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I don't get it at all. I have a flat butt and my mom and my sister tease me for it and it's like, the thing that helps me sit on the toilet is supposed to be attractive? It doesn't make sense to me haha.

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i have an odd idea of how to explain it :blink:

in art and design theory are only so much facts that aren't subject to discussion

therefore they are so elementary that everyone gets to lern them

amongst these elementary facts is one saying that visual simplicity generally grabs more attention

because its easier to understand for the human eye.

visually simple shapes also have more even surface(s) and that way less "clutter" your eye stumbles upon.

these rules are for example part of why the clean apple design gained so much attention and still does.

now butts ... and for that matter: also boobs ... are both close to being two orbs

orbs are amongst the most simple 3dimensional shapes in geometry

and thus i say that by the elementary facts of art and design

butts and boobs are mainly nice too look at

because they have very simple and easy understandable shapes. :excl:

oh and as for males: they have a genetically enhanced interest for butts an boobs because "procreation" (*yawn*)

and they have this since forever, so putting these 2 things together i'm not wondering

about why butts and boobs are popular, i rather wonder about those inable to see these aesthetics in

probably the same way asexuals wonder about sexual attraction.

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i'll just say this. if anyone starts telling me how sexy butts are, i'll ruin it for them and say 'you know farts come out of butts, right?'

lolol. yeah, i'm terrible person. corrupting the attractiveness of butts. sorry, not sorry.

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Amethyst... sexuals in general are fond of butts, breasts and navel. And, people have fetish for various other things like feet, neck, eyes etc. Sexuals have dirty minds (as a whole). The reason being, they can get turned on by the mere sight of bare legs or the brushing of their cheeks! And for your question, blame the procreation thingie.

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i'll just say this. if anyone starts telling me how sexy butts are, i'll ruin it for them and say 'you know farts come out of butts, right?'
lolol. yeah, i'm terrible person. corrupting the attractiveness of butts. sorry, not sorry.

shit comes out of butts too, but for people who enjoy anal rimming, the idea of shit and farts make the practice no less attractive.. it just comes down to each individuals personal taste (that pun was not intended) :) burps and vomit come out of mouths,and plenty of shit too if a lot of the comments in this thread are anything to go by haha.. but for many people these things make the idea of kissing no less attractive!!


Amethyst... sexuals in general are fond of butts, breasts and navel. And, people have fetish for various other things like feet, neck, eyes etc. Sexuals have dirty minds (as a whole). The reason being, they can get turned on by the mere sight of bare legs or the brushing of their cheeks! And for your question, blame the procreation thingie.

Just to be clear there are a vast number of asexuals with 'dirty minds' as well!

Asexuals can love the human body and enjoy kink and fetish, without desiring or enjoying partnered sex (this is regardless of the level of their libido, which can be just as high as any sexual persons libido) :)

.. takes all sorts to make a world I always say!

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i'll just say this. if anyone starts telling me how sexy butts are, i'll ruin it for them and say 'you know farts come out of butts, right?'

lolol. yeah, i'm terrible person. corrupting the attractiveness of butts. sorry, not sorry.

shit comes out of butts too, but for people who enjoy anal rimming, the idea of shit and farts make the practice no less attractive.. it just comes down to each individuals personal taste (that pun was not intended) :) burps and vomit come out of mouths,and plenty of shit too if a lot of the comments in this thread are anything to go by haha.. but for many people these things make the idea of kissing no less attractive!!

Amethyst... sexuals in general are fond of butts, breasts and navel. And, people have fetish for various other things like feet, neck, eyes etc. Sexuals have dirty minds (as a whole). The reason being, they can get turned on by the mere sight of bare legs or the brushing of their cheeks! And for your question, blame the procreation thingie.

Just to be clear there are a vast number of asexuals with 'dirty minds' as well!

Asexuals can love the human body and enjoy kink and fetish, without desiring or enjoying partnered sex (this is regardless of the level of their libido, which can be just as high as any sexual persons libido) :)

.. takes all sorts to make a world I always say!

I believe that asexual find more ways to be sensual then sexuals... We are more open to express our love then most sexual. Most of them just want to put it in and pull out and all done... But we on the other hand... We are cuddling and snuggling among many many many many other things. Sexuals are boring...

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I believe that asexual find more ways to be sensual then sexuals... We are more open to express our love then most sexual. Most of them just want to put it in and pull out and all done... But we on the other hand... We are cuddling and snuggling among many many many many other things. Sexuals are boring...

Both sexual persons and asexual persons are capable of being sensual and expressing love in many ways. Sexuals are certainly not limited to sexual activity and many are quite capable of cuddling and snuggling. Boring is not generally something attributed to sexual orientation...it is more a personality trait, anyone is capable of it.

