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  2. Grey-Ace Ventura

    Hello Everyone!

    @Strange-quark I love your zodiac cake! I might steal that idea the next time I make one
  3. Aebt

    I’m asexual right??

    Only you can answer those questions, and you might not be able to answer them until much later in life. You might be asexual or you might not, it is very hard to definitively prove a negative. I do know statistically by age 18 98% of people have felt sexual attraction, and at least two major studies have found that about 1% of the population is asexual so by age 18 if you have not felt sexual attraction you have a 50% you are asexual, the other 50% would be that you are a late bloomer. I do not know statistically by age 16, but the percentage who have experienced sexual attraction at age 16 is above 50%.There are some on here who would disagree with those figures, but the two most comprehensive studies have found about 1% and that number seems reasonable to fit with the other data available. And with that out of the way, Welcome to AVEN!🍰 Since you are 16 you might want to check out the Teen Corner, that is where some of us teens hang out.
  4. It sounds like you have managed to avoid most unwanted attention and maybe that's because you seem so sure of who you are. That's an amazing thing that I hope to achieve. I'm even older I should say (46!), I am quite new to all of this, I'm trying to work out why all of my past disasters have happened so that I can avoid any more...I think it is because I have not been clear in my own head about how I feel and that I have the right to feel this way! I could also respect someone living at the margin of society, although I couldn't do it either! But by sociopath I meant more 'psychopath' I guess - someone who doesn't understand or care about other people's feeling, lies all the time, can be abusive etc.
  5. Thank you for the cake lol ❤️ It really means a lot to me since I was nervous talking about this to other people so decided to come here where I could get advice and feedback on my feelings from other asexuals 😊 I mean I do love hugging and cuddling a lot, and honestly have had a craving for it recently, but it's because I've been feeling unsafe in my feelings lately, especially with the break up where it was caused because she didn't feel like I was treating her like a girlfriend/felt the romantic feelings anymore for me (and it sucked because I felt them hardcore and was absolutely happy with her, but she is a lot more highly sexual than me, and has respected I don't feel sexual especially in the beginning.) Hell she would be completely naked around me and I wouldn't feel sexual stuff, it mostly was "wow she's beautiful I'm lucky to be with her" versus when I walked out naked and would make comments on my figure being appealing, which would sometimes make me uncomfortable and make me cover myself, but I also trusted her in my feelings of being exposed like that. To the PS- wow I didn't know it wasn't uncommon for that to be normal thing for the ace community. I'm still learning about this type of stuff even though I wanna learn more. To the PPS- that is comforting to hear that, since most of my life I've heard it is connected and was always confused when it happened to me but it didn't go towards someone at all.
  6. Ardoise

    Hello Everyone!

    Welcome to the forum! Enjoy your cake and validation.
  7. Telecaster68

    Retrospective Perspective

    My high spot was my wife's response when I asked her how she felt about is never having sex. 'It's just something we used to do when we were younger, like going to clubs....' Oh and apparently sex having any emotional component was 'a man thing'.
  8. Ardoise

    My Partner Seeing Me Without Makeup

    If he thinks you're ugly without your makeup, then he's a shallow person who doesn't deserve you.
  9. Hey, everyone. 💜 I'm not sure what I'm looking for here; I might just need to vent a little bit. I mentioned in a post that I'd recently met someone special, someone that I really care about and want to spend the rest of my life with. Things are getting pretty serious between us, but the one thing that's nagging me is that I'm self-conscious about how I look without makeup. I don't hate my face, nor do I think I look ugly, or that I'm prettier with makeup on--it's just that I'm so used to people seeing me that way. I always wear makeup whenever I leave the house. To top it off, he's even mentioned that I don't have to wear makeup around him, so I don't have much to worry about, it's just...nerve-wrecking, because I guess I worry about how attractive he'll find me. As I said, I don't know what I'm looking for, and posting this on a website devoted to asexuality is probably not helping. I guess maybe...advice? Insight? Console? A way to amp myself up for it? Anything would help. I'm going to wipe off my makeup for him the next time I'm over at his place, like ripping off a band-aid, so I need all the encouragement I can get. 😅 Thanks in advance!
  10. I mean define "sexual desire" sorry I'm confused by the words and meaning 😅 I mean the idea of being that close to someone is nice in the feeling, but I just don't feel sex is the answer? I'm not repulsed by the idea at all, but it just doesn't appeal me in my life? Especially with my past with sex and especially when I lost my virginity not being my choice. Some people have told me it's probably only because of my past with relationships and my fear of getting too close to people then getting hurt. Which is true in a way, but it doesn't stop the fact that sex still isn't my top priority. Thank you by the way for the welcome ❤️ I wanted to ask other people on the asexual spectrum these questions but don't have anyone I am close to that are part of it, and I found this site and decided to jump the shark for my own betterment since it's been bugging me for a while.
  11. Nima

    A Sentence Forming Game

    Dumbledore's wizards envision ludicrous lengths in new Gryffindor scarves.
  12. Strange-quark

    What is a rather strange or rare hobby that you have?

