silvernlilac Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Maybe there is, but I cant imagine so. I am sick of spending every single night feeling lonely. I dont want a relationship but I want *something*, feel empty a lot of the time and I am sure it is that something that is missing that is causing that. It would be so great if there was websites like dating sites but purely for friendship/companionship. Even the asexual dating sites seem to be just for people who want relationships or to date. I need more friends and have tried (and keep trying) the going to meet ups/socialing route and it doesnt work or doesnt work long term. I like being on my own but am so sick of feeling lonely. Would be so nice if there was a site where you could message people (males or females) based on shared interests purely for friendship and know that everyone else there just wants friendship/companionship and best of all, no sex :) And you could also indicate in your profile what kind of friendship your looking for and if you want things like snuggles/hugs and stuff too *keeps dreaming* Link to post Share on other sites
LionRoar Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 You should start one. Link to post Share on other sites
pickles43 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 maybe you could start it! make your own website thats just for friendship Link to post Share on other sites
LionRoar Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 What about something like Facebook? Link to post Share on other sites
Member4445 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I was just about to say "It's called facebook" :p Link to post Share on other sites
silvernlilac Posted April 15, 2013 Author Share Posted April 15, 2013 Its hard to find people on facebook that have shared interests and stuff though. Plus I could never message a random person (esp a guy) on facebook. They'd automatically think I was after a date or sex even or was flirting with them :o Link to post Share on other sites
Argon Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 http://www.meetup.com/find/ This site is for folks to meet up with one another who have similar interests. I've used it a few times and it's pretty good for social interaction that isn't solely focused on romance. Link to post Share on other sites
Member4445 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Its hard to find people on facebook that have shared interests and stuff though. Plus I could never message a random person (esp a guy) on facebook. They'd automatically think I was after a date or sex even or was flirting with them :o Acebook. Link to post Share on other sites
kimbo21 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 good idea :) Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I'm surprised nobody has cited the AVEN pen pals thread yet. It's a great place to start off with if you want to make friends. :) Link to post Share on other sites
Melorian Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 There is a site called PlatonicPartners.co.uk which I have perused and it seems okay. You need to pay for membership though but it is not expensive. I haven't joined myself yet because I am not sure if I really want to. It is not just for asexual people it can be for people who are celibate or who have certain disorders which affect their sex drive or anything else. It uses a traffic light system for the amount of physical intimacy you are comfortable with / are capable of. Seems to have a lot of members too. Link to post Share on other sites
Zerο Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I think "dating site" for making "friends" is a bit contradicting. Just use one of the social sites suggested in previous posts. Link to post Share on other sites
Notte stellata Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I think "dating site" for making "friends" is a bit contradicting. Very much this. After looking for friends on OKC with little success, I realized friendship needs to develop naturally. The organic approach works much better than choosing potential friends from a bunch of profiles. I met some of my close friends on AVEN and other forums. We interacted on the forums first, then I noticed some people's opinions constantly resonated with mine, so I dropped them a message and our friendship started from there. One disadvantage of this approach is you tend to meet long-distance friends, but personally I don't mind that. Long-distance friends who share my core values beat local friends who can only talk about superficial things with me any day. Link to post Share on other sites
Kitty Spoon Train Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Yeah, as others have said - go to meetups or join interest groups. I think the reason "dating" sites don't exist for friendship is that real friendship has to develop organically. You know how it is - if you look at people on paper, they might seem very compatible with you, but then, for some reason the "conversational chemistry" is just off. This is a huge problem in dating, but in some ways it would actually be even worse in friendship-dating. At least in dating there is some sort of very direct goal, rather than just getting to know a person as a mostly aimless social connection (which is basically how good friendships tend to start). So yeah, as much as I hate the idea of socialising having to revolve around "activities", for actually making friendships that's probably the only way to go. And it doesn't have to be IRL either. You can hang out on forums and get to know people. AVEN is great, but unfortunately we're all spread out all over the world (if one is looking for friendships to go IRL that is). For me: if I was interested in making more of an RL social life, I'd probably look for forums and interest groups locally (both online and partly off as well I guess). Link to post Share on other sites
Janus the Fox Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 Well... you can set-up OKCupid for friends only... Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 Well... you can set-up OKCupid for friends only... I actually tried that long ago (I was mostly curious about how dating sites working, but I didn't want a partner, so I wrote clearly in my profile that I was only looking for pen friends). Didn't work. And I still got some really horny messages over there... so I do understand where the OP is coming from. :P I made some awesome friends on AVEN instead, both on here and on the Italian board (which I administrate). Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 26, 2013 Share Posted April 26, 2013 That would be nice wouldn't it? I was going to mention (although I've never used them) meetup.com and acebook. Sometimes libraries and churches have stuff like this too. Like my library has a book club and a mahjong club thing. Anyone have any luck with any of these? Good luck everyone I hope you find what you're looking for! Link to post Share on other sites
Face Posted April 26, 2013 Share Posted April 26, 2013 Friends ultimately come from shared values or shared experiences and just develop. You need to do more with the same people. Meetup.com or Aven meet are one way to meet and do stuff with the same people. Link to post Share on other sites
Azure.Providence Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 Meetup.com and AVEN meetups has yielded me some success. I used to go to festivals quite regularly and I've met quite a few people there also met many people at work. Perhaps if I wasn't so terrible at warming up to new people I would be more successful at making all these new people actual friends. I even managed to meet non-creepy people on craigslist in the platonic section but that was prolly luck more than anything... Link to post Share on other sites
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Kitty Spoon Train Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 Meetup.com and AVEN meetups has yielded me some success. I used to go to festivals quite regularly and I've met quite a few people there also met many people at work. Perhaps if I wasn't so terrible at warming up to new people I would be more successful at making all these new people actual friends. I even managed to meet non-creepy people on craigslist in the platonic section but that was prolly luck more than anything... I was bored so I put up a "looking for cuddle buddy" ad on craigslist this morning. I clearly put a note in there saying no casual sexual shenanigans. These are the responses for far: 1. An illegal prostitute (despite the no sexual stuff note). 2. A dude who wants to be suck buddies (despite the ad being in the m4w section and clearly stating no casual sex). Why did I even do it? Mostly as a joke. It seems like there's nothing but casual kinksters, scammers, and prostitutes on there. So I wanted to put up something super innocent, honest, and different - just to see how it stands out, and if it gets any replies. :lol: Link to post Share on other sites
Jetsetter75 Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 You could try Gumtree. You could post an advert and state 'friendship' only and place it in the nearest location to you. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Kitty Spoon Train Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 I've taken down my craigslist cuddle buddy ad. Way too much spam from weirdos and prostitutes. I did have some fun with one of them though: one of those who was being all coy and pretending to be genuinely interested so as to avoid directly identifying in black and white that she's "working". I tried to see how long I could keep a genuine email exchange going (as if we're real email penpals getting to know each other for a genuine connection) before she gives up. Managed to get up to 6 emails. :lol: That site is an absolute goldmine for some trolling fun. Link to post Share on other sites
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