Most importantly, asexual elitism (making remarks about how asexuals are better than sexuals in any regard) is talked about in this thread. It's not something AVEN encourages, in fact, it is very much discouraged because not only is it inaccurate to make elitist statements, it creates a divide and is very problematic when both groups of people are trying to understand the other's feelings.

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I believe that asexual find more ways to be sensual then sexuals... We are more open to express our love then most sexual. Most of them just want to put it in and pull out and all done... But we on the other hand... We are cuddling and snuggling among many many many many other things. Sexuals are boring...

Both sexual persons and asexual persons are capable of being sensual and expressing love in many ways. Sexuals are certainly not limited to sexual activity and many are quite capable of cuddling and snuggling. Boring is not generally something attributed to sexual orientation...it is more a personality trait, anyone is capable of it.

Most importantly, asexual elitism (making remarks about how asexuals are better than sexuals in any regard) is talked about in this thread. It's not something AVEN encourages, in fact, it is very much discouraged because not only is it inaccurate to make elitist statements, it creates a divide and is very problematic when both groups of people are trying to understand the other's feelings.

Never did I say that sexual are not sensual... That was not the point. My point was that sex is not the most important thing

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I believe that asexual find more ways to be sensual then sexuals... We are more open to express our love then most sexual. Most of them just want to put it in and pull out and all done... But we on the other hand... We are cuddling and snuggling among many many many many other things. Sexuals are boring...

Both sexual persons and asexual persons are capable of being sensual and expressing love in many ways. Sexuals are certainly not limited to sexual activity and many are quite capable of cuddling and snuggling. Boring is not generally something attributed to sexual orientation...it is more a personality trait, anyone is capable of it.

Most importantly, asexual elitism (making remarks about how asexuals are better than sexuals in any regard) is talked about in this thread. It's not something AVEN encourages, in fact, it is very much discouraged because not only is it inaccurate to make elitist statements, it creates a divide and is very problematic when both groups of people are trying to understand the other's feelings.

Ladygirl, I think your comment should have been applied to many replies in this thread (ie aimed at posters here in general) not just Cali. Many people have stated that sexuals are 'weird' and are 'freaks' for enjoying the way a butt or a set of breasts look. this thread has been riddled with asexual eletism from the first page.

Many comments here are not just offensive for sexuals reading it, but there are plenty of asexuals who love the way breasts and butts look. just because some people find the human body pleasing, doesn't make them weird or freaks or raving, sex crazed lunatics.

yes, I understand this thread is in the hotbox so it's understandable it's offensive, I just thought it was a little unfair pulling Cali up individually when there have been plenty of worse comments here regarding ANYONE (not just sexuals) who enjoy the appearance, or *gasp* God forbid the feel, of breasts and breasts and butts.

EDIT: I am amazed to learn this thread actually isn't in The Hot Box, going by the amount of offensive material it is riddled with.

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I believe that asexual find more ways to be sensual then sexuals... We are more open to express our love then most sexual. Most of them just want to put it in and pull out and all done... But we on the other hand... We are cuddling and snuggling among many many many many other things. Sexuals are boring...

Both sexual persons and asexual persons are capable of being sensual and expressing love in many ways. Sexuals are certainly not limited to sexual activity and many are quite capable of cuddling and snuggling. Boring is not generally something attributed to sexual orientation...it is more a personality trait, anyone is capable of it.

Most importantly, asexual elitism (making remarks about how asexuals are better than sexuals in any regard) is talked about in this thread. It's not something AVEN encourages, in fact, it is very much discouraged because not only is it inaccurate to make elitist statements, it creates a divide and is very problematic when both groups of people are trying to understand the other's feelings.

Ladygirl, I think your comment should have been applied to many replies in this thread (ie aimed at posters here in general) not just Cali. Many people have stated that sexuals are 'weird' and are 'freaks' for enjoying the way a butt or a set if breasts look. this thread has been riddled with asexual eletism from the first page.

Many comments here are not just offensive for sexuals reading it, but there are plenty of asexuals who love the way breasts and butts look. just because some people find the human body pleasing, doesn't make them weird or freaks or raving, sex crazed lunatics.

yes, I understand this thread is in the hotbox so it's understandable it's offensive, I just thought it was a little unfair pulling Cali up individually when there have been plenty of worse comments here regarding ANYONE (not just sexuals) who enjoy the appearance, or *gasp* God forbid the feel, of breasts and breasts and butts.

This isn't the Hot Box...I've been reading every post here (as I'm the forum moderator) and had not seen anything specifically implying asexuals were better than sexuals until now. Saying you don't understand attraction to butts doesn't seem eletist to me...

