About The Workshop

This workshop is designed to help asexuals have increased confidence, self-love and pride, in your asexual identity, through a series of reflective written exercises.
 
As asexuals, we can feel alone, left out, and isolated at times, that’s why it’s important to do things that increase your confidence, self-esteem and self-worth, and ultimately self-love, so you can lead a happier, more fulfilling life, and ACE it!
 
Being confident in your asexuality and in life itself, is about knowing yourself and loving yourself for who you are, regardless of what anyone else says, thinks, or does. This means spending meaningful time with yourself through self-dating, as well as doing a number of other things to fuel your confidence and self-love, so you don’t allow others’ opinions to drown out your own voice.
 
In this workshop, I’m going to explain ways in which this can be achieved and we are going to work our way through a set of written self-reflective exercises in your Asexual Confidence and Self-love workbook, which will be provided as part of the workshop, that you get to keep.

At the beginning of this workshop, I will be sharing a bit about my own asexual journey and by the end of this workshop, you will:

✅ Have a set of Asexuality Principles to live by, that will increase your confidence in your asexuality and act as a safeguard when someone tries to dismiss your asexual identity or make you feel bad about it.

✅ Be focused on the positives about yourself, so you can understand why you deserve love and happiness and are worthy of it.

✅ Understand the concept of self-dating, what is it and isn’t, and why it’s important to do that to raise your confidence in yourself and your self-worth, which is an act of self-love. You will come up with ideas for this during the workshop that you can implement right away.

✅ Identify what makes you feel happy and loved, so you can give more of that to yourself.

✅ Have your own workbook with exercises you have filled in, that you can use to keep as tools to increase confidence and self-love, throughout your asexual life journey. Think of them as a helpful companion and life guide, tailored specifically to you.

✅ Leave the workshop feeling more empowered, more self-regulated, and more inspired to live your best, authentic, asexual life.

Here is the registration link if you want to attend https://forms.gle/TjeckgMDpynwgCg58 places are likely to get filled fast, so if you want to come, make sure you book your place asap. If you have any questions, please let me know.

I will be around after the event if people who travel from afar want to stay for a while in the city and hang out afterwards, and get a drink and maybe some food too, or if you're local and want to hang out, but this will not be part of the workshop. It will just be to socialise and chat afterwards with myself and any other asexuals who want that, as an optional thing, so you can leave as soon as the workshop ends, with no expectation to stay. The venue will be busy with Pride celebrations throughout the day and into the evening usually too. The bar gets pretty busy but it can be a lot of fun to be there during Pride and there are Wetherspoons not too far away - just a short walk, which can be handy for food and drink too.

I understand if you don't live in the UK that this workshop might be too far for you to travel to, but I still thought you would like to know about it, as it's great for asexuality being included in an LGBT+ event - and it helps a lot to raise more awareness of asexuality.

I look forward to seeing you there.

This is in no way complete, if you know a book that is not mentioned just comment in this thread since it is not locked.

Non-Fiction

Fiction

Romance

Science Fiction/Fantasy

Short Stories

Manga/Graphic Novels

Most books mentioned here have been included in the Indexes, or are books that people have mentioned in previous threads that include asexual characters, to find this original thread please click here.

SA- is used to described a suspected asexual in a book

I would like to thank all the volunteers that helped me with this project SkyWorld, Mikasa, ThaHoward, rigaria, The Vacuum Killer, ArkansasCowboy, ThatNerdOverThere

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Some sites where you can find free e-books

https://www.gutenberg.org/

https://openlibrary.org/

https://novels80.com/

http://gutenberg.net.au/

Not sure if people have seen this but it popped up in my Instagram account.

