Sex Repulsion

[gypsy_princess]

I've never liked sex. it has Always looked and sounded really gross and unnecessary to me.

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

i think it was a few years ago, when i first saw a couple on tv making love (not in a movie, in a reality show, so it was a real intercourse)... i felt disgusted.

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

i don't judge them, they can do whatever they want. if there's a couple i support, i mentally push them to have sex :P but i never want to think about them having sex, and i asks myself how they can do such a thing.

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

i feel sex something that you have to do just to procreate. if you want to have a baby, then you have sex. but i don't like sex as something to do everyday, just to feel pleasure.

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

mmh... i don't know, maybe i do, because i can naturally contain myself :P

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

I've never masturbated and i don't feel the need to do it

do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

no

Describe your attitude in any way you please!

I think that sex, nowadays, command everything. they use sex to sell things, to push people, and it has lost its original meaning of an act of procreation. it became a kind of commercial thing. people Always want to have sex, they think about it too much. so i don't think about it, i don't feel the need to do it, it's not necessary to me, i can live without it. the rest of the world think they can't, but it's not true. they have to stop being obsessed with it

[Triplefox]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

Fairly recently, as part of accepting an asexual identity. I had to untangle the arousal/attraction difference, and the different categories of attraction. It's very challenging and still easy for me to deny, since I don't have experiences that directly contradict the possibility, just a lengthy absence of confirming experiences, even at the high points of limerence.

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

Scientific curiosity, mostly. No strong feelings, unless it's affecting a personal relationship in other ways.

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

I feel that the sexual view is a lens that distorts our society, but not in a totally bad/unproductive way.

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

I feel I enjoy a certain kind of privilege, but it's balanced against being a minority view overall.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

My sex drive is relatively strong, but the direction of it goes far, far away from other humans. Autoeroticism is fine, but between two people? A bit gross.

Edit: do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

Some fetish-oriented stuff. Vanilla porn, nope. The more it becomes an abstract or symbolic relationship, the more I tend to sympathise with it. And I can convert a physical attraction into arousal via the involved symbolism - which is, I imagine, almost like having desire, except the other person is not included at the end point. It's very tricky of me!

Describe your attitude in any way you please!

Sex-positive yet not sexual, biased by my own kinks. Pursuing a more asexy society(asociety?).

[KennelTechWithHipsterGlass]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

I guess it was always something that I never thought about or realized until recently, but I think I've always subconsciously felt repulsed by sex. I remember in middle school, when a classmate was talking about how she had sex last night (in seventh grade!), that I responded, "I never want to have sex, ever!" Even though I didn't really realize what sex was or meant, I knew I didn't want it.

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

I don't judge people for having sex. Pretty much everyone has sex. I don't see a big deal. I do think it's wrong (not to mention gross) to have more than one sexual partner, or to have sex before you're married, but that's my personal belief. Other people can do what they want. Ultimately it is their life, not mine.

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

No, there's nothing wrong with sex. To lots of people, sex is the ultimate form of intimacy and love. I may even want to have sex if a future partner is sexual, for the sake of my partner (and my curiosity somewhat... ^^')

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

No, I actually feel pretty inferior to sexuals. The world is made for sexuals... Aces have to find a niche. Luckily there's AVEN.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

I experience arousal periodically, but never act on it. I don't understand masterbation at all. ><

Do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

Never. I may sometimes view artistic renditions of nude figures, and sexual acts, but purely for the artistic meaning.

Describe your attitude in any way you please!

Personally, I feel that sex is something I will never fully grasp. I honestly cannot understand many things about sex, and I don't think I ever will. It's frustrating. I just want to know what sexual attraction feels like sometimes. Yet, in a way I'm glad I'm asexual. I think I love more sincerely because of my lack of desires. A whole part of my life is not consumed by sex. It's sort of a relief. Although we live in a sex driven world, it's almost nice to not have to worry about who I'm having sex with this weekend. :P

I hope this helps. ^^

[Perkins]

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[Shigura12]

im sex repulsed, but i do still watch porn, it doesnt turn me on, i do it myself.

and yeah, thats why i look at pregnant women and i'm a little disgusted, idk

i cant see myself having sex...ever

[FrostFern]

I just want to ask about sex repulsion and why people feel this way (if you know). I am sex repulsed myself so I thought it would be interesting to start a discussion about it.

