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  2. Miss_Bookworm

    Teen Corner

    Yeah, I'm really excited too! I got to choose almost all of my classes for once, so I'm excited to take them. my school uses them both, but I honestly prefer Kahoot. A) you can choose your name and B) it's really fun when you win by a bunch of points. (I once won a Greek Mythology Kahoot and I was well over 22,000 points ahead of the next person😂)
  3. CajunAce


    Yup. It took me a long time to realize my feelings for a close friend was more than "sisterly love". It confused and scared me a bit at first, but I accepted it because in the end, I didn't care one bit what gender my significant other would be. Love is love, as they say.
  4. MoonDancer

    What Are Some of your Weirdest Habits?

    I don't have OCD or autism, but I kind of understand that one. I've always been a very tactile person, and I always liked to check out different textures against both hands or feet, especially as a kid. I admit that I probably don't do it to the same extent that you describe, but it doesn't sound too strange to me.
  5. Snao Cone

    Am I ace or just grasping at labels

    It's possible you're asexual. I put myself through multiple sexual experiences before accepting that it never felt right and I was never really into it. If someone you found attractive, on an aesthetic or emotional level, was naked in your bed in front of you, would you be inclined to engage in sexual intimacy? If not, then whatever you appreciate about their appearance doesn't translate to sexual.
  6. daveb

    Touch Starvation

    I would say I am touch-starved for friendly touch from another human being (of the small subset of human beings I like and would want to be touched by). Pets, professional massages and all that (but not sports) are all well and good, but no substitute in my opinion/experience. So I think I understand the feeling the OP mentions, at least in part, but I don't know solutions.
  7. Hi I hope i posted this in the right place. My wife and I have been together 9 years with 5 of those being married. I am a very sexual person by nature and my wife never has been which wasn't a huge issue until about 2 years ago, sex went from once a week to once a month and I wasn't sure what was going on. I started doing all the chores thinking that maybe she was just tired. I tried taking her mind off anything stressful by handling it myself and it still never got better but i still had hope. 2 days ago she came out to me as asexual. I needed some time to think so I left the house. Yesterday we sat down and had a conversation about what this means. She said she has never been sexually attracted to me and never will be (which i understand goes along with the asexual thing but it still hurt to hear the words). I asked if maybe I could stay with her but maybe go on one night stands every once in a while to get my needs met which she didn't seem to fond of which makes sense. She brought up a separation so we are now separated. I don't want to lose my best friend and the mother of my child but I don't know if I can go through life never feeling desired by somebody and never having sex again (she admitted that sex makes her really uncomfortable) I don't even know why I'm posting here. Maybe to hear other peoples experiences? How have you maintained a marriage with vastly different needs?
  8. Hey ace Bros,Broettes, and Theauxs I'm questioning myself I'm 19 (m) and up until this year I identified as gay. I had always been attracted to guys, watched gay porn, etc., the whole time I lived in a religious household. Obviously being gay isn't cool with them, I struggled with that for the longest. Fast forward to my senior year of high school I lost my virginity and it was meh at best but I just thought maybe it was the thing I did. So durring my freshman year of college I tried almost everything there was to try with other guys and found only knew thing I enjoyed doing and even that I get bored doing it after a minute or two. Ever since realizing that I've been toying with the idea of being ace. I've stopped watching porn or anything related to sex the most sexual thing I've done since, is think about what another guy's dick looks like and that's about it other than that if I find someone attractive I just like looking at them and that's it (I also have been finding women attractive in the I like looking at you but that's it sense too) I have zero interest in being in a relationship with a guy or anyone for that matter. The most I want is a patonic friend group. To get to the point, idk if I'm really ace/aro or am I repressing being gay for religious reasons
  9. discoveringqueerme


    my girlfriend and I were just talking about this, she's pan and refers to herself as a "pannie" and was wondering if there's a term like that for ace folks, my immediate reaction was to look here. I haven't come across one yet but who knows!
  10. I feel like a puppy too dude. This is exactly how I feel about my best friend. If I'm in the crappiest mood, my face lights up as if I'm a two-year-old who's just been given candy when I see him. He makes me so happy that I enjoy even the times when we don't have much time to spend together, and I'm happy to do errands with him if it means we can hang out for a long period of time. I've never felt the need to express my affection for anyone really, but I just always want to remind him how much he means to me. As for the cuddling / hugging part, we're so physical in public that people who don't know us think we're dating. We cuddle, hug, rest our heads on each other's shoulders / chests, sit in each other's laps, hold hands, etc.. I'd call it platonic attraction I guess.
  11. motography


    Yes!! For the longest time I thought I was gay and ruled out pursuing relationships with girls, but when I finally realized I didn't have sexual attraction to anyone it made me reevaluate "what is romantic attraction" and "who am I romantically attracted to". Was it just guys? I wasn't and still am not completely sure to be honest. But I am trying to sort that out, and my process is kind of just 'going with the flow' lol I think living with an open mindset about relationships will help me figure out more about my orientation and who I am romantically interested in. So maybe just staying open to all possibilities will help you as well
  12. Crazycrazycultist

    Favorite extinct animal?

    Me too!
  13. Crazycrazycultist

    Favorite extinct animal?

