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  2. Yui-Drakon

    A Sentence Forming Game

    Your One Uncle Never Goes.
  3. Anthracite_Impreza

    A name for only liking nonbinary/agender people?

    Clearly I've been spending too much time with my French car, because I've always pronounced it new-trwah xD
  4. Would it be ok to voice my opinion if my opinion mirrored yours?
  5. You don’t think someone who is ace would take $1M in exchange for never having sex again? Or you don’t think someone would turn down the money if it was offered in exchange for permanently giving up something really important to them? The former seems like a no-brainer. The latter would likely depend on the individual, their life situation, and what they were being asked to give up.
  6. NoraGrace

    Hello everybody!

    Thanks for the cake😁! To answer you question, I mainly like to draw people and animals. Right now I’m drawing mostly with colored pencils but I also paint occasionally.
  7. Life Of Tass

    A name for only liking nonbinary/agender people?

    I've heard cetero-romantic/sexual somewhere. New-troy-s-romantic. Hope I helped!
  8. Happyuku

    Sup everyone!!!

    Hi everyone! Ahhh, I can believe I finally signed up. My name is Kenz and I'm 19. I'm aroace and I first visited this site back in 2016 to get a basic understanding of Asexuality and have ghosted on and off since to get random info. So I figured I might as well join the community that lead me to longer feel broken and maybe help others in the same way! I when I reach middle school my mom started to prod to find who my crush was, so I made one up. I am a very bad liar and she apparently though I was embarrassed, So she told me "it's nothing to be embarrassed about, I fact if you weren't having those feelings I'd would be worried". So that kick started the broken feeling as I tried and tried to force myself to have a crush through middle school, it never worked. (duh) I First heard about asexuality when I was 14 on pinterest on a funny post about a bunch of different sexualities and I saw description of the asexual one and thought "Huh, that kinda sounds like me, may be I should look into that" then forgot about it for two years😂. 2 years later I remembered about asexual and actually did some digging and found the definition here! I cried some and did some self searching and started to identify as aromantic asexual. I no longer feel broken and have identified as aroace for the past three years.
  9. Because there's simply no need to voice your opinion on these matters. I said I wanted £1M to not have sex, you said I would have sex every week for £1M. @ElasticPlanet said they would not go without presenting as enby for £1M, you said that was doubtful. It's unnecessary. You're essentially saying we don't know our own feelings and feel the need to tell us that. Why? What are you gaining from being dismissive?
  10. firewallflower

    Potentially conflicting definitions of asexuality

    This makes plenty of sense to me, and I actually agree with this definition. Still, though, someone will always find the blurry area.
  11. How is saying I don’t believe everything I am told and that I have my own opinions and skepticisms, acting like I know you or anyone else better than you know yourself. If it’s getting annoying then try not to misinterpret things.
  12. Can you stop acting like you know us better than us please? It's getting annoying.
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  14. Anthracite_Impreza

    The need for a Youth Rights Movement

    I'm getting ancient now (25) but for most of my life I have felt pointless. I was ok at school, and got rewarded for that, but all that did was make me associate achievement with reward, and thus non-achievement with neglect. I put so much pressure on myself to be successful I ended up with an eating disorder and became unhealthily thin. After school I felt I had no purpose, fell into a pit of depression and wandered around from job to job, failing at most of them (I was always praised for my attitude, but my abilities are lacking). Only my car got me through those times, I had no other reason to carry on. Nowadays, I have found a job that gives me purpose (working on a heritage railway) and I love it. Sadly I don't get paid for it, and I feel age may have something to do with that. It's voluntary, and volunteer positions tend to attract the young and old, both of which society seems to have decided don't deserve fair pay. I've never had a job that paid enough to tax, and that is a damning indictment of the current system.
  15. I've just come across the term Demisexual as 25 year old heterosexual male and it has blown my mind. It was like reading a book on myself and it has made me understand so much more about why I have felt so different to everyone else. It's reassuring that there are other people out there. I've now come across 'Demiromantic' and I'm having a hard time understanding if this applies to me. The idea of sex without romance is hard for me to understand - it's almost like they are linked and in separable, so I'm wondering if this means I am Demiromatic as well. BUT, I feel what I am active searching out for is romance in a relationship, because romance to me essentially having that emotional bond that is required in order to be become sexually attracted to someone (as a Demisexual). I feel like I am seeking romance in people, more than sex to form a relationship - which sounds like I am a 'romantic' (than demiromantic)? I think the people I liked I have formed more of a romantic connection to first (even if just initially) then developed to the sexual attraction to them very soon after. I don't know if I am requiring the romance aspect of it to be an initial thing I see in them or not, or weather I need to have the emotional bond first. But... I do sometimes (very very very rarely) get a sense for someone personality, or quirk / appearance that I like prior to getting to know them (or not to get to know them most of the time!!), And I'm wondering if that is my romantic attraction to them (defiantly not sexual). Or is it just some sense that I can form an emotional bond with them? Then if I make that bond, then I get a massive romantic and sexual attraction to them almost simultaneously (it hits me hard!). Then again, I have had a situation where I have found a massive romantic and sexual attraction to someone after making the bond, even though I saw nothing in them that was potentially romantic initially (or them even that asteically pleasing initially!). But even in this situation I feel like it was the romantic aspect of it (after bonding) was what lead to my sexual attraction of the person. Can someone help me out here? Gosh it suck to be me, but this has helped me understand so much about myself. It's kind of had an effect on my thinking of perusing relationships, because I've always expected that massive romantic and sexual attraction at once - and that's what I've come to expect when liking someone. But maybe I should now start perusing any glimmers that I might like someone romantically (or glimmers that I can form a bond with them - don't know which it is) because I haven't in the past, Basically because I haven't had that massive attraction to them - but maybe it was just because I didn't have the chance to form the emotional bond? But then again I don't know if I will form that strong bond at all from the potential glimmer or romantic attraction I may see in them. Catch 22!!! I'm starting to think that all any (extremely rare) slight outward (physical, I guess) attractions to someone my all be romantic attractions and nothing else (not sexual of course). Does this mean I am a Romantic Demisexual, (or 'Romantic Demi-hetrosexual' to be more precise)? I have always wanted romantic relationship and nothing else in my life, in order to form a sexual relationship (always knew this). I never understood the desire to peruse someone just sexually. I thought I was just picky, This has been enlightening leaning of this word.
  16. catra

