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And now for the age old question, "What the heck am i?"


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Goggle got me nothing. Would you believe i even asked Bing and Yahoo? After the shower to get rid of the dirt i came on here looking for answers.

In three simple words i give you my problem. Gender means nothing.

Seriously. I feel i don't fit in with straight, gay or Bi. The gender is just something people are stuck with and i'm attracted to the person and not the parts that come with the gender.

Have i tried LGBT websites and forums? Yep and none have had a decent answer i find.

Helpies?

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HiddenDemons

You possibly could be pansexual and panromantic which basically means you fall for the person and not the gender.

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There are actually a lot of people who don't feel "same gender" or "different gender" works to express their attraction experiences. Some of these folks say they're polyromantic or panromantic. Here are a few terms I've heard--they may help:

Androromantic Attracted to masculinity, men, or male-identifying/presenting people
Gyneromantic Attracted to femininity, women, or female-identifying/presenting people
Skolioromantic or ambiromantic Attracted to androgyny, non-binary, or androgynous-identifying/presenting people
Pomoromantic Attracted to people, but do not consider it important to label or categorize their attractions (“pomo” comes from “postmodern”)
Lithromantic Attracted to people, but do not want that attraction reciprocated
Sapioromantic Attracted to people based on intelligence

WTFromantic Have some romantic experience, but WTF??

Ambiguously romantic Have some romantic experience, but it's not really clear what it is

Schromantic Describing romance in terms of Schrödinger's Cat--having the possibility of being romantic or aromantic at the same time

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RainbowGalaxy

You could be asexual and panromantic, depending on whether you feel there is a sexual component to your thoughts.

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There are actually a lot of people who don't feel "same gender" or "different gender" works to express their attraction experiences. Some of these folks say they're polyromantic or panromantic. Here are a few terms I've heard--they may help:

Androromantic Attracted to masculinity, men, or male-identifying/presenting people

Gyneromantic Attracted to femininity, women, or female-identifying/presenting people

Skolioromantic or ambiromantic Attracted to androgyny, non-binary, or androgynous-identifying/presenting people

Pomoromantic Attracted to people, but do not consider it important to label or categorize their attractions (“pomo” comes from “postmodern”)

Lithromantic Attracted to people, but do not want that attraction reciprocated

Sapioromantic Attracted to people based on intelligence

WTFromantic Have some romantic experience, but WTF??

Ambiguously romantic Have some romantic experience, but it's not really clear what it is

Schromantic Describing romance in terms of Schrödinger's Cat--having the possibility of being romantic or aromantic at the same time

May I just say thank you? It's very important to acknowledge that identifying orientations by "same" and "opposite" genders can be very problematic on many levels. May I also say though that the last one there is amazing? I appreciate that one.

Anyways, as the previous posters have adequately described, there are a LOT of possible words out there that you can use to describe yourself. And if there isn't one out there that you feel fits you, you can always make one up. And you know what? Sometimes labels aren't useful at all either. I know you've been looking a lot, from the sounds of it, to find the right one, so if it's important to you, then keep looking until you find one that feels as comfortable as a second skin. But ultimately, it's not necessary either, if you don't feel you need a label :)

Welcome to AVEN :cake:

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