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What does the urge to masturbate feel like? [TMI?]


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Well...maybe some tmi here but whatever....

I just get bored sometimes and start making collages of porn stars and eventually I get what I like to call an Arection (not all the way hard but not nothing- kinda a half assed attenpt at my body to be normal) and usually if I am focused on other stuff it goes away but if I actually want to get it over with which usually is the case if I make any contact I can get it over with quickly.

Haha actually the mess part of it is the only thing about girls I find somewhat curious...I don't get it and that makes me find it funny and interesting.

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TMI:

The dull ache, spasm and wetness seems just about right. But there's also a little thrill (kind of electric) that goes from my groin to my belly-button. It's kind of annoying but I never feel the urge to do anything about it. it dies down after a few seconds or it becomes *actively* painful, which is just plain unpleasant and almost feel like menstrual cramps ends up killing the sensation. >.< So I don't think I've ever felt the urge to *masturbate* per say - I tried it once and it was an epic failure. >.< Waste of time and mildly painful so apparently I just don't know how. *eyeroll*. Everything works fine, biologically. I'm capable of getting *biologically* aroused but stimulation leads to an increase in the production of lubrication but no sexual feeling. It's kind of the same way someone pressing on your bladder will make you pee *eventually* but you don't actually feel the *cognitive* need to do so, I guess... But not quite. The sensation really is unique.

Suffice to say, biological arousal, to me, feels as mentioned above but sexual arousal/desire, even for ones own pleasures... I have no frikin clue.

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I dont feel any urge really. But then I do, but its not so much about anything sexual, its how it makes me feel afterwards. I dont think I have a physical indicator of when I need to do it, but I know physically when I feel pretty bad and it would do me good. I only tend to do it if Im tired and cant sleep, or Im a bit stressed out by the world, as thats basically what it does, it relieves tension and physically relaxes me. I dont feel guilty about it, quite the reverse, I wish Id started doing it sooner, as I used to have big problems with insomnia for years when I was younger, and think it might have helped me get through that a lot quicker!

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  • 2 weeks later...
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For me it's usually a result of boredom or because of the thought 'oh well, this will help me relax enough to sleep'

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I have to be in the right frame of mind if I want to masturbate. I only get an urge about once a month or so, during the last few days of my period. I always hold off until it stops though, because... you know. I get really horny, and then I either read some fan fiction or watch some porn, because I like to have something to visualise. The thought of me being joined by someone else always turns me off, but the idea of watch other people getting it on is definitely much more enjoyable.

Then all the blood starts flowing, everything's throbbing in a very nice way, and then I get down to it. You know how it works.

And then I'm sated for another month. I really don't think it's weird if you want to enjoy your body, it doesn't have to be a sexual thing.

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For me it's like a drug or something like that. I just want to feel the sensation for some seconds and then i'm done to do whatever i was doing to before it. Maybe if i was up to any drug available (alcohol, meth, marijuana or anything like that), i wouldn't masturbate at all.

And to sleep: some seconds after i'm done, i'm already in some deep sleep.

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Drugs can make you want to masterbate more actually!

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It doesn't itch. It's more of an urge like I don't know if you sometimes have an urge to tap your pencil or your foot or something like that, but it's like that only more so.

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I hope this isn't too graphic or in depth, hope I am not breaking any forum rules, as I am new here, but I feel like, at least compared to myself, these answers are really quite inadequate. So I will be as detailed and thorough - and scientific - as possible. I am definitely NOT asexual. I am a man that is very attracted to women.

I'm a 20 something (later 20s) year old male. The urge is not as strong as say, when I was 16 (and when you are that age as a young man, it is literally ALL you can think about, and it doesn't help that you are around beautiful young women that are in your age group who are, in many cases, just as horny as you are), but it still gets VERY strong. So what does the urge feel like? It isn't much different than other biological urges, like eating, urinating, the need to defecate etc. I hope that doesn't disgust you, but it's the closest I can come. When you are hungry, you are HUNGRY. Ever spend all day doing sports, working out, or doing some kind of hard labor without food, and then being absolutely STARVING? Like, you walk in and smell mom's spaghetti, or you sit down at your favorite restaurant after, and your stomach is growling and your mouth is watering, and when the meal comes, it's the most heavenly, delicious thing you have ever had? The urge to masturbate is like that for me. It's sort of always there, but buried under my need to be a normal human being, go to work, etc, but some things bring it to the forefront of the brain. Seeing a cute girl at work (and it doesn't even have to be a gorgeous woman, just not morbidly obese and within my age range with good hygiene is usually enough) can set it off. Reading through an arousing part of a book. The sex scenes in A Song of Ice and Fire between Jon Snow and his fire kissed (that means red haired) wildling woman... I had to turn towards the wall at the place I was eating for lunch that day while reading it, for fear of someone seeing the tent down below. The smell of a clean woman - those soap / perfume smells, and just the natural clean skin smell of a female I am at all attracted to will do it too.

