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  2. Nima

    feelings of guilt

    maybe it's the lack of trust in valuable expert advice in general. Often, they have their own agendas and we've both experienced sad expert advice... I'm not trying to get into sad stories we've been through right here either. Let's just say that this is another major setback and I want the best for him. We're talking a lot and still love each other, though his love is a lot more eros and mine more philia, no less though. Thanks for the pep talk, guys. Talking/writing about my feelings does help.
  3. The big decider in this is consent. Sex is not rape if both parties can give clear consent. It would be interesting to know how much capacity this woman has and if her husband has Power of Attorney which as I understand it is really only meant for making certain decisions for an individual who is deemed to not have capacity to make those themselves. But that's for their health and welfare, that doesn't extend sex, so I cannot see how they could possibly justify sex as that isn't critical to her life. Using any legal grounds like that to OK this would set a serious precedent, and it could redefine what consent is when it comes to sex. I mean really, it's rape to have sex with somebody who is unconscious, asleep or under the influence and unable to give consent. Why should her inability to give consent due to her reduced mental capability be any different to somebody who is in an altered state of consciousness and their inability to consent?
  4. Pandalin

    Any fellow aroaces here?

    Hi and welcome! ๐Ÿฐ๐Ÿฐ๐Ÿฐ
  5. Pandalin

    Hey there I'm new

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  6. Pandalin

    Hi! I'm new!

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  7. Pandalin

    Saying Hi (Any Other Ficts Here?)

    Hello and welcome! ๐Ÿฐ๐Ÿฐ๐Ÿฐ
  8. Suigin

    Quickly, Before They See!

    18 :3
  9. Morte thinks irony can be appreciated by bears, pigs, cattle, chickens and humans alike.
  10. Tasha the demi squirrel

    Red, Green, Blue, RAINBOW GOATS!

    Blue 1 ๐Ÿ’Ž
  11. I completely identify with your frustrations - they come and go, and Iโ€™ve been identifying as aro ace for 9 years. But for the most part, Iโ€™ve realized that I canโ€™t force myself to feel something or to want to do something. My time and energy is better spent nurturing the relationships I do have. I think what has helped me the most is reading everything I can get my hands on about lifelong singles and how great their lives can be (Iโ€™m a big fan of Bella Depaulo). Itโ€™s been drilled into our heads that we need a romantic relationship to be happy, so through the times of self-doubt, I hold on to examples that prove otherwise.
  12. PrismaticDream

    Red, Green, Blue, RAINBOW GOATS!

  13. Tasha the demi squirrel

    Red, Green, Blue, RAINBOW GOATS!

    Blue 1 ๐Ÿ’Ž
  14. Morte

    The Banning Game!

    Banned for adding vegetables.
  15. Tasha the demi squirrel

    Change one letter

  16. If someone offered you a million dollars to go the rest of your life without speaking to another person though (or without something else that is deeply important to your well-being and happiness) you may not be so quick to accept the money! Indeed. That's what my other examples (kink and nonbinary) were meant to say.
  17. cdrdash

    anyone past 50 on here?

    I have had dental problems over the years probably from a combination of genetics, bad care of my teeth, and the fact that I grind my teeth at night. Most all my back teeth are filled and about 4 are crowned. I have had one root canal but that tooth finally wore out and had to be extracted. I chose to replace it with an implant which was expensive and a long process. After the whole tooth extraction thing I have vastly improved my teeth care as I don't want to have to go through that again with other teeth. I also wear a night guard at night to protect my teeth from the grinding. It has taken me a while to get used to it and I still feel like it is affecting my sleep. I'm hoping I grow more used to it as time passes by. Had all four wisdom teeth removed at 18 years of age. They were all impacted and were pushing on my other teeth. I had to be put under to have the wisdom teeth removed and had chipmunk cheeks for about a week after that!
  18. Gentle Giant

    anyone past 50 on here?

    I am lucky I have good teeth. I only had one cavity in a baby tooth. Had braces and head gear as a teen. The head gear was so painful pushing back on my teeth! I hated that! Had one wisdom tooth that bothered me trying to come in. Finally it came in and was fine for a while until it bothered me again. Had it pulled and was surprised how easy and painfree that was. The rest of my wisdom teeth are still under the gum and are crooked or on their sides. I get some pain, pressure and swelling from them sometimes, like recently. It settled down. I worry about it when it acts up because Iโ€™d have to have them surgically removed if they cause me major trouble. I donโ€™t have dental insurance. I hope I never lose my teeth. I donโ€™t want to have to wear dentures. Sometimes my teeth and gums hurt a little, so then I make sure I floss and that helps. I brush my teeth at least 2 times a day and try to floss often. Iโ€™m off work yesterday and today. Got a lot of things done yesterday. Laundry, bookwork, pick up sticks in the yard, took donation to the kids school sale (and will be going to that tomorrow), went to clinic for blood draw, got new license plates and tabs and put those on my car.
  19. The Angel of Eternity

    does this qualify

    @sexlessathiest Hello, welcome to heAVEN! Have an infinite amount of ! Yes, so I still think that would be considered asexual so long as you aren't fantasizing about another person while masturbating. Godspeed
  20. I've only started realizing that I'm asexual. I've never liked or wanted sex and I know last relationships have probably suffered because of it. I always thought relationship=sex and though I wanted the relationship part, I always engaged in sex because I was "supposed" to. Anyway, I've been married three years and we dated two. He doesn't know I'm asexual and have no desire for sex. He has never brought up our lack of sex (once every two weeks or so). I'm terrible at communicating and I'm afraid of his reaction. Is it selfish of me to write him a letter explaining everything the best I can and offer to answer any questions he has or do I absolutely need to sit down and talk to him? I'm afraid by talking first I won't be able to say what I need to say and it might make the situation worse. I know I can't stay married and not tell him. If I want the marriage to work he needs to know. I'm so scared of telling him. I'm a wreck. I don't want him to hate me and I'm afraid he will. If anyone can offer some advice that would be helpful. I can't keep going on like this. I don't know how to talk to him about this.
  21. Errr that's not great. ๐Ÿ˜• My partner is worried that I shouldn't be avoiding sex now. He's asexual, not anti-sex. We're still trying to figure out what's best for us...
  22. DCL88

    Saying Hi (Any Other Ficts Here?)

    Hello *Hugs, or doesn't hug if too awkward* Thank you for the welcome and mega pleased to meet a fellow fict
  23. PrismaticDream

    Red, Green, Blue, RAINBOW GOATS!

  24. Morte

    How not to answer a newbie

    Yes, just like sheep are part of the animal kingdom. Could you explain the difference between celibacy and being religiously ace?
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