!): this is definitely me. Takes many preconditions for me to enjoy acting out my fetishes in real life. That’s why I identify as gray, autochori.  — is this the same for any of you? 

- (For those of you whose sexual identity is still disorganized or confusing and/or is yielding difficulties in finding a partner) feelings of social isolation: what are your thoughts/can you relate to/do you also experience feelings of alienation, isolation, demoralization in that you are in constant limbo / are not figured out? That your asexuality got in the way of love/good relationships? That the ace dating pool hasn’t yet proven itself to House your match?

 

I realize this is a loaded one, lol, so here’s some more contextual fodder for ya: I myself would love a family as I’m a true “family guy” (not Peter griffin thankfully hehe); now as I approach the end of my 20s, I would like more than anything to find my life partner. I’ve dated amazing sexual people for good chunks of time, two of whom I was in love with and they me, but slowly on their end my sexual “issues” made them “fall out of love” with me and this is devastating to me. I’ve tried dating aces, but could not quite connect as they were somewhere on the autism spectrum (a non-issue for me in theory! But in practice, so far, their social difficulties prevented a true connection on both ends I feel), and/or our personalities and interests didn’t mix (all four of them were meganerds lol, and I couldn’t quite get into cosplay etc.) 

 

OK, so this post ended up being super verbose and not as easy breezy, fun, and game-like as I imagined. But I hope it gets some good conversation going! 

(Feel free to ask any Qs for clarification, as I realize it’s a lot and not sure I explained it all adequately). 

 

Cheers,

Water 🙂 

[JaxAlligator]

On 7/1/2017 at 4:52 PM, LittleGoody2Shoes said:

Kinky aces, I don't understand why when people have kinks that aren't actual sex how sexuals still see them as sex. I see the kinks as emotional intimacy and they don't sexual arouse me. What are your thoughts on this?

I agree, but then again I am the most non-sexual sexual person ever.

[JaxAlligator]

On 11/30/2018 at 2:29 PM, Small Horse said:

I am pretty sure I have exclusive schediaphilia, aka toonophilia. I am sexually attracted to cartoons, and I've crushes on cartoons since I was 8. Some of them are human, some aren't. Just think of a fangirl who draws fanart and writes fanfiction of their favorite fictional crushes (some are even my own creations), but they never grow out of it or pursued a real relationship. I've never been in a real relationship because I feel nothing towards real people and the thought of actual sex squicks me so hard. I'm in my mid 30's now, and I should have grown out of it long ago, but I haven't and I don't want to give it up. Because of this, I consider myself asexual. I'm also autochorissexual because I can't even imagine myself with these characters.

 

I consider it to be a fetish because it involves no real people, but I'm a little hung up and ashamed about it because some of the subjects I like to write about are extremely taboo and would be very unacceptable in the real world, but I like to write about them because it's kinky. Supposedly if you like the fictional version of something, then you must like the idea of the real thing, and constantly exposing your mind to it will make you crave it for real (slippery slope). But this has never been the case because I'm actually afraid of sex and I'm perfectly content in fantasies, drawings, and writing. In reality, I'm a huge wuss that hates taking risks or doing bad stuff, so cartoons have always been a way of coping.

I can relate to this. I think I feel more sexual attraction towards cartoons then real people. I still fell it towards people, but that is more rare. I do not want anybody to dress up as said characters tho. 

[Squirrel Combat]

I wish it hadn't taken me this long to embrace my inner kinks and fetishes.

[Squirrel Combat]

On 12/19/2018 at 6:57 AM, jay williams said:

Got to http://www.fetlife.com This is a huge website with kink interests for everyone.

Is this just BDSM only, or does this site cater to other fetishes as well?

[Bloc]

3 hours ago, Squirrel Combat said:

Is this just BDSM only, or does this site cater to other fetishes as well?

Also other fetishes, but you will see a lot of explicitly sexual images. So it is probably not the right site for sex repulsed aces.