Incredible Aromantic Moments (other romantic orientations invited)

[Mx. Who]

On 8/27/2018 at 8:05 PM, CatsClubsNCake said:

"So, do you want a big wedding or a simple wedding?"

 ...

 

No wedding. 

 

On 9/1/2018 at 4:25 PM, Suigin said:

Sometimes people tell me they "know who my crush is"

Me: I have a crush? That's news to me.

[nerdperson777]

On 9/2/2018 at 10:41 AM, Laplace said:

One thing I never understood is why some adults think it’s so cute when someone of the opposite sex picks on you when you’re a young kid. It’s like, “B****, help me! 😡 This ****ing sucks!” One of my worst memories as a toddler was when I had to be watched by a family who had a demon child that was like 2+ years older than I was, and she was an absolute menace. It was no surprise to me when i heard that she ended up playing some hardcore, physical sports in high school. Granted, it was not a “bully my crush” situation, they were just sadistic, but still, stop thinking bullying is romantic people! I’m just glad I don’t have a complex today from all that.

I remember seeing a video of a young boy kept going after a young girl and the caption was "true love [heart eye emojis]".  It sparked some arguments because the girl said no, kept pushing him away, and he still got up to go after her.  Well this kind of behavior is what teaches cishet guys that it's okay.  It already started when they were toddlers.

[Anthracite_Impreza]

Just now, nerdperson777 said:

I remember seeing a video of a young boy kept going after a young girl and the caption was "true love [heart eye emojis]".  It sparked some arguments because the girl said no, kept pushing him away, and he still got up to go after her.  Well this kind of behavior is what teaches cishet guys that it's okay.  It already started when they were toddlers.

That genuinely sickens me. Yay, let's teach women they have no bodily autonomy and men that no means "I'll get it if I persevere". I kicked a guy in the bollocks when he wouldn't back off once, it's sick it had to get to that stage.

[Ms. Carolynne]

5 minutes ago, nerdperson777 said:

I remember seeing a video of a young boy kept going after a young girl and the caption was "true love [heart eye emojis]".  It sparked some arguments because the girl said no, kept pushing him away, and he still got up to go after her.  Well this kind of behavior is what teaches cishet guys that it's okay.  It already started when they were toddlers.

This reminds me of some girls I knew in junior high, who did the same thing to me. They just wouldn't leave me alone! Happened a couple times, actually.

 

Come to think about it, I was sexually harassed quite a bit during junior high 🤔 It didn't help that, as someone who is AMAB, "men like the attention" or "men don't get sexually harassed". BS.

[Mx. Who]

4 hours ago, nerdperson777 said:

I remember seeing a video of a young boy kept going after a young girl and the caption was "true love [heart eye emojis]".  It sparked some arguments because the girl said no, kept pushing him away, and he still got up to go after her.  Well this kind of behavior is what teaches cishet guys that it's okay.  It already started when they were toddlers.

The caption should be "Why 92% of rapists that rape men and 98% of rapists that rape women are men - Because they're taught it's okay"

[Destan]

In my second year of middle school, there was this classmate I talked to sometimes so everyone thought I had a crush on them, which isn't. Back then, I didn't have friends.

During class once, we had to discuss about who's gonna share rooms with who. That classmate overheard my conversation with the teacher about me not having anyone to share rooms with so this happened afterwards:

Classmate: Hey, You should have told me sooner that you didn't have anyone. I could share one with you.

Everyone else in earshot: wooooaaaaah!

me: Thanks, but that would be impossible. Even if we turn the things around, you would be a guy and I a girl. *smiles innocently*

(Yes, you read that right, that was what the 13-year-old me told them. Boys and girls can't share rooms. So my logic was that if I was a girl too then they would still be from the opposite sex so sharing rooms with them would never be possible.)

Everyone else in earshot: .... ?? *probably thinking what did [my name] just say?*

Classmate: .... *laughs* You're funny.