[[Mods, feel free to move this if you see fit. I posted it here instead of in the sexual forums because I assume there would be more sex repulsed asexuals than sexuals. I also checked for a similar thread but didn't find one.]]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

I don't think I'm fully repulsed, I'm just not aroused by it. I'd rather cuddle.

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

I don't judge them. I just find the obsessiveness over it in our society aleinating and weird

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

Kind of

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

No

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

(TMI alert) I usually maturbate with non-sexual fantasies (fetish stuff). I don't feel shame as it's nothing harmful, just mild emberassment

Edit: do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

Describe your attitude in any way you please!

For the most part no. (TMI alert) Visually seeing body parts / penetration and/or bodily fluids does repulse me a bit.

I am looking to find out more about this out of curiosity but also to better understand my own feelings.

Now, I'm not asking what is the ~correct~ answer but rather what you feel.

Please try not to judge people's answers, I am looking for honesty without backlash.

Thanks!

[Guest]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?
I can't even remember a time when I wasn't repulsed by "penis stuff". "Why would anyone, ever, do something like that out of their own choice?" has pretty much been my reaction to it for as long as I can think back.

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?
As long as it doesn't involve me (including me seeing/hearing them), I'm perfectly fine with other people doing it. I did have to work hard on my tolerance to arrive at this point, though - in my teen/early twen years, I was very judgmental on men who don't stay strictly celibate for life, and on women who actually enjoy hetero sex (instead of getting it over with as a necessary evil in order to have babies; IVF, where affordable, would always be preferrable). Never had any issue with Lesbians (no penis = no problem), unless they use penis shaped toys (then they aren't "real Lesbians", anyway... *facepalm at past!me*).

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?
Used to think so, but not anymore. Even though I can't relate to it myself, I can intellectually understand that for a lot of people it's a way to express love, and/or to have a physically fun time together. There are forms of non-intercourse, one-sided sexuality I've actually found to be enjoyable (just not interesting enough to actively go seek it out on my own). I feel no need to judge that anymore.

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?
Nope, neither superior nor inferior. Just different.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?
Yes, to all those questions. I have unsuccessfully tried to give up masturbation more than once, because of the feelings of disgust/depression it causes me. Unfortunately, I have a functioning, uh, "hydraulic system", and what I assume to be an about average-strength libido; I'd kill it off in a heartbeat if I had the chance to do so safely and legally. Sadly, that's not possible in Germany.

Do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?
When libido acts up, softcore pornography (basically just photos of naked women) is a masturbatory aid I use to get the shit over with faster.

Describe your attitude in any way you please!
TL, DR: Penises are icky and I don't want anything to do with them; unfortunately, I have to deal with one of those things as part of my own body. It's okay if other people don't find them icky and use them in whatever kind of SSC sex they want, as long as they don't involve me in it in any way, including by telling me about it.

[Crystal6]

! There are others!!!! <3!!!!!!

*cough*

I realized I'm sex repulsed shortly after hearing about sex. I was told my reaction was normal and would fade with age and time. It did not. But then, I didn't know there was a word for it until I stumbled upon a FAQ on asexuality. I was kinda hoping I had finally found a chat room in which I didn't need to worry about overhearing something disgusting but, I was wrong. ):

I only judge people when I feel they've rushed into it. I feel people looking for a long term, committed, 1 to 1 relationship (no multiple partners) should seriously take their damn time getting into that. Patience guys!

Yes but I feel I'm probably bias in said assertion. Which is to say, I view it that way in the same way an immortal might view eating food as a lower activity.

