Posted 28 March 2013 - 04:37 AM
I got the talk ... oh hm. I don't remember. Very early my Mother explained the basics, I was allowed to watch adult movies (like action/scifi stuff) and some had sex scenes. Around nine I got the "what 69 means if someone ever asks" etc talks. I was told to wait until marriage, or until I was 80, because my Mother didn't want to be a grandmother (and still doesn't) but she was never that serious - she even gave me lingerie when I started dating at 15. At 16 I talked with her about the difference between natural and condom feel in sex, with my then bf also in the car, he was not very comfy and went a bit red. Sooooo yeah, doubt the talk made me ace. I experimented based on the info more than I may have otherwise.
“I mean, as a man and a woman love.”
He took a breath. “And how is that?”
“I mean . . .” It half-angered me that he pretended not to understand me. “For bedding. For . . .”
“And is that how a man loves a woman?” he interrupted me suddenly. “For bedding?”
“It’s a part of it!” I felt suddenly defensive but could not say why.
He arched an eyebrow at me and said calmly, “You are confusing plumbing and love again.” Robin Hobb - Farseer Trilogy
It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences. - Audre Lorde