Party_Poison Posted January 29, 2017 Share Posted January 29, 2017 "One day you'll take your future husband shopping with you" "Uhm, No I won't" "You will dear, your just too young" #AsexualProblems 11 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Member106624 Posted January 29, 2017 Share Posted January 29, 2017 On 1/28/2017 at 4:37 PM, plompers said: "We know you're a girl and you have your needs, but focus more on school than on boys." "... I've focused on boys?" "Fine, then don't focus on girls." "I've focused on girls? Come on, mom. I'm asexual. I've told you this like 20 times." "Nonono you have to like boys!" "... Mom. I don't swing any way. I'm just hanging there." #asexualproblems . 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nerdperson777 Posted January 29, 2017 Share Posted January 29, 2017 7 hours ago, Party_Poison said: "One day you'll take your future husband shopping with you" "Uhm, No I won't" "You will dear, your just too young" #AsexualProblems You know they have to be wrong when the also use the wrong "your" 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
babybrass Posted January 29, 2017 Share Posted January 29, 2017 not really a general problem, but today I was with a new friend and mentioned an ex girlfriend, and they go "ohh so youre gay?" and I go "sure, kinda, I'm actually asexual." and at the confused look, explained that I don't feel sexual attraction. They go "Um, okay, that's kind of TMI" ... thirty minutes later, cue me and them talking before they proceed to explain in extreme detail the best sexual experience of their life. It's TMI for me to say I'm not sexually attracted to people but it's not for them to tell me all the details of their sexual encounters? Okay, then 17 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Starfalcon Posted January 30, 2017 Share Posted January 30, 2017 Ever since I came out my mom keeps talking about how she is worried that I have attachment issues because I was too young when I started day care. She has never explicitly linked the two (and does the "I just want you to be happy" thing when we do talk about asexuality), but I get the impression that she thinks that I'm asexual because she did something wrong. Which implies that asexuality is something wrong with me. I'm just like no, your parenting was fine. The only thing that bothers me is that you keep making a big deal about this when I specifically said I was only coming out so that people would understand that asexuality was a thing, not because I wanted anyone to make a big deal about it.... 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Shadow Heart Posted January 30, 2017 Share Posted January 30, 2017 3 hours ago, Starfalcon said: Ever since I came out my mom keeps talking about how she is worried that I have attachment issues because I was too young when I started day care. She has never explicitly linked the two (and does the "I just want you to be happy" thing when we do talk about asexuality), but I get the impression that she thinks that I'm asexual because she did something wrong. Which implies that asexuality is something wrong with me. I'm just like no, your parenting was fine. The only thing that bothers me is that you keep making a big deal about this when I specifically said I was only coming out so that people would understand that asexuality was a thing, not because I wanted anyone to make a big deal about it.... Ive heard this kind of thing before. Sometimes, a person can think that bringing up the subject means you are unhappy or worried about it. It can be hard to make it known that you are happy being who you are, and that nobody has done anything wrong. As with a lot of things, sometimes the buffer of time can help with these things. After a period, sometimes of a few years, these things can sink in and a new level of acceptance occurs. It can be a catch-22 though, as you want to explain what Asexuality is, but you don't want it to come across as if you are worried about it! 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
AsexualMemeTrash Posted January 30, 2017 Share Posted January 30, 2017 A few weeks ago my dad said to me, "I'm not saying you're confused, but I think the lifestyle you're choosing is confusing." Boy the only thing I'm choosing to do is to live alone with my future son, pug, and lizard. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
CrochetFool Posted January 30, 2017 Share Posted January 30, 2017 On 1/28/2017 at 10:37 AM, plompers said: "We know you're a girl and you have your needs, but focus more on school than on boys." "... I've focused on boys?" "Fine, then don't focus on girls." "I've focused on girls? Come on, mom. I'm asexual. I've told you this like 20 times." "Nonono you have to like boys!" "... Mom. I don't swing any way. I'm just hanging there." #asexualproblems Best. Answer. EVER.. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
CrochetFool Posted January 30, 2017 Share Posted January 30, 2017 @plompers comment reminded me of something: many years ago, a guy was (I think) trying to chat me up by discussing sexual attraction. "So if straight people are on one side of the fence, gay people are on the other, and bi people sit on the fence--where are you?" He looked so confused when I responded, "Taking a nap under a tree." 14 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Vicky Angel Posted January 30, 2017 Share Posted January 30, 2017 When you feel some kind of pull towards someone but have no idea what it means. 10 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
