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  2. Snao Cone

    Stanley Cup 2019 playoffs

    Hahaha, take that Cleveland! Fucken Ohio thinking it's hockey hot shit.
  3. AllThisTime

    Asexual Parents Thread

    @Ileeca, welcome to AVEN! You will find a lot of information and support here, I know.
  4. RoseGoesToYale

    Stanley Cup 2019 playoffs

    Syracuse. On the verge of being swept, beat Cleveland 2-1!
  5. Snao Cone

    Stanley Cup 2019 playoffs

    Dallas?
  6. RoseGoesToYale

    Stanley Cup 2019 playoffs

    Yay! A team I was rooting for won a game! (Hint: It wasn't the Bruins)
  7. firewallflower

    firewallflower

    Tracking my own time for work that I do remotely, for a few minutes here and a few minutes there throughout the day, often while multitasking/switching between various other things in various different tabs (including thing that are not part of aforementioned work)... is very challenging, I find.

     

    Any tips? :P

  8. Omega the Shadow

    Questions about asexuality

    1) Are you male or female? Neither. 2) When did you begin to believe your sexuality was different to others? Around 18 or 19. 3) Are you single or in a relationship? Single. 4) Are you 18-29, 30-45 or older than 45 years old. 18-29 5) Would you change your sexuality to meet the majority of people? Never. 6) Have you ever had sex with anyone? Short answer: Never! Long answer: Nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnneeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeevvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 7) Does your partner accept your sexuality/ did your previous partner accept your sexuality? The only (romantic) relationship I've been in was one that was decided on for me even though I didn't officially agree to it. And that all took place before I knew I was asexual. If I did know I was asexual and I told her, I don't think she would've wanted to be in a relationship with me. 8) Do you feel pressured to change your sexuality to meet the majority of people? Never. 9) Have you seen any change in your asexuality over time i.e become more sexually curious/tolerant or become even less interested in sex/intolerant? Not really. For as long as I've known about sex, I've always felt the way I do about it. 10) What rating would you give your asexuality 1-100 (1 being I absolutely detest the very thought of sex and it completely repulses me, 100 being I have no particular interest in sex but occasionally I do it and it can actually feel quite physically pleasant for me). 1. Just 1.
  9. chairdesklamp

    Platonic or Romantic?

    Hmm... Keep in mind, some of the metric above is actually not terribly helpful. You may not want sexual things ever (above poster should consider the venue) "Love only you" would be alien to poly people and people who believe in loving your friends alike. (Also, can they no longer love their parents?) I described this on another thread, but let's try here. Biggest one: do you love this person like a sibling? Would you want your relationship to be like that of a brother/sister/so on? That's platonic. If that's a "yes," you have your answer. If not or still unsure, romantic might be you want to build a life and share EVERYTHING with them, but not necessarily. Some people build lives with queerplatonic partners, too. I also don't know your age, and you might not be old enough to envision buying a house and growing old yet. If you are, do you want to do that with them? If you're not touch-averse, how would cuddling them in bed feel? If you enjoy the more sappy stuff, do you want to do it with them? Of course, there's also squishes, where you feel "I HAVE TO MAKE THIS PERSON MY FRIEND" This isn't ALL the ways to know, but that's what I can think of off the top of my head
  10. Ardoise

    Has anyone had any strange dreams recently?

    I had a hilariously stupid one a few weeks ago. It was that I had grown this dramatic beard (so far, so good), but it covered my entire face, like fur.
  11. AllThisTime

    Any asexuals like me, over 60?

    @VannieGirl, welcome!
  12. QuantumEcho

    QuantumEcho

    I have two drug addicts living in my apartment they are currently high on catnip.

    1. CajunAce

      CajunAce

      are you recording their exploits?

    2. QuantumEcho

      QuantumEcho

      No

  13. Ardoise

    TransWhatevers of AVEN

    I'm dreading the return of hot weather, since it means I won't be able to wear my usual layered shirts. On the other hand, I'm going to a swap meet tomorrow for the express purpose of getting rid of most of my "feminine" clothes.
  14. I've got a kid to take care of so anything I can do from home (like on the forums) is good.
  15. Ardoise

    I might be biromantic?

