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A bit late coming to this, but I'll mention that witnessing a total solar eclipse is the closest experience any of us will ever have in being immersed in an alien world. A partial eclipse is nothing compared to it. I'm lucky to have been through two of them, because I'm old. I watched a fifty-mile long chain of snowy mountains completely disappear into an oncoming dark void, then it washed over me and I was completely blind in darkness for a few seconds. Then my eyes adjusted, and I was in a weird place that my mind couldn't even have imagined. The wind was cold, the stars were out overhead,
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Not feeling secure in my relationship with my allosexual partner
blue_night replied to blue_night's topic in Asexual Relationships
I am so sorry!! I did not specify that it was actually people on the internet who told me that my requirement was an unreasonable thing to expect from a relationship. He personally did not say that to me. It's just that mentally I can't handle all that lust as a healthy impulse in a male allosexual partner. It makes me feel like I'm constantly competing with these other women. I cannot empathize with his constant attraction to others and I feel like the only way there is for me to feel secure in a relationship is to be with someone who is the same as me in this regard :/ -
Hey! Welcome! That's cool! I'm a cat's person through and through.
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helllooooo welcome :))
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Most likely. I bet they saw it and just did not give a crap. It's hard to unscrew old pipes out of these radiators. I did all that work for nothing 😩
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They could have been functionally illiterate, I guess. I don't see what you could do about it short of supervising them in person.
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Not feeling secure in my relationship with my allosexual partner
Olallieberry replied to blue_night's topic in Asexual Relationships
This comes from incompatibility. I don't think it's even about a sexual-demisexual mis-match at all. He's telling you that, according to what he personally wants and expects from a relationship, it's unreasonable not to have this. It's up to you whether to play along with satisfying his requirement. And he's being a dick about it. Maybe that's another source of incompatibility. It's another thing which - it's up to you to decide whether to play along with it or not. -
Not feeling secure in my relationship with my allosexual partner
blue_night replied to blue_night's topic in Asexual Relationships
I have a very low libido, I never masturbate, but I do want sex with him because it helps create intimacy, I view it as a spiritual experience. I don't really care about pleasure. I am in the mood only when he is too. I give him all the sex he wants but it's not like I feel pressured into it, I really just like feeling close to him. To answer the other question, he definitely cares about how I feel and he tries to make an effort but of course he can't help it. The wandering eyes will always be a problem because it's just his nature and he can't change that. And then I ask myself, do -
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Hello and welcome to AVEN, Säde! 🍰
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Hi! I'm new here, but glad to be here.
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Daydreamer99 started following For 30-somethings and those around that age and I want a "designated companion."
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I don't think they would understand birthdays. So, it's pointless in my opinion. All I can do is tell them I love them, and that's it.
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Not feeling secure in my relationship with my allosexual partner
uhtred replied to blue_night's topic in Asexual Relationships
I see two different possible issues here. You describe yourself as demi-sexual, is that compatible with your partner's sexuality, or is there a difference in interest / desire for sex that is a source of tension. Separately, his wandering eyes are bothering you - as they would bother many women. Most people are able to see an attractive person but not let it completely disrupt their thinking, especially if they are with their romantic partner at the time. Do you think he is making an effort not to be distracted, but is unable to control it, or do you think he doesn't care abo -
For 30-somethings and those around that age
Daydreamer99 replied to test account's topic in Older Asexuals
Hi guys 😅 I'm gonna be 28 this year, so I'm just chiming in as well... Getting older and learning more about myself has been eye opening...alot of the thoughts, goals, and issues that I had when I was younger have either disappeared or changed altogether now. For example, ten years ago, I thought that I wanted a really romantic relationship...like the stuff you'd see in romantic movies and shows. Just without the sex... But after ACTUALLY experiencing that kind of relationship...I realized that what I wanted wasn't the romance in the relationship, but the companion -
Covid downplay/nostalgia - has anyone been seeing this more lately?
Still replied to Frendo's topic in Off-A
I've seen some articles where someone says how much they enjoyed the lockdown because they could work from home and didn't have to deal with people too much. I know nobody likes offices, especially open offices, but fucking hell, consider how privileged you were to have a job where you could work from home and the fact that people were dying at the same time. -
YUM! Mildly-flavoured chili with three kinds of beans?
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Have you ever had a birthday party for your pet?
Ceebs replied to Lilihierax's topic in Census Forum
What constitutes a party? Can there be only 2-3 guests, or maybe even just you and your pet? I've celebrated pet birthdays with family and my best friend when I was a kid, and with my ex-husband, and also just alone with the pet in question lol. But I'm not decorating my home and sending out invitations and hiring a DJ. Which I never do in general anyway cos I don't like parties and I don't like people in my space. -
Hello, my name is Säde and I'm 16, soon finishing 10th grade. I'm from nothern Europe, Estonia.
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Aceade replied to Sammie's topic in AVEN Arcade
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Not feeling secure in my relationship with my allosexual partner
blue_night posted a topic in Asexual Relationships
Hello everyone, I am new here! I just made this account because I really need someone to talk to, there's something that has been weighing on me a lot lately. I want to apologize in advance for any mistake, english is not my first language, I hope you guys can understand. Ok, I am a 22 yo heteroromantic demi-sexual woman. I only very recently (about one year ago) read up on asexuality and came to know that it is a spectrum. I had never heard the term demisexual before but it made sense for what I had experienced. I honestly believed the majority of people were like me and that p -
Ugh, just putting this here since it's kind of related but not the fault of the Chinese contractors, but some time ago we disconnected a large steam radiator to be reinstalled after the floor is repaired. The radiator was probably about 200 lbs so we left it laying on the floor. The old cast iron bathtub was too heavy for the contractors to move so apparently the superintendent offered to get scrap guys to come in and take it. Well, the scrap guys took the radiator too. Apparently the superintendent didn't know it was meant to be reinstalled since the smaller bathroom
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Have you ever had a birthday party for your pet?
Squirrel Combat replied to Lilihierax's topic in Census Forum
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Over the years, after being in alot of relationships and seeing what works and doesn't work for me, I also came to this conclusion 😅 I want a partner to share my life with. No romantic strings attached, just companionship and mutual understanding...
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Pack-rat replied to Sammie's topic in AVEN Arcade
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Have you ever had a birthday party for your pet?
Silver_edge replied to Lilihierax's topic in Census Forum
I personally have not done that, but it sounds awesome!