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  2. Sea horse

    Asexual Parents Thread

    It's hard to know whether to tell them! My daughter is always aware of what I'm doing (probably because it's been just the two of us for most of her life) and she does keep trying to see what I'm doing when I'm on this site. She hasn't asked me anything, so I'm not going to tell her, even though I've always tried to be quite open. I think sometimes it's better to come out with the truth rather than leave things to the imagination, as the imagination can conjure up scary things!! But in this case I feel like just explaining what asexuality is (which I tried to do, and she already knew about it) will be enough. Her best friend at school seemed like he might be gay (even his mum would ask his friends if he had come out to them yet), so we had a lot of discussions about it. I know her attitudes are all in the right place!
  3. MissMidnight


    Class reunion... well the messenger chat for it is rather stupid and people go off topic alot. They are also now asking for $50 per head to be sent to 1 person bank account its odd. Plus when you total up the amount of people going to $50 a head it adds up to alot more than the cost of hiring out the room at the pub.... hmm. I seem to be getting more reasons to not attend ^.^Ā 

  4. Foula

    New person saying hello

    What are you thinking of studying?
  5. Since I never felt I could fit society norms, living my life in my own terms and having plenty of good friends would definitely make me feel fulfilled. I hope I can achieve this very soon.
  6. Nowhere Girl

    Reference books and other stuff poll

    Since I work with language, I have several dictionaries at home. - Thesaurus of Polish language (3 volumes); - Dictionary of foreign words; - Spelling dictionary of Polish (I never really need it - even in first grade I made about one spelling error per semester because I was already an active reader and just absorbed the knowledge how are words spelled); - Dictionary of correct language forms; - Dictionary of Polish phrases; - Thesaurus of German language (one huge volume which weighs at least two kilograms)*; - several Polish-English dictionaries; - several Polish-German dictionaries; - Polish-French dictionary; - two Polish-Russian dictionaries; - Polish-Latin dictionary in two volumes (blue one for P-L combination and red one for L-P); - small Polish-Norwegian dictionary; - large English-Norwegian dictionary; - Polish-Ukrainian dictionary (unfortunately pretty low quality); - Polish-English medical dictionary (my mom is an ophthalmologist and helping her with English-language papers and presentations prepared me for translating medical texts); - Polish-German medical dictionary (by the way, as with the Latin dictionary, they come from the same series: the English one is blue and the German one green). Plus tourist phrasebooks (Polish-Czech, Polish-Ukrainian and Polish-French), a work called "Dictionary of troublesome words" which is rather a work on correct language usage (apart from single words which are often mistaken or spelled incorrectly, it includes more general entries such as "folk etymology", "analogy", "contamination")... I also very often use online dictionaries when translating something - they are just much faster to work with, the only problem is that they are a) not always fully reliable, and b) dependent on content of source dictionaries which is transferred into the web... For example ling.pl is a quick multi-language dictionary, but its database for German is much smaller than for English (often I need to refer to other online dictionaries, a paper dictionary, in rare cases I encounter such obscure and obsolete words that even the Wahrig thesaurus doesn't list them). As for English, it annoys me that for some reason - maybe the Polish-English military dictionary just happened to be the first to be transferred? - military usages pop up first, and they really are rarely the most needed ones... I wish they sorted dictionaries with the most general ones coming up first. I have quite a lot of dictionaries alone, but also note that I have about 3000 books at home. *By the way, I checked it - its size is (in centimeters) approx. 28x20,5x8 cm. However, I can't weigh it - my kitchen scale has a limit of two kilograms and I'm afraid of damaging it, and I don't have any other scale at home. I find myself absolutely unable to accurately estimate weight with my hands and distance, length, volume etc. with my eyes.
  7. Neutral Charge

    New person saying hello

    Welcome to Aven! I completely understand what you mean, i feel the same way, you are not alone in feeling that way towards sex and the act of sex. Also well done for doing university study, im 31 and i have been working towards gathering funds and motivation to start the school i never had a chance to go to before, its inspiring seeing people not giving up on learning no matter the age so thanks for that again, welcome !
  8. skullery

    Ace terminology

    But you probably wouldn't engage in sensual activities with children either, right? Or romantic? I wouldn't share a sexual fantasy with a child, or caress their hand... I wouldn't let my lips linger near their neck... you get my point. Lots of inappropriate behaviors that still wouldn't be considered sexual activity. Making out... I think all I can say on that topic is... it's certainly sexual the way I do it.
  9. Arodash

    Incredibly Ace Moments

    Aww im sorry he couldnt take it seriously. Sometimes people cant take a hint or understand. Not. Everything. Is sexual lol
  10. Celyn

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  11. Foula

    New person saying hello

    Hello! I'm new here, I don't really do introductions very well. I'm a trans woman in my early 30s and I'm a university student - I've started university just a little late! I live in the UK. I'm struggling with sexuality. I'm not a virgin, I've had sex in the past but I've never really been able to unpack my sexuality from my gender. Sex has always left me feeling cold and empty afterwards, and all I do is wish I was out of there and back in my own comfortable bed, by myself. Even transitioning hasn't made me enjoy it any more. I just feel used and dirty after I've done it, while everyone around me - especially other trans women - seem to treat sex like the core of their identity. I can't help feeling like there's so much more we could be achieving if we weren't spending so much time on the pursuit of sex. I've got my work and studies to concentrate on, everyone's got meaningful things they could be doing for the world but we spend so much of our energy as a human race on trying to get naked with other people. Anyway, sorry for the rant! I can't pretend I'll be a frequent poster, but I want a space where I can discuss this stuff with (hopefully) like-minded others.
  12. Celyn

    Change one letter (5 letters edition)

  13. Nowhere Girl

    Sexy Lingerie?

