Is it common for asexuals to not be turned on by breasts and butts?

[Musichead2468]

I am a asexual male that is not turned on by breasts and butts. Is it like one of the factors of being asexual?

[Rising Sun]

If somebody was turned on by breasts and butts, I would call this person sexual.

[eched]

I've felt sensual attraction to butts twice and I rather like seeing a girl in jeans for aesthetic reasons, but I wouldn't call this being turned on cause that gets the wrong idea across. I don't get turned on by girls at all, cause to my understanding turned on is almost always used in a sexual context.

[Tea.EarlGrey.Hot]

It's common for asexuals to not be turned on by anything, lol!

[Mystery-G]

It's common for me. I couldn't care less about them.

[Janus the Fox]

I don't mean anything in terms or sexual orientation, there are asexuals that are turned on by breasts and butts, like within porn for example. Being turned on, don't mean you want sex, nor are sexually attracted to the person.

I'm not turned on by it either.

[eched]

You know, I'm into porn, but I still can't say I'm into butts or breasts. It's more like I just need background music to get the job done. I tried a little odd ball experiment the other day and I kept watching a porn AFTER I was done 'taking care of myself' and I was like, GROSS! EWWW! YUCK! Turn it off!

It was kind of funny and odd actually.

[Philip027]

If somebody was turned on by breasts and butts, I would call this person sexual.

Came in to say that

I'm guessing that some aces can find them aesthetically appealing, but I never understood it.

[The B]

I know loads of sexual people interested in women who aren't really into breasts and butts (or, more commonly, only a very specific type of each, or only one or the other). It happens.

If you did like one or the other or both, it might not even make you sexual - it might just mean a fetish, or aesthetic appreciation. It's only when it has a sexual component attached, that drives you to desire sex with the person the breasts or boobs are attached to.

[Purnkin Spurce]

Yeah, that's the whole part of not being sexually attracted to others. We are not turned on by other's body parts or even the whole body. We can find people very sexy, attractive, beautiful and even be fond of breasts and ass. But the main thing is we have no sexual feelings for them.

[alpacaterpillar]

I like breasts and bums sexually when they're clothed and if the clothing is moving (e.g. wind), but if naked I find them quite ugly. It's why I put my sexuality as fetishist.

Remember asexuality and sexuality is more of a spectrum than a series of boxes.

[SithLord]

I actually had this question directed to me once! My two friends were saying they look at people's asses or breasts when first checking someone out and when I said that I look at a person's face and not their ass or rack they looked at me like I didn't understand the question. I know for certain because I didn't notice at all that the "guy" I just met was in the first stages of transitioning to being male with stuffing "his" pants to appear to have a dick but being unable to hide "his" breasts. Didn't even notice, and I definitely didn't stare at "him" ass as "he" walked away.

(I write the male pronouns in quotations because I never asked "him" which "he'd" prefer to go by since "he" was only beginning the transition to becoming a man).

But my opinion is that no, asexual people aren't turned on by anything and may only like certain things for aesthetic purposes.

[WhenSummersGone]

For 2 guy's I have liked their butts but I don't think it crossed over into sexual attraction, as I still couldn't picture sex with them without getting bored. I think it was just sensual attraction or just liking them. I do sometimes notice butts but it's just liking how they look, the shape like a painting, and nothing more. I'm still opened to being Demisexual but I need more information to call myself that.

[IceHurricane]

I like butts but they don't turn me on. I just see someone walk by and I'll just think 'Hm (s)he has a nice butt' and move on. (Not only girls have nice butts ;))

[Guest]

It isn't common or uncommon people are just different some people like breasts and butts and others don't and others don't like anything...

[Member7783]

Nudity doesn't do anything for me. Watching sexual activity doesn't do anything for me. Meeting someone that other guys find "hot" doesn't do anything for me. I don't have lustful feelings. When I was living as a sexual person, it took copious amounts of alcohol or marijuana and my partner making serious effort to arouse me to where I could perform sexually. Even then, it felt like a chore...like doing the dishes...or vacuuming the living room. I rarely ever could "finish", and I know I must've seemed like a very cold and distant lover.

Not being aroused by nudity might be asexuality...or it could just be maturity. Americans are the LEAST educated, comfortable, or mature about human sexuality.

