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Areas of the UK have snow, and not just the north. This is from WildlifeKate on X. She is somewhere in the southwest. I know Dartmoor has snow and there is snow further north. We have had more rain here. Rain is just about daily and has been for weeks on end. It is sunny here at the moment, but the garden is too soaked to work in and the wind is meant to be picking up later with possible gales. Statistically, snow is more likely in the UK at Easter than Christmas, when Easter is in March.
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My aversion to sex could destroy my relationship.
Liara replied to AvocaEden's topic in Members Questioning
As I already said, my partner is ace and sex-repulsed. She was my first partner. I never had sex with anyone else than her, at the very begininng of our relationship 25 years ago. And that was not great memories, sex never was nice or satifying when we tried. But... that doesn't mean I don't know what I miss. I know. And worse, I imagine. So, no, don't believe that he doesn't fully know what he is missing out. He knows. And like Sally said, that's a very bad idea to continue to have the hope it will get better. That's horrible. He MUST understand you will NEVER change. And so do you. That's - Today
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Partner discovered that she's Grey/Asexual.
Windmills of My Mind replied to Chips7's topic in For Sexual Partners, Friends and Allies
And to take it yet another step further: to some it is somewhere in between. I can have fun sex with a person I am not deeply in love with. But I have no interest in anonymous hookups , one night stands, that kind of sex. I need to have some bond in place. That does not have to be love. I do very much need to like her as a person. As so many other things it is not black and white. It feels more like a spectrum to me. -
Red, Green, Blue, RAINBOW GOATS!
allhailtheglowcloud replied to the bumbling rotifer's topic in AVEN Arcade
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My aversion to sex could destroy my relationship.
Sally replied to AvocaEden's topic in Members Questioning
Despite my not being really knowledgeable enough to be able to make this statement, I will: you will never get to that stage. Do not allow him to continue to have that hope. It is unfair to you, and unfair to him. Even without the difference in your sexual orientations, he wants children and you don't, and that's a recipe for unhappiness, whether you have them or don't have them. One of you will eventually transmit your unhappiness to the child. Don't add more frustrating years to the 7 you're already put in; please consider attempting to turn your frustrated relationship into friendshi -
Hey, nice to see you again! How have you been? Yeah, I joined in August too and it still feels like I'm new. Oh no, why is your support system crumbling apart? Are you okay? Also: I wasn't around much the last couple of days. School has been stressing me out. But now are holidays so I'm probably going to be more active...
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Our family car is gray with a silverish tint
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Does anyone only experiences arousal towards the gender they're romantically interested in, and if yes, it's not everyone in that gender group, no?
Frameshift07 replied to KaiFive's topic in Asexual Musings and Rantings
That does sound poorly worded, but everything else checks out. -
Does anyone only experiences arousal towards the gender they're romantically interested in, and if yes, it's not everyone in that gender group, no?
Sarah-Sylvia replied to KaiFive's topic in Asexual Musings and Rantings
You think of arousal as attraction? -
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Hi y'all, My name is [Redacted] how are you? Anyone up for some chattin'?
Sister Mercurial replied to TON618's topic in Welcome Lounge
Hello and welcome! Here's a Milky Way cake: -
My aversion to sex could destroy my relationship.
AvocaEden replied to AvocaEden's topic in Members Questioning
Thank you everyone for all your advice and input on my situation. Your responses have made me think and feel less alone, but also made me question so much more. A lot of you have said many of the same things, so I'll just respond to all: @Liara @Fishandplants @everywhere and nowhere @Satan @uhtred @RoseGoesToYale @The Sword I do not believe my partner is at fault here, as some of you have implied. It is not his fault he loves me enough to stay despite knowing my reluctance for sex; he has been 100% faithful to me throughout our relationship, he has never forced himself -
I think arousal works like other forms of attraction, in that when there's a gendered element to it in some ways, it usually doesn't encompass everyone of that entire gender. There could be aesthetic things at play, for example, that don't equate to "this person is so beautiful I feel sexual desire towards them" but rather "this aesthetic puts me at ease in some ways that sets me up for arousal". In my personal experience, arousal also has a ton of other variables at play, like general mood, setting, context, overall wellness at that point, etc.
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You have just summed up my experience better than I ever could tbh. Reading your words brought me comfort. So thank you. The grey area really does suck to be in sometimes because I’m certain I’m somewhere on this ace spectrum but where exactly seems impossible to pinpoint. I’m 22, a constant over thinker, and I have never had a real bf or sex. And sometimes that makes this whole grey area more difficult. despite the fact that I’ve never found someone I’ve wanted to enact my fantasies with, nor do I have a desire to enact my fantasies idk, there is always that “what if” in the back of
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Does anyone only experiences arousal towards the gender they're romantically interested in, and if yes, it's not everyone in that gender group, no?
Sarah-Sylvia replied to KaiFive's topic in Asexual Musings and Rantings
Hey @KaiFive I'm kind of wondering why you're worried about feeling arousal. Certain things or dynamics can be arousing. It doesn't mean you want to do things about it especially if you don't want to. I'm not sure exactly what your concern is. -
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Hi y'all, My name is [Redacted] how are you? Anyone up for some chattin'?
nickolekuebler replied to TON618's topic in Welcome Lounge
you can message me if you would like. I'm at work right now and don't have much left to do. so I have about 3 hours of boredom ahead of me. -
C:! Glad you liked it~ I do I do, mostly stuff like melodeath and black metal, but I also really love fusions, like lots of folk metal and stuff like that, too. This is a softer almost goth/metal type sound that I think is really nice.
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sleepywillow started following TON618
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That sounded super cool! I liked the synth a lot. Also- you like metal? What kind?
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I'm an asexual lesbian. i don't feel sexual attraction towards anyone, obviously, but can be aroused by (sometimes) by watching lesbian porn but not with men, or like the two times girls played footsie, but not with the boy (all of that was in high school). I just found it strange I guess. That i'm not sexually attracted towards anyone but romantically am. And can only be aroused by women. Then I was worrying ( I also have ocd) that I could be aroused by any female who, like played footise with me or touched my foot, even if I don't want to be if that makes sense. Does anyone else only experie