See previous, I don't feel personally superior. But I view it as an immortal might view eating food. I have no need for it. I'm vaguely bemused that others do feel a need for it but I don't feel high and mighty about it since I have the incredibly strong weakness to people talking about it. Sorta like if you could make an immortal sick from eating food in front of them? Its like, you don't need it to live but you have an incredibly obvious weakness here.

I like discovering how my sexuality IS turned on/activated but the actual act of turning on disgusts me? That's the fast way to explain it. I've been wondering what my trigger was for a while now (since it doesn't seem to be romantically oriented, nor connected to sex) and now that I'm starting to figure it out I'm finding why it disgusts me? Its an interesting journey of self discovery that I don't want to gross anyone out with by going into detail.

Aaaand nope.

Now I have a question for YOU. Are you bothered when people talk about sex in front of you, and if so has it ever interfered with your life/day/mood? (This question is open to everyone, I'm curious if others have this problem).

[sindi]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

Edit: do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

Describe your attitude in any way you please!

I've always been repulsed by it, which is probably normal back when you're a child? I just didn't "grow out of" the repulsion.

I'm indifferent to others having sex, although I prefer to not hear the details...

I guess it is a primitive activity, but so is enjoying food and what not, so nothing wrong with that.

I don't feel superior.

I have a low libido and deal with it when needed. I used to feel disgust afterwards when I was younger, but not anymore.

Nope, I've never watched or read pornography and don't think I would be aroused.

[MadRat]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

It slowly came to me with more informations about sex. The more I know, the stronger my repulsion is...

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

It depends on situation. Casual sex and certain types of sex which are a norm todays disgust me.

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

I don´t think it´s primitive or animalistic, it´s the opposite - too crazy, overdone and there´s too much importance given to sex.

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

I feel thankful I´m not sexual. I would have to stay celibate anyway but it would be harder if I was sexual.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

I masturbate and I don´t feel ashamed for it.

Edit: do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

No, it disgusts me.

[travelingnotes]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

When I was 10-11, I think.

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

Indifferent. I only judge people that are highly sexual. Like, it's one thing being in a relationship and being sexual, fine. When you're making sex jokes all the time and drooling over most things that move, yeah, I'm judging you.

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

Eh.. this goes along with the judgment thing again. I don't care if people do it, but I think people just seeking out sex to have sex is stupid and gross.

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

Sometimes.. but then other times I feel messed up, so.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

Sometimes act on it, and then yes, I feel gross afterwards for whatever reason. Sometimes I just ignore.

Edit: do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

Don't watch or read. I think it's disgusting. (Not the reading, but the watching and video porn in general)

[Chardog]

When I was a kid, knowing people were having sex made me upset. I was in a 7 year relationship, where I did have sex. For the first couple of years I thought it would get better due to lack of experience. Instead it started feeling like I was consenting to be raped to prevent conflict.

I am no longer upset about others having sex and an quite sex positive. I do have a libido. I do masturbate. I figured out my repulsion is mostly due to gender conflict- I could see myself having sex as the other gender but my mind doesn't connect to my genitalia..

[Ace Griff]

Yay sex-repulsed fellows! (I feel very alone in this)

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

Hmm... Maybe since I knew about sex? It never appealed to me. I mean... It sounds so stupid.

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

Well, I shouldn't judge them and I try not to. I mean, it isn't like "eww you have sex" but more like "i can't understand you at all". But it's not my life, people can do whatever they want.

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

Yes! I think it is animalistic, primitive, oppressive, degrading and many more bad stuff. I just can't understand how people can associate it with love, to me, it is very far from love. (I know it doesn't need to have love involved) To me, sex is about control and power, and I will not let anyone have control over me.

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

Superiority is not the word. I feel good that I don't have sex and I don't want to. I mean, wouldn't it be bad if I had to, because of others? I feel good about having the freedom of choosing if I want to have sex or not.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

Let's just say I do experience sexual arousal. I don't feel disgusted by it because what makes me repulsed is the fact that sex is between two (or more) people, like I said, in a relationship of power and/or control. If it's only me and myself, there is no reason to be disgusted, since I have no bad feelings torwards myself.

