This is my first post here, so I'm a little jittery. Hi, everyone!
I never thought I could be asexual, and that's why I'm posting here. My friends who know me best always joked about me being asexual, but I never took it seriously until now. After several failed ventures into the dating world and attempts to have sex.
I really, really love the idea of sex. I make fantasies and write erotic stories, and draw pornographic art, and have various sexual fetishes that stimulate me. But when it comes to actual real-life sexual interaction, I don't want to be a part of it. It holds no interest for me, it's like if someone approached me and asked to talk about emerging fashion trends (which I am equally uninterested in, haha).
This is why I joined here and made this thread. I never thought a person could be asexual and be fascinated with sex, and enjoy fetishes or any of those things. However, after Googling the issue, I read that many people who are asexual have fetishes, and some even masturbate. Since this information is really new to me and I'm not sure what to think, I just need a bit of validation that what I'm experiencing sounds like asexuality and not something else.
I know that when it comes to this label, it's all ultimately up to me and how I feel. What I'm asking is if it's possible for a person to be asexual and still be so interested in these things. I've become so frustrated over the years trying to understand why I don't want what everyone else wants, while still being weirdly interested in it. It'd be wonderful if I finally had an answer- if this is the correct answer.