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Have you ever felt like ' I AM MISSING SOMETHING ' ?
Karret replied to Oruki's topic in Asexual Relationships
The most I personally feel missing is feeling like I can't offer most people what they'd want from a committed partnership, namely romance and sex, but I still want my own designated human to share my life with, but I don't want the romance or sex to go with it. The main way I love is just by like treating someone like family and having that deep bond that way, but I want to skip past the romance-y and sex parts and just have that unshakable bond, and I don't know if I could ever find someone who'd be looking for that and not want the other stuff, too. <Da I don't know how I'd even go about -
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Should I get a vasectomy (sex-repulsed and slightly paranoid male grey, CW sexual assault)
Destranix replied to RandomAce8701's topic in The Gray Area, Sex and Related Discussions
A part of the problem maybe could be solved when knowing why you don't want to have children. I mean, that's a valid thing actually, if you don't want you don't want. But as you are talking about having anxities and being in the autistic specturm it might be possible (from my POV) that the reasons are somehow illogical or not thought far enough with enough realism. Despite that, even if you'd not want children that would usually not make you being largly afraid of abuse. Usually you don't want abuse because it's very shitty in general. So if it's really you not wanting children wha -
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Yesterday evening was awful. My partner and I were talking about something pretty harmless and I tried, for once, to tell her something personal. Her reaction was a little rude and hurt me. I told her and she asked me if I was not a little susceptible... For context, I usually never shared anything personal with someone IRL. I grew up in a family where, if I shared something like that, my parents or my brothers 1) didn't listen or 2) laugh and mock me or 3) didn't understand at all. So I learned to never share and that's obviously a problem for relationships (I heard the term toxic independe
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Dinghy was swept out to sea and red goat is now on a desert island.
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I do... although the sum I typically request is round and the ATMs in my country usually only spit out banknotes of two or three values so there isn't much need for laborious counting.
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I had sex with partners for most of my adult life because I thought I'd eventually "learn" to like it, and I'd never heard of asexuality. However, I didn't learn to like it; quite the opposite. I am thoroughly asexual, and I agree with Philip. I think someone who occasionally likes/wants sex, or with certain people, or in certain situations, are simply sexual. Most sexuals are diverse in their experience of sexuality.
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Have you ever felt like ' I AM MISSING SOMETHING ' ?
Sally replied to Oruki's topic in Asexual Relationships
I have always known that I am missing something, because I've had two long relationships with two men -- husband and partner -- that included sex, and it was obvious that they felt things that I did not. For years, I thought I would eventually feel those things, but then learned about asexuality and realized that I shouldn't expect to be someone that I wasn't. When I say "missing something", I don't mean that I as a person am lacking; I simply mean that I (and other asexuals) are different from sexuals. However, I would have loved to have the same sexual experiences as my partners, and I fe -
Serial dating, hook up culture, etc. (kind of related to one of my last posts)
Sally replied to Frendo's topic in Asexual Musings and Rantings
I doubt if any of Clinton's or Kennedy's liaisons had much emotional content to them. And when we talk about famous men's affairs being caused by ego and power drive, I think we're forgetting that sex itself can be a very strong drive for some men. They were both in committed marriages, but they obviously didn't feel that precluded having sexual affairs that their prominence allowed. -
Oruki started following Have you ever felt like ' I AM MISSING SOMETHING ' ?
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Hello everyone... I've been mourning after I found out I am asexual... I am mourning that I will be missing this part of life that I don't want to miss... I want to fall in love, I want to love, I want to share my life with someone and to love until my last breathe... I know it may sound cheeky but I feel I want this in my life at some point in the future... but being ACE changes everything... Has anyone of you ever felt this way? Like you are missing out something... Please I need understanding in this sense... I have never felt so sad ... I didn't even kno
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Let's go for Squirrel Combat! 🐿️
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Solstice.
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Red, Green, Blue, RAINBOW GOATS!
Anomaly Q3Xr replied to the bumbling rotifer's topic in AVEN Arcade
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Guessing from their avatar, what does the person above you like?
Moon Sprite replied to J. van Deijck's topic in AVEN Arcade
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Serial dating, hook up culture, etc. (kind of related to one of my last posts)
Ceebs replied to Frendo's topic in Asexual Musings and Rantings
Being famous sounds horrifying. I'd be one of those celebrities who had a complete mental breakdown, eventually went to rehab, and then spent the rest of my life in as much obscurity as possible. -
Serial dating, hook up culture, etc. (kind of related to one of my last posts)
uhtred replied to Frendo's topic in Asexual Musings and Rantings
I think there is a lot of variation between sexual people in how they experience sex. There may also be variation for an individual - someone might well be capable of having "fun" casual sex, but also having romantic emotional sex. A woman an knew clamed that she enjoyed fun casual sex with women, but romantic sex with men. I also think for many sexual people (well for anyone really) its not easy to pin down their own emotions. Sex is fun, makes them happy,. close to the other person - and that can be true even for casual sex. As far as the famous people who have -
Vala Mal Doran - Stargate SG-1.
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My aversion to sex could destroy my relationship.
uhtred replied to AvocaEden's topic in Members Questioning
Is this also his first serious relationship? He may feel unable to leave - bound by his love, by what he thinks is honorable behavior, whatever. The problem is that if he is a sexual person, sex may be very important to him. Consider how at times in history homosexuals have risked death in order to have sex with the people they desired. For many people sex matters. He may not have experienced it and isn't fully aware of what he is missing, but it may be very important to him. I'm not trying to make you feel bad - you have told him he can leave, you are not at fault, but th -
Uriel - Good Omens
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Growing Your Own: What did you grow / raise / harvest?
daveb replied to Muledeer's topic in Older Asexuals
I always thought a push mower was this sort: But apparently that is a manual reel mower, and push mowers have engines. All I knew was that we had to really push the reel mower! (they do make a much nicer sound, but you have to work for it) Anyway, I would be very impressed if anyone mowed a quarter of an acre with a manual reel mower. -
Should I get a vasectomy (sex-repulsed and slightly paranoid male grey, CW sexual assault)
RoseGoesToYale replied to RandomAce8701's topic in The Gray Area, Sex and Related Discussions
I would say if you don't plan on having heterosexual sex, vasectomy isn't strictly necessary. Reproductive coercion is relatively rare and tends to happen in more extablished sexual relationships. The CDC reported in 2011 that 10.4% of men (higher than women, to my surprise) reported attempted reproductive coercion from an intimate partner (I can't find any stats on completed reproductive coercion for men, my guess is that's very hard to study). There are some steps you can take to protect yourself... don't have sex with anyone who keeps pressuring you to have kids when you don't want them. If