A user aceingrace has decided that a new ACE flag was needed and this is the result, which they are trying to claim to be the new flag. I have included the screenshots of her post below. Not sure who she consulted on this or how many people were. 

https://www.instagram.com/p/DXSgPkZAXlq/?igsh=djF1b2MyenNnbXox

and

https://www.instagram.com/p/DXabwaljIrP/?igsh=eWxsd21zc2Jqd2l5

Author: Abbey Monteil

Date: 17th February 2026

Publisher: Them.Us

Link: https://www.them.us/story/keke-palmer-says-she-is-asexual-valentines-day

Excerpt:

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Keke Palmer opened up about her sexuality on social media, telling her followers that she’s “almost 100% sure” she’s asexual.

 

The Nope star reflected on her Valentine’s Day in a February 16 Instagram post, writing, “I spent mine with my mom, sister and son. Then went to a colleague’s smashing birthday bash. Yea, I said smashing.”

 

Palmer added that, cheeky turn of phrase aside, “nothing romantic went down.”

“Crazy right! I’m so cute!” she continued. “But I like no one, and I’m almost 100% sure I’m asexual. I have no interest in anyone, but I wish I did!”

Source: Daily Mail

Title: Inside Enya's off-grid life in a £2.5M remote castle with 12 cats and no partner or children after turning her back on fame and admitting she's 'dark and difficult' to be around

Date: 22/3/26

Link: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-15658107/Enya-life-castle-cats-quit-fame.html

The article says that Enya has had relationships in the past, even trying to insinuate without evidence that something happened with her producer and his wife, but she is also quoted as saying that she doesn't want to fall in love and get married because her real love is music.  I also reckon that life in a castle with lots of cats will be envied by quite a few people here.  

I'm glad to see more studies out that include Asexuals in their research. While it is not very detailed about asexuals, as no categories are added for graysexual people or aromantic vs. romantic, as the author concludes this at the very least proves why asexuals should be included in studies.

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/19485506261437286

Here's the link to the study itself.

Source: Human Rights Campaign

Date: 3rd April 2026

Link: hrc-prod-requests.s3-us-west-2.amazonaws.com/

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Last updated April 3, 2026
In the 2025 Annual LGBTQ+ Community Survey (ALCS), 4.7% of respondents included asexual
as part of their sexual orientation or identity. Among those respondents, 16.9% identified only as
asexual, while 83.1% identified as asexual alongside one or more other identities. Many people
within the asexual community differentiate between their romantic and sexual orientation, while
also using other identities that fall under the asexual umbrella. There was not an option to select
romantic orientations as a separate category in this research, nor to break down the asexual label
further, which may have contributed to some respondents using write-ins such as aromantic,
demisexual, greysexual, and panromantic. 58.0% of respondents who included asexual among
their identities were also transgender or gender-expansive.
Because of this overlap—and because this analysis is based on the LGBTQ+ sample of the
ALCS, not a study designed to capture the full range of people who may identify as asexual,
including some cisgender straight-identifying people—this brief should be read as a snapshot of
respondents who included asexual among their identities within the ALCS, rather than as a
complete portrait of the broader asexual community.

I should also credit the mail list from QueerAF which featured this story.

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"People don’t need an identity to justify their current preferences. And people don’t need an identity to accept that what they do or want is normal. I’d rather they decide that “normal” is irrelevant. That would be real growth.."

 

[...]

 

"Or take Sam, the possibly-asexual.

 

I could tell Sam’s therapist everything that’s wrong with the popular new category “asexual”: There’s no agreement on a definition; it organizes people based on what they say they don’t want; it assumes that some version of sexual attraction is “normal” (which "asexuals" then rebel against); there’s no differential diagnosis involving medication side effects, rage, fear of intimacy, or mental health issues like bipolar disorder; and it invites people to feel aggrieved when there’s absolutely no discrimination against them (a raised eyebrow isn’t quite the same as losing your job or being beaten up)."

My comments:

In this article, a sex therapist that provides case consultations to other therapists describes some cases other therapists have brought to him about clients questioning their sexual orientation.