plompers Posted January 30, 2017 Share Posted January 30, 2017 1 hour ago, CrochetFool said: @plompers comment reminded me of something: many years ago, a guy was (I think) trying to chat me up by discussing sexual attraction. "So if straight people are on one side of the fence, gay people are on the other, and bi people sit on the fence--where are you?" He looked so confused when I responded, "Taking a nap under a tree." LOL THAT IS LITERALLY AMAZING. My friends and I made this running inside joke where they (the LGBTQ) were the rainbow, the heterosexual people were the humans walking, and then I was just that one cloud in the corner. Yup. Just hanging around, don't mind me folks. 11 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
The Mechanic Posted January 31, 2017 Share Posted January 31, 2017 Wanting to come out to my family because I don't like hiding things from them, but being scared that they might not accept me 11 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Naali Posted February 1, 2017 Share Posted February 1, 2017 Probably said already, but email spam and stupid font changers that let it slip past my filters so it's not deleted right away. Stop sending me mail about viagra and F*buddies. 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Adam_Jensen Posted February 1, 2017 Share Posted February 1, 2017 Feeling like an outsider in a fandom of a show you love because they do nothing else but talk about shipping all the damn TIME !!!!! 9 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
CrochetFool Posted February 1, 2017 Share Posted February 1, 2017 15 hours ago, Naali said: Probably said already, but email spam and stupid font changers that let it slip past my filters so it's not deleted right away. Stop sending me mail about viagra and F*buddies. AARGH yes, that's the worst! 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Vicky Angel Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 Not so much an Ace problem, more of a demi-romantic problem. Today in class we had to partner up and stare at each other in silence. Our teacher then made a joke about hoping no one falls in love after the activity. Everyone laughed, except me. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Laplace Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 4 hours ago, Vicky Angel said: Not so much an Ace problem, more of a demi-romantic problem. Today in class we had to partner up and stare at each other in silence. Our teacher then made a joke about hoping no one falls in love after the activity. Everyone laughed, except me. What was the activity for? Was it like some sort of official staring contest or something ? All jokes aside, I'd probably fail the silence bit cause I'd make silly or overly serious faces to make the other person lose their composure. Then, I'd probably bust up laughing at myself. I just wouldn't be able to help it. Also, I'd probably just roll my eyes at the teacher's comment. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Vicky Angel Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 Just now, Laplace said: What was the activity for? Was it like some sort of official staring contest or something ? All jokes aside, I'd probably fail the silence bit cause I'd make silly or overly serious faces to make the other person lose their composure. Then, I'd probably bust up laughing at myself. I just wouldn't be able to help it. Also, I'd probably just roll my eyes at the teacher's comment. The week before we had to bring in baby photos and swap with a partner. Then write a poem about the partner's photo and memorize it. So before we recited the poems this week to our partners she wanted us to feel comfortable. I think. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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Adam_Jensen Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 I'm currently reading a fanfic,which I'm enjoying so far,but I can't get through it because of the sex scenes.I mean I don't like skipping chapters but at the same time I don't want to force myself through hell. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
AsexualMemeTrash Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 Convo I just had with my asshole of a friend. I told him I'm ace and as i predicted, he didn't believe me. He says I can't be asexual because in order to feel pleasure, you need to feel sexual attraction. And then he fucking pulled the "I know how human anatomy works" bullshit that he pulls when he's losing an argument and to make him sound smart. "LOOK AT ME IM FUCKING (name) I KNOW MORE ABOUT THIS THAN YOU!" Shut the fuck up dude. You can fuck and be asexual. dumbass. Sorry, I'm just really pissed off right now. At least he understood the analogy I gave him. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
aquas Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 On 9/18/2013 at 6:24 PM, KillerDarling said: Being the only one in the theater that is bored during the sex scenes. #asexual problems I actually end up being disgusted during those scenes. XD 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WoodwindWhistler Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 On 2/2/2017 at 2:32 AM, Vicky Angel said: The week before we had to bring in baby photos and swap with a partner. Then write a poem about the partner's photo and memorize it. So before we recited the poems this week to our partners she wanted us to feel comfortable. I think. More than 20 years ago, the psychologist Arthur Aron succeeded in making two strangers fall in love in his laboratory. Last summer, I applied his technique in my own life, which is how I found myself standing on a bridge at midnight, staring into a man’s eyes for exactly four minutes. Let me explain. Earlier in the evening, that man had said: “I suspect, given a few commonalities, you could fall in love with anyone. If so, how do you choose someone?” . . . They sit face to face and answer a series of increasingly personal questions. Then they stare silently into each other's eyes for four minutes. The most tantalizing detail: Six months later, two participants were married. They invited the entire lab to the ceremony. https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/modern-love-to-fall-in-love-with-anyone-do-this.html?