Homer Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 8 hours ago, Jenna444 said: Also I would add, the asker might be trying to find out if you're a threat to their relationship. I notice a lot of hetero women do this to apparently single women that they view as a possible "homewrecker". Lady, I truly don't want your boring husband, and whether he wants me or not, I couldn't care less. He's all yours. 😂 Oh yeah, haha. I used to be friends with a woman whose SO was jealous af. I even complimented him on being able to handle her quirks and strange thoughts all day because I couldn't. Didn't stop him from being an emotional blackmailing, abusing bitch but what do I know... 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WoodwindWhistler Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 On 6/25/2017 at 0:58 PM, Laplace said: It's kinda funny to see how people talk so openly about sex but then they're afraid to use the actual terms so they dilute it with euphemisms. That is amusing, probably borne of being raised in a weird culture that simultaneously exalts sex in everyday settings while condemning it in religious context. I mean, I sort of have an excuse being ace spec (and when my characters talk about sex it's always in euphemisms and with slight discomfort) but why are allos still hung up on it in this day and age? (also it sounds like that person may not know the word "hymen" because that's what they were trying to describe, which doesn't always "break" when you first have sex) 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mitoplasm_Cytocondria Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 A conversation I had with someone over a gaming platform (via mic) Me: Oh yeah I'm actually asexual Person: But isn't that bad?? Me: No, actually, it- Person: So wait are you like a plant or something?? #asexualproblems 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Willgracefan Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 My sister's bachelorette party was a Sex Toy Party where one of her friends came in with a presentation of toys and lube and whatnot. I wasn't out then so I had to fight back tears of horrified uncomfortableness and pretend I was having a grand ole time when all I wanted to do was grab a full bottle of wine and sit in my sister's room and play with her cat. #AsexualProblems 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hermit Advocate Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 1 hour ago, Willgracefan said: My sister's bachelorette party was a Sex Toy Party where one of her friends came in with a presentation of toys and lube and whatnot. I wasn't out then so I had to fight back tears of horrified uncomfortableness and pretend I was having a grand ole time when all I wanted to do was grab a full bottle of wine and sit in my sister's room and play with her cat. #AsexualProblems Holy shit, people do that?! I'm so sorry you had to sit through that. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Laplace Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 2 hours ago, Mitoplasm_Cytocondria said: A conversation I had with someone over a gaming platform (via mic) Me: Oh yeah I'm actually asexual Person: But isn't that bad?? Me: No, actually, it- Person: So wait are you like a plant or something?? #asexualproblems I am Groot. 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MakeupJunkie4 Posted June 27, 2017 Share Posted June 27, 2017 8 hours ago, Hey you in the corner said: Holy shit, people do that?! I'm so sorry you had to sit through that. Yeah, from what I understand, bachelorette parties are an excuse to get really tacky and explicit about everything sexual. I never go. 😕 8 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
in.visible Posted June 27, 2017 Share Posted June 27, 2017 (edited) 11 hours ago, Willgracefan said: My sister's bachelorette party was a Sex Toy Party where one of her friends came in with a presentation of toys and lube and whatnot. I wasn't out then so I had to fight back tears of horrified uncomfortableness and pretend I was having a grand ole time when all I wanted to do was grab a full bottle of wine and sit in my sister's room and play with her cat. #AsexualProblems When I was studying, I had friends who wanted to do... do you know tupperware parties? But like with dildos and stuff. I almost choked when she suggested it and everyone was so excited. I said I already had plans that evening. Don't know if they ever did it in the end... I also remember when I was kind of really oblivious to these interpersonal things and my classmate celebrated her coming of age party... everyone put 10 bucks in a pot beforehand so someone could order a stripper. I thought it was a fun idea back then because everyone said it was, but while I stood there watching him undress and all the girls around me cheering and whooping at him, I just thought: "woah, okay, nope." Edited June 27, 2017 by mania Typo 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 27, 2017 Share Posted June 27, 2017 So I was talking to my neighbour and all of a sudden she started saying to me "you should get a girlfriend," "you should get married" she said the same thing to my mom who was there as well to, she continued saying "I think everybody should get married" like, really? everybody? so I said to her "But don't you think there's more to life than being married?" to which she replied "No, no I think everybody should get married." Honestly I just don't understand what this obsession is about getting married, marriages on average have a 50% divorce rate, So obviously they aren't everyone's cup of tea. She was literally saying at one point "everybody should pair up" and "every guy should get together with a girl" or something along those lines. I mean is it really such a difficult notion to conceive of of living a satisfied life without being a relationship? When I was a child I never experienced such a need to "find a wife", I mean, why is it that these people always feel the need to state so self assuredly that marriage and ending up in a hetero relationship with 2.5 kids is a self fulfilling prophecy for anyone and everyone they come across? I mean, if they honestly felt that way, why would they even bother to say "oh don't worry you'll find yourself some nice girl/boy and settle down." I mean really what is the point if they already know it's going to happen, like who are they trying to convince? Why do they have to presume to know all and be all? why do they think they can speak for every other human being on the planet? what makes them think that their experience is the only experience? I like linguistics, I can sit and read a dictionary or gothic literature for hours at a time, but that doesn't mean I think that "everybody should read lovecraft", I like to do martial arts but that doesn't mean I think that "everybody should dedicate ten of thousands of hours to learning this artform because I do and it's worth it for me." Like seriously? I honestly don't get where people get this idea that wants to have their experiences? why can people just make see things on a case by case basis? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LandonH Posted June 27, 2017 Share Posted June 27, 2017 Having sexual humor , but you're asexual and people don't think you're asexual. #asexualproblems 14 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Willgracefan Posted June 27, 2017 Share Posted June 27, 2017 1 hour ago, teaandpeppermints said: So I was talking to my neighbour and all of a sudden she started saying to me "you should get a girlfriend," "you should get married" she said the same thing to my mom who was there as well to, she continued saying "I think everybody should get married" like, really? everybody? so I said to her "But don't you think there's more to life than being married?" to which she replied "No, no I think everybody should get married." Honestly I just don't understand what this obsession is about getting married, marriages on average have a 50% divorce rate, So obviously they aren't everyone's cup of tea. She was literally saying at one point "everybody should pair up" and "every guy should get together with a girl" or something along those lines. I mean is it really such a difficult notion to conceive of of living a satisfied life without being a relationship? When I was a child I never experienced such a need to "find a wife", I mean, why is it that these people always feel the need to state so self assuredly that marriage and ending up in a hetero relationship with 2.5 kids is a self fulfilling prophecy for anyone and everyone they come across? I mean, if they honestly felt that way, why would they even bother to say "oh don't worry you'll find yourself some nice girl/boy and settle down." I mean really what is the point if they already know it's going to happen, like who are they trying to convince? Why do they have to presume to know all and be all? why do they think they can speak for every other human being on the planet? what makes them think that their experience is the only experience? I like linguistics, I can sit and read a dictionary or gothic literature for hours at a time, but that doesn't mean I think that "everybody should read lovecraft", I like to do martial arts but that doesn't mean I think that "everybody should dedicate ten of thousands of hours to learning this artform because I do and it's worth it for me." Like seriously? I honestly don't get where people get this idea that wants to have their experiences? why can people just make see things on a case by case basis? Seriously! At work I said "this is why I'm glad I don't have a boyfriend." And then the topic of conversation turned to why I'm not looking for a boyfriend. My coworker who is from India and had an arranged marriage said "This is what life is for. To have a family." I surprised myself when I responded that I life can be different for everyone and was quite happy being alone, thank you very much. This is what life is for? Really? Ugh. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 27, 2017 Share Posted June 27, 2017 31 minutes ago, Willgracefan said: Seriously! At work I said "this is why I'm glad I don't have a boyfriend." And then the topic of conversation turned to why I'm not looking for a boyfriend. My coworker who is from India and had an arranged marriage said "This is what life is for. To have a family." I surprised myself when I responded that I life can be different for everyone and was quite happy being alone, thank you very much. This is what life is for? Really? Ugh. That doesn't even make sense, if the point of living life isn't to live to true to oneself but to have a family than wants the point in having a family? to make kids to have another family? and what the point of that family? what's the point in having kids if the point of their life is to have kids? If life isn't for living but to have a family, and someone who considers having a family not to be living, then what's the point in living if the what living is for isn't what you'd consider living? A young scribe walked the mountain of everest, searching for the meaning of life. They travelled far to many lands, searched many places, and asked the wisest of them what life is for. as they walked, they pondered, conemplating the philosophical books that weighed heavy on their back. "only I can experience my own life, and since I will always be the one most involved in my life, then is life not for me living, for my own sake, am I not the most important person in my own life? people have come and gone but I have always stayed " pondered the weary scribe. As they walked up the mountain clutching to their supplies and their life, the intensity of their pondering continued to dominate the scribes mind, as if having dominion over the scribe, and silencing to them all the cold, wind exhaustion death that abounded them in contrast to it. "perhaps the question should not be what is life for, but what is life for me?" pondered the scribe. When they finally reached house of the wiseman on the top of the mountain they fell to their knees at the door, after 3 days of no sleep, the scribe summoned all of the strength and rasped their knuckles on the door. The door swung open to a man with a long, white flowing beard, he asked the scribe if they were thirsty, hungry or needed respite, the scribe replied "I only need respite for one thing, my mind, tell me, wise man, what is life for?" The wise man stroked his beard, as if in contemplation, than said, "life is for having a family, specifically a nuclear one with 2.5 kids, a job that earns over 50k a year and a wife or husband that you can brag about, you also need a really nice house and nice car, and netflix, also don't forget a 60inch plasma screen television." As the scribe look into the mans eyes, disillusioned with his answer, they promptly left, never to return again, not before of course, the man asked the scribe what their gender was, if they were in a relationship, if they had "settled down" yet, if they knew their "biological clock" was ticking? as well what kind of car they drove, how big their house was, what they did for a living and if they had seen the latest episode of "days of our lives" and "neighbours". And most importantly of all "what do the people in the village think of me living up here? they must think i'm pretty cool and wise huh? I swear i've nearly died here several times but it's worth it having people think that, so what did they say." At this the scribe merely turned to face the man and said "what I have to say to you." "what's that?" asked the man. "Nothing", replied the scribe, and with that, the scribe walked away to go on a much bigger quest, the quest to find out what life was for, for them. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Willgracefan Posted June 27, 2017 Share Posted June 27, 2017 That was awesome teaandpeppermints, thank you Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Nea Rose Symphony Posted June 27, 2017 Share Posted June 27, 2017 4 hours ago, LandonH said: Having sexual humor , but you're asexual and people don't think you're asexual. #asexualproblems I feel like this all the time *cracks sexual joke* "And I'm the asexual one!" 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Whovianelf Posted June 29, 2017 Share Posted June 29, 2017 "Don't you even WANT a boyfriend?" "No." "Are you gay? *more firmly "No" "Why then?" "I'm asexual" "Ok Patrick Star, whatever you say" #asexualproblems 8 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lemonsky Posted June 29, 2017 Share Posted June 29, 2017 I can never use the words top and bottom without having someone snicker at the thought of something sexual. What if I just want bunk beds and am just politely asking the other person top or bottom instead of hogging the top bunk to myself before they could say anything. 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ennis Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Having to explain to your LGBT friends how you can be asexual and in a relationship. #asexualproblems I have to say though, I'm glad they asked. Also they accepted and understood my answer. It was just ignorance after all. 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
DoctorWhatPhD Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 My friend insisting I should add a romance plot into any story idea I come up with, or "it won't sell." I mean, there's a certain amount of truth to that, but goddammit, I want to increase asexual/aromantic representation in the media! and also write stories that I myself am interested in (spoiler alert: romance/sex is not a requirement for me). And anyway, if I'm too concerned about the marketability of every idea I have I will either end up writing nothing or something that's just complete crap. Mind you, all of this is jumping the gun since I have yet to publish anything. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MakeupJunkie4 Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 On 6/30/2017 at 4:19 PM, DoctorWhatPhD said: My friend insisting I should add a romance plot into any story idea I come up with, or "it won't sell." I mean, there's a certain amount of truth to that, but goddammit, I want to increase asexual/aromantic representation in the media! and also write stories that I myself am interested in (spoiler alert: romance/sex is not a requirement for me). And anyway, if I'm too concerned about the marketability of every idea I have I will either end up writing nothing or something that's just complete crap. Mind you, all of this is jumping the gun since I have yet to publish anything. IMO, some stories can be so creative and interesting that they really don't need sex or romance. Nothing wrong with you doing something unique and NOT following the crowd! 😊👍 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Alexandmb Posted July 3, 2017 Share Posted July 3, 2017 "What a looser, sex is the best thing ever you must be suffering because you can't get laid" - Said by a virgin #asexualproblems 8 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
debaser Posted July 3, 2017 Share Posted July 3, 2017 Feeling really excited at the headline 'Ace Reads,' before realising it was about tennis. 8 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Digs_Dead_People Posted July 3, 2017 Share Posted July 3, 2017 Going to a LGBT+ dance, dancing with the only other asexual there, and both of us not being able to properly dance because neither of us knew how to dance sexually. #asexualproblems 9 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
The Mechanic Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 On 7/2/2017 at 8:32 PM, Alexandmb said: "What a looser, sex is the best thing ever you must be suffering because you can't get laid" - Said by a virgin #asexualproblems That's like when a guy I know makes fun of me for not having a girlfriend, even though he doesn't either because he's gotten dumped by three in a row 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Alexandmb Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 37 minutes ago, The Mechanic said: That's like when a guy I know makes fun of me for not having a girlfriend, even though he doesn't either because he's gotten dumped by three in a row It's quite lame. I don't trust in people who boasts about their sexual life and how many girls they banged. I don't trust in these people because they're often liying (not to mention that is annoying and disgusting) 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Just Me! Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 I just discovered that my birthday is National Orgasm Day. 9 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
rtlloyd98 Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 Not punching a misogynist... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rwkropf Posted July 5, 2017 Share Posted July 5, 2017 6 hours ago, rtlloyd98 said: Not punching a misogynist... Context required. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Alexandmb Posted July 5, 2017 Share Posted July 5, 2017 7 hours ago, Just Me, Myself and...Zie? said: I just discovered that my birthday, July 31st, is National Orgasm Day. LMAO oh shit! 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Pam just wants pancakes Posted July 5, 2017 Share Posted July 5, 2017 7 hours ago, Just Me, Myself and...Zie? said: I just discovered that my birthday, July 31st, is National Orgasm Day. July 31st is also Harry Potter's birthday btw 9 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Nea Rose Symphony Posted July 5, 2017 Share Posted July 5, 2017 9 hours ago, Just Me, Myself and...Zie? said: I just discovered that my birthday, July 31st, is National Orgasm Day. Well, be sure to take part in all the food porn to help 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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