However, I could have missed something that was. *Goes back to the beginning to read entire thread*

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who enjoy the appearance, or *gasp* God forbid the feel, of breasts and breasts and butts.

. Bodies part :D I am a huge fan of.. :D And I am a very sensual person. Pleasing other people can be fun too

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I was told by a female mine was really big for a man my age. :huh: I felt very uncomfortable. I have no clue why she commented and I wish she never did. I don't know if she was complementing me, or if she was insulting me, yet all I know is I felt really uncomfortable in that situation. Overall, I have no clue what's so "fantastic" about them. They're just there to remove stuff from the system that doesn't belong there. Nothing more in my opinion. Of course my beliefs don't take away from the fact that pretty much everybody in my neighborhood has a thing for them, with me being the odd one out. But that's fine for me. I love being unique. As long as nobody stares at me, things will be fine.

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I personally like the way certain butts look. Aesthetically, I think they, just like breasts, are quite lovely. The plumper and rounder, the better

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Trying to understand the situation from a sex-hungry neanderthal POV, it probably has to do with a large (female) butt being a good indicator of a wide pelvis, which would be more suited than a narrow pelvis to having babies with fewer complications.

I remember having read somewhere that the ancient Irish used to intentionally break their little girls' pelvises and set them so they'd grow wide, which caused them to grow up to walk with a distinct waddling gait. And in modern Iran, the big-butted female figure is called kopoly or topoly and is considered highly desirable by men who want to father children.

My late mother OTOH had a different kind of butt obsession, something of a fixation on other people's rectums... I remember back in the '70s I told her about some TV show where a guy played a trumpet with his navel, and she said "oh... I thought you were gonna say he played it with his rectum." I was like, WTF??? And she thought the word "asphyxiate" meant to smother by not being able to breathe out of one's rectum (ass-fixiate). When someone said the word "physics" to my mother, it made her think of laxatives, not atoms.

It's too bad my late mother didn't live to see the UK's Mr. Methane, aka Paul Oldfield, "put the art into fart"... :rolleyes:

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As a sexual male, I can say at least part of the reason guys look at butts is because of how close to a woman's genitals it is. Many porn pictures have women bending over with their vulvas in view. And since vulvas are both a highly hidden object on a woman and a source that can bring pleasure, men will look at the parts of the body that are near it more often because it reminds them the vulva is near.

Also, I think quite a bit of the fixation might disappear if nudity were to become common in society. If we take away the unnecessary mystery surrounding certain body parts, imo, people would chill out on putting so much energy in trying to see them. I do think guys shouldn't be obsessed with breasts, but society keeps the sexualization of them going, and I think that is a huge part of the problem.

And for the record, I'm not pro-porn. I don't like women being objectified.

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I love a nice, pert, rounded and in-shape bottom. I just can't seem to look away when met by a pair of legs that seem to go on forever. And I appreciate a nice pair of boobs. I understand their appeal, I appreciate the hard work that might have gone into their beauty, and a nip of the bum from someone special, can show an appreciation based on cheek (no pun intended) and not necessarily lust. And that can all work both ways.

I'm not the most sexual of guys, but staring at a nice arse isn't exactly limited to non-aces, either.

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Im a lactation educator and I love boobs a lot! I think that the sexualizing of boobs by men is gross and weird, but as a lesbian it just seems different somehow. I have an aesthetic appreciation, I know how they work, and they feel soft and feminine to me. Also most of the women I am with are trans and I know how much effort it took to grow them! It's really cool to see a woman's boobs grow over time on estrogen. I would never ever sexualize boobs in a professional or functional context. That would be weird. gross, and non consensual. I ask my ace partner if I can touch her boobs a lot. It's never a sexual thing, just a comfort thing. She usually says no cause it's triggering but sometimes she says yes.

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Hey now, butts are important. They facilitate comfortable sitting.

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As for the aesthetics, it really does just come down to taste.. There are also many, including myself, who find a slender figure attractive, and that implies having not much of a butt. Regarding sexuality, I have no idea, I'm sexual and have no interest in touching someone's buttcheeks, but the "slap on the butt" seems to be a thing with many..

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Being a sexual, I can relate to the whole butt thing! I absolutely LOVE having my butt touched and rubbed. its not even a sexual thing all of the time, sometimes it just feels absolutely wonderful and completely relaxing. Actually being with an asexual is nice in the sense she doesnt mind rubbing my butt for me and I dont have to worry about her getting all worked up when she does it, I can just enjoy the butt rub!

