Sex Repulsion

[Flowers and Ghosts]

I just want to ask about sex repulsion and why people feel this way (if you know). I am sex repulsed myself so I thought it would be interesting to start a discussion about it.

[[Mods, feel free to move this if you see fit. I posted it here instead of in the sexual forums because I assume there would be more sex repulsed asexuals than sexuals. I also checked for a similar thread but didn't find one.]]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

Edit: do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

Describe your attitude in any way you please!

I am looking to find out more about this out of curiosity but also to better understand my own feelings.

Now, I'm not asking what is the ~correct~ answer but rather what you feel.

Please try not to judge people's answers, I am looking for honesty without backlash.

Thanks!

[Mad]

I knew for very long time that I was repulsed by sex.

I mean, I can imagine others having sex, but if I imagine myself in that situation, I'm instantly repulsed by it.
About my friends, if I imagine THEM in that situation, it just seems goofy and funny...I don't know why.

I'll admit that I do feel some superiority over sexuals, just because it's one less thing to worry about.

And yes, I can get aroused, but not always.

I think thats enough on my part! :)

Hope it helps!

[ObsessedWithCats]

I always though sex was gross, but I realised I was repulsed when I first heard the term.

I used to judge but since I realise how normal it is I’m apathetic unless they’re keeping me awake at night (which they occasionally are) in which case I get annoyed pretty quickly. I’ve especially improved in this as I’ve got older and the people I would otherwise judge are now legally old enough to have sex.

I don’t think it’s a lower form of activity than any of the brainless things I do in my spare time.

I don’t have a scale of superiority as far as sexual behaviour is concerned; it’s all icky but I’m not better just a bit odd. I waste enough time on AVEN to make up for any time they lose on sex. ^_^

I don’t think so. I definitely don’t act on it if I do.

[significantlysilent]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

Um...it was just sort of an instintct. Like some gut feeling in the back of my head forever. I guess when I realized that sex repulsion was an actual thing, would have been around the ages of 15 or 16. Knew I would never have sex though since like health class :P
Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

If people want to go have sex, fine by me. Whatever works for them is fine. When I think about the fact that my family and friends probably will/are going to have sex, it disturbs me, but as long as they don't go and bring it up that thought is often avoided.
Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?
I believe that sex can be a lower form of social activity, but also just a thing people do. For example, gossip can be a lower form of social activity, but people still do it. Whether habbit, desire, need, people just do things for the heck of it sometimes. So it can be a social activity, but also just something to do to some.

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?
Part of me thinks "well I'm glad I'm asexual, I don't have to worry about having a need for sex" but then another part of me thinks "they're normal and happy be sexual, so you're kind of missing something" kind of thing. I feel that sexual or asexual, as long as you're happy you are both equal.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Feel digust either way.

Describe your attitude in any way you please!

Hmm. I'm annoyed cause I don't understand sexual attraction. I like to understand things, and it bothers me that I won't understand sexual attractions or anything related to it. Part of me wishes I was sexual, but then I'm happy not being sexual so I'm glad I don't have to worry about sex. My concern is how being asexual, if I ever desire a relationship with a sexual, I don't know how that will work. I also fear my anxieties and repulsion will become a problem if I ever try to have sex with someone who is sexaul for their sake.

[mignonmuna]

I think I'm fairly repulsed by sex, seeing as I see it as an activity that includes the possibility of humiliating yourself, annoying noises and just leaves you sweaty (I don't like revealing my emotions or skin, gasps and such annoy me and being sweaty is horrible). Last summer I heard my mum and her boyfriend have sex in the night and it was really awkward for me even though I was in another room. That autumn I started wondering if I was asexual, but didn't really pay much attention to the repulsion, I just knew I didn't like the idea of sex.

People can have sex all they like as long as I'm not involved. I find them talking about it amusing at times, but when my friends are horny and keep talking about their fantasies or how much they've masturbated I feel inadequate and I must admit it helps me to think their needs are animalistic.

No, I feel inferior. I feel very outcast at times, though I don't worry about people finding me unappealing for not being interested in sex. My feeling is more of a fear that people might think I'm just not old or mature enough and will view me as an unintelligent baby.

