Moon Ace Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 This thread reminded me of this video. Does this happen to anyone who sleeps next to their partner? I've never been in a relationship so I'm not sure what would happen if I was ever in one but I wouldn't mind sharing a bed. I've shared a bed with my sister off and on my whole life and it's doesn't particularly bother me. We both aren't exactly sleeping angels and there is some snoring, blanket stealing and space invasion on both sides but I really don't mind it too much. But I am also quite fine sleeping in a bed by myself as well. Being as I would be flexible sharing a bed it would probably be on my partner if they had a strong preference. Lovely duvet... Link to post Share on other sites
Synchrèse Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 This thread reminded me of this video. Does this happen to anyone who sleeps next to their partner? I've never been in a relationship so I'm not sure what would happen if I was ever in one but I wouldn't mind sharing a bed. I've shared a bed with my sister off and on my whole life and it's doesn't particularly bother me. We both aren't exactly sleeping angels and there is some snoring, blanket stealing and space invasion on both sides but I really don't mind it too much. But I am also quite fine sleeping in a bed by myself as well. Being as I would be flexible sharing a bed it would probably be on my partner if they had a strong preference. Lovely duvet... I agree, duvet is fantastic. The lady who is has no respect for his partner's personal space is not. I don't buy a big bed so somebody can stick to me, making it impossible for me to move a bit, breather or change my position... Link to post Share on other sites
Risu Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I've had two boyfriends so far in my life, and I liked cuddling in bed, but sleeping was an issue. I'm a very light sleeper, so someone moving around or snoring will wake me. :/ Sleep is important to me, so I'm gunna have to vote for solo sleeping. Link to post Share on other sites
Amnesiac Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 As long as they don't wake me up by moving or whatever, I don't mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Moon Ace Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 This thread reminded me of this video. Does this happen to anyone who sleeps next to their partner? I've never been in a relationship so I'm not sure what would happen if I was ever in one but I wouldn't mind sharing a bed. I've shared a bed with my sister off and on my whole life and it's doesn't particularly bother me. We both aren't exactly sleeping angels and there is some snoring, blanket stealing and space invasion on both sides but I really don't mind it too much. But I am also quite fine sleeping in a bed by myself as well. Being as I would be flexible sharing a bed it would probably be on my partner if they had a strong preference. Lovely duvet... I agree, duvet is fantastic. The lady who is has no respect for his partner's personal space is not. I don't buy a big bed so somebody can stick to me, making it impossible for me to move a bit, breather or change my position... Whenever I see something like this, other people may think 'romantic', I invariably think 'clingy' and 'suffocating'. I like a hug and cuddling but not while I try to sleep... Not that I like sharing a bed in the first place... Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Lady.Lizard Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I shared a bed with my boyfriend when we went to stay with friends in london. He knows I'm ace, we've been together for a bit (6 ish months) and we were both happy to bed-share. We just lay there and snuggled, barely that even. My head was on his shoulder, and his arm was around me, and we just stared at the ceiling until we fell asleep. I'm lucky in that he was worried even touching me would cross the 'ace line'. Basically what I'm saying is bed-sharing doesn't bother me, as long as I trust them, and they trust/respects me. The issue would be if I wasn't sure they had 'honourable intentions' Link to post Share on other sites
sagali Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 I love sharing a bed with my boyfriend! I love having him near. It makes me feel safe, since he prefers looking at my face when I'm sleeping rather then touching me, haha. Link to post Share on other sites
vast_ocean Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 I don't mind sharing a bed and cuddling while laying awake but I don't like to cuddle when trying to fall asleep. I'm quite fidgety during the night so I like to be able to move a little. Link to post Share on other sites
TheButterflyComposer Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 I would imagine that it would be nice to share with someone else you had romantic feelings for, or just great affection (if any of you have had to at some point share beds with siblings). Might even be seen as a compromise between an ace and their sexual partner, provided of course that boundaries are set and followed. Link to post Share on other sites
littlepersonparadox Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 I sleeped beside my boyfriend when we were dating sometimes. It was nice. Just to know someone else was there. Link to post Share on other sites
MooseAntlers Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 I like to spread out whenever I sleep, so I figure sharing a bed is out of the question :P Link to post Share on other sites
theotherfey Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 I've never been in a relationship, but I don't think I could share a bed with a partner. I've shared a bed with friends before, but that's usually only for a few nights. I like my own room, my own space. Link to post Share on other sites