It can also be set off by absolutely nothing at all, or something really small. An attractive avatar in a video game. A picture of someone I find attractive in an alluring position. Or, sometimes, I just realize, I'm really really horny for no reason. Porn obviously as well, although I detest porn that degrades the woman. Sensual, passionate sex really turns me on though. So that's what get's me there. In general, I have a heightened sense of pleasurable feelings during this time, and a dulled sense of pain. That's not to say I wouldn't scream bloody murder if someone stabbed me, but little aches and pains seem to melt away and fade to background noise. They don't matter. I can feel the blood pumping through my veins, specifically to / around my genital area. Any friction or movement of my underwear may cause the start of an erection. I'm also unable to suppress "sexy thoughts" during this time, and I, myself, just sort of "feel sexy". I feel like I am attractive and desirable, more so than normal, even though I am totally average. I have the urge to just grab the nearest decent looking woman and kiss her / grope her sensually. At this point, seeing a picture of an attractive nude woman or a video would send me into the full arousal stage. Of course, if I am at work, I can't / won't get to the arousal stage, and it's very very distracting to be thinking about sex all the time when I am trying to be productive at work. That is yet another reason why I take care of the urge nightly, and that seems to be enough to keep my body satisfied.

Also, this is kind of hard to explain but when I haven't had sex or masturbated for a while (say 3 days), it IS almost like an itch that I need to scratch.. well not an itch. I mean it feels nothing like an itch, but that's how I would compare the urge. I also play guitar, and if I don't play for a few days, my hands get sort of antsy, like they NEED to play, they WANT the exercise. The human body in general begs to be used for it's various purposes. I think the genitals are no different for most people - they want to be used for their biological purpose, which is to orgasm / make babies. It's like my penis is constantly saying "hey dude, I'm here, wanna play? We haven't played in ages, why don't you get me out and we can have some fun!". It's maddening, but also wonderful. That desire - it's a wonderful need / fulfillment cycle, and my life would be much more empty without it. I would not ever want to trade it away. Life is all about tension and release. You get hungry, you eat, you feel full / sated. You work hard for a promotion, you get it, you feel gratified. You get horny, your sexual tension builds, and you release it, and you feel so great afterwards.

When this urge / arousal happens, or has been building I should say - it isn't like someone just flips a switch in my head and says "SEXY TIME!", it's more like a constant build of pressure that becomes more intense over time, the female body looks so insanely good. It always looks good of course, but that gets magnified. Certain poses, erotic films, seeing a woman have a real orgasm or - so much better, bringing a woman to orgasm, intensifies it SO much. I want my mouth between err.. you get the point.

I don't think there is any biological need for me that is so strong as the need / want to penetrate a woman and orgasm once I am aroused. I think if I was unable to eat and unable to masturbate for 30 days straight, and you put a gourmet meal and a beatiful, naked woman side by side and said "choose only one, and you have to wait one more week for the other", assuming that I knew I wouldn't actually die of starvation, I would choose the woman. Of course, you didn't ask about sex, you asked about masturbation. Well, masturbation is the "single player" version of sex, and the orgasms are just as good for me, sometimes better. Don't get me wrong, I would always prefer sex over masturbation, but in terms of the actual climax, well, if you want something done right, do it yourself. I hope that doesn't offend anyone, but as my partner cannot actually feel what I am feeling and know EXACTLY the correct pressure / speed / places to touch, I will always be the king at getting myself off. And there's nothing wrong with that. Mentally though, it is so much more "sexy" and arousing to climax with / from a partner.

During the arousal / actual sex or masturbation part, my mouth starts to water a bit (no idea here, but it happens without fail), I tend to mouth breath, heart rate goes up, etc.Then there's the long build up, like going up a rollercoaster, and then WHOOSH, those 15-20 seconds of release that feel like absolute heaven. I really can't understand how the people in this thread downplay the immense release. It's the best feeling in the world. And when it's with a partner, you feel so close to them, so content, so wonderfully fulfilled, and you just want to hold them express your love / intimate feeling for them, both physically and emotionally. Everything else, all problems, all difficulties in life, it all fades away and you are up in the clouds for a good half hour or so afterwards, when you may chat a little bit with your SO and drift to sleep in each others arms. There is nothing better than this, and I can't believe that some people take it / their significant other for granted. It's just so damned profound!

After the climax, my head is swimming in endorphines / dopamine (the bodies natural reward system drugs), and that wonderful natural high can last for up to 2 hours. It's the most intense at / directly after the climax, but i can feel the effects for up to 2 hours after, which is a deep sense of relaxation, facial / chest flushing (more blood on the surface / skin and generally feeling warmer all over my body), and a general sense of contentment. There's no better way to finish off the day, and it leads very naturally into a deep, relaxed sleep.

It's such a wonderful, beautiful thing, and I hope that everyone can / will experience it without guilt, or shame, or having to fake it, but sadly that is not the way of the world. But that is "the urge" and all that comes with it for me.

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