When I look at or read something that could turn people on, I get the biological thing, throbbing in my privates, but nothing happens in my head. I don't feel like masturbating. Before I started realizing I'm asexual I tried to masturbate a lot but it never brought me any satisfaction so I gave up. I can't get my mind to it, and don't understand how others do.

Yeah that's it I suppose.

[Vega91]

I have no idea when I figured out I was repulsed, I guess when I was younger I never thought of the physical act of sex. Of course, I knew what sex was but I've never pictured it in my head, and when I do happen to catch glimpses of what sex actually is, it feels disgusting. As I've grown older, I think I've become even more anti-sex (when it comes to myself), since when I was a teenager I was kind of curious as to what sex was like even if I had no urges to ever try it. Now even the curiosity is gone. xD

I don't usually judge people who have sex, as long as they're being safe and consensual and smart about it. I'm pretty liberal when it comes to others' sexuality.

It's not a "lower form," without any sex our species would die out. :P Anyway, I just see it as another urge. Not that I understand all the hype surrounding it or anything.

No, no superiority though I am really glad I'm ace, I think it makes life a bit easier for me.

Ew, no. I have absolutely no urge to touch myself, to me it feels disgusting and pointless. That being said I had sexual dreams/sleep paralysis a few times, those were both awful and disgusting.

[Vyanni Krace]

I am at least partially sex-repulsed, though mostly on a personal level (sexual images and noises repulse me too though). I don't think I have a specific moment when I realised I am sex-repulsed, I just sort of...became aware of it over time I guess. :/

I am more or less indifferent towards sex when it comes to other people but there are occasions when the idea of other people having sex repulses me too. I just don't GET how people could possibly enjoy it or feel so comfortable going through with it, despite knowing why on a logical level.

I understand the purpose of sex but I cant help but have a bit of a low opinion of it. Technically it is animalistic though; we are animals after all.

I don't feel any superiority over sexual people. I just feel glad I am not sexual for my own personal reasons and I am happy being an ace. Sexuals and Asexuals are equal just as all humans are equal. We just have differences, like everyone and everything does.

I do feel arousal and I even get curious about sex sometimes (though my repulsion quickly makes me back away from the idea of actually doing anything sexual). Long story short I hate my sexual organs and severely wish I had none. So yes. I do detest feeling arousal. Its annoying and just horrible. I have never acted on my arousal and plan to never do so. I rarely get aroused anyway, and I suspect the majority of it is because I am a teenager. My arousal just seems to be a spontaneous thing, nothing ever really triggers it (which is why I suspect teenage hormones to be the cause). In fact sexual images or whatever are actually a great arousal-killer on occasion. The image either repulses me or I feel nothing but indifference towards it.

Maybe sometimes I will on occasion show artistic interest towards pictures of people, such as a series of images I had a lot of fun drawing that were of a woman posing. She was naked but she had her back to the camera so you only saw her back and butt.

I was disinterested sexually, but the way the picture was taken and the pose fascinated me so I wasted the day away drawing the pictures.

[Guest]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

Describe your attitude in any way you please!

Where's the option "I'm not sex-repulsed"? :P

I'm totally cool with other people having sex, and they can talk all they want about it. I don't really judge sex or people who partake in it. It's just one more activity to me, which may seem great and fun for some, but feels just boring and meh to me personally. For some people, it's an instinct, but not in a bad way... just as much as it is an instinct for people to crave food when they're hungry. And no, I don't feel superior to anyone because of anything.

I experience arousal on a very infrequent basis (3 to 5 times a year, I think), but it's always bland. Tried masturbating, but it didn't do the trick. My libido is too low for me to actually enjoy it. No shame about it.

I mean, all in all, I don't want to have sex and I'm very firm about not wanting it. It's just, I guess I feel pretty liberal so long as people don't harass me about it?

[Wyrmcraft]

This is going to be really hard to talk about, so I hope I don't seem off, this is just a tough one for me.