[Sapientia]

I do think that breast are beautiful to look at, soft to the touch ... etc But they do not "turn me on" or arouse me... For me they are just a beautiful part of the female body that has been unfortunately too "sexualised"

[Foxz]

Boobs are for babies.
Butts are for pooping.
other than the amazing fact that we can do both these things (Life lol), they aren't very fascinating. Although sometimes boobs or something other will catch my eye, but it usually goes like this.
"Whoa nice boobs. Put some clothes on next time" *Looks away and does whatever I was doing before*

Needless to say if they weren't always right there (Slutty clothes), I probably wouldn't even think about them or recognize their existence.

[Cyfyndyfy]

Yeah I feel nothing I just think "oh, boobs okay" or "hey that person's got a butt too" lol they can be aesthetically pleasing when worn with nice clothes but that's just admiring how well clothes fit on a person -shrugs-

[Guest member25959]

Either that, or they've got a lot of other priorities

[Lia]

Moved to The Grey Area, Sex and Related Discussions

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[therookie]

Im a half celibate half asexual and Im not turned on by those 2 features - I prefer legs and feet. LOL

[KJ!]

I think what you're turned on by (where in actual "want to have sex with that person" or "something to think about during masturbation, but I'll pass IRL" kind of way) has nothing to do with whether you are ace or not. Some people like breasts. Some like butts. Some like legs. Some like feet. Some like teeth. Some like thin people, some like muscular people, some like fat people. Some like tall people and short people, and people with long hair and people with blond hair. Some like people wearing leather or dressed in costume. Some like wearing diapers and some like lace lingerie. Everyone is different. Some gay men like women's breasts in porn. Some women (gay and straight and in between) like watching male-male porn (and everyone knows that some straight men like girl on girl porn). None of this makes you ace or sexual or demi. How you feel about actual people IRL and how you identify is what defines that.

[Neytiri]

I'm not a man but since I like men and women......No, I don't get turned on by breasts, butts, leggs etc. I go for the persons character and still that doesn't "turn me on" in a sexual way

[nowhere_man]

I tried a little odd ball experiment the other day and I kept watching a porn AFTER I was done 'taking care of myself' and I was like, GROSS! EWWW! YUCK! Turn it off!

It was kind of funny and odd actually.

I do believe Louis CK has a bit about this very thing.

Although, I think he may have been more disgusted with himself than with the actual porn. :D

[marki]

T&A doesn't do anything for me either.

[littleheartsofjoy]

I don't even notice butts at all. I thought that I was alone in that. As for boobs,I might notice the size at most but generally I don't really care too much. My (ex)friends were always weirded out when one of them would make a comment on a guy's butt and I have nothing to say or I say that I don't notice it.

This thread actually reminds me of a scene that I read in a book. Basically it was a guy that was at an outdoor party and saw this girl. The girl had a "nice butt" for her shape but had very small boobs. I'll spoiler the gist of the scene just because:

Guy: Hey.

Girl: Hey (she was attracted to him and he was friends with her friend or whatever)

Guy (looking at her body): Oh, you have nothing there for me (he was referring to her boobs). Turn around.

Girl turns around, and the guy says: Damn! Now we are talking (referring to her butt). I can work with this.

The girl was excited he liked her butt even though he did say to her that she had nothing for boobs.

I know that everyone likes different things, but when I think about that scene, I get it but I don't.

[DemisexualHulk]

Yes, I do find some breasts nice, and I like butts better, I definitely get aroused, but only when I'm touching the person I'm bonding with to any extent; otherwise I do not pay attention to any of that. If someone even told me a girl who just walked by us is pretty, I'd be like, "so she's pretty. So what?". Usually on the inside, although I'd sometimes say it out loud.

[RedSpiderLily]

I think asexuality is a very broad thing and you can't define it by your own body. I'm love huge boobs and huge bums and they definitely turn me on. I see a big pair of breasts or a big bum and I instantly get aroused. In fact, describing the experience is arousing. That said, I personally attribute this as a physical attraction as even with this I don't want to have sex with the woman.

I have never seen a woman and thought that I want to have sex with her. I have never seen a pair of breasts or butt I like and thought that I want to have sex with her. That to me is what it means to be asexual. My appreciation for breasts and butts ends at wanting to feel them but, I don't associate that with wanting to have sex. Having an appreciation for those that are deemed as sexual doesn't automatically mean that I want to be with that woman sexually.

Let's remember that fetishes extend beyond breasts and bums to even include feet. Does this mean that if people get turned on by feel they are sexual?

I don't want to have sex, that doesn't mean I'm not a human male. I have nothing to prove here; I feel what I feel.

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It depends of every person, asexuals can be turn on and no all work the same... some just can be turned on