Edit: do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

No, ew.

[Dethsdream]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

I realized that I was repulsed by sex when I myself got in a sexual situation and was simply unable to stay aroused. I was completely disgusted with myself afterwards and internally cringed every time I thought of that moment. Otherwise I don't think I would have ever realized that I was actually repulsed because I generally am "meh" about the whole thing when it concerns other people.

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

I am about as nonjudgmental as it gets. Seriously don't care whatsoever about other people's sexual habits. Maybe it's because I've become desensitized to the whole thing by being surrounded by extremely sexual men all the time.

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

Nope, not animalistic. There are a bunch of other things that people could do with their time, but considering the majority of the world seems to find it super important, I would say that it's definitely not primitive (at least in my view).

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

I don't feel a sense of superiority over sexuals AT ALL. I really wish I was one sometimes, because it would make things so much easier for me. Despite being aromantic, I really want a platonic life partner (but sometimes I think I would even be willing to be in a sexual relationship because of the unlikelihood of actually finding one) with which I could raise a child, and being sexual would definitely make the process of making said child soooo much easier. So if anything, I feel a sense of inferiority, sad as it is.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

I never experience sexual arousal due to my own imagination. Sometimes I just want to feel the pleasure, though, so I will masturbate. When I do, I unfortunately feel shame because of how I have to go about it: porn.

Do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

I very rarely watch porn to clear the plumbing so-to-speak, but it's never anything hardcore. I don't seem to have sex repulsion involving anyone but myself. Am I the only one? Also, I think I may be one of the only aromantics that really enjoys reading romance novels... even the ones with the sappy (and sometimes god awful ) love scenes. I think I simply enjoy learning about this aspect of human interaction for whatever reason.

[canguy]

1. When An ex-friend described her vagina as a black hole and I agreed (which I still think is a pretty awesome way of describing them) also that relationship ended quickly as you can imagine. Also a man's ummm...bean and franks...or whatever look funny hanging their on the outside like they have no place to be, dumb evolution really.
2. Don't care, doesn't affect me. Honestly how can I ask people not to judge me because I don't have sex if I judge them FOR having sex. It's the whole two way street thing.
3. Humans ARE animals, like it or not. We shouldn't think of ourselves as better because we're not. Also without sex there'd be no us.
4. Gosh no, thats incredibly close-minded and horrible.
5. Feel sexual carousel? Yes. Do I act on it? Yes, provided I don't get bored halfway through.
BONUS! Pornography is meh. Kinda like, kinda don't. The acting and story's are just horrible, and the people often seem like real jerks in real life. I usually get bored of that too.

[Aworld]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

Forever, I guess. It's more that I realized that everyone else wasn't. (Maybe when I was 14/15 or something.)
Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

I'm indifferent to it, as long as they don't tell me! I just can't imagine my friends or family doing it, so, you know, as long as they don't flaunt it or anything.
Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

Not really. I mean, there's got to be some way to reproduce.
Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

I try not to because I know it's just the way people are - some are different to me, some are similar and that's okay.
Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

Only very rarely, and I always feel disgusted.
Edit: do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

Nope. In fact, it just grosses me out, so basically does the opposite of what it's supposed to. (Or I just burst into laughter because it's ridiculous for me since I don't understand it :D)

[Guest]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

I used to be growing up but in the last few years I am no longer bound by any sort of guilt or shame about it. I still I value companionship and connection much much more..but I'm not repulsed in the slightest these days

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)? It doesn't not bother me at all what others do and has no effect on how I see them or my interactions with them..

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

Sex is as natural as breathing eating sleeping or any other activity the body partakes in and has no effect on how I see someone I know there's way more to someone than being just an physical object! so to me its more about having this awareness than any type of behavior preference..

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexual s?

Of course not, Its makes about the same difference as to whether you like or tea or a coffee to me I couldn't care less..

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this? growing up I used to have this innate feeling of guilt that accompanied sexual activities but now its nothing to me, and guilt or shame are totally inappropriate reactions to anything of this nature..

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