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

I didn't fully realize until I found these forums that it was even possible. I thought I was scared, I'm...vulnerable to contact and have a deep urge to be in control over my reactions at all times. I can kill or fake any emotion as needed except when someone touches me, that breaks down any and all barriers I have set in place. I thought it was fear of losing control or hurting the person I cared about by freaking out at them, turns out I just really don't like the idea. I feel better about it actually. There are still things I'm willing to do now, just as I was then, but I understand WHY now and it's nice.

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

It bothers me a fair bit, I personally don't think it's a discussion one should have in a public place (right along with religion and politics). Still, I'll suffer through it provided it's cute. I try, very hard, not to judge people on their activities, but damn if I don't hit them with the book under the right circumstances. People are NOT methods of keeping score, your partner is NOT your toy, and you will be damned if you get away with abuse anywhere near me. I'm a white knight.

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

That depends. As part of a relationship I view it as acceptable, it can really be an expression of love between sexuals. As a casual activity I rate it right along there with drugs, a crutch. Perhaps that is because I don't feel the need for it myself and can condemn it, yet I think it's more that making something like that casual almost degrades what it means in a serious relationship. Perhaps it's because of how much contact freaks me out and the belief that someone would be willing to trivialize an activity that would seriously cut me up inside is just something I can't accept.

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

Yes and no, it's hard not to as faking superiority has been my defensive mechanism for a very long time. I believe that might be why I feel the way I do about the above question actually. Honestly, I envy their ability to accept contact so casually. If I feel superior to anyone though it's because I'm free of the drama and...I'm just...I'm free. It has it's own problems, the grass isn't greener...but for me and the way I am it's better than the alternative. I shudder to think of myself as a sexual...just because of what a damned good manipulator I am. I'd hurt so many people and be so angry due to the constant drama, so I'd escape that by reaching honestly hysterical levels of superiority.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

Yes. Yes, yet I find that I don't need to when I'm in a relationship...their happiness and closeness is enough to satisfy me.

Edit: do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

...hentia, I like a story...Katawa Shoujo is a beautiful beautiful visual novel so shut-up ok?

Describe your attitude in any way you please!

I don't like the idea of actual sex, the male body is something I despise yet I don't identify as female. Just a self-hating male. I don't find people attractive until I get to know them and even then it's not their body that becomes attractive to me, it's their joy, their mind...there is nothing I want more than to make someone happy. That feeling of having satisfied someone, that is my sex. It's a romantic thing, just seeing them happy is enough to make me feel completely and utterly satisfied.

If for some reason I was dating someone that needed sex, I couldn't do it for them...not outright. It still repulses me, but what repulses me is just what involves me. I can compromise a fair extent, because for me quite a few actions we consider sexual come under Romantic...I'd take no delight from the act itself but rather from the delight my partner experienced. Still, I could never...I just couldn't. My pants stay on.

...sigh, that was a lot harder than I thought it would be. I still want to delete this whole thing. Sorry guys/girls/flyingsquirrels I'm just not used to sharing this type of thing.

[xserpx]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

I actually only realised I was repulsed by sex when I read about sex repulsion on AVEN. Because I've never imagined myself in a sexual situation, when I tried to I discovered that I actually feel awful repulsion when I think about myself with somebody.

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

I love that other people have sex, and they can do it as much as they want. I just don't like it when they talk about it incessantly and make jokes about it, or complain about their partners or whatever.

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

I think that sex is a perfectly natural thing to do for most people, and I'm glad they get enjoyment out of it. It's their bodies, they can do whatever they want. As above, I just hate it when they talk about it incessantly and act like it's this thing that nobody can be without, much like how people praise drugs and alcohol as being "the most fun you can have". I also do think that it is an animalistic thing to do though that is not necessarily a bad thing; just different.

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

Sometimes. Mostly because relationships and sex seems like such hard work. People worry about their love lives all the time, and I don't like the idea of having to share my life with another. But on the flip side there is a definite disconnect between me and other people, and I find it very hard to build bonds and understand people as much as I'd like to.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

Yes I do act on arousal. I don't feel any shame or disgust towards it (I don't actually touch myself), but it is annoying. Like everything else sexual I guess it's a natural process, I just wish it was one that didn't affect me.

Edit: do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

Rarely.