    I love Birds, too!
  14. Aebt

    Teen Corner

    I am excited, but I always loved school, and I love college even more.
  15. griffinej5

    Incredibly Ace Moments

    Hahaha... it was like those drug things in school. Umm... I would have never known that was a thing if you didnt tell me in this talk that is supposed to make me not do those things.
  16. 3Xi3X


    Uhh yeah! Thats why it was so freeing to me when I learned about “asexuality” because I was sort of battling the fact that if I was straight then I had to treat guys (same sex) differently than I would women. But without the sexual desire it really does change things. Thats why I went with biromantic when I signed up with AVEN and needed to fill out the A/Sexuality box.
  17. Claire1983


    Anyone else have the experience of thinking you are straight growing up and then later having to reassess your feeling for the same sex? I'm 35 and only last year realized that I was asexual. I'm not aro, but now I'm not totally sure what my romantic orientation is. I had previously dismissed the idea that I could be interested in woman since I knew I didn't want to sleep with them, but when I realized I didn't want to sleep with men, or anyone for that matter, that muddied the waters a bit. I feel like I may have ignored or misinterpreted possible interests because I didn't know I could have romantic attraction without sexual attraction. Anyone else have a similar experience and how did you sort through that?
  18. After talking to you, I realize I didn’t word my post well. I think you should do what makes you happy. If that means a QPR, then do it! If you can’t find someone for a QPR? No big deal, the time will come. Whatever it is that makes you happy is out there waiting to be found. You do you, boo
  19. RoseGoesToYale


    The sesame really overpowers the coconut

    1. disGraceful


      Uh... wut

    2. RoseGoesToYale


      I bought toasted coconut black sesame ice cream, and I was under the impression that it would be toasted coconut ice cream with some sesame seeds, but it's the other way around.

  20. Yes Cryowolf. This is me too. As my mom described it. “You have always loved everyone. Complete strangers. Old or young. Any race, any creed, good looking or not so much. You just love people. You are always happy and smiling and greeting every person you come across. Even as an infant, I’ll never forget this one time on the bus when this guy came over to say hi to you and he was quite honestly a bit terrifying and yet you still smiled and waved and kept looking at him. You didn’t get scared, look away or cry. I was like wow.”
  21. Grey-Ace Ventura

    What are you currently reading?

    I recently finished Sarah Daniels' Neaptide. I'm currently re-reading one of the Nancy Drew books 🙃
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  23. Lol now here me out here. so coming to terms to being both asexual and aromantic ive started branching out more and joining new communities particularly in asexual ones. like meme pages and such on facebook and well some pages share other peoples stories of them coming out or they are questioning a few things such as there orientation and really its nice to see others finding a spot where they can fit in. on person how ever had story that spoke to me on quite a deep level in that when around people they know or people they just met. they get this sudden energy almost like an attraction but not in like a sexual or romantic way. they explain that they see them aesthetically pleasing but thats not what spoke to me. it was the sheer energy they feel when around this person. were they want to talk for hours with this person. they want to hang around them for a long period of time even if its to do boring stuff like laundry or grocery shopping. but at times they would want to cuddle with this person or see if they give out good hugs. its not the first thought that pops in there head but over time they start to feel that way but again they dont want to be with that person they just want to be around them cause they bring much joy into there lives. they were wondering what part of attraction do they fit in? a person commented on the post below and said they felt the same way but they called it the "puppy effect" and that when they get that way with friends they feel like a golden retriever puppy constantly wanting to be around that person and following them but afraid cause it might come off as annoying or clingy. when it comes to me thats exactually how i feel like. i just love all my close friends so much that i would do anything for them. if there poor and starving i got them! if they have errands to run? count me in ill keep them company. if a mofo try to hurt them.... i suck at fighting but i beat that fools butt! i always want to be with my friends. i always want to shower them with affection even if sometimes i go broke lol and when im waiting for them to pick me up or im waiting at the place where gonna meet i swear if someone was watching me they think i was a dog waiting at the door for there master. i love receiving hugs. i love getting close to my friends provided they gave the consent they want to cuddle or what not and i tear up when they give me a gift or tell me they thought of me over something i like or said to them once and they saw it. oof.... does anyone else feel that way? or am i the only one like this? and what type of attraction would one call this? idk i just feel like im a little puppy at times, getting over joyed when im with my friends. really its the only time im ever happy
  24. Grey-Ace Ventura

    Favorite extinct animal?

    Honestly dinosaurs
  25. 3Xi3X

    Favorite extinct animal?

    I don’t know if this was mentioned already. But my favorite extinct animal, besides mammoths and Sabre-tooth’s has to be the Archaeopteryx. Just because I really like birds...
  26. questdrivencollie

    The New Aromantic Thread (v.1.5)

    Me: doesn’t really care about romantic things, wants to stay single probably forever, identifies as on the aromantic spectrum Me roelpaying ChiChi, who is married, on my rp tumblr: omg, marriage is beautiful, love is beautiful, I love how they stick together and I love how they overcome things even though bad stuff happens I love that they still love each other even after all that I love– Anyone else like romance in fiction, but don't really care in reality?
  27. Don't pressure. But do share what sex feels like to you, what it means to you. And learn how it feels for your partner. Caring about each other is really key especially when you're so different
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