    Touchy-feely Aces

    yessssss i love holding hands and hugging and letting people lean on me sooooo much!! sadly, my hands are always clammy from anxiety, so no one ever wants to hold hands with me
  17. James121

    HAVE YOU ALWAYS BEEN ASEXUAL ?

    You’ve gone off track and misunderstood.
  18. StarMap

    Demiflux is throwing off my gROOVe

    Sorry, didn't check back on this for so long! Glad you were able to connect. If you ever wanna message me about it you're free to for sure
  19. catra

    Hello from London

    welcome to aven, Luck! 🍰
  20. alto

    Hello everybody!

    Hey! I live in SoCal too! But i'm like 24
  21. Light02

    A name for only liking nonbinary/agender people?

    I've heard skoliosexual/romantic.
  22. alto

    A name for only liking nonbinary/agender people?

    Skolioromantic was the word for that for a while, but I think it was revealed to be problematic...
  23. Female-sex and gender

    Very confused

    Thank you @Red99! I have definitely been looking into it a lot more! I’ll have a look at those terms! Yes, @chaotic lemon that makes sense. No, I love long answers, they make more sense... this one will probably be another 😂. Love the term “lady boners” ahaha That describes my school experience 🙌🏻👌🏻 Perfectly! Holy! It’s so funny when you find other people In similar situations. It’s like your body tells you one thing and you think it automatically means something so you try accept it but then can’t cos there’s these other feelings.. but also for me it’s hard to I guess relate to other things... but I have 100% found pleasure and enjoyment in ‘masturbation’ as you said (obviously by myself) but when I feel sexually attracted to same sex I feel as though I wouldn’t ‘engage’.... like yes I could end up being friends cos you know , being a girl you gotta have friends ahahaha, and I could even really love their companion ship but while this is true I don’t think I could act on my sexual feelings but even so I don’t think that’s what I want (I hope this makes sense). I found a term where you feel like sexual attraction (it could be really strong even if you aren’t thinking about it) but once you act on it, you realise you don’t want it/ it goes away) I had a look just last night (wow so recently) and while I could make the hugest longest name for my sexuality once I wrote the ‘huge long name’ down on paper something cool happened.. it’s like I’m more confidence and that was only yesterday. Admittedly I did actually talk to an online counsellor about it (for me I accept things more when I tell others) and had a look at the website https://rainbowpedia.wikia.org/wiki/Home for me a feel like (towards the opposite sex) I am heteroromantic which (for me) is a way to express that just because I don’t feel the same sexual attraction, that other female heterosexuals feel towards men, it doesn’t mean that I don’t get nervous around them (I get nervous around everyone) and it doesn’t mean that I don’t want the companionship from the opposite sex... like they can be cute and caring and can smell good... like this makes me smile so I know I am not “homosexual”. Oh and I just realised when I heard a couple talking about the husband having a high sex drive and could have sex everyday it made me sick and scared... I I thought that I can’t be into guys then if i fee this way... little did I know theres so much more to it.. and yeah I guess I might be open to sexual relations but I can’t answer that persay as I don’t have experience.. definitely I’d have to me in the full emotions of romance etc and trust the guy first. All my ‘fantasies’ with like male actors etc was more (now I think about it) romantic... and feelings of giddiness etc.. and I just learnt that romantic feelings can be just as strong as sexual feelings (but the lady region feelings don’t need to be there/as strong) and I think that’s why it has/still is hard to accept. But I feel like this is getting to the core of my feelings as it doesn’t make me feel sick or flushed randomly 🙌🏻 I hope this might help a bit. If not, know you’re not alone... ahaha also there’s that whole thing about feeling sick about going on a dating app and ... !!!!!!!!!!!!who the hell do I even date? !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  24. Writer In The Forest

    A name for only liking nonbinary/agender people?

    Neutroisromantic/Neuroromantic- romantic attraction towards gender-less/sex-less people It's real! I can't pronounce it properly for the life of me, but I stumbled across it. Androgynoromantic is the romantic attraction towards androgyny.
  25. yeah, i definitely find girls aesthetically attractive, but it’s not the same as finding the romantically attractive, which is where the shock is coming from i suppose. cuz aesthetic attraction isn’t considered as “important” (for lack of a better word) as romantic or sexual attraction.
  26. AspieAlly613

    The need for a Youth Rights Movement

    I personally never got the sense that I was unwanted, possibly because, if memory serves, from the ages of 15-25 I was in an environment where school grades and other judgments/evaluations were based on how we performed relative to each other, eliminating the "kids suck" undertone.
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