[Janus the Fox]

Eh, there's I believe not really one answer to sex repulsion. It could be anything like simply disliking sex, the fluids involved, the interaction involved or could be based on a bad experience. I do believe that everyone in their lifetimes will experience repulsion to some extent.

I get a mixed reaction to repulsion depending on its context, fluids and the physical interaction still squicks me out the majority of the time. The idea of sex is often neutral or rare occasions, arousing minimally. This changes depending on the level of libido, actual interest, or when I'm too overwhelmed or a similar reason to not put any focus into it really...

I am completely indifferent to everyone else's um... sexual habits, I really don't understand why others should be judged or have an interest in someone else's business.

Animalistic, Primitive... A lower form? um... Lower nor higher its... just a thing really...

Sense of superiority.... Um... No... everyone is equal with sexuality... I do feel superiority with my academic skills... but that's another topic ;)

Well complete indifference after masturbation mostly, this plus relief or a sense of satisfaction. This isn't an asexual phenomena I don't think...

I don't actively read or watch porn, most of it is often repulsive, while others are arousing. I don't actively seek porn out either.

Attitude... a positive but a more neutral or apathetic one I think...

[Ravako]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

When I was seven an older friend of mine described sex to me. How/why she knew about it so well at such a young age is another story, but anyway, when she told me about it, my honest response was, "that sounds terrible." I don't know why I remember this moment so well, actually, but it's the first memory I have about sex and even at that young of an age I wasn't even remotely curious about it (most kids would probably have asked more questions. I honestly just thought it sounded like something gross).

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

Ehhhh. I don't I ever really judged anyone for having sex. I honestly wish I could enjoy it.

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

Sex is something people enjoy and I don't find it to be purely animalistic, because I happen to know there's an emotional connection involved (most of the time) in the act, so I don't even view it as a strictly physical act.

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

As I said, I envy sexuals. I'm glad that I don't get embarrassingly aroused, however. I wish, really, that I could turn my ability to be aroused/interested in sex on and off.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

I hate the lack of control involved in the feeling of being sexually aroused (which I've only had happen mostly during physical contact). Like I'm suddenly acting so embarrassingly out of character, and I worry that the other person is judging me and/or feeling like they have some personal control over me. I've tried dropping this hang-up about my sexual repulsion, but I just can't. Not even seven and a half years with the same partner can make me drop this feeling.

Edit: do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

Anything that's very obviously meant to be titillating immediately turns me off, so obviously, anything under the heading "porn" doesn't really do much for me. As I see it as stupid, and the obvious fakeness makes me actively not care, plus there needs to be an emotional connection somewhere in there for me, so still pictures (which largely rely on the attractiveness of the models/people involved to be effective as porn) don't do anything at all. An emotional/physical connection between two characters who I know well is much more of a turn-on for me. (Like, when Amy kissed the Doctor in Flesh and Stone. Hooo buddy, it got really warm in my apartment when I saw that scene).

[supersprite42]

@Wyrmcraft, I really liked your post. Thanks for sharing all of that. =)

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?
Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?
Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?
Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?
Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?
Edit: do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

1. I don't know if I am or not. HELP would be very much appreciated! Maybe my answers to the next few will help.

2. I try not to judge people. I get really confused by it sometimes, though. I don't understand why people who are Christian (or of other faith prohibiting premarital sex) would have sex with someone they aren't married to. I don't understand why people have unsafe sex. I don't understand why the risks wouldn't outweigh the benefits in terms of teens having sex - I mean, come on, why would you take the risk of losing your freedom, whether from a baby or from STDs, just for sex? I'm okay with people having it otherwise, but I don't care to know the details. Hearing my parents grosses me out, but I think that's the same with everyone and their parents, not just aces...
I also realise sex is essential to life, and I love babies. ^_^ Therefore, I can't judge people who have them within a caring, stable relationship, so that helps.

3. Masturbation is. I honestly think that is absolutely disgusting, THOUGH I do realise (now, after many years of thinking it was something few people did) that it's fairly normal behaviour and nothing to be ashamed of. Sex itself between two people who truly love each other and want to share each other completely can be beautiful and I think possibly above any experience, from what I've heard. That part isn't animalistic, as animals don't actually enjoy sex for the most part (which means that all of the female deer and antelopes and everything else basically get raped when they come into heat... *shudder*). Obviously, though, we're animals, so to an extent, it has to be primitive and animalistic, or else we wouldn't have babies.