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I remember first really being baffled by this concept when I saw Sleepless in Seattle back in highschool during the scene where Sam is stressing about the current dating scene and asks his friend to tell him whether or not he has a good butt. I was like I am so with you there man, I had no idea people even thought about butts as an attractive feature. :blink:

...yeah the fascination with boobs and butts is something I have never understood. I mean.... I get it in a very general capacity when considering a basic human shape, smoother curves rather than straight lines and angles can be nice (in other designs I like flowing curving shapes anyways), and I guess I could say For what it is one butt looks better than another one or something, but honestly to me looking at actual butts or boobs is just kind of gross, I don't really see any beauty or cuteness even if they are supposedly ideal specimens - it's more like those one are just less awkward/repulsive to look at than average ones, not that they're actually appealing in and of themselves. And I reeeeeally don't understand the fascination with 'bounce' uh...wut? The best explanation my mind can come up with is that it's related to people liking stuff that moves in general, like an animated gif instead of a still picture, or a moving sign instead of a static one, or action figures instead of toys that don't 'do' anything (though actually I don't understand the fascination with stuff that moves either, often I just find it cheesy).

I particularly dislike large boobs because I feel like they get in the way if I want to hug someone heart-to-heart but there's this huge cushion separating us, and also because I don't like top heavy figures (I don't get the broad muscly shoulders are 'hot' thing either). I guess I do think wide hips can be nice, but this doesn't translate into liking to look at large unclothed butts, or even large butts in spandex, or tight jeans, etc. It's more that they contribute to an overall shape that I like, a shape that looks more stable and balanced as opposed to looking like you're warring with gravity.

I know it's just a matter of personal taste, but it's one that I have a harder time than with most things to imagine how/why someone would find them attractive features.

Also, I personally didn't even know people enjoyed being touched in these places.... My husband tries that all the time and I'm like... uh okay I don't see what makes grabbing my but any more special than grabbing my leg or my waist or my arm? It feels more awkward if anything. I don't really feel anything different or particularly enjoyable, though nipple stimulation is just really annoyingly tickley and makes me need to scratch only scratching just hurts. It's really really not enjoyable. For me it's bad like the nails on a chalkboard thing, I really had no clue people could find it enjoyable. :wacko:

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I've never really understood the butt thing either. Everytime my friends mention someone with a cute butt I always ask them 'But WHY is it cute?'. Sometimes I ask them to make sure my butt looks cute, since I don't really know, lol. Maybe I don't understand the formula to a cute butt, but I like being cute. :D

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i used to be sexually aroused by round butts, but i hadn't seen a naked body by then. in fact, seeing naked bodies and the intimate parts spoiled my whole sexual predisposition.

it was kind of like finding out that santa is not real. sexuality was a just myth in my life.

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I think that when you can't tell whether you think something is sexually attractive, you probably don't.

On that note, I'm not really all that mature, so I find the concept of butts pretty funny ^~^

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I don't get the boob obsession personally. I mean yes, some boobs are objectively nicer than others (I guess), as are some bottoms, but mostly I'm just like 'They're just boobs?'. I mean I'm a girl so it's not really a big deal for me, they're just kinda there. Bums can be nice I suppose, but I don't love them. Voices and eyes are the best things. And hair. Gotta love the hair.

I don't think that's a sexual/asexual thing though, I think that's a personal preference thing, some people like some features, some people like others, some people don't care what people look like

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Could someone please tell me what it is with sexual people and looking at and/or touching butts, or having their butts touched? I mean, its just a butt, and I don't get it. I personally thing butts are gross, so what is it that everyone else gets out of butts?

Butts (and boobs for that matter) can also be pleasure centers, which is why some people love having them touched!! For many people in relationships, it can also be a way of showing affection and love for each other, touching these special zones :wub:

Boobs and the male chest ... :O /faints

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I am as ace as anyone else on here, but have aesthetic attraction as well. "The Avengers" movie was one of the best for looking at nice butts, if you are that way inclined. It's just the same as finding someone else pretty because they have nice eyes, or high cheekbones: simple aesthetic attraction. :)

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Mostly Peaceful Ryan

"The Avengers" movie was one of the best for looking at nice butts

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Is it now? :o dem cuties got nice booties?

#RewatchingAvengersTonight

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"The Avengers" movie was one of the best for looking at nice butts

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Is it now? :o dem cuties got nice booties?

#RewatchingAvengersTonight

You know what? I might have to now as well. Loki on the steps in Germany *sigh* That boy is pretty! But, yes, the butts are good too :D

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"The Avengers" movie was one of the best for looking at nice butts

.

Is it now? :o dem cuties got nice booties?

#RewatchingAvengersTonight

You know what? I might have to now as well. Loki on the steps in Germany *sigh* That boy is pretty! But, yes, the butts are good too :D

Loki if my favorite ^_^ he was the only reason I went to Thor 2 cause I don't like Thor at all :(

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