melodylee Posted August 29, 2002 Share Posted August 29, 2002 I was told this repeatedly told this by someone I know online who has tried time and time again to get me to be a sexual person. I told him not to bother, and he argues anyway. I'm sure many of us have had the same problem when you tell someone, like a friend, who you think will be understanding and accepting of it.. and instead it turns into a debate. Well anyway, as the first time "sex" was brought up and I said I'm not attracted to that or wish to engage in any acitivty of that sort.. he asked if "I've masturbated before".. I said No, and he told me to "try".. and I didn't. I was close to but I asked myself.. "why should I, I don't really feel compelled to or a reason to". So I didn't. I then told him that I didn't and don;t feel a need, I ALSO gave him a link to this site. . his response to it was "I find it amusing that people like you who haven't had sex yet, find it necessary to idenitfy as this even though you haven't had sex". This I thought, was so UNFAIR! I thought people who had sex their first time were either curious, or had the desire and attraction to do so.. I said there has been people who have had sex, and they just didn't "feel" good during it. He's understanding with that, but as for me.. I'm supposed to try? Why should I try if I don't want to? Of course I'm not going to listen to this asshole, but I asked him "Have you had sex with a man before?" his answer: no, that doesn't turn me on, and it never will. .. My point exactly. The reason he does not have sex with men is the reason why most of us don't have sex.. "because it doesn't "turn us on/attract us/interest us" so trying isn't going to make some miraculous life-changing difference. Why should I try if he doesn't try with men. Of course that ended the argument, but also came up with "Sex is apart of life" crap. That I can semi-agree with. I don't think "sex" is part of life, but reproduction, and even sexuality. Asexual is a sexuality itself, and none of us should be forced or convinced that since sex is apart of life, we all have to follow. .. this is just my rant, I was wondering if anyone else agrees or can relate/tell any other stories themselves. :) Link to post Share on other sites
Plasmatica Posted October 18, 2002 Share Posted October 18, 2002 OMGOSH!! I HEAR THAT ALL THE TIME!!! I'm sure they don't try to make gay ppl straight, so why not accept us for who we are and not try to change us? Sheesh! Link to post Share on other sites
autumnsnow Posted October 28, 2002 Share Posted October 28, 2002 You're absolutely right to say that you don't need to have sex to know you don't like it. However, as a non-asexual myself, I have to say that I can understand why this guy might have misconceptions about asexuals. We're all trained in society to think that sex is THE driving force for human beings, and the idea that someone has no interest is very hard to accept after that kind of training. Especially for a man, who probably has a high sex drive even compared to most non-asexual women. I have to admit that the first time I became friends with an asexual, for a long time I thought he was really sexual, but was too shy to feel comfortable expressing his sexuality. It is only within the last year or so that it finally started to sink in that he doesn't view the world in the same hormone-crazed way that I do. :) Link to post Share on other sites
ehartsay Posted November 9, 2002 Share Posted November 9, 2002 This is so stupid. Of course you don't have to try something to know you don't like it. I f you don't want sex you won't like doing it. Even if (IF a BIG if) you might find out you enjoy it, that wouldn't mean anything. You don't need to try it to know that you have no innate urge for it, and if you have no innate urge for it, why do it? 1) You don't have the desire for it 2) You don't intellectually WANT to do it The assumption seems to be that IF you tried it and IF it wasn't a bad experience (i.e.. it felt kind of good) that you would then be addicted to sex and have the urge to do it.... that is so stupid Even if something feels good it doesn't mean you want to do it. I mean if I tried beastiality I might like it and that doesn't mean I would want to do it SEx is a part of life? Only if you start having sex and make yourself keep having sex Link to post Share on other sites