4. I absolutely do not feel superior to anyone. There are days when I feel bad for my friends who go out and sleep with people simply because it's pleasurable, because I can see that it hurts their ability to build solid relationships, but being ace seems to kind of do that too. Usually I feel inferior to all people.

5. I don't experience arousal. I never have. Therefore, acting on it isn't possible, and you saw my reaction to the idea of masturbating earlier. =P

6. Besides the fact that I don't experience arousal, nor attraction, porn is disrespectful to the people in it. The fact that people will buy/watch porn shows me that our society has no respect for the bodies of other people, nor that those people have respect for their own bodies.

Okay, so I don't know if I'm sex-repulsed or just masturbation-repulsed. I don't know if I can make a judgement on that, considering I have no experience whatsoever (I've never even kissed a guy before). I also don't know just how much of my thoughts about it is influenced by my beliefs, though I know that's a significant part. I promise that I am ace and not just celibate, as I really haven't experienced arousal or attraction EVER, but I'm still trying to determine my spot on the spectrum...

[Wyrmcraft]

Thanks Sprite, it was hard to share.

[supersprite42]

"Example: I feel that my socialist political views are far superior to those of a fundamentalist Christian conservative."

Just wanted to point out that I agree with you here. Honestly, I don't understand why any Christian would BE conservative, but somehow I'm in a minority... My views on sex are quite honestly more based on me being ace than they are on my faith...

Anyways - how do you guys define "repulsed" by sex versus being "neutral" towards it? I see people saying (this is a bad paraphrase) "Sorry, I'm sex REPULSED, and therefore absolutely cannot compromise in terms of sex in any way" in some places, and I'm just wondering... Why???

[Ravako]

Being sex repulsed isn't the same thing as viewing sex as a whole as negative. Sexual repulsion is a personal thing (the person doesn't want to have sex themselves), but that doesn't mean they have any problem with anyone else having sex.

[supersprite42]

I understand that... But why is that different from being neutral to it?

[Member54880]

Repulsion is when you find sex repulsive, and are repulsed by the thought of you doing it. Being neutral to it is to feel indifferent.

[TheNaughtyNeutrois]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

I've always been subconsciously repulsed by sex. I think I may have repressed it in order to "fit in" and be a "normal sexual" like others 'cause I didn't know jack about asexuality when I was a teen.

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

Absolutely indifferent. I don't care what other people do with their bodies. I don't judge other people on their sex lives. However, I *do* get queasy if they feel the need to splurge their sex life details to me.
Plus, I find there are certain types of people who act as if they cannot survive without sex, they act and literally call their sexual arousal "heat" (yep, you heard me right. Like a kitty in heat) and it's not everytime they ovulate like a kitty does, it could be daily. They claim to get sick from it and throw up because they need to be "physically penetrated and cummed inside of" to calm down. This person sets my nerves on edge, I simply cannot relate to them and I dislike it a lot when they come to me in their "heat".

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

Oh yeah, sex is *totally* animalisitc! Well, at least in my fantasies, I am. *laughs* Lottsa biting and dominating, yep!

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?
Hell no. Being asexual or sex-repulsed does *not* make me feel superior at all.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

Yes, I used to act on sex arousal but lately, my sex drive has been lessened significantly so that's kinda a blessing.

Do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

I used to - all three of those things. Not anymore due to answer above.

My sex repulsion confuses me - I get repulsed by sex/sexual acts/sexual attraction if they're directed at me. But if it's another couple or someone else fawning over another person, I'm supportive of them. Hence, I guess thats why I call myself sex-positive. *laughs*

[fuzzipueo]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

By reading romance novels that had erotic content in them and going "ew, really?" I realized that I was forcing myself to read the scenes and not enjoying them at all. Before that I had the one squick out when I was 13 in physical health class when the teacher started talking about the subject. It's amazing what you can forget if you work hard enough at it. :D

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

Indifferent. I don't need to know they're doing it and don't want to know. It's none of my business what others do in private. As long as it's consensual and everyone's happy, have at it.

