craptabulous Posted October 8, 2008 Share Posted October 8, 2008 I've never been in love. And as far as I know, nobody has ever been in love with me. I feel like I'm missing out. I feel less than human. Link to post Share on other sites
Teagan KGB Posted October 8, 2008 Share Posted October 8, 2008 Being human is for noobs. Being a vampire, or a robot or something like that, now that's spiffy awesome. BTW, you're actually a robot that runs on cake. You just don't know yet. Here. /joking Sorry you feel that way. I've always figured that people just fall in love or get crushes or whatever. You can't really make it happen... Maybe the problem is that you're trying? Try to focus on making friends, and maybe you'll feel something different than friendship for one of those people. What that something is you'll have to decide... Link to post Share on other sites
Tethys Posted October 8, 2008 Share Posted October 8, 2008 In my experience, it isn't something you can really control. It just sort of happens. And if you're in love, you know. It's only happened to me very rarely so far, and before that I had started entertaining the idea that I wasn't capable of falling in love (because sometimes it seems like it happens so often to other people). Just remember, not having been in love does NOT make you less than human. And just because you have never experienced it doesn't mean you never will. Link to post Share on other sites
ily Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 You can always fall in love with something non-human. I consider music to be the love of my life. My relationship with it has been more meaningful than with many people. If others don't get it, so what? And never forget, "you are what you love, not what loves you" Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 I didn't fall in love until I was 32. Unfortunately it wasn't with my then-husband. It can happen to you at any time, any age. Don't give up. But if you don't, think of the agony you'll miss out on because it's not all great. Link to post Share on other sites
theimpossiblek Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 You can always fall in love with something non-human. I consider music to be the love of my life. My relationship with it has been more meaningful than with many people. If others don't get it, so what?And never forget, "you are what you love, not what loves you" Ooh, that is excellent advice. I totally agree. Just because you haven't experienced "falling in love" the way you may envision it doesn't mean it will never happen. As long as you have at least one more day ahead of you, that's one more day it could happen... (ooh, I'm just oozing with optimism)... and in some ways, maybe you're better off not knowing. Falling in love isn't like a fairytale. At least, not from my experience. It carries a lot of danger and drama too. Any relationship will- which is why, in some ways, it is better to fall in love "with something non-human" - like music. ^_^ Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 Look up the state called "limerence." It describes all the scariness of falling in love. You'll be happy to love music, or art, or dogs or cats or birds or... Link to post Share on other sites
Blueflare Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 By tripping over your expectations and falling into a bottomless pit of despair and sunshine. Link to post Share on other sites
Questioned Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 To love and be love can be the best feeling in the world, it can also be the most painful experience to go through. Love is not what it is always wat its hyped up to be. Don't always believe what you see in the movies. I think sometimes it's better not to have loved at all, then to have your heart broken... Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 Simple: I don't. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest disjointed Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 get a romance book....go to the last page, they fall in love..easy in the real world though it tends to be some one we have known for some time, in person is better than the internet Link to post Share on other sites
ProdeFemme Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 Unwittingly and only when I'm not paying attention <_< I sleep with one eye open now... Link to post Share on other sites
happylife Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 To love and be love can be the best feeling in the world, it can also be the most painful experience to go through. Love is not what it is always wat its hyped up to be. Don't always believe what you see in the movies. I think sometimes it's better not to have loved at all, then to have your heart broken... sounds like a bitter irony.. my life just goes on quietly with no huge ups and downs but i see people i know going through emotional turmoils. that sucks. terrible..:( and then i become happy again when they meet someone new and are happy with them. until then.. love is a tricky thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest disjointed Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 I know I will never catch an sexual disease, I know when I find my Asexual partner I would never have sex with another behind her back or in front of it I know I do not have to strut around the town centre after a club drunk as a skunk and parading my bits just to get a shag I know I will never get arrested for a lewd act in public (take note george michael) I know I will never make a decision based on whats going on in my underpants What was the downside of Asexuality again ? Link to post Share on other sites
starcat Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 What was the downside of Asexuality again ? ...falling in love with a sexual lol Link to post Share on other sites
