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  2. Oh, I forgot an important question. Why this election? Why not Welcome Lounge (Other ongoing election) and why not Just For Fun (Last election no one ran for)?
  3. Iridium

    Understanding Gender and Gender Identity

    One important aspect of gender that hasn't been mentioned yet on this thread is that the expected roles and behaviors for men and women vary wildly from culture to culture. For example, sex and romance between men was seen as perfectly masculine in ancient Greece, but is stereotyped as unmanly in the modern West. Some societies even have traditions of a third gender, like hijras in India, or sworn virgins in traditional Albanian culture. So all of this adds another layer of complexity to the question.
  4. Please insert 1 cat picture, 1 dog picture, and 1 other cute animal picture of your choice to start this list of questions. Waffles, Pancakes, or French Toast? Favorite Meme? What do you think about the identities Sapiosexual and/or Sapioromantic? Is there a term for someone that doesn't identify as any gender? Best type of snake?
  5. Pan Ficto. (on hiatus?)

    Why AVEN is not educating staff members on Asexuality?

    Sexual people experience that too. There are plenty of sexual people who don't care at all about appearance and seek sex out because 1) they have a libido and 2) they enjoy the intimacy/closeness/feelings of partnered sex. It's actually offensive to suggest that what makes someone sexual is solely their potential to find others 'hot' which is why so many people here take issue with that specific definition of sex favourability. It comes from a misunderstanding of how sexual people think and feel. And of course there are many aces who can find people hot, which proves that the ability to experience that form of attraction and actually desiring sex with other people are in certain cases two very separate things.
  6. On days that aren't Tuesdays or Thursdays I can dedicate as much time as is necessary to solve problems that may arise. I am on my own schedule (writing thesis and all). On Tuesdays and Thursdays I will be able to dedicate about an hour to the position. As a moderator I would enforce the rules AVEN has already established surrounding debates; no personal attacks; no invalidation; no bigotry; no labeling others etc. In my personal opinion, I think civil debate should be allowed, as long the AVEN ToS does not get breached. Debates about the most sensitive topics should stay in hotbox however. There is a difference between a debate about whether non-binary identities are valid, and a debate about which brand of binders is best or a debate about the usefulness of micro-labels (!not their validity!). If one side has to defend their existence, that is not a fair debate, and I don't think that is a useful thing to read along with for any questioning people who stumble across AVEN. I often post in hotbox, and I personally find debates to be one of the most interesting things to participate in on AVEN, so I definitely don't want them stifled, but they are not worth hurting people over. What is the most difficult thing about being a mod to you?
  7. So, this may be an old topic, an a bit obvious seeing the way AVEN leans politically, but what do people think about religious exemptions for things? This is for the relgious and non-religious alike to answer. Because aside from what I consider to be pretty stupid with being allowed to forego vaccines because of supposedly religious reasons, apparently the state of Ohio is thinking about letting kids be scientifically wrong if their religion teaches otherwise? Please let this be a joke. I understand not oppressing people or banning religion or whatever, but how will these kids do in college when they attend a Geology 101 course that counters the idea of Noah's flood? Or take Anthropology 101 where they have to learn about evolution? Not to mention all the humnaities like gender studies, psychology, sociology, philosophy, etc. So in the grand scheme of things, I don't think religion should be used as an excuse to let kids be factually wrong or put in danger. Jahovah's Witness so you're letting your kid die rather than give them blood? Call CPS. Locking your kid in a room for hours if not days because that's the way Scientology treats mental illenss? CPS! Tax except status I can understand, but would prefer the churchs have to prove they're doing humanitarian things and improving the community, not just taking money and using it for their own selfish reasons.
  8. Una Salus Victus

    Why AVEN is not educating staff members on Asexuality?

    This here is where I think is a fair bit of the problem. Attraction isn't always "finding someone hot." There's things like emotional factors and the like as well. So there's a good chance in a few cases that they aren't attracted to someone, just attracted to them in a different way that isn't "hot."
  9. Iridium

    Understanding Gender and Gender Identity

    Scientifically, there's proof that "male" and "female" neurological traits often overlap in the same person, and that intersex variations are actually relatively common (1-2% of all humans). So there's no scientific reason to dismiss non-traditional gender identities.
  10. Raisins are nice 😛 1. A bit of time every day, not too much or too little. At least a few hours a day, I do that already as a member 2. I don't think gender definition debates, especially in the similar vein as the current atmosphere, should be a thing. There's healthy discussion which can produce new gender definitions for those seeking to find out for who they are, its another if such debates that actually be a trigger or cause for dysphoric experiences. It is a support forum first, that's how I use gender forum myself. 3. As a DT, I've seen how mods conduct themselves, if its just in text but for what text cant record is feelings behind the words. What's it like? What's the stress like, the good feelings, the bad, the ugly, how did it fit in with life too? I dunno, i got plenty of questions, I see a lot of the past as a DT. Any mod can answer this.
  11. Physics Girl visits @Heart's antimater factory at CERN:
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  13. SithGirl

    Understanding Gender and Gender Identity

    I'm sorry to keep spamming you, but this is about gender and linguistics and I love those topics, so my brain can get a little crazy when I think about it. But, explaining the word around the definition and thus restricting it to such a meaning is quite prescriptivist thinking. That a word can only mean what the dictionary says it means and only words in the dictionary count as words. And that's just not how language works. A much better take is the descriptivist route, that we see how a word is used and give it a meaning based on its usage, knowing full well that usage may vary from region to region and may change with time. An example would be "pissed" which can mean drunk or angry depending on where you are. Or else the word "gay" which used to mean happy, but now is almost universally used to mean homosexual and only very old texts use it for its original meaning.
  14. Una Salus Victus

    Food you're addicted to?

    i quite like pasta, especially with plenty of cheese through it.
  15. Jade Cross

    Yokai? More like "Nokia"

    I think every culture more or less has had their version of something that cant be explained as being supernatural. From natural disasters to not knowing about a creature, people simply make up things to create some sense of understanding.
  16. FeichtKatze

    Food you're addicted to?

