What are you willing to compromise on? (Possibly TMI)

[shockkkk]

Assuming you were in a relationship, what (potentially sexual) activities would you be willing to engage in?

I tried to select a number of sensual activities, ranging from what is usually thought of as very sexual to not sexual at all. I tried to have an extensive and specific list of activities, but I am sure I missed some. If someone wants me to add another option, I am all game.

It was pretty much impossible to distinguish between every fetish/kinky activity, but I tried to group them on what I believe to often be people's boundaries.

For me personally, oral and anal would be completely out of the question. I'm pretty sure I could do on standard penetrative intercourse and possibly manual stimulation. I wouldn't have a problem doing most kinky activities, and would likely enjoy some, except those involving bodily fluids. Some bodily fluids are better than others, but I don't think I could ever do anything with blood or feces. I wouldn't have a problem with doing anything else on the list and with the right person I would definitely enjoy massages and prolonged kissing.

[5_♦♣]

I honestly don't know. Probably because I can't picture myself in a relationship long enough to compromise on sexual activities. And even if I were, I'd likely be in an open relationship so they can get their 'needs' met elsewhere.

[The Great WTF]

My partner's very fond of anal and the only reason I have problems with it is because he's very... well endowed... and not used to being with someone who's not already adjusted to it. His previous boyfriend was a bit of a manwhore and kind of fell into the 'throwing a hot dog down a hallway' joke in that aspect.

Beyond that, I'm not terribly concerned when it comes to compromising. I'm not very easily repulsed, so I'll try anything once and thus far he hasn't found anything that is beyond my limits. *shrugs* Yeah, I'm weird.

[Kitty Spoon Train]

Being demisexual, for me it's not so much about what I'm willing to compromise on, but how fast...

Basically I'm just not up for anything too explicit too soon, but there is no real explanation why. I'm simply not. I just don't feel it until there's a real connection, emotionally. This confuses sexual girls, because they're used to guys trying to get in their pants on the first date - so they feel unattractive for not being wanted that way upfront.

If we're talking explicit acts - well, then I guess once I actually am connected with someone I'm quite flexible. It's mostly that the headspace I have to reach with a person is quite specific - especially for intercourse.

[5_♦♣]

I do know that anal sex is completely out of the question. As is giving oral-I've never liked the thought of putting my mouth anywhere near someone else's genitals... Even when I was sexual. I do like kissing. Everything else, I'm unsure about.

[Striped Sweater]

I wouldn't compromise on anything to please any potential partners. I'm repulsed by all of that stuff except for the massage one...and I'm incredibly ticklish, so that's a no-go. I also don't really mind kissing in general, but I don't want to lock face with people for more than like 1 second haha. Hugging/cuddling/hand-holding is totally okay. Maybe I'm just a prude.

If I ever get involved in another relationship, it's gotta be with another asexual. I couldn't prevent a sexual from fulfilling their basic human needs.

[Janus the Fox]

It's likely Ill give most things regarding normal sexual practices with men and women, but only when I am faced with sexual acts themselves, only then I can judge what I can compromise on or not.

Though often a regular topic, A Title only search on the word Compromise suggests a unique and often changing attitude on all things sex, a good history lesson at least...

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Soooo... I only ticked the massage and reading erotica options, which means pretty much nothing. Lol

[Guest]

I ticked massages, prolonged kissing, and giving manual stimulation. Everything else (including receiving manual) is just about out of the question.

And that said, all of these are already much harder for me to imagine actually working in real life than over some virtual channel (chat/phone).

[MadRat]

It´s ridiculously theoretic but I´m not repulsed by the idea of penetration if done very gently and slowly, by manual stimulation (both giving and receiving), BDSM activities (but I would have to be a dom), and I have hair good enough for hair fetish. :D

Long kissing and massages could be OK.

But it´s a theory and it will probably stay that way because I´m too much repulsed by oral sex and by idiotic rules "sex on the third date" and by importance of sex in relationships in general. I´m not totally unable to compromise but I´m totally unwilling.

[Vyanni Krace]

Its unlikely that I'll ever be in a relationship. At least, not one that gets that far.

But if I did get into a relationship that lasts that long then there would be little I'd be willing to compromise on. I don't want to be penetrated and I certainly will not give oral or allow my partner to go anywhere near my private areas.

There may be a chance of me giving a hand-job but I'd have to be in a VERY good mood. (I'd then be in the bathroom for hours trying to scrub my hand(s) clean.)

I would not want to be manually stimulated by my partner but I may occasionally stimulate my partner, again, I'd have to be in a VERY good mood to do so.

I don't think I'd respond very well if someone tried to do something kinky with bodily fluids (I like blood but I wouldn't want either of us to be cut-It'd remind me far too much of when I used to self harm) and I don't know what you mean by kinks involving feet and hair. I wouldn't agree to BDSM. Maybe role-play but it isn't likely. Not at all.

