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  2. SweetTart

    Non Sexual Sleep Ritual?

    It's not really a habit for me personally, just something I do sometimes because it feels good v('-' )v If I just want to go to sleep instead I usually listen to asmr or gamegrumps compilations. It helps me keep my mind from overworking and keeping me up.
  3. daveb

    2020 U.S. Presidential Race

    Well, we've already tried an orangutan... Trump got elected
  4. NordicNoir

    Word association game

    Black hole
  5. Ardoise

    Non Sexual Sleep Ritual?

    Chamomile tea will make you sleepy, but it also virtually ensures that you will need to get up in the middle of the night to wee.
  6. Ardoise

    Blossoming Spring Flowers

    I always have to go over and smell them.
  7. Ardoise

    Has anyone had any strange dreams recently?

    Probably because I was at a lecture on paleontology the night before...
  8. Ardoise

    Has anyone had any strange dreams recently?

    I had a fantastic dream last night which involved riding a Utahraptor.
  9. CBC

    CBC

    I swear, nine out of ten times a thread is derailed, I'm involved. Even if it's not totally my fault, I'm involved. I think it's a talent?

    1. Snao Cone

      Snao Cone

      Tbh I'm kind of disappointed that the thread is being split for going off topic. I didn't think it was that far off, and I don't mind it when things go that way. 

  10. timewarp

    Red, Green, Blue, RAINBOW GOATS!

    I do think it's a good idea.
  11. Ardoise

    What if humans were marsupials?

    Reminds me of seahorses. We'd have a good deal more gender equality if we had a similar setup.
  12. Slice of Ace

    I guess I'm confused again. Is this asexual?

    I hope you all don't mind me chipping in to this discussion. Personally, I would define sex as an activity involving more than one person and genital stimulation performed for pleasure. That would include typical sex, mutual masturbation, rubbing genitals against someone, oral sex etc. I'm not sure if that's accurate, but it's the best I've come up with for the moment. Thus, from this definition and that of sexual attraction, an asexual wouldn't desire any of those activities for their own pleasure. Amongst sexual people, there are a wide variety of preferences. For example, in the gay community the term 'side' is sometimes used for guys who don't like anal sex (A.K.A. "normal" gay sex). Of course, if anyone wants to label themselves as ace outside of that definition, that's completely fine. That's just me trying to make sense of the madness that is human sexuality 😅
  13. PrismaticDream

    Red, Green, Blue, RAINBOW GOATS!

    Nah.
  14. Don’t disagree, but this could potentially be more nuanced; If the person is hyperaesthetic and hypersensual they could get aroused from looking at a body part and they could get more aroused from making contact with a body part, whilst not actually experiencing sexual attraction. Sounds like this would need to be thought through to see if the person is desiring partnered sexual intercourse/activity or just using it as a masturbatory aid to relieve arousal. This is just an extrapolation to the extreme of what I experience and what others have shared on AVEN, which may or may not be accurate, but possibly worth some thought @Mike_Rophone.
  15. Welcome to AVEN! I can relate somewhat to your feelings. I was a virgin (still am) when I found out and identified as asexual back in 2005. Up to then I thought I was heterosexual and the fact that I had never had sex (I was 44 at the time) still bothered me to some extent. Since identifying as ace and reading other folks' experiences, I'm OK in knowing that there is nothing wrong in not engaging in sexual activity.
  16. bluedragonwings

    For 30-somethings and those around that age

    See that’s a trade off. I find it stupid but understand it. But when people where it “out” and still dislike them.... i have enough problems existing, I don’t want to add more if they don’t at least prevent others.
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  18. nineGardens

    Quickly, Before They See!

    5...
  19. SpaceEll

    Word association game

    Astrophysics
  20. Mz Terry

    The Banning Game!

    Banned for being the Speedy Gonzales of Arcade and JFF.
  21. Squirrel Combat

    Squirrel Combat

    Baabaakookook!

