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  2. VanillaCakesForever

    An excited hello to all!

    Hello there! Be very very welcome and feel free to overthink (I love to hear people's overthinking process, it is always enlightening in a way or another). I've just joined aven too and I'd like to show you all my appreciation for this welcoming community. I've come across the term asexuality more than five years ago, at college. I didn't know what it meant so I googled it and discovered this place. Once I became familiar with the term(s) everything made sense although I'd never felt uncomfortable with my (a)sexuality. From this moment on it has been a process of reanalysis of my past and current feelings and dealing (or not!) with labels. Aven has been here all the time to enlighten terms and doubts. I'm pretty settled with my id now and I just want to give you all a huge cake party for being so friendly and open and honest to discuss such an important aspect of people's life. 🍰 Cake! 🍰
  3. Ardoise

    An excited hello to all!

    Welcome to AVEN!
  4. Snao Cone

    TV shows no one else seems to know

    So many people are mentioning Canadian shows because there are so many gems that only a fraction of the Canadian population bothered to watch. We are so immersed in American television that without laws requiring a certain amount of Canadian content, so many shows wouldn't have been made.
  5. daveb

    Nineties internet nostalgia, anyone?

    No nostalgia for me. I don't miss the slow load times, the poorly designed websites, the sheer gaudiness and all of the "teething" problems that tend to come with something new.
  6. aliciagold

    What video games are you playing?

    I tried slot games not so long ago and won $25 for the first time. It was so cool, I've never won before. Want to become a pto and win a jackpot one day.
  7. SydtheKid40


    Honestly, I feel like ace but Demi seems to fit my patterns more. I definitely feel like it fits I jut didn’t feel like I belonged or maybe I was making it up. Thank you ❤️
  8. I think it depends on how to interpret your position. I think its completely fine for you to think that casual sex is generally bad. Where it gets tricky is the extent to which its OK to tell others how you feel. (Not talking freedom of speech - IMHO anyone is free to say just about anything), but rather what is the preferred behavior. I tend to agree with you about not liking casual sex *myself* but arguments about what is "normal" can sound a lot like those made against homosexuality. I'm not sure, but I think "first sexual experience" can mean something very different these days. In the past, people, especially women, often would go into their first sexual experience with almost no knowledge and no experience. The wedding night was a dramatic (and maybe traumatic) event. Now though I think most people tend to more gradually engage in sexual behavior from kisses, to fondling ,oral sex etc, and I think most have access to a great range of information about sex. Other than a somewhat arbitrary definition of "virginity", I think things are much more gradual now. My feeling is that peoples personalities vary a lot. Some people are "wired" in a way that casual sex works for them, others are not. It would not work for me, but I don't have any problems with other people engaging if it works for them.
  9. AceMissBehaving


    It sounds possible you could be ace or demi, unfortunately it’s hard for someone outside of you to say. If you are unsure and don’t feel like any label so far fits, but you want to offer full disclosure when attempting to date etc, you can tell people you are currently questioning that you might be ace/demi. That way you have space to figure yourself out, and can still set the expectation that sex may not be in the cards for a good long while, or at all. Either way way it doesn’t make you broken, there are a whole lot of people who feel the same way you currently do.
  10. will123

    Asexual Men Musings

    No. I've only had one in my life and that was when I was a teen.
  11. InquisitivePhilosopher

    Does anyone else like strip clubs?

    Ha! Yeah, that was.
  12. SydtheKid40


    I will! Thank you!
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  14. Kuebiko


    brain let me enjoy things that other people like too so i don't feel left out or worried that i'll offend people :< 

  15. Elonat

    Never have I ever... (AVEN edition)

    I have, some lived, some died. NHIE been to Iceland
  16. Elonat

    corrupt the wish above.

    Granted, but you confuse them all the time. I wish I liked cooking.
  17. iam135

    Teen Corner

    That's really just a normal introvert thing. Hell, I'm a fairly extroverted introvert but I'll get tuckered out after a few nonstop hours of socializing. Introverts need time alone to recharge their batteries while extroverts need time with others to recharge. It's just how those personalities tend to work.
  18. Modern Jazz Hands

    The Banning Game!

    Banned for not realising that here in sunny Yorkshire the winter of our discontent has been made glorious summer by this sun of York.
  19. DebtheDemi

    Hello, I’m Demisexual

    I did say that it has been my experience, so it is correct for me thus far.
  20. Nevyn

    Nineties internet nostalgia, anyone?

    I spent a lot of the 90's playing Quake and Everquest over 11baud modems. Fun times.
  21. Piotrek

    Nineties internet nostalgia, anyone?

    I only got Internet access at home in 2006, and I rarely accessed it before that date, so I can't really contribute any memories. I can recommend a book, though. "Cybergypsies" by Indra Sinha is a " a non-fiction memoir of the pre-internet generation" with lots of descriptions of MUDs, chatting, early hacking, and activism.
  22. LemonCupcakes

    The New Aromantic Thread (v.1.5)

    Hey guys, I’m relatively new. It’s really cool that there are so many people here - I love that this forum/thread exists 💕 Also, @iyote, that diagram was really helpful for me - thank you!
  23. I'm interested in the subject "can asexuality be triggered," because I think it can. This is because sexuality is psychological, if not primarily so, at least still significantly so. Considering this, an intense psychological change could alters someone's sexuality. I'm thinking of the trans people that I've heard report a change in their orientation after transition... suddenly becoming attracted to a sex they weren't attracted to before. Transition is an intense psychological change, perhaps brought on by HRT. As for asexuality, I consider Tim Gunn an asexual. He seems to consider himself one, too. It seems his asexuality was triggered by emotional trauma in a past relationship that was powerful enough to kill his interest in sex, if not also his sexual attraction all together.
  24. ColeHW

    Homoromantic guys chat

    So what’s everyone’s views on antiquing? (E.g. visiting antique stores or buying old timey things)
  25. Strange-quark

    Nineties internet nostalgia, anyone?

    I'm a tad too young to remember (it actually took me quite a while to realize that your nice computer could be used for stuff like finding info or chatting), but still I feel nostalgic. Weird, huh? So I like Fortran 90/95, Windows XP, old pixel-y 2D-games (even text games heh), terminal environments etc... I kinda wish I'd been there, before social media, aggressive surveillance and all that shit. Snif.
  26. LilacJay

    An excited hello to all!

    Hi, nice to meet you! I see you're very reflective about your feelings and I see you've come quite a long way already. Overthinking certain issues happens, just like phases of questioning, phases of change, and phases of upset happen. Just remember: You're always invited to share your feelings in this forum, even the difficult ones. There's usually somebody around who can figure things out with you 😉 And for now, enjoy the cake:
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