Luisa Posted December 4, 2002 Share Posted December 4, 2002 This fellow may say that "sex is a part of life," but what it sounds like he means, at least as is applicable to ~his~ life, is "life is a part of sex." I've never tried ramming splinters under my fingernails before. I understand that some people, called masochists, find pain pleasurable. Maybe I should try it out, just to ~make sure~ I don't like it... Link to post Share on other sites
VivreEstEsperer Posted December 25, 2002 Share Posted December 25, 2002 Actually, people try to make gay people straight all the time. They use shock therapies and really ridiculous, awful things. Parents send their kids to therapy to turn them straight etc etc etc. Kate Link to post Share on other sites
aury Posted December 25, 2002 Share Posted December 25, 2002 people are so friggin ignorant. usually, they're so bored fuckin bored w/ their own lives, they feel compeled to screw around w/ other peoples'. in my opinion, alleged "normal" assholes like those need to be on the receiving end of such harassment (& it IS harassement), just to see how it feels. bloody stupid bastards......... sorry. issues like this one seriously piss me off. especially when i can identify w/ them. Link to post Share on other sites
Orpheus Posted December 26, 2002 Share Posted December 26, 2002 I sure would love to stick it back to em. But that is not the way. Too bad, I'm in a bad enough mood today to do some real damage. Ah well, it'll have to wait till my first time in combate. Link to post Share on other sites
AgentNyder Posted July 17, 2003 Share Posted July 17, 2003 I know it's hard, but try not to let them make you angry. If their comments seem to mean nothing to you and you are perfectly happy with yourself and don't react than they will probably not bother you so much. That's what I think anyway - I've had to deal with a lot of ignorant people in my life. :cry: Link to post Share on other sites
Moose-Alini Posted July 17, 2003 Share Posted July 17, 2003 "Sex is apart part of life" So is dying, but I don't want to do that either. And being sick/hurt. And occasionally eating something really nasty. All things I'd like to avoid. Link to post Share on other sites
Luisa Posted July 17, 2003 Share Posted July 17, 2003 You said it, M-A! :D Link to post Share on other sites
Gorax Posted July 17, 2003 Share Posted July 17, 2003 I've had to deal with a lot of ignorant people in my life. . . . Workplace related? Online? Hehe I love hearing ignorant people stories! Link to post Share on other sites
Luisa Posted July 17, 2003 Share Posted July 17, 2003 You want ignorant people stories? Just walk outside - they're everywhere! :D Link to post Share on other sites
Gorax Posted July 17, 2003 Share Posted July 17, 2003 Those ignorants can't compare with the ones that can be found on Battle.net though :D Link to post Share on other sites
Zorui Posted August 16, 2003 Share Posted August 16, 2003 sex is a part of life No. Just.... no. And I have seen some extremely stupid people on battle.net. Heh. 3v3, one of my teammates attacks the other Me: What the hell are you doing? Him: i wanna win lol fucker Me: Attacking your team isn't going to accomplish that. Him: its an ffa Me:...... Him: purple likes it up the ass Me: Actually, i'm asexual. Him: hey purple, suck my dick Me: You are an idiot. Him: least im not gay Me: That's just it. *me and the other team member proceed to kill him and win* Link to post Share on other sites
ogbg Posted August 16, 2003 Share Posted August 16, 2003 I don't like online games :cry: In Age of Empires, I just like to build cute little villages and watch the little peasants run around gathering food... then everybody comes and burns up my stuff with War Elephants and Catapaults... :cry: *sniff* (hates fighting and violence) *sniff* Link to post Share on other sites
Luisa Posted August 16, 2003 Share Posted August 16, 2003 Me: That's just it. *me and the other team member proceed to kill him and win* ....heh heh heh! :D Link to post Share on other sites
Gorax Posted August 16, 2003 Share Posted August 16, 2003 *LMAO* @ ILikePie That conversation captured the real essence of B.net :D Link to post Share on other sites
JimDandy Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 .. this is just my rant, I was wondering if anyone else agrees or can relate/tell any other stories themselves. :) I've got a million of 'em, melodylee. :) But seriously, this guy doesn't and probably never will understand your feelings about sexuality. Heck, most people are so wrapped up in their own sexuality it's hard for them to focus just on the day-to-day details of life in general. And that goes for all sexuals, not just the straight ones. Link to post Share on other sites
