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  2. thylacine

    Job Hunting as a Grown Up

    Thank you Dave & Ryn... it seems like a nice office, but the commute, oh my God... I gotta freakin' get outta bed at freakin' 5:30 a. freakin' m.
  3. Grimalkin

    Was this sexual?

    Without knowing him I can't really get a general sense of his character, but going by the "excited" comment only it sounds like it wasn't overly inappropriate. Perhaps not professional, but it sounds like he was just joking that his buddy found you attractive. Slightly more harmless than using "excited" to suggest arousal. Again, I wasn't there, you would know better. However, now that you are working under him, do shut down any further behavior that makes you uncomfortable. If he's in a position of power he should not be allowed to abuse it, including making unprofessional comments. The next time something like that happens, tell him it makes you uncomfortable, and if he persists, report him.
  4. ryn2

    anyone past 50 on here?

    Hah, not quite that way. My parents not only gifted me weak enamel and lousy jaw structure but were also hugely dentist-phobic (so I didn’t get dental care until I could there on my own). They also passed along and regularly exhibited their mental health issues (severe anxiety, body dysmorphia, etc.), which contributed to my teenaged/young adult eating disorder, and being underweight at growth spurt time meant my teeth decalcified and got lots of cavities. So, triple whammy. Since very late high school I have taken the best care of my teeth humanly possible and had no new cavities but the damage was long since done. More than anyone wanted to know, I’m sure. 😂
  5. So me (F22, Sexual) and my girlfriend (F25, asexual) have been dating for almost 6 months. She has been open with her asexuality from the beginning and I have no issue with it. We are both virgins (although I do have a bit of sexual experience while she has none), and recently I've been wanting more. We are both VERY open with each other and communicate all the time about intimacy and where we stand/what we want, so that's not an issue. As an example, we have talked about my sexual fantasys and even joke around by saying things like "If you're bored we can park the car and act like cliche teenagers by having sex in the backseat" or "Man this birth control will really help with all our hetero sex" Despite dating for half a year, we haven't done more than simple kisses and cuddling. I am a VERY affectionate person (she is well aware of this), and I've been wanting more recently. I'm often tell her that while I'm ready for sex, I have no issue with waiting because her comfort comes before my desires. Whenever I bring up my desires and what I would like though, she tends to feel guilty about being asexual because she can't give me everything I desire and I NEVER want her to feel like that. However, I do want to start acting like a 'cliche teenager' and do things like make out with her and start touching her more than I do. However, I don't want to make her feel bad or guilty about not meeting my needs or uncomfortable about doing more intimate acts. Do any of you have advice for me?
  6. My ex tended that way and it got less and less cute over time.
  7. Hi, so I recently have been trying to figure out my sexuality and romantic interests and things like that. I know I am definitely asexual and I’m definitely demiromantic which means I only experience romantic attraction to someone after I have become emotionally close to them. Because of this, I have a confusing time trying to figure out who I am attracted to since most people define these sexualities by sexual attraction, which I don’t experience. I have concluded that I definitely like boys. I’m not entirely sure if I like girls also. I do think of this one girl in a different way than I think of other girls that are just my friends ( and if the amount of girls and boys I’ve liked sounds small, I’ve literally had one crush in my life. It takes a lot for me to like someone that way) But differently than I think of this one boy that I like. I don’t know if it is just a platonic crush or whatever. It is possible that all my “crushes” have been like that. I do find girls more attractive than boys. I notice them more. Im not sure if that is because I’m comparing them to me or if I actually like them romantically. - thanks for your time
  8. This is too say that I posted in error and don't know how to erase my post. I'm a noob.
  9. Wanted to add this server to the list, Ace Symposium focused on civil discussion and debate. All sexualities welcome! https://discord.gg/xDrcWuw
  10. Oh, there could be. What if you don’t get to pick who it’s with?
  11. Vividstar

    Asexuality Discord chat server.

