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  2. PurpleCat_With_WitchPowers

    corrupt the wish above.

    Granted, but you both are mute for the rest of your life. I wish granted wishes are no more corrupted.
  3. @Kat426 Welcome to AVEN! You could be an Aromantic Asexual. I'm probably not the best person to offer suggestions since I've never had or desired either sex or a romantic relationship, but have you thought about dating other Asexuals? Or a QPR? (Queerplatonic Relationship) http://wiki.asexuality.org/Queerplatonic Incidentally, it is a tradition here to welcome new members by offering cake, and here's a Snowman Cake,
  4. CustardCream

    anyone past 50 on here?

    Sounds good. It must be satisfying to harvest your own crops.
  5. Any indonesian asexual here? Boleh minta kontak? Ada ga yg mau nikah dg sesama aseksual?
  6. MichaelTannock

    Asexual Indian?!

    I'm sorry, I don't know what to suggest.
  7. Reca

    Indonesian asexual?

    Any indonesian asexual here? Yg mau nikah tapi dg sesama aseksual, ada?
  8. MichaelTannock

    Aromanticism in Relationships?

    Welcome to AVEN! Aromanticism is a lack of Romantic Attraction, which I define as leading to the desire to be in a romantic relationship with someone. I've never had romantic feelings, but I'd say yes, for the same reason an Asexual can experience arousal. Incidentally, it is a tradition here to welcome new members by offering cake, and here's a 'Woodlands, Meadow and Fields' Cake,
  9. Just Somebody

    Maybe demi female, still questioning

    Take this into consideration: -gender identities are just the words people might feel more like to call themselves at a given moment. You can also view them as boxes or the box you feel more comfortable and represented as being a part of at a given moment. -Gender expression is what people can noticed about you, including your clothes, behaviors, body type, name and pronouns, gender roles and gender stereotypes, etc. Having an gender non-conforming (gnc) gender expression doesn't make someone have an gender non-conforming Transgender identity. Having an masculine gender expression doesn't make someone a man, having a feminine gender expression doesn't make someone a woman , having an genderqueer gender expression doesn't make someone non-binary.
  10. Just Somebody

    Demigirl

    Take this into consideration: -gender identities are just the words people might feel more like to call themselves at a given moment. You can also view them as boxes or the box you feel more comfortable and represented as being a part of at a given moment. -Gender expression is what people can noticed about you, including your clothes, behaviors, body type, name and pronouns, gender roles and gender stereotypes, etc. Having an gender non-conforming (gnc) gender expression doesn't make someone have an gender non-conforming Transgender identity. Having an masculine gender expression doesn't make someone a man, having a feminine gender expression doesn't make someone a woman , having an genderqueer gender expression doesn't make someone non-binary.
  11. I kind of relate to the two of you. I call myself asexual because it is the most accurate word. Others may be "more asexual" than me - I've stopped bothering. While most of the appeal of sex is foreign to me, I do get parts of it. Nothing wrong with that. It's nobody else's business what exactly I'm willing to do with a potential partner.
  12. Just Somebody

    non binary - antiandrogens effects

    Some Transgender amab sex workers on hormones take viagra to maintain their jobs.
  13. True, although there's always a spectrum. (Not saying that you're wrong, because you're not. Just providing an additional perspective). A lot of aces might have experimented with sexual activity at some point, just to see what's the fuss about it. If you add being esthetically / sensually attracted to the other person involved, things can get really confusing... I mean, I think you're right. In that some degree of boundary-setting is needed in order to strike a balance between 'inclusion' and the meaning that the words 'a-/grey-sexuality' get across. I'm not saying we should stop telling people 'Actually, I'm not sure if your description matches asexuality...' in extreme cases, just that we should be aware of the tendency of the human mind to over-label things, and ask ourselves in the moment 'is this distinction really meaningful?' I believe that that shouldn't be a hard boundary. The thing about hard boundaries is that people who fall along the border of one label to another, on opposite sides, are probably more similar to each other than to people sharing their label. (think of personality quizzes, like MBTI. A person with 51% introversion score and 49% extroversion will be counted as an introvert, and a person with the reverse scores will be counted as an extrovert, even though they're awfully similar. And with personality types, most people actually fall in the middle). I believe it should be a fuzzy boundary and that, to some extent, people should be free to choose their own labels (even if it might be different labels for people with precisely the same characteristics, as listed in my previous post). I guess I've been a bit lengthy, but what I meant to get across it 'people are complicated, let's be considerate about it', that's all : )
  14. MichaelTannock

    Aromanticism in Relationships?