    1. CajunAce

      CajunAce

      kookkookabook

  22. Mz Terry

    Red, Green, Blue, RAINBOW GOATS!

    How about blue one?
  23. timewarp

    Red, Green, Blue, RAINBOW GOATS!

    Nope.
  24. Laurann

    I think I might actually be ace?

    @washingup ah okay, that makes sense. Thanks for explaining Still, I think more people than you'd think understand that society treats people differently based on how they look. You're not alone in that I'd say most people know that, and hate when people judge them based on how they look, yet also still judge others like that, because it is unfortunately baked into our brains. In my original post I didn't reply to your question because I wasn't sure what exactly meant and how to help you, but now that I see that not a lot of other people have volunteered, I'll give it a shot, but you do need to help me and clarify a couple of things, then my answers will be more accurate In general it is accepted that the gender(s) you are attracted to are for the most part not influenced by how you were raised, however, your 'type' can be influenced by experience. If you dated a person who had a certain haircut, and liked that relationship, then people you meet later who have that same haircut might remind you of that person, and you might be more likely to be attracted to them. This is also why people say 'girls date their fathers', meaning 'girls look for traits in men that remind them of their fathers'. That phrase is obviously hopelessly heteronormative, but I think you understand what I'm getting at. Experience influences your type, but generally not the gender(s) you are attracted to. With their 'behavior' did you mean who they date? Because your gender doesn't determine your sexual/romantic orientation. I'm not sure I understand what you meant here. Could you clarify? Or did you mean whether their mannerisms are masculine, feminine or neither? Or did you mean whether your gender identity is innate? I'm copy-pasting a bit I wrote earlier, to make sure we are using the same terminology in the same way so communication will be easier: But if you are neurodivergent and have more trouble understanding social conventions like gender roles, you might have more trouble 'instinctively emulating' women, men or whomever than neurotypical people. This might be an explanation for why you don't feel like your behavior goes counter to your male socialization. But I could be way off. I don't know you. Well that is Google-able. Try lesbian and bisexual YouTubers rather than porn for more accuracy. There are some YouTubers who talk about what that is like. Would you want to have sex with a woman if you did have female organs? This may change over the course of your transition, as it does for some trans people, or it may not. It may be too early to tell for you. Simply appreciating someone's looks is not sexual attraction. The question is do you want to have sex with anyone? If the answer is no, that sounds ace to me (at least for now, you don't know what you will want further on in your transition), if yes then that doesn't sound ace to me. I'm not sure if this has been clear to you. There is a lot in your post that I don't really understand, so I'm not sure if what I wrote is relevant to your situation, but this is the best I could do. I think it would be helpful if you talked more about what you would ideally want in a relationship sexually speaking (you are aromantic, I am aware, but I am not necessarily talking about romantic relationships here, could be queerplatonic, or just sexual). Asexuality is most commonly defined as a lack of sexual attraction, but since 'sexual attraction' is a very vague and often misunderstood concept, a secondary definition is 'a lack of innate desire for partnered sex.' Do you have a desire for partnered sex?
  25. Lockylocks

    #AsexualProblems

    This is more of a Demiromantic problem I guess. Taking forever to develop romantic feelings for someone. And by then having been friend zoned because the other person has moved on and whatever romantic interest they might have had for me is long gone.
  26. TavvyKat

    Romantic orientation

    I, too, said I was aromantic for some time-! I was questioning for a while, but I have recently found myself to be Biromantic. It's okay not to know for certain, and as others have said, romantic orientation can change over time-! Saying you're biromantic with a preference for girls does leave you more open, but if that doesn't feel like who you are, it's okay to be homoromantic. However, nobody can tell you what is and isn't love. That is something only you can figure out, as everyone experiences it differently. I... Hope this was somewhat helpful, but I am still kind of new to all of this.
  27. Hunji Qi

    Alphabetical "Better than sex" game

    Ice creams are better than sex (especially the vanilla ones, they are awesome)!
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