    A new Ace/Ally server focused on civil discussion and debate. Lots of interesting conversations so far! https://discord.gg/xDrcWuw
  12. So as I said I came back to AVEN after years in the Army. I'd like to get back in touch with the community. What stuff is there to do to contribute? I feel like there was stuff to be involved but I dont really remember.
  13. PrismaticDream

    Red, Green, Blue, RAINBOW GOATS!

    2 red
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  15. FunkyAce

    Was this sexual?

    Something happened that might've been sexual but I don't know if I'm over reacting/misinterpreting things. I am a graduate student and was meeting with 2 male students last year to learn about their lab's research. One of them was very fixated on me, being overly nice and was agreeing with everything I was saying. Maybe it was his body language or tone as well, but I felt like he was very attracted to me. After our discussion they walked me out but the guy who I felt was oggling at me was so fixated on me that he forgot his laptop in the lab. I pointed it out and he went to go get it. His friend laughed and said he got too excited. I've been in the group now for almost 2 semesters and my fear came true. The one guy tried to date me and wouldn't leave me alone, so I reported him. It's great that I don't have to deal with him anymore but the guy who joked that he got excited is who I will continue working under for the next 2 years. Do you think he meant "excited" in a sexual way? I'd like to know if the comment was inappropriate. (I'm aro ace by the way.)
  16. MichaelTannock

    Am I just “collecting” labels?

    @Morgan123 Welcome to AVEN! I often have doubts about my Asexuality, where I think I'm lying to myself and others when I say that I'm Asexual. But those doubts disappear when I ask myself if I experience sexual attraction because the answer is a resounding no. Asexuality is a lack of Sexual Attraction, which I define as leading to the desire to have sex with someone. Meaning if what you're feeling doesn't lead to the desire to have sex with the person you're feeling it towards, then it's not Sexual Attraction, even if it is an attraction or arousal. Incidentally, it is a tradition here to welcome new members by offering cake, and here's a Red Velvet Cake with Cream Cheese Icing,
  17. Same; I knew something was weird when I felt so detached during early sex ed stuff, and I was never romantically interested in anyone at school. All my friends would have GFs and I’d just be off to the side wondering what the hype was about 🤔.
  18. ben8884

    Has anyone had any strange dreams recently?

    Moved from Asexual Musings and Rantings to Off-A. Ben8884 Moderator for Asexual Musings and Rantings.
  19. Rahuma


    hello everyone first of all this is my story, I'm 22 years old student just graduated last year from Buisness school international trade , I'm very sexual not that intense very normal I was single for almost 5 years and I never had sexual contact or any desire of having sex with someone and never met someone to have feelings for in the past 5 years until then last year I met the girl of my dreams the purest creature ever my life changing and shes the one never loved a person this crazy in my whole life we both very serious I have not felt this sexual and erection in my life like even her smell or even simple normal physical touch I turned on she gets me on in everything we're been together now for 9 months and every day we fell in love with each other more and more, the first month we were having sex quite every day 2 times, after only one month we did long distance for 4 months and we face timing each other every day and then she came back again we had sex 2 times only and then it seems like it annoyed her whenever I get on or having errection I thought she doesnt want me anymore or she doesnt find me atractive anymore until I found that she is asexual and she doesn't feel anything or any desire of having sex and shes rarely gets sexual once in a very long time and its just for seconds just imagination and then shes off but still she loves me so much I'm guessing she did it the past times just because of me but she realy doesnt want to because I'm always having erection around her and she sees that she gets me on all the time even outside setting in a restuarant I'm turning on on her, so I dont want her to feel bad about me or making her feeling useless or somthing we really do love each other because LOVE and caring about each other is more important than sex, so is there any ADVICE Or any fast solution to bacome ASEXUAL is there any easy way to change from SEXUAL to ASEXUAL I'm ready and commtment to change.


