(graphic . . . ish) Does anyone self-please?

[JaySexual]

Yeah I do, usually a couple times per week...

Not that it really bothers me or anything, but sometimes I wish I could rid myself of that 'need'

But I'd rather 'take care of business' than end up having a wet-dream, as that is worse to have deal with

[Jac the Knave]

When I masturbate I do so for the endorphin rush, not for any sexual needs. My muscles relax, I can let go of my thoughts, my oxygen intake increases. Afterward I enjoy deliberately calming my elevated heart rate. I find gratification in personal physical manipulations as it provides a convenient way to control my self awareness. I don't ever feel I must masturbate. I just believe it to be a private activity to learn about my physiological workings. Just as introspection and daydreaming are for privately learning my psychological workings. It can be pleasurable to feel my body's reactions to orgasm, but there are many physical reactions that are pleasing. The tastes of food, the flow of air entering my lungs as I swim, the thrill of adrenaline while riding a roller coaster. These are not sexualized. I understand that socially masturbation is seen as a sexual action, but it isn't for me.

[pma01]

i do for sure, i really enjoy self pleasure. i dont use porn nor do i fantasize. its relaxing and it feels good. to me, its way better than intercourse

[LyraHW]

Yep, usually for me it's around that time of month when my hormones go a bit cuckoo that I really can't not do anything about it. My sex drive is pretty non-existent outside of that hormonal time so my rabbit doesn't come out of it's drawer that much tbh. It's more reliable than working it out on a calendar really ;)

[Enki]

I do it very frequently. It helps me to relax and stop romanticizing about things and keep my mind in track. Wished I didn't have to though.

[Amber5886]

All the time. Always have. One of the reasons I never considered a sexuality, I have a very high sex drive..... With myself. Throw another person in there and it plummets into the negatives.

[Kylinoir]

I usually only masturbate when I can't fall asleep. It just makes me really tired.

[Lynxe]

I do enjoy an orgasm every now and then (mostly during and after menstruation from hormonal changes) with no actual penetration.

Yep, usually for me it's around that time of month when my hormones go a bit cuckoo that I really can't not do anything about it. My sex drive is pretty non-existent outside of that hormonal time so my rabbit doesn't come out of it's drawer that much tbh. It's more reliable than working it out on a calendar really ;)

This. I usually only masturbate around menstruation.

It fascinates me the number of people saying that they masturbate regularly. I don't have the drive for that. o.o;

I'm also repulsed by my own orgasms, which makes the monthly cravings for pleasure very interesting... I do have a lot more control (obviously) when masturbating though.

[pralfred]

I masturbate regularly as a way to deal with stress and to get to sleep easier. It is pleasurable and that's a bonus too. There is generally little sexual to do with it though.

[butterflydreams]

I enjoy the end result to masturbation as well, although the actual act feels like a chore. I've never seen it as sexual but more "this part of me feels good when stimulated so I'll keep doing it".

That's exactly how I described it to someone once: "well, A feels good, B feels better. More from column B, less from column A" :)

Though I will say, I've had a really hard time getting over the mental hangups I have from being told how bad it was as a kid. I was the oldest, my parents discouraged any kind of self touching from a very early age, and I had very little privacy. I felt like a freak :( I don't know if I'm over all that today. It's a long process.

[DonnieOS]

Once every two weeks or so. I don't have much of a drive for it, and I've gone a year and a half before without... but I have a family history of prostate cancer and my doctor basically said I should.

I find it funny that I basically have to plan for it. I'll be like, "Hmmm. It's been a couple of weeks. Probably should do that." And then I'll end up reading too much and being too tired to do it.

Whenever I do, I usually view some sort of pornography, but I have a weird relationship with it. I can't stand to see fluids and any sort of penetration can be difficult to watch. But I can usually get into the notion that they're into it. I guess that's the fantasy. Or whatever. :)

[Ficulnean]

Yep. Only before sleep to relax, usually. I find it takes me a while to enjoy it to the point that I am satisfied, though. Which is a serious issue being female. It goes through off phases too.

