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  2. argar

    Word association game

    Oliver Twist
  3. Strange-quark

    Guess who comes next...

    All right then Nima?
  4. Star Lion

    Can I marry

    I always advise asexuals to date other asexuals because you dating a sexual is a very hard thing to work out. It’s almost garunteed to have tons of stress, frustration, and unhappiness on both sides
  5. Strange-quark

    Yum or Yuck!

    Yuck. Vinegar is eeevil! Porridge? (Man I'm hungry)
  6. Pinball Wizard

    I Hate My Birthday (possible trigger warning)

    I'm beginning to hate my birthday. Although I'm young, I'm very much like "I don't want attention drawn to the fact that I'm closer to death". When you're not a kid anymore, family members, everyone doesn't really give a s*** anymore, and I guess I really felt that in my preteens and late teens. It's all about kids, and then when you stop being one, it's like "next". Now as such a birthday looms closer, it's all a pointless joke, and I'm kinda dreading it. I wish counting your age wasn't a thing--you never had to declare it on any documents, no one judged you on it and assumed your life around your number. On a more positive beat, I get to fill up on sugar and already have the excuse there.
  7. Strange-quark

    Change one letter

    approved! seal
  8. Strange-quark

    One random word in Alphabetical order

    Dental
  9. Strange-quark

    Word association game

    porridge 😋
  10. Hwsnca

    New to the concept.

    I recently realized that I am asexual. I just always thought there was something wrong with me and that I was broken due to lack of arousal. Anyways I've been married for 7 years and have never really cared about sex. I don't care if he bangs me but I just get so bored and foreplay drives me up a wall. What does anyone else do to fake it. I know that he feels loved from sex and I want to give him all of the love I can but just so uninterested. How do other people keep their minds engaged and fake it?
  11. Nima

    One random word in Alphabetical order

    Charitable
  12. Nima

    Change one letter

    teal
  13. Eutierria

    Alphabetical "Better than sex" game

    Blowing soap bubbles is bts
  14. Eutierria

    Change one letter

    peat
  15. Star Lion

    My Partner Seeing Me Without Makeup

    People are attracted to what they’re attracted to. People don’t say anything about women to men though because the general population of men don’t get the luxury to cover their face in make up without people thinking we’re gay or criticizing us
  16. Eutierria

    Yum or Yuck!

    Yum Honey & Apple Cider Vinegar drink (warm)?
  17. I'm glad it is not just me! I have had the resentment and aggression too, even when I've been really clear about my feelings etc - they seem to think it's some kind of game we're playing.
  18. Man this image does help out a lot thank you! And I will check out the "Intro" section, thank you so much for all the info and advice it really helps a lot and gives me more clarity especially walking into what I believe I am part of ^^
  19. This is the thought that has been in the back of my mind for years!! I think some men like the 'hard to get' thing, but that's a sign of a certain attitude that includes thinking that women don't know their own minds or need to be controlled or changed. This is what I have been experiencing - men who seem to accept me for who I am, but are controlling and manipulative.
  20. Nima

    The Banning Game!

    banned for those charming images
  21. anamikanon

    Arranged Marriage

    You probably won't like this answer and it may seem cruel, but dealing with the kind of pressures your mom is putting on you isn't really all that different from aces dealing with sexual partners who want sex. Unless you take a clear and non-negotiable stand, this will keep coming back at you. If you don't want to marry, say that firmly once. Ignore all further demands, even if it seems rude or ill tempered. Heck feel free to lose your temper on occasion. Have a few replies ready to common nags. Want grandkids? Adopt. If you are normally rather conforming - and your posts overall give me the impression that you don't want to rattle anything - this kind of behavior may seem hostile to you. But it isn't. While your mother thinks given enough "convincing" she can change your mind, it adds to her anxiety as well to get that changing of mind done before you get too old, etc. If she knows it is a no-go, even if badly disappointing, she will be able to get over it and when the waves from that settle, both of you will be able to move on from the conflict. Good news is that conservative families overall are more accepting of women not wanting sex than wanting sex 😛 It is the "don't want to marry" that will make you stand out. Might be useful to state what you WANT to do instead. For eg, take a specific kind of job or career or lifestyle that isn't compatible with a traditional marriage or is simply too time consuming or at a delicate stage to get distracted by marriage now. Will help your mother transition into acceptance. "Won't marry? Then what will you DO?" is answered. It may also be useful to have your own backup plan if things go to hell in a handbasket. Have a tentative idea of what you will do if your refusal is not accepted. Also, and I hate to say this, a risk assessment if anyone in your family is prone to fits of anger. Could be useful to have your brother present.
  22. SpiderSquid

    My Partner Seeing Me Without Makeup

    Im gonna be blunt. I knew a girl who took make up to a survival camp and would not leave the tent without make up. In all honesty nobody really cares, everyone looks nice with make up since it hides flaws and can be a nice confidence booster. If I could I would wear it. reverse the roles, put yourself in his position and wanting to see him without make up. Just relax and breath. Make up shmakeup. It can't be you, him and make up. Just you and him. Make up is just a small factor, Dont worry to much. If he doesnt like you without make up then hes got issues.
  23. MichaelTannock

    Can I marry

    @Asex92 Welcome to AVEN! Yes, it is possible. But it takes a lot of effort for a marriage to be successful. Unfortunately, I don't have any advice to offer to help, as in my case, I've never had a romantic relationship, let alone a marriage. Incidentally, it is a tradition here to welcome new members by offering cake, and here's a Dusk Forest Chapel Cake,
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