One client is "Sam," someone questioning if he is asexual. The author suggests that people don't need the concept of sexual identity to describe their experiences. He says that the asexual community cannot even figure out what asexual means and invents their own discrimination. He also says that Alyce, a client questioning if she's bisexual, should not adopt the bisexual label because it apparently stifles personal growth and is an excuse for her marriage dissatisfaction.

Holy hell, this is just awful. This was posted on a blog for mental health professionals that is run by a massive website that hosts probably the biggest therapist directory in the United States. Hell, I've found three of my therapists on there. I don't even know where to begin about how aphobic (and biphobic) this article is. Asexuality does have a definition. It's literally the first thing you see when you go to the AVEN main page. Ace discrimination is not just a "raised eyebrow." In many countries unmarried people (including aces) have restricted legal rights and can face forced marriage, honor killings, and violence. Aces everywhere face corrective rape and systemic judgement.

I know it's just one dude's opinion, but it reflects what common views therapists have about asexuals. Should the ace community adopt a more exact definition of asexuality? Should aces that are more scholarly develop education guides for mental health professionals? I don't know. I just had to post this here.

Not entirely asexuality-related, but given that nudity aversion is not entirely unrelated to asexuality and some asexuals are nudity-averse, I decided to post it. I always felt intensely uncomfortable about women's athletic outfits - on the level of feeling an unpleasant jolt of empathy, because, like the athlete mentioned, I could never appear in public in clothing like the currently typical women's track and field bikinis. Actually, even her new outfit would be too skimpy for me, but on the political level I think that this is the way to go. Women shouldn't be taught that their value depends on being attractive to men. They should feel free to refuse sexual attractiveness completely, to be just people doing what they love doing, and not providing yet another message that women are available sex objects to which every men should feel entitled.

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She and four other women are now challenging the constitutionality of Japan's decades-old "maternity protection" law, one of the world's most restrictive barriers to sterilisation.

[....]

Under the law, a woman must have multiple children with her health at risk, or face life-threatening danger from pregnancy, to qualify for sterilisation. Even then, spousal consent is required.

This bans physicians from operating on healthy, childless women

[...]

Another plaintiff raising her voice is 26-year-old Rena Sato.

As an aromantic and asexual person, Sato -- a pseudonym she uses in the lawsuit -- categorically rules out marriage and childbirth.

 

"To me, the act of bringing a life out of my body is strongly linked to heterosexual romance, so this function of fertility has no place in my sexuality," she told AFP.

 

Her only possibility of pregnancy is therefore through rape, she said.

"If I'm forced to maintain my fertility, it'd be tantamount to the state telling me to accept the risk of sexual violence while alive."

 

Now married to a partner who respects her choice to be child-free, Kajiya has no regrets about getting sterilised.

 

But she sometimes wonders whether Japan pushed her to an extreme.

 

"Had I been born in a country where women have the same rights to bodily autonomy as men, and where no one assumes I will become a mother," she said, "I might've not let incisions be made to my body."

author: Yasmin Benoit

Publisher: We Are Queer AF

Date: 14th March 2026

Link: https://www.wearequeeraf.com/french-marital-reforms-are-an-important-step-forward-for-women-and-asexual-people/?ref=queeraf-newsletter

Excerpt

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Though marital rape has been illegal in France since 1990, the country’s legislature has recently made a powerful step towards challenging the notion that sex is a legal expectation within marriage – a decision that will benefit women in particular. 

 

But it will also have a powerful impact for asexual and aromantic people. 

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In 2019, an appeals court dismissed a woman’s complaints and found in favour of her husband's view that withholding sex from him was grounds for a "fault-based" divorce, implying guilt on her part. It was not until the woman took her case to the European Court of Human Rights (ECHR), that France was condemned for their ruling.

https://www.tidewaterpress.ca/pillow-talk/

I think it's lovely when you come across people who truly accept and value you for who you are and who want to make sure they represent unique underrepresented voices, in the best way possible and who genuinely care. 

