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  2. Noctus

    Noctus

    ...And the gut punches just keep coming. Woke up today to being told that I more than likely have to give up my dog, due to noise complaints. I mean.. I get it, I do. But I have never abandoned an animal in my life, sure I would make sure he went to the best home possible but still..

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  4. will123

    anyone past 50 on here?

    I saw sheep in the distance yesterday afternoon driving home, bit could tell I'd there were any lambs among them.
  5. Myssterry

    The Banning Game!

    Banned for making Ted hop round the Arcade.
  6. Myssterry

    anyone past 50 on here?

    Still blustery here, with showers blowing in for the afternoon. I managed a dry and sunny visit to a lovely small town near me which has a beautiful High Street. Because it is a stop-off destination for tourists and has a supermarket in the High Street and a Friday market, it has retained more character and more shops than the town I live in. I bought some plants to make an Easter arrangement and some delicious food for the Easter weekend. There were lambs in the fields and lots of daffodils still in flower. Easter Greetings one and all. (Not my photo
  7. From your post, I think therapy for your anxienty would a good idea, with a therapist who doesn't judge for kinks, and figure out if the vasectomy would be likely to help you with your anxienty, or if your brain latched on that ideas hoping to find anxiety relief. Whatever you decide to do, good luck!
  8. Pack-rat

    The Banning Game!

    Banned for dressing Ted up as an easter bunny.
  9. Pack-rat

    Quickly, Before They See!

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  10. will123

    anyone past 50 on here?

    A lot wish for a white Christmas and for the snow to go away for the rest of the winter. 🙄 Last Friday, Toronto got 5" of snow, the most this winter. It was a major catastrophe. We haven't gotten thru April yet. Over the years we've had some pretty bad snow storms during the month. In recent years the reaction to snow in April is, 'It's not supposed to snow, it's spring...' 🤦‍♂️
  11. Skycaptain

    The Banning Game!

    Banned for hiding the hot cross buns
  12. Skycaptain

    anyone past 50 on here?

    @ryn2, we've no damage. Fortunately trees aren't in full leaf yet, so it's only caused minor disruption here.
  13. will123

    anyone past 50 on here?

    I think the people of the GTA would love a rainy, dreary winter similar to Vancouver's... The weather I described was not snow that you could enjoy. The ground was bare and the snow never accumulated...
  14. Pack-rat

    Pack-rat

    Happy world piano day.🎹

  15. WhiteCatandcherries

    No wonder I love cake so much ...

    Welcome 🍰🍰🍰 Your title made me chuckle (:
  16. Are 20 minute therapy appointments common in France? Here in Canada my sessions in the past have always been close to a full hour and that was my partner's experience in the UK as well. 20 minutes doesn't seem like a lot of time to really go very deep into a discussion without having to stop pretty soon and take it up again next time, which seems kind of disruptive. Anyway, that's all beside the point but caught my attention. That does indeed sound like an uncomfortable evening, yeah, but it's definitely progress nonetheless. I used to be someone who probably couldn't have put a na
  17. WhiteCatandcherries

    Opinion on Asexuality and Porn

    Also @AlarisBlack I see this is your first post on Aven. Welcome!! 🍰🍰🍰 (the cake is customary). I hope you have a good time here and learn more about yourself and the community (whatever you choose to identify as).
  18. WhiteCatandcherries

    Opinion on Asexuality and Porn

    Personally I feel you can define asexuality both as feeling no sexual attraction (finding people sexually interesting / pleasing etc) and having no desire for partnered sex. I know Aven officially uses the sexual attraction model, but some people also believes that that involves desire and the definition debate can really go on forever. I think that a person who find people sexually attractive but never want to have sex is not really that close to the allosexual experience and I personally think you should be welcome to call yourself asexual, or maybe greysexual (more sexual than strictl
  19. Windmills of My Mind

    Lonely and tired

    I agree with @AloneTogether And you deserve praise for talking Liara, despite your reluctance and history. You are a brave woman and you try to do the best you can. We all have limitations. You are aware of yours and do the very best you can under the circumstances. You have my admiration and support. Being different than most or many other people does not make you wrong. You are not a bad person. You try to understand your partner and attempt to communicate your feelings. You support other people here at AVEN with your view and experiences. You give me yet another perspective on r
  20. LucyKaven

    Can the right dildo do the job?

    It just goes to show how different toys can cater to everyone's unique preferences, regardless of sexual orientation. It's totally understandable to be cautious about investing in something that might not work for you, especially with a higher price tag. If you're curious but hesitant, maybe you could start by exploring some more affordable options to see if they resonate with you? https://www.edenfantasys.com/dildos/ , for example, offers a wide range of dildos and toys at various price points, so you can experiment without breaking the bank. Who knows, you might discover something that rea
  21. FJO8

    Opinion on Asexuality and Porn

    I don't agree with that. As far as I know, Asexuality is about the desire for partnered sex (which may fluctuate in allos as well) and therefore is not influenced by the consmation of porn
  22. Purplegems3

    No wonder I love cake so much ...

    Welcome
  23. I don't know about morally wrong, I think it's morally neutral, but it can be psychologically harmful for someone to repress their sexuality. I think that's the message we're supposed to be getting -- that it's harmful to suppress who you are (whether in terms of orientation or general sexual preferences) and to live inauthentically, with shame or guilt or fear of being yourself. I've never heard anyone say that they think sex positivity is about giving yourself permission to lose control over your actions and force yourself on people or pester them or manipulate them or whatever just to get s
  24. DearMice

    DearMice

    I've ended up introspecting on my gift-giving style yesterday and today... Is it truly irrational to leave gifts for the recipients to find, but never mention having left the gifts for them? I can only gift things this way (anonymously).

    Sure, if the recipients figure it out I'm the gifter or flat-out ask me if I was, then I'd probably own up to it, but I'd much rather there be some ambiguity - even if it means someone else fibs and takes credit for the gifts. The point, for me, is that the recipient receives the item that I believed they would enjoy!
    Nothing else matters to me; least of all awkward, publicly-broadcast scripts of gratitude or, worse, the burden of obligation being placed onto the recipient to reciprocate in the future.

    Maybe this is a bit "insane", as my parents put it. I never was good at withstanding the pressure of receiving gifts, either.

  25. Welcome here, you are in the perfect place for that. You are not alone in this. Have you asked your husband about asexuality? He can sincerely think he will try later... and never do because he just can't, without knowing why. And he will never change. He doesn't need to change. But your want is totally valid. Would you be interested by an open relationship? That's an option.
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