Guest disjointed Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 There's always one smartarse lol Link to post Share on other sites
purissimus Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 To love and be love can be the best feeling in the world, it can also be the most painful experience to go through. Love is not what it is always wat its hyped up to be. Don't always believe what you see in the movies. I think sometimes it's better not to have loved at all, then to have your heart broken... I agree! Link to post Share on other sites
The Crazy Cat Lady Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 In love? Well.. I felt that several times and it hurts, because whenever I fell in love no one ever loved me back :( No one ever have feelings for me anyways.. but that's okay. I have my cat I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
tisha313 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 What do you all mean by love being 'dangerous'? I have never been in love either. I am 24...I've been waiting since I was 16, and everyone always told me it would happen but it hasn't. I never imagined I'd make it this far but I am very naive when it comes to sex and relationships my chronoligical age is 24 but emotionally and mentaly i am around 16-18. lol People are always pick up on how little i know about life for my age. i used to think that when you fall in love, autotmically the personal loves you back. I have a feeling that when I FINALLY do fall in love the feeling will not be reciprocated at all Link to post Share on other sites
you*hear*but*do*you*listen Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Chronologically, I'm 18, but romatically/sexually...yeah, I'm something like twelve, or maybe eleven. I would be very naive about sex if I didn't read fanfiction...I've pretty much given up on ever falling in love. I've met two or three people who I'm sure would have been my soul mates were I possessing romantic inclinations. Or maybe I'm still too young. We'll see. Link to post Share on other sites
Tio Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 ^^ I learnt most of what I know about sex and most of it's variations from fanfic too, otherwise I too wouldn't know much about it. I have a decent theoretical knowledge of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Amcan Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I've never been in love. And as far as I know, nobody has ever been in love with me. I feel like I'm missing out. I feel less than human. I've never been i love either. I don;t know if I am capable. I;m aromantic. Link to post Share on other sites
GarboFour Posted October 11, 2008 Share Posted October 11, 2008 To love or not to love, it is a question... I had always known that I had very strong affections towards human, the only thing is - that's not like falling in love. I once confused. Later on I read some books about vampires (mostly Anne Rice) and I found that my feeling towards human are very similar to what vampires in those books feel towards human (only that I just simply adore them but not drink them). Link to post Share on other sites
Riven Posted October 11, 2008 Share Posted October 11, 2008 I think sometimes it's better not to have loved at all, then to have your heart broken... Aint that the sad and sorry truth, having just experienced heart break first hand not so long ago. I did enjoy it while it lasted though, and if I had to live my life again, I probably wouldn't say no to the relationship and simply enjoy it knowing the pain I'd have at the end of it. Sometimes, love is worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
Elven valkyrie Posted October 11, 2008 Share Posted October 11, 2008 How do you fall in love (with a person)... slowly. You may not realise you are in love until you already are. I've never really been IN love with another real person, though I thought I was once, perhaps I actually was but it faded, I don't know. What I do know is that he just did my head in in the end and all I wanted to do was avoid being in the same room. But I've certainly loved others outside my family. The (real) person I love most is my best friend. But I wouldn't want to be more than friends as it is a risk of destroying the friendship. And losing a friend, especially one as close as I am to her, is probably my greatest worldly fear. Link to post Share on other sites
Næt. Posted October 11, 2008 Share Posted October 11, 2008 Have you tried getting a dog? Link to post Share on other sites
Elven valkyrie Posted October 11, 2008 Share Posted October 11, 2008 Have you tried getting a dog? Ha! I'd like to have a dog, but my dad hates them and I still live with my parents. Rough collies are soo beautiful. How can one not love 'em? If I had one like that, it would be love. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 12, 2008 Share Posted October 12, 2008 Have you tried getting a dog? Ha! I'd like to have a dog, but my dad hates them and I still live with my parents. Rough collies are soo beautiful. How can one not love 'em? If I had one like that, it would be love. I totally agreeeeeeeeeeeee. :D That's my favourite breed. My second favourite is the Sheltie. Link to post Share on other sites
Skylark Posted October 12, 2008 Share Posted October 12, 2008 In my experience, it isn't something you can really control. It just sort of happens. And if you're in love, you know. This is completely true. It's uncontrollable. You can see hundreds of technically perfect-seeming guys (or girls) and not feel a thing for them, and then one just comes along who, for absolutely no reason whatsoever and despite all their flaws, just makes you head over heels for him. Don't be in such a hurry to fall in love. If it's unrequited, it's the most horrible feeling in the world, and it takes a very long time to completely get over it. It's a double-edged sword. Link to post Share on other sites
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