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  2. Rosendust

    ...is this thing on?

  3. Since she's a therapist, you should be able to show her the DSM-V that includes asexuality and tell her it is not a topic you want to try to "fix" since it doesn't cause you distress to be ace.
  4. It would be great if you can publish your book.
  5. Just a Quail

    pictures in rainbow order

    @bobbypin you're welcome :3
  6. LibraGirl


    When certain people trigger your anxiety again... sighhhh 😣


  7. Thank you all for your replies (and thank you for the cake, Michael!). This is what's holding me back from flat-out walking away from her practice. This isn't the first time I've struggled to discuss a difficult issue with her, and I think those conversations turned out for the better. But this is the first time she's pushed me to address a problem that I don't think exists. She's definitely Freudian, then. The entire basis for my therapy is that she thinks my physical symptoms are being caused by subconscious conflicts (incidentally: physical symptoms haven't improved 😒). And that last bit sounds exactly like our dynamic right now. If I showed her that FAQ that MichaelTannock linked above she'd probably take it as me digging in my heels and further hiding behind the "label". I think my plan for the next appointment is to give her an ultimatum to drop my sexual orientation or I move on. Maybe I'll move on anyway down the road, but for now this is the one topic I can't humor her on. Thank you all for your input!
  8. blunose2772

    Coffee and a Lack of Empathy (game)

    *Gives your toe a Viking helmet and a large hammer* O wait... I thought you said Thor The DVD I ordered last month hasn't been delivered yet.
  9. In fact, this looks a lot like what I live ... I'll search more about that term! I'm interested!
  10. daveb

    Favorite Types of Books

    What about novels that don't have chapters? The Discworld books don't have chapters (at least none of the regular ones I have read (not counting some of the sort of supplemental ones like the Science of Discworld books)). this
  11. Seu português é incrível! Parabéns! O idioma é difícil mas você se saiu super bem! Obrigada por me responder!!!
  12. rampancy

    ...is this thing on?

    Just wanted to say hello to everyone here. I've been on and off the forums for the last year ever since I discovered Asexuality and the Asexuality Spectrum. I've been in the past more active on Asexuality groups and forums on Facebook, but I thought I'd finally come around to making an account and becoming active here on the AVEN forums. I also just wanted to thank everyone here for the amazing community and work you all do, to help Asexuals of all stripes find a place where they belong.
  13. N8LV3y

    The 2K2_ Shoe Thread

    Oh yes I needed this thread!! I’m almost strictly a Vans person but I also like Adidas. these are all the shoes I own.
  14. RoseGoesToYale


    This cake, though...


    1. argar




      I want a desert cake now!

    2. bobbypin


      That's so pretty!

    3. Just a Quail

      Just a Quail

      Dang, that cake is gorgeous!!

  15. bobbypin

    pictures in rainbow order

    @Just a Quail Thank you. ( ˙꒳˙ )
  16. KYON.

    What video games are you playing?

    I'm trying to clear some of my (disc) PS3 games. The cupboard I keep my games in is getting kinda full, so I want to make some space in there and also get some trophies. So I'm playing Lego Pirates of the Caribbean - it's a very fun game. POTC is awesome and I think this is one of the best Lego games - it's not as bloated with challenges and stuff as some of the more recent releases and everything just works really well.
  17. will123

    anyone past 50 on here?

    Crap! That sounds like how I felt after hearing an older fellow I knew passed away. The snowmobile trail to a friend's family's farm went thru his property. I got busy for a couple of years and never had time to stop and visit even if I was driving by or else it appeared they had company. He'd bump into my parents in the village and ask about me (I was living in the city still). Imagine how I felt when I get up to the folks on a Friday night and they tell me that Roy had passed away. Never had a chance to visit.
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  19. daveb

    anyone past 50 on here?

    We haven't had as much rain as we should either. A big portion of the western USA is in mega-drought/super-drought, apparently worsened by climate change. Some years will certainly be better than others, but we could also be seeing the new "normal", climate change for real. Looks like a few hot days here, then hopefully a bit of rain on the weekend.
  20. Stéphane

    Yum or Yuck!

    not sure, never had them. But since I like every other kind of beans, probably yum. molasses?
  21. Jade Cross

    Afterlife Importance

    Make this comparison. When a baby is born, it's usually cause for celebration right? You get the choosing of the name, preparing the room, friends and family congratulating you and all around it's seen and promoted as a positive event. You have entire store isles full of baby necessities for sale. Now when someone dies, it's usually all the opposite. People cry, they despair, friends and family might come along to try and offer support. They dress in black, they quote scriptures (at least in the more predominantly religious groups), and generally refer to the incident as the fight the person lost to. You also don't have caskets or cremating furnaces for sale at your local stores. Hasn't it ever occurred to anyone for even just a moment why these things are regarded as such? How come a baby being born isn't generally popularized as a terrible event to happen? Why does noone freak out collectively that another human that needs resources, looking after, education, etc, will be born into this already chaotic, dysfunctional and dying world? In the same sense, how come when someone dies, noone throws a party? Why don't people come to the funeral in colorful clothing and drink and dance and laugh and celebrate that another soul is no longer bound to suffer living in this world?
  22. There is a difference in discussing it and trying to treat it though. Therapists are meant to guide you. Meaning, help you explore yourself. Telling you that your orientation is based on something and refusing to listen is not guiding you to figuring yourself out. And won't foster the trust needed in a therapist/ patient relationship
  23. Karst

    Trans Musings & Rantings

    One of the players in my last campaign (warforged cleric) accidentally misgendered one of the other people at the table (dwarf fighter) a few times, in character. (He was pretty embarrassed about it.) I casually mentioned that a) it's hard to tell genders with dwarves, since they all have beards, and b) warforged aren't good at reading gender cues. That seemed to smooth it over a bit with everyone involved.
  24. JustJay04

    Friend Help

    @Laurann That is actually helpful, honestly. Helps me know that I’m not actually insane for thinking it’s a problem. This is the first time I’ve confronted her about any of her bs, not just trans stuff, so we’re going to hope it goes well. Cross your fingers, I guess, that she doesn’t take this completely wrong. @anisotrophic This conversation could go either way. She has pulled some bs before, and this is honestly just kinda more straw on the horse’s (camel’s?) back. I have attempted the avoidance method, and it’s not working. So, y’know, what do I have to lose, right? May as well confront her for being a butt and pretending her advice is useful and necessary, rather than continue not saying anything and getting hurt. Either way, it’ll work out.
  25. .... you know there are threads that specifically talk about this stuff, right? And that you can start your own if you're really curious? You just seem really fixated on this point and I don't know if discussing it in this thread is really useful.
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