[nerdperson777]

3 hours ago, Steinax said:

In my second year of middle school, there was this classmate I talked to sometimes so everyone thought I had a crush on them, which isn't. Back then, I didn't have friends.

During class once, we had to discuss about who's gonna share rooms with who. That classmate overheard my conversation with the teacher about me not having anyone to share rooms with so this happened afterwards:

Classmate: Hey, You should have told me sooner that you didn't have anyone. I could share one with you.

Everyone else in earshot: wooooaaaaah!

me: Thanks, but that would be impossible. Even if we turn the things around, you would be a guy and I a girl. *smiles innocently*

(Yes, you read that right, that was what the 13-year-old me told them. Boys and girls can't share rooms. So my logic was that if I was a girl too then they would still be from the opposite sex so sharing rooms with them would never be possible.)

Everyone else in earshot: .... ?? *probably thinking what did [my name] just say?*

Classmate: .... *laughs* You're funny.

My high school music class had trips to Disneyland and there was a part where our group would perform about 15 minutes of music for spectators.  We would be there from like Friday to Sunday night, so that we only miss one day and we would be back before school Monday.  My guy friend, who I was probably my closest friend in high school, said that he would share a room with me.  I looked at him a little judgingly and said, "you know WHY they don't let us room together..?"  He then got this weird look on his face and said, "oh, I'm not interested."  Almost the same thing but I think that was age 16-17.  He came out to our group as bi although he seems more interested in guys.  And I guess I'm still a close friend because when I asked if he wanted to catch up one day, he just said in a very matter-of-fact way that he's been watching porn.  Plus he still recognized me even with my shorter hair.  I don't think anyone else has recognized me in a crowd yet.

[Suigin]

My mom asking me when I'll get a boyfriend and being open enough to ask whether a girlfriend is better for me, but forgetting that I don't want a partner.

 

#AsexualProblems

 

[nerdperson777]

20 minutes ago, Suigin said:

My mom asking me when I'll get a boyfriend and being open enough to ask whether a girlfriend is better for me, but forgetting that I don't want a partner.

 

#AsexualProblems

 

I think you're in the wrong thread.

[Suigin]

Ooops you're right ^^' i wanted to say #AromanticProblems 

[Scott1989]

So I went to Glasgow games featival and nearly walked away with this game... 

Guy at the stall asked if I'd rather have the version with Cthulhu, so I ended up with:

[cp1213]

Classmate: Do you have a crush?

Aro Friend: Yeah!

Classmate: Who is it?

Aro Friend: One time my father and I got crushed by a car!

 

[cp1213]

Classmate: Who do you like?

Me: Myself.

Classmate: ...

[ConfusedAroGirl]

My mom wanted to call the restaurant we're having dinner with christmas, to book a table.

 

Her: do we have to book 8 or 9 places?, *my name*?

Me, not daring to say anything about thinking I'm aro: *laughs* haha no please

[Mx. Who]

On 11/21/2018 at 5:55 PM, cp1213 said:

Classmate: Who do you like?

Me: Myself.

Classmate: ...

Good job, I don't even like myself

[IceKing]

Few days ago I got home late and a guy and a girl where standing at the front door of the apartment I live in.
I had to get my bicycle inside so it took me a little longer to be done with it.
It was just then I slowly realized they were apparently flirting with one another as I felt the glances of the guy on me and they were talking rather quiet, the girl chuckled the entire time. Then I heard the guy say something along the lines of "this is awkward".
Somehow the whole situation annoyed the hell out of me like "you guys JUST NEED to stand here where people come and go all the time when you want privacy".
Normally I don't mind couples or people flirting with each other but I felt like being at the wrong place at a wrong time (and I live there).
I grabbed my bike and said, with an ironic undertone, "sorry for the disturbance". The girl chuckled even more and I felt uncomfortable after it.