    Nope. Even if nobody would see me in that underwear, I would personally feel uncomfortable in skimpy lingerie. For two reasons: - because it's physically skimpy and therefore doesn't cover everything in a comfortable way; - because of its associations with sex appeal - and I actively want to be sexually unattractive. My typical set of underwear (with the socks sometimes skipped in the summer) consist of: - "grandma pants" - pure cotton, reaching from the waist to the groin and fully covering the buttocks; - a sports bra with a fair percentage of cotton (I'm allergic to animal-based and synthetic fabrics, so I avoid wearing them whenever I can); - a male vest (undershirt) without sleeves and reaching all the way to the collarbone; - colourful cotton socks (never "boat socks" - I feel physically unpleasant with my ankles uncovered and I only allow direct contact of the shoe with naked skin in two kinds of shoes: sandals and house slippers).
  14. Neutral Charge

    My name is Jasen...

    Welcome to Aven! i know it was a big release and sense of freedom for me when i understood that missing detail that put things into place, so i hope it feels as nice for you as it did for me, im glad you found a bit more of yourself and i hope that makes your life clearer and more pleasant in the long run Cheers! šŸ––
  15. orlahirish

    Eunuch/Gender Nullification Surgery

    Generally, operation won't influence your voice at all. Although, you should take certain medications and hormones before the surgery in the period of time even up to one year and hormones could certainly affect your voice in the way you don't want to. Better talk to a surgeon who has enough experience to be sure. essay writing service
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  17. Also the hunger/thinking food looks yummy analogy was awesome
  18. As a scientist, that's a sign of a really well written survey because they want to be as sure as they can that the data is valid. An I'll second @HonoraryJedi that it says in the request that they are looking for "anyone, ace or not" to respond, so of course questions will be allo inclusive.
  19. JasenIsMe

    My name is Jasen...

    and after four years of trying to navigate a relationship. Of trying to figure out why I just couldn't/didn't/wouldn't want to have sex. Of trying to figure out what was wrong with me. What was broken. I've found my answer. Nothing. Nothing is wrong with me. See. I have operated under the assumption that I am gay. And it is true. I do find appeal in men, and I couldn't picture any companion of mine not being a male. Somehow it wouldn't feel right. Be right. And I do want a companion. Someone to go through life together with, to cuddle, to watch lame tv comedies after long days at work, to get frustrated when they can beat the stage or the boss I have been stuck on for hours on end. But I was missing a piece. I stopped at gay, and I assumed that was all there is. I'm also asexual. I won't say that I'm not attracted to the concept of sex. And the amount of kinks I have found that I find appeal in are rather frightening. But I prefer to read about it than to do. I tried a few different relationships and none of them could last. At first I assumed just a mismatch of interest, or maybe a lack of compatibility. But as evident by my last two relationships I just don't have the drive, nor the desire for it. And especially with the last break up so fresh I wish I did. But I don't. And that is just something that I have to accept about myself. So. Hello all! My name is Jasen, and I'm an asexual.
  20. Naberius

    Hi! I'm new here's a bit about me

    Welcome. As a new user here's your welcome cake. Maybe I've got more books but also have manga. It's just 4 I just don't have more money to buy manga šŸ˜‚ Me too. I remember when I was writing books on Wattpad but I day stopped. I think I must to back to this 'cuz story was really fine or write for myself and will try to publish own book I have two wonderful ideas. Maybe one day haha
  21. naakka

    Incredibly Ace Moments

    We used to message with one of my male friends on fb. He would often interpret my comment on a sexual way, and it took way too long for me to even realize that (even though, looking back, he was clearly sexting but I was clueless), so he thought I was "playing along" with "an innocent girl" role. I'd say I think he misinterpreted me but he never took it seriously, so I had no choice but cut all contact with him. Maybe we were close to start dating or something in his head thank god we lived on the opposite sides of the country.
  22. Celyn

    Trans Moments?

    I just wanted whichever one was an animal.
  23. Nima Kat

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  24. Nima Kat

    Change one letter (3 letter variety)

  25. Nima Kat

    Alphabetical "Better than sex" game

    Violet, like the bottom stripe of the ace flag, is bts .
  26. Nima Kat

    why are we here on earth?

    because, even though there's been a lot of talk about it, we haven't managed to start colonizing other planets yet, which I think is probably a bad idea as well... but until then, we're here.
  27. Latedev

    Re- building trust

    Thanks for the encouragement. Your suggestions are helpful in how best to initiate communication and keep the channels open. A therapist could be useful but we live rurally and Iā€™m not convinced online therapy would work for us. I agree, empathy is key and it is up to me to keep us on the right path.
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