AVEN Post of the Week
If you just cuddle, that's ok, and she loves you. If you end up having sex, that's ok, and she loves you. If you get all self-conscious, totally lose the mood, and have an "Oh damn, I totally didn't relax" freakout, that's ok and she loves you. In fact, if that happens, I suggest you both make a point of laughing at the ridiculousness of it all - maybe pre-agree that if you freak out, then that means she has to feed you ice-cream until you calm down again, or some circuit-breaker like that.
– Olivier, on putting asexual partners at ease in mixed relationships.
Did you know...
• … that some asexual people are happier on their own or with a group of close friends, while other asexuals have a desire to date and will form more intimate romantic relationships?
• … that asexual relationships are based on the same elements that are also important for many sexual people, like understanding, commitment, trust, emotional intimacy and communication?
• … that for some asexuals arousal is a fairly regular occurrence, though it is not associated with a desire to find a sexual partner? Some asexuals will occasionally masturbate, but feel no desire for partnered sexuality. Other asexual people experience little or no arousal.
Asexuality in Media and Research
• A short paper by Anthony F. Bogaert, "Asexuality and Autochorissexualism (Identity-Less Sexuality)", was published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior on May 11, 2012.
• An article, "Asexual awakening", was published in the Sydney Morning Herald on May 9, 2012.
• "Asexuality comes out of the closet" - KPCC's Patt Morrison interviews David Jay and Shira Tarrant on April 6, 2012.
• Rachel Rabbit White writes how "Not Everybody Wants to Have Sex" for Jezebel.
• Rachel Hills interviews David Jay for The Atlantic in "Life Without Sex: The Third Phase of the Asexuality Movement"
• RTL TVI, a Belgian channel, included interviews of asexual people in the show L'Europe du sexe.
• The Guardian has an article “Among the asexuals” by Rosie Swash, which discusses the asexual movement and life for asexual people.
• Tracy Clark-Flory wrote an article on Salon, "“House” gets asexuality wrong" on January 31, 2012.
• There is an article by Lucy Wallis in the BBC news magazine, "What is it like to be asexual?", to accompany the appearance of an asexual woman in the BBC's three part TV series, How Sex Works.
• Asexual Awareness Week has released the preliminary results of their Asexual Community Census 2011
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