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

No. Sex is just part of the larger pattern of the life cycle. Without it, there would be no next generation. And, if you watch enough nature programming you realize that not every critter on the planet gets the opportunity to pass on their genetics. I do find one time stands/hookups to be inexplicable though.

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

Not really. I don't feel superior or inferior to sexuals. They have their ways, I have mine.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

If the scene I'm reading is powerful enough, yeah, I can and yes, I do feel rather disgusted about it. The whole thing leaves me feeling quite ... icky.

Edit: do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

Not pornography - but a very specific form of erotica.

[Flowers and Ghosts]

I understand that... But why is that different from being neutral to it?

I like to think of it in terms of being sex-repulsed means that you wouldn't have sex in a compromise with a partner because you are simply disgusted by it. But then again, there could be someone who is sex-repulsed who REALLY wants to please their sexual partner, but it seems like it would just be really uncomfortable and not pleasurable at all whatsoever.

[Renly]

]When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

After the second time I tried it I realized that was I was feeling was sex repulsion and not me just being weird. I was never interested and always repulsed by sex. I just didn't realize it for a long time.

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them?

I am absolutely indifferent about other people having sex. My best friends sometimes talk about it and I don't judge.

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

I've never thought about it and I don't really care.

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

Not at all. If nothing I envy the fact that it is 100% easier for them to become romantically involved with someone.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I don't enjoy it though so I tend not to,

Describe your attitude in any way you please!

I don't mind being Sex Repulsed Part of me is really upset from it, mainly because I am such a die hard hopeless romantic, I constantly dream and wish about getting married in the future and having a beautiful wedding, and it's so hard to find someone who is also ace near me or even in my city, or a sexual who is willing to be sexless.

[Flowers and Ghosts]

I decided to answer these as well!

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

I had borderline-sexual experiences when I was younger that I did not enjoy. When I was 16 I was pressured into sexual actions (unsuccessfully) by someone I, at the time, respected but this pressuring made me lose respect for that person and look down on sex as general as predatory. Even if that didn't happen, I just don't see myself ever having sex with an actual other person.

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

I don't think there's anything bad about the fact that they do it, but I feel like automatically, I judge them for it. Not in a they're-bad-people way but in a I-thought-you-were-better-than-that sort of way, if that makes sense? I realize this is likely because society conditioned me to feel this way about it, though. I'm trying to break out of this mindset.

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

I do, partly because it is, but also partly because there are so many other ways to show you love someone aside from sex. I just don't see what makes sex special.

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

In a way, but not really. I think it's just a defense mechanism if so, like others have mentioned.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

Yes. I do feel disgusted.

Edit: do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

Yes. I just can't see myself doing those kinds of things in real life though.

Describe your attitude in any way you please!

I feel like there is separation between my self and my sexual self, if that makes sense. Sex just doesn't seem like in the realm of things I would ever actually do because it's generally gross to me,

[fuzzipueo]

I missed that last question:

Describe your attitude in any way you please!

There are times when I wished I'd never picked up on reading romance novels. Before that I was quite happy with my existence. The idea of having sex never even crossed the old brain. Now, it's stuck in my head like a broken record. Yet, in a lot of ways, it's been a great deal of relief to realize that my repulsion actually has a basis. I was never traumatized, never had a bad sexual experience, never even had a boyfriend, so I was left wondering why the idea of actually letting anyone get near me with the intention of having sex just made me shudder. Why anyone would want to do something so gross just really boggles the brain. But, as I said above, if you like and enjoy it, I'm not going to say anything because it's none of my business - just don't share the details! :)

[MtnKizzle]

Flowers, I was going to answer your questions, but we are almost identical!!!!! Your answers are just about what I would have said.:)

[Nonbientot]

I used to be repulsed, but I got over myself. It's a natural and emotionally healthy thing for consenting people. It can make people happy. It's just body parts. Like kissing or something.

Still, some things like oral sex are absolutely disgusting to me, but I don't think it has to do with my asexuality. It's just gross to me.

[Arctangent]

When/how did you realize you were repulsed by sex?