Here is the article, titled -  Award-Winning Speaker Sandra Bellamy Is Amplifying Visibility for the Asexual Community, if you would like to take a look at it https://medium.com/@sophward024/award-winning-speaker-sandra-bellamy-is-redefining-visibility-for-the-asexual-community-4e1a60e4e693

Article excerpt - “As a child, I was bullied in both primary and secondary school and I grew up believing my voice didn’t matter,” she said. “Winning this award feels like I proved those bullies wrong. It’s recognition that my voice does matter and that it’s making a difference to others lives in a meaningful way"

I have been helping asexuals for over a decade now and I try to raise awareness and visibility of asexuality wherever I go. Next week I am speaking at AI South West Live which is a tech event, and even there I will be mentioning asexuality at the very beginning of my talk. 

Article excerpt - "Her mission is clear: to see asexuality recognised as a valid sexual orientation in its own right globally — so no asexual is silenced or has to live in fear of ridicule ever again."

This means I talk about asexuality a lot outside of the LGBTQIA+ community and in different contexts - even if they are unconventional ones. Why? Because unfortunately heterosexuality is still the biggest sexual orientation and so I believe to change the course of history  - to get more people to understand asexuality and to accept it, I need to reach that majority and make them aware of what asexuality actual is and isn't ,and that it's normal for some people to be asexual - there is nothing wrong with us. It's normal for some of us to not like, want, need, or get the urge for sex and that's okay.

This is a short video I did about the article, just talking through the beginning part of it  - but please see the full article for more details.

Mods, please move to a different forum if need be. I was wondering how to best identify, track, research and follow developments about asexuality internationally. Where does one look to find these stories and projects? 

Tyger Songbirds' SubStack has all sorts of stories from everywhere: https://tygersongbird.substack.com/?source=user_about----------------------954c3b5e8545----------------------

I would love to know how it's done. Thank you!

So for those of you who follow me on my socials - especially my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel, you will know that I live and breathe asexuality, daily. 

I'm constantly trying to push myself out of my comfort zone to bring asexuality to new audiences and today I am speaking at AI South West Live, which is organised by Tech South West. 

Here is their speaker page https://www.techsouthwest.co.uk/ai-south-west/ This is a sold out event that is only available in person offline.

Now most people would not associate asexuality with AI at all, the would not see the link or relevance, but I do.

Asexuality is the very thing I am going to talk about first, briefly, in regard to AI. This is what I am planning to say 🙂 

2014 was year I discovered I’m asexual in sexual orientation, which means I lack sexual attraction. I still get romantically and aesthetically attracted towards guys, I just don’t want sex.

For decades asexuals have been mocked for having loving, caring, committed relationships without physical sex and now millions of people are having these types of relationships with AI, in the biggest relationship revolution of all time.

Then I got to the stats to prove what I am saying is true.

I hope with me keep repeating this message over and over again to those in the AI space and others, that people will begin to see sexless relationships as a good thing and therefore asexuality will be more widely accepted.

I talk about the asexual work I do on my new date ai bot .com site - and the new book I am writing called - How to Date an AI Bot - Build Relationships with AI Companions Confidently and Safely.

I do believe more and more asexuals will have relationships with AI in the future - I would consider having a robotic boyfriend 😉

I've never wanted to be an educational channel, but I figured I'd throw this out there cause I get a lot of comments saying the way I describe asexuality is clear and helpful. Maybe this will be a resource someone can send to a confused family member or friend? Either way, here it is. ✨

EDIT: Thought I should add that I referenced that AVEN FAQ for definitions.

Joseph Chastain here. Used to post here was gone for a long time. I'm a hetero romantic grey asexul/Demisexual

Don't know how many of you knew this, but a year or two ago Netflix had the very first scene with an openly asexual character in an American TV series.

If you never saw it, here was the first coming out scene of an Asexual character on a show in the U.S.:

Todd 

Submitted Material

• Sangue Shi - Post-Sexuality: Between ACE Experience, Contemporary Spirituality, Kink Dissidences of Desire, and Technological Transcendence - Academic article - 2026
• Author - Title - Type - Date

To be included in this list, the youtuber should have at least 2 asexual videos posted to their channel. I will list them alphabetically according to their channel name. All are English channels unless otherwise noted. (A's are broken up on purpose to make it easier to read.) 