[AllTimeBubble]

Before I told about my ace/aroness, people would constantly try and make out like I had crushes, like I would make friends with a guy, then have friends and family immediately assume I had a crush on him. That's why for years I didn't befriend any guys because I didn't want to go through the hassle of "No I don't have a crush on them, nope nope never" 

 

Luckily now I have a few male friends and they're great to talk to, and no one that knows my aromantic and asexualness tries to say that I have crushes on them. 

[Necromancer626]

Around six months ago my friend and I were hanging out in the school library with some of his friends. I was working on homework and pretending not to listen to them saying my friend has a crush on me. This went on about him confessing to me for at least fifteen minutes where they probably forgot I was there and could still hear them. My friend and I have been friends for years, and I didn't really want to start an argument or something, but then one of his friends asked me if I liked him and I just answer, "Sure," because I don't know what else to say. I wasn't really convincing, though.

[Guest]

Even very small acts of romance bother me! To the point I find public displays of affection unpleasant. In fact, my parents kissed themselves on the mouth in a theatre a few years ago and my reaction was 'are you sure this is allowed in a public place? I would never do it!' 😂 

[Guest]

A while ago I was hanging sometimes with a group of acquaintances, and got along with one guy in particular. We had fun conversations, some shared interests, so yeah fun times. One day he asked if I would come by his place sometimes, hang out, maybe have dinner. He lived an hour away from me, so it made sense that if I'd come all the way to his house, I would stay for dinner as well. We agreed on a day about a month in the future. Fast forward two weeks later and suddenly I had a bit of an epiphany: maybe he meant this as a date? It never crossed my mind earlier. So I texted him and said something along the lines of how this wasn't a date for me but just a gathering of two friends and how I was just checking he meant the same. Apparently he did mean it as a date, because he said he was sorry I didn't feel the same way, and he cancelled.

 

I still don't know if I should've seen his intentions or if he was a bit of a jerk for cancelling. Even if I wasn't interested like that, we still could've hung out right? Sigh... sometimes I just don't get it.

[nerdperson777]

On 7/14/2019 at 8:28 AM, Aldis Friedman said:

Even very small acts of romance bother me! To the point I find public displays of affection unpleasant. In fact, my parents kissed themselves on the mouth in a theatre a few years ago and my reaction was 'are you sure this is allowed in a public place? I would never do it!' 😂 

Meanwhile, my mom be like, I don't want anyone thinking that your dad and I have any romance in our relationship.  Even the slightest touch will send her running, well walking quickly, she doesn't run.

[ColeHW34]

Back when I was either aro or extremely shy after the seizures and junk, a girl tried to ask me out to a school dance.

I rejected her so coldly by saying "No. I can't be around flashing lights or loud music" and slammed my locker shut.

[maybeimamazed]

I have a few:

 

- Once I was combing through a magazine and I came across a picture of an extremely stylish girl. She wore the coolest glasses, a leather jacket, an Artic Monkeys shirt and a colorful headband. She just looked awesome. I could immediately hear queer women and straight men being like “this is an extremely sexy girl, I think I’m in love”. But my thoughts were: “Oh wow. This is the coolest chick. I wish she were my best friend”.

 

- I was reading a book called "How To Be a Normal Person", in which one of the characters is openly asexual. That was the reason I started reading the book. I mistakenly assumed he was also aro. I was so disappointed when he started dating the protagonist that I even tweeted the author about it lol. But I ended up loving the book regardless.

 

- If someone is sexual and/or romantic, it's beyond my comprehension how they can be attracted to one gender exclusively. If you're ace - meaning the sexual attraction isn't there - why the hell would you not date someone regardless of their gender? If you don't want sex with the person, what can a man offer you that a woman can't and vice-versa? And if you're allosexual... are you seriously telling me that if a gorgeous woman or man hit on you you'd say no? How come? The fact that I have these thoughts means I have no effin' clue how sexual or romantic attraction even works. Since I’m not romantically or sexually attracted to anyone, if I ever date it’s gonna be a rational choice rather than an emotional one I have no way to control. My heart isn’t pulling me towards any gender, so I can theoretically “make an effort” to date literally anyone I choose. Hopefully this makes sense. It does in my head.

