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My aversion to sex could destroy my relationship.
WhiteCatandcherries replied to AvocaEden's topic in Members Questioning
A part of the reason the asexual label exist is to say that we are not inherently wrong or broken and also that this is just how we are. You cant change your sexuality. If you cannot change your sexuality, and you are a sex repulsed asexual, then it is kinda wrong for him to hold out hope for you to change. It is not fair to either of you. I understand that you want to have the sex with him on an intellectual level. You probably also just want to be allosexual (non asexual). That is not uncommen. Being asexual (and sex averse) creates huge issues in a relationship with an allose -
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If I experienced "arousal" towards a "gender", I wouldn't be calling myself asexual.
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Yes, I do feel arousal towards females, am also romantically attracted by femals and yes, I do not experience arousal for every female. And yes, that's normal. For non-aces and aces (though maybe percentual a bit less for aces than for non-aces).
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I think that the most important thing in life is to feel like a human. What does it mean to be a human? I think to be a human is to have ability for love, compassion, suffering. For trans people transition deepen their humanity, their ability for love, compassion. Also keep in mind that people don't live in biological reality because we are not plants or simple animals. We live in cultural reality, and this reality is based on symbols and language (system of symbols), so in order to be happy we need the best path in this symbolic reality. And gender is important part of such reality. System o -
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My aversion to sex could destroy my relationship.
Liara replied to AvocaEden's topic in Members Questioning
As I already said, my partner is ace and sex-repulsed. She was my first partner. I never had sex with anyone else than her, at the very begininng of our relationship 25 years ago. And that was not great memories, sex never was nice or satifying when we tried. But... that doesn't mean I don't know what I miss. I know. And worse, I imagine. So, no, don't believe that he doesn't fully know what he is missing out. He knows. And like Sally said, that's a very bad idea to continue to have the hope it will get better. That's horrible. He MUST understand you will NEVER change. And so do you. That's -
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Windmills of My Mind replied to Chips7's topic in For Sexual Partners, Friends and Allies
And to take it yet another step further: to some it is somewhere in between. I can have fun sex with a person I am not deeply in love with. But I have no interest in anonymous hookups , one night stands, that kind of sex. I need to have some bond in place. That does not have to be love. I do very much need to like her as a person. As so many other things it is not black and white. It feels more like a spectrum to me. -
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My aversion to sex could destroy my relationship.
Sally replied to AvocaEden's topic in Members Questioning
Despite my not being really knowledgeable enough to be able to make this statement, I will: you will never get to that stage. Do not allow him to continue to have that hope. It is unfair to you, and unfair to him. Even without the difference in your sexual orientations, he wants children and you don't, and that's a recipe for unhappiness, whether you have them or don't have them. One of you will eventually transmit your unhappiness to the child. Don't add more frustrating years to the 7 you're already put in; please consider attempting to turn your frustrated relationship into friendshi -
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Does anyone only experiences arousal towards the gender they're romantically interested in, and if yes, it's not everyone in that gender group, no?
Frameshift07 replied to KaiFive's topic in Asexual Musings and Rantings
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Does anyone only experiences arousal towards the gender they're romantically interested in, and if yes, it's not everyone in that gender group, no?
Sarah-Sylvia replied to KaiFive's topic in Asexual Musings and Rantings
You think of arousal as attraction? -
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