    Cabbage. I'l have it in any form, boiled, panfried, baked. A big bowl of Cabbage soup is pure comfort food.., and then another and one more. I'd eat the whole pot in one go if I could. Shredded panfried with garlic and chili is my go-to meal. Heaven. Also on the list of food addictions: Apples, Carrots, Kefir yoghurt and Oatmeal.
  17. FaerieFate

    New Moderator Needed: Welcome Lounge: Campaigns

    Please insert 1 dog picture, 1 cat picture, and 1 picture of another cute animal to start this list of questions. Kimmie- What's 5 awesome things about you? (Just trying to boost your spirits. You seem like a nice person! ) Ryan and Zeecitroen- What was your favorite thing about modding in the past? Everyone- Why run for Welcome Lounge instead of Romantic and Aromantic Orientations and Gender Discussions (which is the other election going on) or Just For Fun (which was the last election we had but no one ran for it.) I was thinking about AVEN needing a Welcoming team of some sort. How do you feel about that idea as potential Welcome Lounge mod? Also, would you be bothered by me organizing this idea if you were Welcome Lounge mod, or would you want to handle it yourself? (No wrong answer, just genuinely curious.) On average, how often would you say you welcome new members in Welcome Lounge? I hope everyone does great! You are all awesome and IDK who to vote for
  18. Moonman

    Understanding Gender and Gender Identity

    If identifying as something other than male or female makes people feel more comfortable and at one with themselves, why is it more important to stay in line with reason, as in science and language, rather than passion, as in people's feelings and ideas?
  19. LeChat

    Sexuality blamed on something else

    @Snao van der Cone Tagging you because I thought you might be interested in or could relate to OP's situation, as there aren't that many members who mention having epilepsy.
  20. 1. How much time can you dedicate to the position? 2. What do you want the Gender and A/ro forums to look like: do you think debate should be allowed, or should it be just a place for support? 3. I am a former moderator; do you have any questions for me?
  21. DryRain

    Sexuality blamed on something else

    That's probably it my dude. She probably has her feelings hurt by the relationship not working out (which is valid, but also this kind of things happen), and is reaching for anything making her feel like she was fine and that it wasn't her fault. It's a bad situation on both sides, because while she's hurt it doesn't justify dismissing your identity over a random medical condition.
  22. SithGirl

    Understanding Gender and Gender Identity

    I would like to point out that other definitions exist, and thus you cannot be so restrictive of your qualifications or else you'd never have a clear idea of what gender is. Here's an example of what I mean by Merriam-Webster: "1a : a subclass within a grammatical class (such as noun, pronoun, adjective, or verb) of a language that is partly arbitrary but also partly based on distinguishable characteristics (such as shape, social rank, manner of existence, or sex) and that determines agreement with and selection of other words or grammatical forms b : membership of a word or a grammatical form in such a subclass c : an inflectional form (see inflection sense 3a) showing membership in such a subclass 2a : sex sense 1a b : the behavioral, cultural, or psychological traits typically associated with one sex c : gender identity" You should note that's all very confusing, but it also explains: "Later in the century, gender also came to have application in two closely related compound terms: gender identity refers to a person's internal sense of being male, female, some combination of male and female, or neither male nor female; gender expression refers to the physical and behavioral manifestations of one's gender identity. By the end of the century gender by itself was being used as a synonym of gender identity. Among those who study gender and sexuality, a clear delineation between sex and gender is typically prescribed, with sex as the preferred term for biological forms, and gender limited to its meanings involving behavioral, cultural, and psychological traits. In this dichotomy, the terms male and female relate only to biological forms (sex), while the terms masculine/masculinity, feminine/femininity, woman/girl, and man/boy relate only to psychological and sociocultural traits (gender)."
  23. At home, soy yoghurt with fruit and honey, yum But if I could get anything I wanted from wherever, then veggie fantuan 饭团 from Taiwan (without the youtiao 油条, cuz yuk)
  24. Anthracite_Impreza

    Understanding Gender and Gender Identity

    Then the definition you're using is wrong, because those genders do exist. What you're basically doing is saying a binturong doesn't exist because it's not in the dictionary you're using. Well, the people of south-east Asia would like to correct you on that, and by dismissing them you're showing you don't trust them to know what they're on about in their own country.
  25. DryRain

    Understanding Gender and Gender Identity

    Yeah winter is coming quite early and fast, the snow caught me by surprise last week. Cover up!
  26. this is an acceptable answer if you ignore the bran flakes and only eat the raisins like me
  27. Galactic Turtle

    Understanding Gender and Gender Identity

    *whispers* Hi @DryRain, I'm in Oshawa right now for work and I really hate how it's already so cold up here. Please make it stop.
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