OFFICIAL AVEN CHANNEL HERE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkuOphCuHP4eG0vf_KFosUA

Asexual Media Archives (linked to World Watch): https://www.youtube.com/user/asexualmediaarchives

Channel of AVEN's awesome founder: https://www.youtube.com/user/djrollerman

Aaron Ansuini

The Ace Couple

Ace Dad Advice

Aced it!

An Ace In Spades

Aces Sitcom

The Ace Space

Aces Wild

Ally Evans

AmeliaAce

Andrea F (Spanish)

Anna's Bananas

Artemis Munoz

Askapansexual

The Asexual Goddess

Asexual Outreach

Asexuales México y América Latina (Spanish)

Asexualise

Asexualise My Asexual Life

AsexuArt (Spanish)

Ash Hardell

As/Is

Avenites Asexuales (Spanish)

AVENVis (not official AVEN, but from an AVEN conference) 

Blue Medusa 
Blue Phoenix Ace

bmud angel
Brian Langevin

Celeste M

ChandlerNWilson

Cook-E

DarkTeatIme

David J Bradley

DumandsONE

echoisweird

Echo Gillette

Eliott Simpson

Embly

Estudio Katastrofico (Spanish)

Evan Edinger

firemaren

Fletcher Irvine

Fluently Aspec

GaiaShirley

HeyoDamo

IAmTheMightyG

I'm Autistic, Now What?

It's Tama

Jaiden Animations

Janeil Darnell

jennaclarek

JoeeJayy

Katie Colson

kaihugstrees

Lauren Harkins

Liam O'Dell

Lynn Saga

Marshall John Blount

Milenka & Kolya

Miles Moonstone

Milo Stewart

Minu

Molly Burke

moonchild

Morgan_Reacts

Nooderella

Not So Average Fangirl

OneTakeAsh

OnlyAliceMitchell

Overly Sarcastic Productions

PandaFluff

Phoebe Saturn

Pieces of Ace - The Asexual Podcast

Purple Unicorn (Spanish)

QueerAsCat

Queer Kid Stuff

Quinn Creates

sally stanton

saskia and lily

Samantha Aimee

Sam Broadley

Shaquan & Joshua

Shaz Capade

Slice of Ace

Spacey Aces

SpanishQueens (Spanish)

swankivy

thatlittlegeorgia

tolstoying

TheWonderGinger

Undead Burrito Productions

Yasmin Benoit

youngblossom

For more (including some that are not asexual), click here: http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/160851-asexuals-on-youtube/?do=findComment&comment=1062437602

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So, does anybody have any suggestions? 

Thank you kindly to anyone who might be able to help. 🧚🧚 

Violet

I'm looking for short-stories to include in my English literature class about short stories. The other teachers have made a good effort to include literature by female authors and people of colour, as well as Native American literature, and I'd like to add at least one story with some lgbt+-ness (as a theme, personified in a character, or a subversion of heteronormativity), and hopefully a story including disability as well.

I've of course looked online, but the stories I find don't feel like they're very adapted to the class, too much focussed on the lgbt character and not very good for the writing itself (the class' point is to give students the basics of literary analysis, so it shouldn't be too amateurish). Ugh, this sounds very elitist, I'm sorry. I read this kind of story, but I also need it to be good enough for my colleague to accept it, since we're sharing the class.

It also needs to be short, 1 to 4 pages maximum, and originally written in English (can't be a translation) but it can be from anywhere in the world. It's a first year university class, so the students should be about 18-19. Not native speakers, but they need to be challenged, so they shouldn't necessarily be easy reads.

Anyone knows something that fits the description? Feel free to send ideas, I'd love some LGBT+ reading anyway

Thanks

PS: bonus points if the story is online for free 😛