I don't think there was ever a distinct moment of realization for me. I suppose it was when I realized most other people weren't sex repulsed - for a while, I assumed people mostly had sex for procreation. Once I figured out that most people actively wanted to have sex, I felt a little off because I lacked that desire. For a while, I didn't understand what drove people to do something that seemed kind of icky to me, but I didn't really think of it much. It clicked once I discovered asexuality.

Are you indifferent to the fact that other people have sex or do you judge them (whether you realize that's wrong or not)?

I'm completely indifferent. The thought of other people having sex does not bother me at all, although the concept does seem foreign to me at times. In fact, I've even got some intellectual curiosity regarding why and how other people have sex, so I don't really mind discussing it in a rational manner.

Building on the previous question, do you feel that sex is animalistic/primitive/a lower form of ...social activity?

No, I do not view sex as being an inherently low/primitive activity. I'm more or less neutral toward it. However, I do think that the society I live in tends to exaggerate the value of sex sometimes.

Do you feel a sense of superiority over sexuals?

Not really. I think there are positives and negatives associated with being sexual as well as being asexual. I don't personally feel that being asexual is an overall advantage or a reason to feel superior over sexual people; it's just different.

Despite your own sex repulsion do you experience/act on sexual arousal (i.e masturbation) and if so do you feel shame or disgust inwardly because of this?

I have a libido and I do masturbate. I don't have any negative feelings associated with masturbation.

Do you watch, read, or get turned on by pornography?

I rarely specifically seek out pornography. I don't like it in video form, but I don't mind written or drawn pornography as long as it's relatively tasteful. It can cause me to feel aroused, but I usually just prefer to fantasize while masturbating.

Describe your attitude in any way you please!

I was never all that interested in having sex. Whenever I imagine myself having sex, it makes me feel uncomfortable, so it's something I'd rather avoid. I should add that I consider myself only mildly sex repulsed - the thought of having sex doesn't completely disgust me; it's just something I'd rather not do. In the context of a romantic relationship, I might be willing to compromise to some degree, but that would require a lot of trust, emotional connection, and open discussion.

[OkayWithIt]

I realized I was repulsed by sex when I saw nudes...

I am happy that other people have sex! It is a good thing. I just personally don't want anything to do with it haha.

I believe sex is a natural occurring thing, so I think there's nothing low about it.

I feel neither superior nor inferior to sexuals. No need to!

I do act on arousal, but it's only to get rid of it. I feel mild shame, but nothing mentally damaging.

I do not looking at "private parts," so porn is a no-no for me.

This is all just me personally! Hope I didn't offend anyone.

[0gb.us]

I realized I was repulsed by sex when I first learned what sex is. It did not sound like anything I wanted to be a part of!

I am indifferent to other people having sex though. To me, sex is like skydiving: something I don't personally want to do, and something that I don't understand the feeling of wanting to do, but not something I think is "wrong" to do. Besides, the way I see it, if no one has sex, humans die off. As long as there are enough people having sex, I don't have to!

Yes, sex is very animalistic. But what's wrong with that? Humans are animals, after all.

Usually, I ignore arousal. It's a minor annoyance, and tends to go away soon enough.

Recently, I've been forcingarousal when no one is arround, for masterbation. I read a study that said men without frequent ejaculation are morelikely to get certain types of cancer. Needless to say, cancer doesn't sound fun. It feels really odd physically, and I don't understand why people seek that sensation. However, it has no effect on me emotionally. It's a bodily function, and nothing more. It would be like being discusted when I have to pee: not logical.

I don't get turned on by pornography, though I have looked at some out of curiosity. Again, it's not like it desterbs me, but I find it pretty boring. I'm repulsed by the thought of ME having sex, but watching other people have sex has no impact for me.

[ObsessedWithCats]

To me, sex is like skydiving: something I don't personally want to do, and something that I don't understand the feeling of wanting to do, but not something I think is "wrong" to do.

I wouldn't normally post just to say I agree with something, but this is almost precisely how I feel. Only I would also really rather people didn't 'skydive' in the shower I have to use etc, while I have no problem with people actually skydiving into fields I want to walk through.