2011 Latest Topicshttps://www.asexuality.org/en/forum/105-2011/2011 Latest TopicsenAsexuality and College Studentshttps://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/58473-asexuality-and-college-students/Hi everyone,

Thank you for welcoming me to the AVEN community. I'm a contributing writer for a publication called Her Campus magazine (hercampus.com) and I'm currently working on an article about asexuality. I'd like to discuss and dispel some of the rumors about asexuality, so if anyone is interested in talking to me, please feel free to message me or shoot me an email. I also created a poll above that anyone who is comfortable can answer, and I hope that some of you will.

Thanks for your time!

]]>58473Sat, 29 Jan 2011 00:50:46 +0000Do you believe in God?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/61475-do-you-believe-in-god/I'm just interested to see how this plays out in the A community. :excl: I have NO INTENTION of starting any hot philosophical debates, partly for the reason that I would inevitably get carried away. I genuinely don't know what to expect from this, with such a wide range of nationalities and lifestyles...

]]>61475Thu, 12 May 2011 18:25:44 +0000Lonelinesshttps://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/63584-loneliness/Well, this is my second aven poll XD I seem to like them quite a bit. Anyway, the diversity within asexuality is fascinating to me--especially considering the different romantic orientations, including not wanting to be romantic at all! Very interesting.

]]>63584Wed, 13 Jul 2011 00:16:08 +0000Do you feel there is validity to the existence of the men's movement?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/63262-do-you-feel-there-is-validity-to-the-existence-of-the-mens-movement/Sex is said to be one of the most important great pleasures in life and therefore we asexuals suffer as we're missing out on it. But that is rather silly, because everybody derives great pleasure from different things. Therefore we discuss our great pleasures as well as a large dosage of the signature randomness you've come to expect in this episode of A Life.

Please do add your thoughts about the subject, but I urge you to listen to the show first. It will considerably clarify the poll and give tons of thought-provoking entertainment. You can find the show here:

http://alifepodcast.wordpress.com/

]]>63262Tue, 05 Jul 2011 23:17:22 +0000Do you participate in offline asexuality activities?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/61288-do-you-participate-in-offline-asexuality-activities/Life happens! Even when it's offline. So asexuality happens. Even when it's offline. And that is what we discuss in the latest installment of A Life.

Please do add your thoughts about the subject, but I urge you to listen to the show first. It will considerably clarify the poll and give tons of thought-provoking entertainment. You can find the show here:

http://alifepodcast.wordpress.com/

]]>61288Fri, 06 May 2011 17:11:00 +0000Has your romantic identity evolved since you found the asexual community?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/60181-has-your-romantic-identity-evolved-since-you-found-the-asexual-community/A series of unfortunate occurrences have prevented the brave crew of the starship A Life from convening and bringing you another dosage of asexual discussion. But here we are again, this time mainly going over the past several weeks of feedback and playing the Asexual Elitist Blame Game!

Please do add your thoughts about the subject, but I urge you to listen to the show first. It will considerably clarify the poll and give tons of thought-provoking entertainment. You can find the show here:

http://alifepodcast.wordpress.com/

]]>60181Sat, 02 Apr 2011 21:21:52 +0000Love and sexhttps://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/61781-love-and-sex/I hear a lot of asexuals here say they don't feel the supposed connection between love and sex. So I thought we should have an official poll on the subject...

]]>61781Sun, 22 May 2011 23:06:04 +0000Do you participate in other asexual communities beside AVEN?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/60944-do-you-participate-in-other-asexual-communities-beside-aven/It may come as a bit of a shocker, but there actually are other online communities than AVEN around. We go over the more larger and notable ones.

Please do add your thoughts about the subject, but I urge you to listen to the show first. It will considerably clarify the poll and give tons of thought-provoking entertainment. You can find the show here:

http://alifepodcast.wordpress.com/

]]>60944Wed, 27 Apr 2011 21:14:18 +0000What was the best prop?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/59492-what-was-the-best-prop/In honour of the 50th episode, the panelists decided to go for video. With disastrous consequences!

Well, they're really not all that disastrous, but I thought that a sensationalist description might boost our numbers a bit...

Please do add your thoughts about the subject, but I urge you to listen to the show first. It will considerably clarify the poll and give tons of thought-provoking entertainment. You can find the show here:

http://alifepodcast.wordpress.com/

]]>59492Tue, 08 Mar 2011 17:53:36 +0000Remove your libidohttps://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/67061-remove-your-libido/Would you undergo therapy to remove your libido (if you have one) and what kind?

Of course, there are no side effects of this treatment, you only lose your libido.

A short post describing the reasons behind your choice would be very interesting, so please post!