Zorui Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 Yes. Sexuals are annoying. My mom's friends kid: duu what would you do if a girl gave you a dirty sanchez Me: What the hell? Him: its when your lickin her butt and Me: Excuse me a moment. *covers mouth with hand and runs to the bathroom* 48 seconds latar.. Me: Back. Him: and she craps Me: I wouldn't be "licking her butt". That's sickening. Him: wut if yu wer Me: I refuse to answer a question about something that will never happen. Him: cmon Me: Okay, fine. I would kill her for asking me to lick her ass in the first place. Him: ill aks again when u lik gurls Me: Okay, then you'll never ask again. *he gets out some stupid body building magazine and begins obsessing over the size of some guy's penis as seen through a speedo* Me: *thinking* I hate you. The same guy pulled a knife on me later, and claimed he was "just kidding". So I made a vow never to talk to him again. Link to post Share on other sites
Gorax Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 Does punching him in the face count as talking? Link to post Share on other sites
Luisa Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 ILikePie: What a jerk! But I spot a little error in your reasoning. He said he'd ask you again when you "like girls," and you said, "That will be never." I don't gather from the surrounding conversation that that is necessarily true. ~I,~ myself, am a girl, and I'm sure you "like" me just fine. I haven't picked up one hostile vibe from you. As a matter of fact, you seem to be nice to the girls and the guys both...at least around here. Perhaps the point you were trying to make is that you would "never" like a girl who asked you to lick her butt. :D And I must say that I agree with that part. Girl or guy, I am for SURE not into butt-licking. (And all this time, I thought that "kissing someone's ass" was a figure of speech. ;) ) I think that, once the conversation got around to licking each other's butts, it would probably be time for me and that person to part company forever. Perhaps you could have gotten in the one liner, "It's when you're ~kicking~ a girl's butt?!?!?" :D P.S. Thanks for explaining what a "dirty sanchez" was. I heard the term on a TV show awhile back, and was, of course, clueless. Hmmm....maybe ignorance really is bliss...are there really people going around doing this to each other? Link to post Share on other sites
JimDandy Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 Hmmm....maybe ignorance really is bliss...are there really people going around doing this to each other? There are indeed. But the really weird thing is, some of them characterize themselves as asexuals! :roll: Go figure. Link to post Share on other sites
Zorui Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 Does punching him in the face count as talking? Hmm.... No! Luisa: Got a point there. You could tell if you had been there that he obviously was trying to disguise "do you want to go around fucking random people" Link to post Share on other sites
cronos Posted August 18, 2003 Share Posted August 18, 2003 Does punching him in the face count as talking? I believe that falls under the category of "non-verbal communication". Link to post Share on other sites
Zorui Posted August 18, 2003 Share Posted August 18, 2003 Yes, me too. However, I don't think that's nearly enough. *I grab him, teleport to Pluto, and administer... The Treatment... *the aliens on Mercury hear a faint scream*[/i][/b] Link to post Share on other sites
Luisa Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 ILikePie: I'm surprised to read that your location is "my head." I thought you lived somewhere inside of my computer... Live and learn, I guess. ;) Link to post Share on other sites
Gorax Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 Yes, me too. However, I don't think that's nearly enough. *I grab him, teleport to Pluto, and administer... The Treatment... *the aliens on Mercury hear a faint scream* *LMAO* Link to post Share on other sites
Luisa Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 You realize, of course, that that sounds ever so slightly like "Marvin The Martian" from Warner Bros. "I'm afraid I shall have to disintigrate you." Hee hee hee! ;) Link to post Share on other sites
Gorax Posted August 21, 2003 Share Posted August 21, 2003 Where was that guy's mouth anyway? Link to post Share on other sites
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