SlightlyToxicXmasShrub Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 The only people I've ever shared a bed with are my brothers when we were kids, and I don't remember how that went. As with many things in life, I like the idea of sharing a bed with someone more than I actually would like to share a bed with someone. I don't know how other people do it. I'm always either too hot or too cold, and I constantly shift positions because it takes me a while to actually fall asleep, so I doubt I'd be an ideal sleeping partner. Besides, my bed is my ultimate zone of personal space. Link to post Share on other sites
I-Love-Birds Posted May 9, 2014 Share Posted May 9, 2014 I share a bed with my girlfriend when she is staying over at my house. I actually prefer it to sleeping on my own! Despite the fact that she tries to steal my side of the bed! XD Link to post Share on other sites
Amy2 Posted May 16, 2014 Share Posted May 16, 2014 Spooning sounds fine (though I wouldn't want to do it for real anymore) and I'm sure it is if you're 'the person in the front', but if you're not, you constantly have the other person's hair in your face and you don't know what to do with the left/right arm... actually, you're bound to get pins and needles in it because either you or your partner is lying on it. IMO, spooning is only 'romantic' for one... and pretty uncomfortable for the other. But again, that may just be me! In a relationship, I like spooning both ways. It brings more intimacy to the relationship. Caressing other person's back and neck is really relaxing to me. It's like doing it on a pet ^_^ But wouldn't do it when sleeping with someone else I Link to post Share on other sites
TheButterflyComposer Posted May 16, 2014 Share Posted May 16, 2014 Well, as I said, it's all a matter of perspective. I actually trained as a masseur for a summer job once. This basically means I get inundated with requests for massages from friends and relatives, particularly on planes and on car journeys. I don't really mind this and it's actually got me over my reflex to not touch people. Money wasn't bad either. Anyway, the whole bed thing is a matter of trust and closeness. Individual cases will vary because every one is different. Link to post Share on other sites
secondhandmeth Posted May 16, 2014 Share Posted May 16, 2014 We share a bed. I like cuddling with my fiance, and the bed is big enough that we can sleep "separately" on our own sides if we want to. Link to post Share on other sites
tarutaru Posted May 17, 2014 Share Posted May 17, 2014 I don't think I could tolerate having someone else in the bed. That, and I prefer single beds. The side-by-side twin bed configuration might be a good compromise. Link to post Share on other sites
Philip027 Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 I would love to at least try it. I've only ever done so in non-romantic settings. However, three potential problems: 1) I'm... pretty big. I take up a lot of space. It could be I'm just very used to having a very small bed (primarily because I have a very small room), but if the bed isn't anything substantial, no one else will be getting on it. XD 2) I have a hard time sleeping with snoring going on. Been a Thing for me ever since childhood. My dad was a particularly big snorer, and I'm pretty sure it actually gave me nightmares on several occasions. 3) I apparently snore myself, so it's not like I should be allowed to complain about other people snoring. On nights where I'm unable to sleep soundly, I have even woken *myself* up with my own snoring. Needless to say, I do not wish to be the same sort of affliction to someone else that my dad was to me in my kid days. If none of these turned out to be serious problems... I'd probably really enjoy the experience :D Link to post Share on other sites
FiddleKid Posted May 20, 2014 Share Posted May 20, 2014 I'm not in a relationship and would never share my double bed with anyone, love my bed to myself Link to post Share on other sites
Yoruichi Posted May 20, 2014 Share Posted May 20, 2014 I´ve shared my bed with my partner for over 13 years, and with a child or two for many of those years :) I´m so used to this that I can´t sleep alone :P Link to post Share on other sites
Tja Posted May 20, 2014 Share Posted May 20, 2014 I don't like other people in my house, let alone my bed. :P Link to post Share on other sites
Seele Posted May 20, 2014 Share Posted May 20, 2014 I think if I told my boyfriend that he had to sleep in a seperate bed, and room he'd probably smack me upside the head, and I mean I've tried XD Dude snores like a freight train. My bed is big enough that we each have a side though and we stick to it. That said I do miss having a whole bed to myself sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
Artistofnoname Posted May 20, 2014 Share Posted May 20, 2014 I like to keep it on an individual basis or a friend or family member of my own gender Link to post Share on other sites
SoulEater Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 I used to think it would be hard but now that I'm in a relationship I don't think I would mind at all :) Link to post Share on other sites
ChihuahuaDaddy Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 I actually have dreamed of being in bed with my, for now hypothetical, special girl. There's no sex. We just sleep together and cuddle and caress each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Moon Ace Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 I actually have dreamed of being in bed with my, for now hypothetical, special girl. There's no sex. We just sleep together and cuddle and caress each other. Thats fine! As long as it's not real! :D Link to post Share on other sites
ChihuahuaDaddy Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 I actually have dreamed of being in bed with my, for now hypothetical, special girl. There's no sex. We just sleep together and cuddle and caress each other. Thats fine! As long as it's not real! :D I really want it to happen for real. Link to post Share on other sites
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