]]>67061Wed, 26 Oct 2011 22:00:52 +0000How many relationships are/have you been in?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/64217-how-many-relationships-arehave-you-been-in/Just a sort of demographic statistic for those who want to take part in it. Sorry about generalizing the age groups and poly relationships so much, but I wanted to keep the amount of choices reasonable, even if a bit imprecise. Anonymous votes are welcome, if you don't feel like telling your story.

I'll keep it short since I don't want to bother you much - I've been in just one relationship in my life, which did end mostly because I was asexual (and because I didn't want kids). I still miss him.

]]>64217Mon, 01 Aug 2011 10:12:35 +0000Monogamous or not?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/60094-monogamous-or-not/Asking about preferred relationship style, since I've seen it come up on a few threads recently. I found a few old polls that sort of address the question, but none too directly.

If you don't currently have a partner, but would like to, please read the responses as referring to hypothetical partners.

]]>60094Thu, 31 Mar 2011 16:16:02 +0000Do you engage in activities considered kinky?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/62355-do-you-engage-in-activities-considered-kinky/In this very eeeeeevil episode of A Life, the team digs into the very eeeeeevil topic of kinks and fetishes as they apply to asexual people. Featuring the guestive expertise of Diedra.

Please do add your thoughts about the subject, but I urge you to listen to the show first. It will considerably clarify the poll and give tons of thought-provoking entertainment. You can find the show here:

http://alifepodcast.wordpress.com/

]]>62355Tue, 07 Jun 2011 19:05:55 +0000Correlation between mbti or gender?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/68201-correlation-between-mbti-or-gender/mbti stands for Myers Briggs Typology Indicator. If you do not know your mbti type and want to know, you can take a free test from similarminds.com here.

]]>68201Sat, 26 Nov 2011 21:04:17 +0000Do you feel that we need more asexuality podcasts?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/64498-do-you-feel-that-we-need-more-asexuality-podcasts/I was curious to the community's input as to whether or not you feel that we need more asexual/asexuality related/oriented podcasts.

A-life is the only currently active asexual podcast that I am aware of as unscrewed and illuminated seems to be quite dead in the water and I am not personally aware of other podcasts that are asexual oriented at the moment.

If you feel that we need more ace podcasts, what reason or reasons do you feel that they are important and what would you like to personally see in an ace podcast?

If you are aware of other ace oriented podcasts other than the ones mentioned, I would also love to be linked to them. Thank you for your time.

]]>64498Wed, 10 Aug 2011 03:42:22 +0000Suicide in asexualshttps://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/61845-suicide-in-asexuals/Ok, so, I've seen people online referring to a poll where 70 percent of us said we had considered suicide. So, I guess that's pretty high in a population, but everyone was taking that as proof of asexual oppression- because asexuality drives people to suicide. But I know that I'm asexual and I when I wanted to commit suicide it had NOTHING to do with asexuality and everything to do with the fact that my brain was out of whack, and I just don't want to make that kind of assumption about everyone else either. Even though it would seem logical that if there is a high rate of suicide contemplation in a group, to assume that the group's shared traits would significantly factor into that, but.. you know... there's that whole... correlation does not imply causation thing.

So, I'm asking directly!

]]>61845Tue, 24 May 2011 13:44:01 +0000Have you ever been threatened with sexual assault because of your asexuality?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/62338-have-you-ever-been-threatened-with-sexual-assault-because-of-your-asexuality/This was inspired by a video by swankivy which says that she has been regularly threatened with rape because of videos on asexuality.

I wonder how common this is. I have heard of lesbians being threatened with corrective rape, but never asexuals.

Note: I am not saying that swankivy is lying, infact I believe her 110% percernt. I just want to see if this is a major problem. Both on-life and real life threats count

]]>62338Tue, 07 Jun 2011 01:17:48 +0000Do you like to be touched?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/62481-do-you-like-to-be-touched/Do you like to be touched, and what is your romantic orientation?

I'm homoromantic and I loooovvveee touch. Cuddles/hugs and that sort of thing, though. I think touch might be one of my love languages.

]]>62481Sat, 11 Jun 2011 15:24:04 +0000Declare your preferences!https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/65424-declare-your-preferences/My dissatisfaction with the options provided in a similar census by PiF led me to try my own hand at this. This is all out of idle curiosity. If you feel somehow unrepresented or misrepresented, feel free to say so. (Though I'm not yet sure how much one can change a poll once it's been started.)