_r=0 This research implies that there's much more "choice" and "external circumstances" involved in love than people realize. There was a Cracked article that said as much, too. As many people say, love is a verb. Infatuation can bring you together in lots of cases, but who you decide to open up to emotionally and stay with is a deliberate choice. If I sat down and thought, I could probably think of some song lyrics that imply this, too. I think I've mentioned here before that the science says that the 'crush' phase lasts up to two years, therefore it's a good idea to consider marriage after that has worn off to see if you're truly compatible. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
miauw Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 On 2-2-2017 at 8:32 AM, Vicky Angel said: The week before we had to bring in baby photos and swap with a partner. Then write a poem about the partner's photo and memorize it. So before we recited the poems this week to our partners she wanted us to feel comfortable. I think. Sorry, but what kind of weird classes are you taking? 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Vicky Angel Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 2 hours ago, miau said: Sorry, but what kind of weird classes are you taking? I know, very weird class worry not, it is an elective Quote Link to post Share on other sites
miauw Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 8 minutes ago, Vicky Angel said: I know, very weird class worry not, it is an elective Well, the last elective I took (and subsequently dropped out of) dealt a lot with Kanye West and Kim Kardashian - and I actually only had an extremely vague idea about who they were, so I had to research them, which was traumatising, I tell you. There were also mentions of Nick Cage, Wu Tang Clan (which was actually fun) and some promises about adding Trump (well before all the presidential bullshit) in the later stages of the class. So who am I to judge. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Vicky Angel Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 ah I actually like this class that I am in so I won't be dropping it unless I have to (like if I get sick again) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mechanicalsunshine Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 When you want to like this asexuality page on facebook so you go into your privacy setting because even if you're sort of out to some people, you dont want to broadcast it to the world, and you genuinely didn't know people could see what you liked anymore, but then realize after how ever many months it's been that yeah... they can see everything... and you've accidentally been outing yourself for months... (I mean, no point in stopping now I guess...) (but, seriously, no ones mentioned it, not even the family I'm not out to yet, or anyone... like, I dont even know how I got that wrong, I should have realized, but I honestly thought I'd managed to make it so people couldn't see what you liked...) 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WinterWanderer Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 12 minutes ago, mechanicalsunshine said: When you want to like this asexuality page on facebook so you go into your privacy setting because even if you're sort of out to some people, you dont want to broadcast it to the world, and you genuinely didn't know people could see what you liked anymore, but then realize after how ever many months it's been that yeah... they can see everything... and you've accidentally been outing yourself for months... (I mean, no point in stopping now I guess...) (but, seriously, no ones mentioned it, not even the family I'm not out to yet, or anyone... like, I dont even know how I got that wrong, I should have realized, but I honestly thought I'd managed to make it so people couldn't see what you liked...) I've done a similar thing. Joined an ace group on Facebook because I thought it was private. Someone posted a question asking about how we all knew that we were ace. I answered it, only to realize that my comment had just shown up on all of my Facebook friends' activity feeds. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mechanicalsunshine Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 2 minutes ago, Fioryn said: I've done a similar thing. Joined an ace group on Facebook because I thought it was private. Someone posted a question asking about how we all knew that we were ace. I answered it, only to realize that my comment had just shown up on all of my Facebook friends' activity feeds. Aaah man.... I hope that anyone who read that would at least understand a bit what asexuality is, and not immediately be like "that doesn't exist!" and not get into yours or anyone's face about it. I mean, they'd get to see that it's obviously not just you 'cus there's an entire facebook group dedicated to it, but also, a bunch of comments with real life examples and not just someone going "I'm a special snowflake!" I hope. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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