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  2. Alejandrogynous

    I did hurt my boyfriend's ego

    So his mood improved after you agreed to a rematch? If so, it sounds like it was the judo that upset him even if he insists it isn't, and if that's the case, I hope you don't go easy on him. It's unfair and manipulative of him to insist you give him another chance to win and then make it so the outcome is either you win again and his mood stays bad or you lose and have to do his chores. He's setting you up to lose either way. Of course that's all IF it's really why he was upset, I obviously can't really know. From your description though, it sounds pretty shitty.
  3. Skycaptain

    anyone past 50 on here?

    Civilisation has taken a major step forward. The coffee shop has reopened - cashless and takeaway only, but it's still coffee!! 😋😋🎉 🎉
  4. Lifesaver

    Red, Green, Blue, RAINBOW GOATS!

  5. GeniusWithWings

    hi! im new here :))

    Welcome to AVEN! 🎂🍰 I hope you find this community helpful and informative. I know I have.
  6. GeniusWithWings

    Hi! I'm New!

    Welcome to AVEN! 🍰🎂 Sailor moon was one of my favourites to watch when I was younger. Also your profile picture is really cool.
  7. I’m nearing the end of a psychology degree, so I’m still learning but here’s my take. It sounds like she’s a Freudian and trying to take a psychoanalytical approach (big words but bear with me). So those people believe that inner psychological conflict causes physical symptoms. I.e heart disease can be caused by a broken heart or what you said down below So being Freudian she would believe that most things are to do with sexual desire (I’m not an expert but I don’t think the theory leaves room for Asexuality). And another thing they beleive is that people repress their desires into their unconscious minds because of various reasons (such as trauma). Only when the person becomes defensive, frustrated and denies things is when the therapist can know they’ve touched on something repressed. So to her the more frustrated you get and deny your allo sexuality, the more it may seem you’ve repressed it. Personally I think Freudian theory is mostly BS. And it’s really quite unscientific. So I would suggest asking her if this is her approach, and then maybe asking her to lay off those ideas of find a therapist who uses more modern scientific approaches. p.s I’m still learning so I may have got some stuff about the theory wrong. OR maybe the therapist is not taking this approach which is completely likely
  8. OptimisticPessimist

    Podcast for work - ideas welcome

    What Asexuality is and isn’t, and the difference between Asexuality and Aromanticism would be good too as well as QPR’s. What Ace people deal with.
  9. We don't even have the starting point - that's the problem. You keep saying it's "difficult to define", which still implies it's possible to do so. Do you actually mean it's impossible to define? What is the element of the friendship that would necessarily prompt someone to ask to define the relationship differently? What are the attribute(s) of QPR that are not comfortably accommodated within friendship? For romantic relationship that's easy: romantic feelings - i.e. deeply loving someone - and wanting to build a long-term partnership that facilitates said love.
  10. isabelle123

    I did hurt my boyfriend's ego

    Hi, Thx for your answers. Yersterday as the Last days he was saying nothing liké he was sad for no reason so I asked him again to tell me what happen and if it’s Cause of judo and apologize for the teasing... Hé answer no, everything is good. And even for judo He wants à rematch He was not in good Shape the last time bla bla bla… I said no it goes to far anyway who care who win? He insist and even propose à bet the looser do the housework part of other until summer end. I was a bit mad I confess he tried to make me do his part because I do almost all the chores alone since the beggining of our relationship… Because I dont want to stay in that glacial atmosphère I finally said yes… And we had à normal rest of day… And so we’ll do our “rematch” today
  11. MichaelTannock

    hi! im new here :))

    @thisiscams Welcome to AVEN! Don't be afraid to be different is something I wish I'd been told. Incidentally, it is a tradition here to welcome new members by offering cake, and here's a "Todd" cake (all edible), https://www.reddit.com/r/BoJackHorseman/comments/es6ykt/hooray_a_todd_cake/
  12. Alejandrogynous

    Favorite Types of Books

    Yeah, usually "chapter books" refers to intermediate level children's books, so this took me a moment to understand too.
  13. N8LV3y

    Do you brush your teeth twice daily?

    Yep yep and pick them if I eat lunch since I have braces. Which should have been taken off by now but my dentist is closed do to all this.
  14. MichaelTannock

    Hi! I'm New!

    @PinkMoon Welcome to AVEN! It is a tradition here to welcome new members by offering cake, and here's a "King Charles Ist bust" cake (all edible), https://cakesdecor.com/cakes/341304-king-charles-ist-bust-the-royal-challenge
  15. Kimchi Peanut


    1. One 2. Yes, I’m married
  16. I'm playing AVEN's advocate here but the reason the therapist is discussing this with you is because they do feel it's relevant to your issues and well, they are the trained professional after all. It's not really our place to comment or judge your therapist but maybe it's hard for you because it's supposed to be?
  17. Kimchi Peanut


    I don’t have any hobbies 😢
  18. Kimchi Peanut

    Age and sexuality

    24, I think. I assumed I was heterosexual until I was 18 and heard of demisexuality. Then when I was about 20, I thought maybe I was asexual. It wasn’t until I met my now husband that I really understood that heterosexual does not mean nymphomaniac. I decided to forgo labels because I don’t think they did me any good. They constrained my thinking. Since then, I’ve happily stuck to being myself and accepting whatever preferences float my boat.
  19. Kimchi Peanut

    Do you brush your teeth twice daily?

    Yes, of course??
  20. Kimchi Peanut

    Favorite Types of Books

    Novels and nonfiction so chapter books And then I really enjoy adult colouring and activity books as well
  21. Kimchi Peanut

    Ace specific therapist request

    I don’t know where you live but I’ve had therapy in both the US and UK and was able to research who I wanted to see - they generally have information online to help identify what sort of clients they specialise in. While I’m not LGBT+, I have had therapists who specifically specialised in that. I also recommend looking at what sort of style of therapy you think would suit you best.
  22. Jon A.

    The 2K2_ Shoe Thread

    I've ran across nomenclature like that in old schematic diagrams. In those cases it refers to a 2.2 Kilohm resistor. The same schematic could bring me close to tearing my hair out at other times, giving only obsolete set manufacturer part numbers instead of telling me what I actually need. If I'm lucky I can read the codes on the actual parts with a bright light and a magnifying glass. Just some random trivia.
  23. LegolasAroAce

    How to know if you are also aromantic

    I'm glad I could help at all. Wow, that list seems to sums up a lot of what I've experienced as an Aro. I get what you mean about "signs that you may be aromantic" being true without realizing it. I tried to date three different times and in hindsight I was feeling most of the ways described on the list, but I had no language for what I was experiencing and so I thought the issue was with me not trying enough. AVEN actually helped me a lot before I even joined because I could see various descriptions of orientations all over the Aro and Ace Spectrums,
  24. MichaelTannock

    Is my therapist being thorough or dismissive?

    Welcome to AVEN! I'd point them here: https://blogs.iu.edu/kinseyinstitute/2018/04/13/asexuality-sexual-orientation/ And then if they continue to invalidate your sexual orientation, drop them as your Therapist. Incidentally, it is a tradition here to welcome new members by offering cake, and here's my favourite cake,
  25. dragoncookie425

    Red, Green, Blue, RAINBOW GOATS!

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