Sorry, Birdwing, I know you wanted to make your own poll. If you still make one, I'll vote in it. http://www.asexuality.org/en/public/style_emoticons/#EMO_DIR#/happy.gif

]]>65424Thu, 08 Sep 2011 00:47:49 +0000Would you be okay with letting your significant other seek sex elsewhere?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/63171-would-you-be-okay-with-letting-your-significant-other-seek-sex-elsewhere/Faelights, ArcanineHuggles and I were discussing whether this option in a relationship would be considered viable by the majority of AVEN. When answering, please assume you were in a committed relationship and actively did not want to have sex (as opposed to being indifferent to it or doing it for your partner's pleasure.) Please answer the poll question, but if there was another option you would prefer, I would be interested to hear about that in the comments, too!

]]>63171Sun, 03 Jul 2011 10:09:19 +0000Emotional Intelligencehttps://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/63007-emotional-intelligence/The test for measuring EIQ is here: http://www.queendom.com/tests/access_page/index.htm?idRegTest=3037

Make sure you have some time to spare, as the test usually takes around 45 minutes.

A shorter version (albeit not as comprehensive): http://cl1.psychtests.com/take_test.php?idRegTest=2998

This test will only take around 10 minutes.

]]>63007Tue, 28 Jun 2011 02:48:02 +0000Are you repulsed by your own gender?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/63723-are-you-repulsed-by-your-own-gender/Feeling repulsed by your own gender is a theme that seems to come up pretty often in the asexual community. Gender repulsion goes beyond "simple" genital repulsion, since it encompasses other parts of your body as well as the societal norms and expectations placed on you because of your physical sex. This is what the rather small crew of A Life discusses this time around.

Please do add your thoughts about the subject, but I urge you to listen to the show first. It will considerably clarify the poll and give tons of thought-provoking entertainment. You can find the show here:

http://alifepodcast.wordpress.com/

]]>63723Sun, 17 Jul 2011 01:50:06 +0000Do you want children?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/65551-do-you-want-children/Simple poll. I believe there's been lots of these already, but there are no recent polls about wanting children or not, so I thought I'd put one up.

What's your opinion on children? Would you like them or not?

DISCLAIMER: by children I mean both biological and adopted children, so if you want one but not the other, the answer would still be "yes". Also, the "I'm asexual" mentioned in the poll refers to asexuals only, not the whole asexuality spectrum, therefore if you're gray-A or demisexual you should vote "I'm NOT asexual". Thank you!

]]>65551Sun, 11 Sep 2011 14:20:24 +0000What are you ?https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/65408-what-are-you/From time to time I think it helps..certianly aven..to know who and what uses aven..it's also helps possibly to plan for the future

now, I don't intend to go into every sub of a sub of a sub but will stick to easily identifiable groups

Leave comments if you wish too and should you choose to identify please remember all that is being asked is what is the main group

thanks should you wish to vote and :P if you do not :lol:

]]>65408Wed, 07 Sep 2011 20:20:40 +0000Hey, homo/bi/pan, trans*, genderqueer, agender aces, etc.!https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/64742-hey-homobipan-trans-genderqueer-agender-aces-etc/By "trouble," I mean any sort of trouble besides simple confusion over what you are. I know a lot of us are kind of baffled by our romantic orientations or gender identities, but unless it causes you distress, it's not what I'm asking about here. "I can't tell what my romantic orientation is" isn't what I'm asking about; "I think I might be homoromantic and that scares me" is. I'm curious about are things like other people not accepting you, you not accepting yourself, depression or anxiety over what you are, relationship troubles, erasure, general societal attitudes towards your identity, etc.

This poll is open to:

  • Anyone on the ace spectrum who is or thinks they probably are homo-, bi-, or pan- romantic.
  • Anyone on the ace spectrum who is or thinks they probably are trans*, genderqueer, agender, bigender, etc.
  • Anyone who, at some point, identified as or thought they probably were on the ace spectrum and, at some point, identified as or thought they probably were homo/bi/panromantic or trans*/genderqueer/agender, etc.
  • Anyone on the ace spectrum who's had a same-gender romantic relationship, or something that looked like it from the outside.

If none of the poll options fit perfectly, that's okay; just pick the one that seems probably closest. If you can't even do that, please let me know what I've overlooked!

I'm doing this because a lot of the sexual LGBT haters floating around out there seem to regard homophobia and transphobia as the only things that cause substantial trouble, while acephobia (for lack of a better term) is regarded as a minor annoyance. I have my own theory about whether or not this is true, but I don't think anyone's ever done any sort of poll about this, and I'm curious how well my theory holds up. Help me shine a little light on this matter? :cake:

Edit: I just want to make clear that I'm not trying to play Oppression Olympics or dismiss anyone's experiences. But I am curious if people who've experienced acephobia (will someone please find me a better word?) and homo-, bi-, or transphobia tend to find that the former is small potatoes.

]]>64742Thu, 18 Aug 2011 19:58:22 +0000