[nerdperson777]

On 7/17/2019 at 6:19 AM, brehasolo said:

- If someone is sexual and/or romantic, it's beyond my comprehension how they can be attracted to one gender exclusively. If you're ace - meaning the sexual attraction isn't there - why the hell would you not date someone regardless of their gender? If you don't want sex with the person, what can a man offer you that a woman can't and vice-versa? And if you're allosexual... are you seriously telling me that if a gorgeous woman or man hit on you you'd say no? How come? The fact that I have these thoughts means I have no effin' clue how sexual or romantic attraction even works. Since I’m not romantically or sexually attracted to anyone, if I ever date it’s gonna be a rational choice rather than an emotional one I have no way to control. My heart isn’t pulling me towards any gender, so I can theoretically “make an effort” to date literally anyone I choose. Hopefully this makes sense. It does in my head.

In high school, a friend asked me if I was gay, because I said that I never had a crush on anyone.  I said, "no, I treat everyone the same."  So in that case, "the same"  is none, rather than something.  I get what you mean in that gender won't matter anymore, but people still have gender preferences regardless of the attraction being sexual or not?  Like, I prefer hanging out with girls more than guys.  I'm not sexually or romantically attracted to them but I like them more platonically.  I can still be friends with guys, just not as much.  But in terms of no preference, it really is, whatever gender.

[AroAceLakshi]

This was one of my  most weird and funny aroace moment in facebook. One guy was sexting me and I was so clueless about it,I  taught when he said "I will love you all night" I  taught he was insane  to think about a face book friend all the time .I did not even know what was his intention before he explicitly told me what he was doing , to this day we haven't spoken to each other

[SirGrey]

Me foolishly thinking I'm not that much repulsed by romance and watching the avengers 1. Kiss scene between Stark and Potts. Skipping to a few minutes ahead bfore even realizing I did it.

[cp1213]

I am naturally introverted, so I tend to not make a lot of eye contact and avoid people. Unfortunately, this has lead a lot of guys to think that I like them too so I feel bad that I have to reject them. 

[squishward]

15 hours ago, cp1213 said:

I am naturally introverted, so I tend to not make a lot of eye contact and avoid people. Unfortunately, this has lead a lot of guys to think that I like them too so I feel bad that I have to reject them. 

 

Society is weird... it seems that either way, avoiding people and not making eye contact, or making too much eye contact and being outgoing, is seen as being romantically interested! I give up *shrug* 

[nerdperson777]

On 9/28/2019 at 11:23 AM, squishward said:

 

Society is weird... it seems that either way, avoiding people and not making eye contact, or making too much eye contact and being outgoing, is seen as being romantically interested! I give up *shrug*

I think it gets misinterpreted.  Maybe it's that one appears to be wanting to sneak a few looks at someone attractive, when it's more of an accidental look with no intentions.

[AceAnimeFan]

When I was a kid and someone would ask me who I liked I would just pick a random person in my class and say they were my crush (usually someone who had been nice to me at some point) just to seem normal.

When I was in high school a guy I thought was a friend asked for my number; I didn't realize he liked me until about a week after he asked me to see a movie with him (which I agreed to because I thought we were friends). He didn't speak to me again after I cleared up the confusion.

In college this happened again but took me longer to realize he liked me. Around this time I was discovering asexuality and realized the label fit; I thought I could communicate to him that I didn't want to date him without loosing him as a friend if I told him this. He made a joke about it that I found offensive and I haven't spoken to him since. 

(I guess the second and third ones could double as asexual moments.)

Romantic subplots in movies, books, TV confuse me. I don't think any amount of research can help me understand romance. 

I have always been confused as to why anyone would want to pair off, it just seems so restrictive and stifling, like you can never be free to live life how you want to again. 

I find it disturbing that the ideal end to a romantic pairing is that one of them dies.