[Maven2014]

I do, but like a couple of others here, it's driven by my monthly cycle. The rest of the month, I'm really not interested/don't think about it.

I also need a vibrator - I've never been able to get there without one. Plus, it takes a long, long time. And I'm not so sure my orgasms are really that strong. I always feel as if I've not quite achieved a proper finale!

Low libido, I guess!

[Amy Ghost]

No I don't do it. I have tried one years back and never finished it. I've been disgusted by it and myself. Thankfully I am non-libidoist so no needs to for me do it. Any time I feel something I can easily ignore. And that too isn't often thankfully

[RoswellValentine]

Only late at night, right before I go to sleep. I've considered looking into buying a toy or vibrator, but it'll have to wait for now.

[Elaine Watson]

I seem to be the one of the very very unlucky few who hate masturbation - but do it anyway.

I do not enjoy it. At all. It's all thoughts I would shudder at, were I not in that mindset, the mechanical stimulation itself is tingly, but not in a good way - in an uncomfortable way. Besides, it always ends up being yucky and stuff, and I have to have at least a shower or two to feel good with myself. No endorphins seem to be released, or at least I don't feel good after. Overall, it's all sorts of cuddled up.

The worst part: I have a libido. And it is not at all small. I sometimes need two or three goes until I get it out of my system, and while many weeks contain one or two flare-ups of this... disease, I sometimes have flareups every single damned day.

[Dimonaire]

Hey, glad i found this thread, I've been wondering if anyone else self-pleasured as well. I identify as asexual, but I thought it was weird that I still liked to pleasure myself. then i found out you could have a libido and still be asexual, because I think the actual act of penetration by the actual male organ is kind of grody, I kind of want to try it out since I'm a virgin and see if i still think that way, but just thinking about being penetrated is just no. Also, I've tried penetration myself but i find that I prefer "flicking the bean" as @The B said. But I can't just do it if i'm bored, I would have to really want it to do it, and it's just an irregular thing (at least i think it is)

[WuNsChKiNd89]

Yep, usually for me it's around that time of month when my hormones go a bit cuckoo that I really can't not do anything about it. My sex drive is pretty non-existent outside of that hormonal time so my rabbit doesn't come out of it's drawer that much tbh. It's more reliable than working it out on a calendar really ;)

Same here! There's like maybe 4 days a month where my libido actually raises its head, the rest of the month it's buried in the back of my mind somewhere. Stupid hormones

[Goober]

Infrequently. I enjoy reading smut more than I do actually touching myself, but if I do then it doesn't take long before I feel bored and stop. I could literally go once at the beginning of a month and not feel any urges to return to it until the end of the next month or beginning of the month after that.

[Shoryu]

Ever since I discovered my asexuality, I've been making serious conscience efforts to stop it (been meaning to stop for quite some time, but finally felt the push). So far... 6 days without it? Yeah, seems about right. Similar to what Tal said, I don't think it releases endorphins anymore. Loading up porn videos is a waste of time and bandwidth for something non-enjoyable. Taking control now!

[welsh dragonite]

I do it pretty often. It feels nice and helps me get sleepy. Honestly, I'd rather get myself to my destination in two to three minutes rather than having someone bang me for twenty, during which I may or may not actually feel any pleasure. All in all, I'm cool with masturbation but I think doing it too frequently can take away from the positive effects of it and make it rather boring.

yep,i can quite happly say that is the only reason i masturbate ( god even typing that word it makes me feel dodgy) i find it is a great way to fall asleep and when i actually do get the odd occasional urge as im sure a lot of us do i find it a lot easier then having sex. done that once and it was absolutely vile....

[life_carnival]

I don't have sex but yes I masturbate. Usually at that time of the month where I feel very horny and I need to release it. But even so, I can go on for weeks without having one. Usually I will need help by reading some erotic/porn stories BUT I don't do it by watching porn or even seeing those NSFW photos. Seeing real life porn just, well, looks messy and I end up snickering and completely turned off.