    Oooh that's too true
  13. PoeciMeta

    What is a rather strange or rare hobby that you have?

    Yeah, that and languages. Basically I'm too lazy to push myself to learn that stuff even if I want to. Eh '-'
  14. Lee ✧

    Welcome our new Moderator

    Congratulations! I know you'll be great!
  15. Gabrielle13

    I’m asexual right??

    Alright so I’m almost 16, yes I know I’m young but just hear me out. I have never felt sexually attracted to anyone, at all. I’ve had crushes on guys before and I love gushing over cute guys with my girlfriends. And I love the idea of getting a boyfriend and being in love. I’ve been called a hopeless romantic. But I’ve never been interested in having sex with any guy, even the guys whom I’ve had massive crushes on. I told my mom that and she was like “wait so did you like them or not?”. My whole life I’ve never been able to connect sexual desires/attraction to love/romantic attraction. I was feeling sort of broken until I recently found the term asexual and this site. But I’ve been told that it’s because of my age, or that I just haven’t met the right guy yet?
  16. Lee ✧

    Body hair

    Yeah, aloe is my best friend. That shit moisturizes my skin like nothing else, especially when the seasons change and my skin dries out and starts peeling. 😬
  17. Laplace

    Incredibly Ace Moments

    Ugh, such an unseemly and depraved act. What’s next? Head-pats? Scandalous. 😤 I’ve never really held anyone’s hand for a significantly extended period of time beyond instances where it is required of me. I often consider extended physical contact that isn’t actively required by some sort of activity or simple greetings really intimate so I tend to avoid it. Though I guess it’s kinda cozy when animals huddle up to you.
  18. daveb

    Flags and Vexillology

    For me the smileys just show as small 2 letter country codes.
  19. Phie

    I need help for my book

    for context, I'm still not quite sure, but basically I don't think I feel sexual attraction to people, I don't know if I've ever felt strong romantic attraction, I'm sure I can find pretty much anyone aesthetically appealing and I seem to have a preference for girls in general (I connect to girls way better, I'm generally either fine with physical contact or like it when I know her well enough, physical contact with guys feels weird or outright repulsive, things like that) What made me question in the first place was a relationship with a guy (it really disgusted me and I felt broken, like I could never truly love anyone), then I was asked if I was into girls a few times and it really confused me how anyone could think that Especially in the beginning, I felt like I was faking something (and guilty about it) because I started questioning my sexuality at a time when most of my friends seemed to be very sure of theirs already (several friends had come out to me years before, as pan/bi/gay/ace) and I thought I knew all about the different orientations. Looking back, there are quite a few things that make more sense to me now , but I keep thinking "what if you're overanalyzing things because you just want to feel special?" Every so often, I find myself looking at almost every stranger I see on public transport and asking myself whether I would like to sleep with them or kiss them or go on a date with them and so on, that goes on for a few days at a time and I end up exactly where I started, I hate when it happens I'm out as "not straight" to a few people at uni who are also not straight and that feels very nice because we can relate to each other and they don't assume I want to get married to a man one day and have children (most other people in my life do, to varying degrees), I've realized how much I have always tried to appear "normal" to other people (and to myself) and it's very liberating to be able to drop that pretense hope this helps you, I'd love to read your book one day
  20. NordicNoir

    One random word in Alphabetical order

    Becoming
  21. NordicNoir

    Word association game

    Intact
  22. NordicNoir

    Yum or Yuck!

    Yum! I am actually not a fan if al dente anything. Cilantro/koriander?
  23. Gentle Giant

    The Banning Game!

    Banned for getting caught by Mr. Whipple for squeezing the Charmin.
  24. daveb

    anyone past 50 on here?

    That's not very fair. Besides, I think you're forgetting about political offices.
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  26. CustardCream

    Quickly, Before They See!

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  27. Have some ascii cake as a welcome: $$ $$ $$ __||__||__||__ |* * * * * * * *| |* * * * * * * *| |* * * * * * * *| |______________| It seems that what you assume to be sexual attraction is simply aesthetic attraction. You certainly seem to be ace and probably feel romantic attraction. Kissing and hugging and such can also be classified as sensual attraction, so you may be asensual. P.S. Most aces don't have control over what they find attractive. That would be like being *able* to not find puppies cute. It isn't only allosexual to find someone handsome or pretty. P.P.S. You mentioned random arousal and masturbation. Plenty of Aces masturbate and feel arousal. Libido and arousal aren't necessarily attached to sexual attraction.
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