    I've moved this thread from 'Questions about Asexuality' to 'Romantic and Aromantic Orientations'. Michael Tannock, Open Mic moderator and Questions about Asexuality Co-moderator.
  15. Just Somebody

    the future of binding part 2 (genderfluidity)

    The big deal with binders is the cons that comes with their using. An ideal binder would be one that, while being able to compress big breast sizes to believable masculine proportions as it should, could also be comfortable to wear for long term if not life time (even if its just a few hours per day) as an alternative to not having to pass through the life threats of surgeries at all. Even the most popular and most accepted in general binders (because they do the compress job but also doesn't damage your body a lot in short term) that are the commercial binders brands, are still a lot uncomfortable for daily use even if it's used as recommended and just for some limited hours of socialization, causing a bunch of worries from smallest ones like rashes, blisters, allergies, chafing, and other skin diseases, sensibility loss in breasts, if not worst scenarios like cracked or broken ribs that could punctuate lungs and painfully kill. (You can Google studies on the researches about side effects of binder use, specially long term and even if used as brands recommend) As for my other post on the subject (part 1): https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/186339-tw-the-future-of-binding-genderfluidity/ Apparently, kinesiology tapes like the commercial brands KT tape and TransTape are somewhat of a popular progress as I heard if properly placed it doesn't interfere with breathing, ribs and lungs at all and the majority of the concerns that are very common are about skin diseases from usage like skin rashes, allergies, blisters, chafing, infections, etc. But still it's unknown what's the side effects of long term usage (let's say for decades ). Gender non-conforming (gnc ) including Transgender health, care and wellbeing has been ever since an neglected invisible research field with small payoffs.
  16. Perspektiv

    If you could life longer by taking somone elses body would you?

    Never. I guess having a couple health scares in my life, have forced me to both be aware of my mortality, and eventually--accepting it. I'm at a point in my life, I make the most of every single moment, aware I can go any day. Hopefully won't, but I'm okay with it. I think it brings an urgency to what I do with my moments, and how much passion I put into everything undertaken. I'd honestly hate to lose that, with the comfort of knowing I could just switch up bodies, at will. You lose enough loved ones, and realize, death (natural, of course) isn't so bad.
  17. Jonnyb7283

    Confused and need advice.

    Thank you, maybe this weekend I might try to talk about it. I’ll try to make it perfectly clear that I’m not looking for sex, but just looking for some emotional support and love from her
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  19. Skycaptain

    anyone past 50 on here?

    @cdrdash, that was a close thing. Note to people, a sudden increase in floaters, those things you see which are inside the eye, is an indication that something isn't right I just harvested my first two courgettes, or more accurately one courgette and a baby marrow, with six more on the way. Very good as I've only two plants
  20. Nine of Spades

    Incredibly Ace Moments

    Oh, I'm definitely "getting some" tonight. Getting some sleep.
  21. Hello Jodyd, you are not alone in your late discovery, a year and a half ago I posted here for the first time and my marriage has gone through a lot of adjustments since then. And I'm sure it won't stay like this forever. When I first arrived here, I was pointed towards the forum "Older Asexuals" where I found many similar stories like ours. Identical Twins with different sexual orientations is fascinating btw. Welcome to the site 🍰
  22. Quasar.w

    Incredibly Ace Moments

    Well maybe it actually means 'getting some.... CAKE' 😋❤️ Sorry had to do this, it's probably the only place I could get away with such a bad joke😅
  23. sofarfromreal87

    New to group, need to vent

    So... I am 34 yrs old. I have been in several relationships with males and females. I have slept with both genders. With males I felt like I was being raped, like I just did it for them to leave me alone. With females I sense some sort of attraction, but I do not know if it is sexual. I believe it is just a connection with someone, it's been 8 yrs now that I've been single, alone, no friends or family. I was in 3 serious relationships. 2 of those were long distance relationships, we only saw each other few times a year. Then my last relationship I was with him for 8 yrs. We might of had sex 5x in that amount of time. He never complained or want sex either. I ended up leaving him bc he chose not to work, play video games, and sleep all the time. Before that happened he was addicted to opiates. I got him off of them, but then he turned into this closed away person. I have been like that with most people, but he was different. We had a mental/personality/understanding connection. I left him 8 yrs ago, moved to a new state, 24 hrs away to start my life over. I loved him but he was treating me poorly for about 3 yrs. Anyways, went to FL to start over. I went on some dates, males, females. All wanting sex before I even knew their last name. I did find someone I could tolerate but he would beg me for sex and it was pure torture for me. So due to health issues I moved back to MI to live with my mom. I can no longer work. I'm just shattered bc this ex that I had left, I just want him back. Be with someone I love and not be pressured or feel obligated to have sex. He promised me we would get back together but it's been a year and a half since I've been back. He is not well. He is suffering from some severe depression. He is so skinny and looks horrible. He doesn't eat. Just stays in his room and sleeps. Never goes anywhere or talks to anyone. Few times I hear from him... He loves and misses me, he just needs time to sort things out. It is a hopeless cause. I'm terrified of ending up alone. This last 8 yrs have been a nightmare. I think I'm afraid that I won't find another person like him. I won't find a connection or another that does not desire sex.
  24. Rkod75

    Question About Dating Asexual Individuals :)

    I personally don't see anything wrong with a non-ace dating an asexual individual, provided that you are honest and straightforward about who you are and what you seek in a relationship with them, but I am curious to know why you specifically want to date an asexual if you yourself are not an asexual. I apologize if this comes off as too intrusive of a question, I don't condemn it in any way, I'm just trying to get a better understanding of what you're seeking.
  25. Ayra Star

    Alphabetical "Better than sex" game

    Flying on a pegasus is better than sex
  26. Ayra Star

    Yum or Yuck!

    Yum! Mozzarella cheese?
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