  20. i.r3beka


    Your ex sounds like a real charmer 🙄. I might talk to your son and see if he’s ok with being hugged, etc. I’m 23 and I still hug my mom and kiss her cheeks etc. Maybe I’m weird 🤷🏻‍♀️. I think it would be worth discussing with your son though.
  21. Laplace


    It’s probably a good thing I’m quite hesitant to allow anyone else into my bed cause I’d end up kicking them in my sleep 😴. I think I roll and spaz out a lot so it’d be a little uncomfortable if anyone wanted to sleep directly alongside me 😅.
  22. The CBC is predicting a minority government either PC or Green. If the PCs win, maybe the Greens the Liberals could form a coalition.
  23. InquisitivePhilosopher

    Master Trump Thread

    Personally, I don't expect an impeachment to happen, as it seems that politics are focusing ahead on the 2020 Election (i.e. who will run, etc.)
  24. MichaelTannock

    ace, bi or lesbian??

    @Coxinel Welcome to AVEN! You could be a Biromantic Asexual. Asexuality is a lack of Sexual Attraction, which I define as leading to the desire to have sex with someone. Meaning if what you're feeling doesn't lead to the desire to have sex with the person you're feeling it towards, then it's not Sexual Attraction, even if it is an attraction or arousal. But there are other types of attraction besides Sexual Attraction. There's Romantic Attraction, which I define as leading to the desire to have a romantic relationship with someone. There's Sensual Attraction, which I define as leading to the desire to have intimate non-sexual physical contact with someone, like kissing or cuddling. There's Aesthetic Attraction, which I define as leading to the desire to appreciate someone's aesthetic beauty. There's Platonic Attraction, which I define as leading to the desire to have a deep friendship with someone. And more. Incidentally, it is a tradition here to welcome new members by offering cake, and here's a Rainbow Zebra Cheescake,
  25. pickles mcgee

    anyone past 50 on here?

    These three sentences made my day. Go, birds!
  26. pickles mcgee

    anyone past 50 on here?

    You two lucky devils. I think I'm halfway between you and @ryn2. I've had plenty of cavities over the years (have a number right now that need to be filled), but only one root canal so far.
  27. MLJ

    Questions about asexuality

    1) Are you male or female? Female 2) When did you begin to believe your sexuality was different to others? I don't know, really. As a teenager, I mostly felt like something was wrong with me. I suppose by college I felt "different" from other people, but not so much in a "my sexuality is different from other people's" way as in a "what's wrong with me that I'm not interested in sex and relationships like other people are?" way. Over time I gradually became accepting of my lack of interest and figured that is just the way I am. I didn't hear the term "asexual" until pretty recently. 3) Are you single or in a relationship? Single 4) Are you 18-29, 30-45 or older than 45 years old. 30-45 5) Would you change your sexuality to meet the majority of people? No 6) Have you ever had sex with anyone? Yes 7) Does your partner accept your sexuality/ did your previous partner accept your sexuality? I didn't know anything about asexuality when I was married. From the beginning, my ex was very bothered by the fact that I didn't enjoy sex or have much interest in it. Sex was always the worst part of the relationship. Do you feel pressured to change your sexuality to meet the majority of people? No 9) Have you seen any change in your asexuality over time i.e become more sexually curious/tolerant or become even less interested in sex/intolerant? I started off feeling like I "ought" to like sex. I went through a period of a few years when I thought if I could just have sex, or figure out the right techniques, I could get over my anxiety and discomfort with sex. I tried to like sex when I first got involved with my ex-husband, but it didn't work. Sex quit being as anxiety-producing once I got used to doing it, but it was mostly just a chore to get through. By the time I got divorced, I just accepted that I had no interest in romantic/sexual relationships and my lack of interest quit being a source of stress. 10) What rating would you give your asexuality 1-100 (1 being I absolutely detest the very thought of sex and it completely repulses me, 100 being I have no particular interest in sex but occasionally I do it and it can actually feel quite physically pleasant for me). I don't know. 50? I'm not repulsed by sex, but I have no interest in it and there's nothing about it that I find pleasurable.
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