    Good for you.
  16. bookwormprincesskat

    Questions about asexuality

    1) Are you male or female? Female 2) When did you begin to believe your sexuality was different to others? Hm. I’m not entirely sure. I suppose the first time I actually started to explore and wonder what I was probably started around 18. I went from thinking I was straight to bisexual or even maybe a lesbian and then pansexual. I was pretty confused for quite awhile. Growing up in a strict Christian household I didn’t know asexual existed. I thought something was wrong with me for a long time. 3) Are you single or in a relationship? Married 4) Are you 18-29, 30-45 or older than 45 years old. 18-29. Just turned 26 a week ago. 5) Would you change your sexuality to meet the majority of people? Nope. 6) Have you ever had sex with anyone? Yes 7) Does your partner accept your sexuality/ did your previous partner accept your sexuality? Yes he does. He is super supportive. I think we already knew that there was something more beyond just a super low sex drive so when I came out once I was sure it wasn’t a huge surprise and didn’t change much since we already had a nice arrangement that works for us. 8. ) Do you feel pressured to change your sexuality to meet the majority of people? Yes I do. Mostly because we are also a polyamorous couple. Most poly people are very very sexual so it can be a hard to find a place where I feel comfortable. 9) Have you seen any change in your asexuality over time i.e become more sexually curious/tolerant or become even less interested in sex/intolerant? More adverse actually. Beyond my husband I have beyond zero interest in sex. I would rather not hear or see it. I am fine reading bits of it because I can skim over it but that’s about as far as it goes. 10) What rating would you give your asexuality 1-100 (1 being I absolutely detest the very thought of sex and it completely repulses me, 100 being I have no particular interest in sex but occasionally I do it and it can actually feel quite physically pleasant for me). hmmm again this is difficult to answer. I suppose if I think about my husband 100. But again outside of that relationship it would be 1.
  17. Vee.

    Vee.

    I don't get why people often perceive growing up in a such a negative way. I can understand it with growing old, but here I mean growing from a child to an adult. It's like saying you never want to become a knowledgeable expert in something you care about, but want to just stay a weak, vulnerable beginner who hardly even knows what they're doing.

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    2. Jade Cross

      Jade Cross

      People tend to romantasize childhood because its simpler and a great deal of ignorance keeps us safe from ourselves so to speak. Thats not to say childhood cant be hard. Mind was pretty difficult, had to go through situations even the adults didnt want to deal with, so I dont exactly miss much of it. But I do have a great fear of growing old because it means I will be unable to look after myself, have less energy, and I dont like relying on anyone. I would definateoy not like to pass beyond 50

    3. CajunAce

      CajunAce

      The elderly years don't look fun to me either. I grew up with grandparents who had very very poor health. My grandfather died when I was 10. So yeah, bad examples of what it's like to be old.

       

      I've even said in journals as a kid that I hope I don't grow old and maybe die young to avoid turning out like my grandparents. (big assumption, I know. but that's how my child-brain connected the dots)

    4. CajunAce

      CajunAce

      The definition of "old" and "growing up" is ssooooo convoluted 

  18. hello! so, i’ve been questioning my romantic identity recently, and i’m leaning more and more towards the possibility of being aro. and, it scares me. for the past 4-5 years, discovering that i “liked” girls a thousand times more than boys has been a big part of me. i never found boys attractive but i do stop in my tracks when i see a pretty girl (so, every day). i thought that meant i was gay. i mean, i’ve just always seen girls as 1000x more aesthetically pleasing, and i didn’t really imagine dating, but if i did i wanted a girl. or, i thought. turns out, i don’t really want to date anyone, and i didn’t feel enough when i dated a girl i thought was prettier than all the stars combined. so, now i’m 80% sure i’m not gay (and actually aro), and i just don’t know what to do with myself. it was a main piece in the puzzle of my life, and now it doesn’t even match the big picture.
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  20. ryn2

    anyone past 50 on here?

    Probably cost more too! XD
  21. Phoenix the II

    Potentially conflicting definitions of asexuality

    Don't care for sex... No desire for partnered sex comes first to me. Then again, I'm confused by different types of attraction. Which comes with part with gender dysphoria too... I'm pretty sure, sexual attraction for me ain't there...
  22. Even though you've got alot of communication you need more. Im the Ace in my relationship and we had to pretty much sit down and full on discuss what my needs are and what his needs are and find a way we were both happy and could go on. Mine was i get some of things I want and like alot which arent sexual and his needs we also touched on and how and we came up with a plan or stratergy that works for him and that im comfortable with. We also had hard lines and no on what would not be done and we stuck to it. It wasnt easy but it worked for us. You two might need to sit down and work out something similar. What do you need? What does she need? Is there a middle ground? Are you both comfortable with the middle ground? Tailor it to you both. Hell you could change it in time if it no longer works or you want to tweek it the man thing is the only way you two are going to find whats good for both of you is a serious talk about it. Hopefully this helps and i didnt just rant on lol
  23. Ileeca

    Asexual Parents Thread

    I’m a parent of an 11 year old son. I’m thrilled for this thread, as I’m newly out and struggling with what/how much to tell him.
  24. If you want to delete a post entirely you can PM a mod to do it. Otherwise, you can edit it like you did - sometimes I have just tried to make a sort of relevant post; sometimes I have just left a single period in a post that I didn't want to let stand (when I wasn't a mod and couldn't just delete the whole post). You can find who the mod of the forum the post is in by going to the "who mods what" thread (and can find the link to that from any page by going up to the banners at the top, to the gray one that says "Terms of Service and Important Links".)
  25. Lady Constellation

    corrupt the wish above.

    Granted, but Kim Jong Un is now the president of USA. I wish that I don’t need to sleep
  26. Lady Constellation

    How not to answer a newbie

    QWERTY. I can also type with an abc keyboard, but I’m more used to the qwerty board. What’s the ritual to meet other aces?
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