Vae Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 Goggle got me nothing. Would you believe i even asked Bing and Yahoo? After the shower to get rid of the dirt i came on here looking for answers. In three simple words i give you my problem. Gender means nothing. Seriously. I feel i don't fit in with straight, gay or Bi. The gender is just something people are stuck with and i'm attracted to the person and not the parts that come with the gender. Have i tried LGBT websites and forums? Yep and none have had a decent answer i find. Helpies? Link to post Share on other sites
HiddenDemons Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 You possibly could be pansexual and panromantic which basically means you fall for the person and not the gender. Link to post Share on other sites
swankivy Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 There are actually a lot of people who don't feel "same gender" or "different gender" works to express their attraction experiences. Some of these folks say they're polyromantic or panromantic. Here are a few terms I've heard--they may help: Androromantic Attracted to masculinity, men, or male-identifying/presenting peopleGyneromantic Attracted to femininity, women, or female-identifying/presenting peopleSkolioromantic or ambiromantic Attracted to androgyny, non-binary, or androgynous-identifying/presenting peoplePomoromantic Attracted to people, but do not consider it important to label or categorize their attractions (“pomo” comes from “postmodern”)Lithromantic Attracted to people, but do not want that attraction reciprocatedSapioromantic Attracted to people based on intelligence WTFromantic Have some romantic experience, but WTF?? Ambiguously romantic Have some romantic experience, but it's not really clear what it is Schromantic Describing romance in terms of Schrödinger's Cat--having the possibility of being romantic or aromantic at the same time Link to post Share on other sites
RainbowGalaxy Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 You could be asexual and panromantic, depending on whether you feel there is a sexual component to your thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
Heart Posted March 11, 2014 Share Posted March 11, 2014 There are actually a lot of people who don't feel "same gender" or "different gender" works to express their attraction experiences. Some of these folks say they're polyromantic or panromantic. Here are a few terms I've heard--they may help: Androromantic Attracted to masculinity, men, or male-identifying/presenting people Gyneromantic Attracted to femininity, women, or female-identifying/presenting people Skolioromantic or ambiromantic Attracted to androgyny, non-binary, or androgynous-identifying/presenting people Pomoromantic Attracted to people, but do not consider it important to label or categorize their attractions (“pomo” comes from “postmodern”) Lithromantic Attracted to people, but do not want that attraction reciprocated Sapioromantic Attracted to people based on intelligence WTFromantic Have some romantic experience, but WTF?? Ambiguously romantic Have some romantic experience, but it's not really clear what it is Schromantic Describing romance in terms of Schrödinger's Cat--having the possibility of being romantic or aromantic at the same time May I just say thank you? It's very important to acknowledge that identifying orientations by "same" and "opposite" genders can be very problematic on many levels. May I also say though that the last one there is amazing? I appreciate that one. Anyways, as the previous posters have adequately described, there are a LOT of possible words out there that you can use to describe yourself. And if there isn't one out there that you feel fits you, you can always make one up. And you know what? Sometimes labels aren't useful at all either. I know you've been looking a lot, from the sounds of it, to find the right one, so if it's important to you, then keep looking until you find one that feels as comfortable as a second skin. But ultimately, it's not necessary either, if you don't feel you need a label :) Welcome to AVEN Link to post Share on other sites
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