I'd much prefer to read erotica/porn by myself if I were to do so because I'd feel far too self-conscious if I had company.

Massages would be fine because I enjoy giving and receiving massages. I might be okay with prolonged kissing but I wouldn't really know because I've never kissed someone romantically before.

Mutual masturbation is just a big no.

So basically all I'd agree to are prolonged kissing, massages, and maybe manually stimulating my partner. And most of that's only if I can get over my awkwardness with intimate situations. So basically; not much.

[The Hollow of Morning]

I have never been in a relationship so it's hard for me to say what I would be willing to compromise on. The only activity on the list I've taken part in is mutual masturbation so I would definitely be willing to do that again. At the moment the only other activities I think I would feel comfortable with are prolonged kissing, massages, and possibly other kinky activities.

[Faust Darkwell]

I don't really know. I'm willing to do most of these things, but I'll probably go home afterward to take a scalding shower, where I'll most likely be curled up in a ball and crying. Oh, the guilt. Intense, nerve-wracking guilt.

[R_1]

I wish this poll had a 'Not interested into labels' option. I already have abandoned the use of sexuality labels since there's problems with every single interpretations.

[MadRat]

I´m not sexual but that section for sexuals confuses me. Is it meant like "What are you willing to give up?"

[Notte stellata]

I'm okay with pretty much all the regular sexual activities: penetration, oral (both giving and receiving), manual stimulation (both giving and receiving), mutual masturbation. And prolonged kissing and massages, of course.

Among kinky activities, I only ticked those involving non-sexual body parts (still depends on the specifics I guess). Technically I can do role-playing, but I must be terrible at it for lack of sexual desire. :P Kinky activities involving bodily fluids and BDSM are absolutely out of the question.

Technically I can watch porn or read erotica too, but watching porn is more boring than having sex for me (never read erotica, but I don't think I'll enjoy it very much). I think since I can compromise on actual sex, watching porn or reading erotica is probably not so important.

[shockkkk]

I´m not sexual but that section for sexuals confuses me. Is it meant like "What are you willing to give up?"

No, its the same thing as the asexual poll. For some sexuals, some of these activities are still off limits.

[Faust Darkwell]

One of the most common things I've heard heterosexual and bisexual men complain about is their female partners' unwillingness to participate in anal sex.

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One of the most common things I've heard heterosexual and bisexual men complain about is their female partners' unwillingness to participate in anal sex.

The funny thing is that this only started after they began showing women having anal sex (and looking like they were enjoying it) in porn movies. Before that, bi or straight men rarely considered having anal sex with women. lol.

I've talked to many sexual women about it, and all of them say it hurts way too much and it isn't pleasurable at all. But it seems the pressure to engage in it really exists.

[Faust Darkwell]

One of the most common things I've heard heterosexual and bisexual men complain about is their female partners' unwillingness to participate in anal sex.

The funny thing is that this only started after they began showing women having anal sex (and looking like they were enjoying it) in porn movies. Before that, bi or straight men rarely considered having anal sex with women. lol.

I've talked to many sexual women about it, and all of them say it hurts way too much and it isn't pleasurable at all. But it seems the pressure to engage in it really exists.

I'm sure people were having anal sex long before porn came along and made it a little more mainstream. lol But yes, it is a little strange that the pressure continues to persist even after their partners have made their feelings clear.

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I'm sure people were having anal sex long before porn came along and made it a little more mainstream.

I suppose so. It seems that's what happened to oral sex as well.

Yeah, men tend to be pretty persistent about it, from what I've heard.

[5_♦♣]

Odd. In the first poll, no one has checked off 'I am sexual', yet in the second poll, plenty of the options are checked off.

[Lady Girl]

I haven't taken the poll because I feel slightly confused. Being sexual means some of these things I happily do (no need to compromise). In other words, if I mark the ones I would compromise on, I will be leaving unticked both the things I don't want to do at all, and things I would happily do.

[Bye Bye Birdy]

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[MadRat]

One of the most common things I've heard heterosexual and bisexual men complain about is their female partners' unwillingness to participate in anal sex.

The funny thing is that this only started after they began showing women having anal sex (and looking like they were enjoying it) in porn movies. Before that, bi or straight men rarely considered having anal sex with women. lol.

I've talked to many sexual women about it, and all of them say it hurts way too much and it isn't pleasurable at all. But it seems the pressure to engage in it really exists.

The same goes for oral sex. The most of women don´t like it but it´s considered as normal because it´s normal in porn and their partners often pressure them into it. That´s why I hate porn so much.

Of course there surely were people who invited oral and anal sex before porn but porn made it mainstream and "normal".

I hate it.

I hate it.

I hate it.

[Einy]

One of the most common things I've heard heterosexual and bisexual men complain about is their female partners' unwillingness to participate in anal sex.

The funny thing is that this only started after they began showing women having anal sex (and looking like they were enjoying it) in porn movies. Before that, bi or straight men rarely considered having anal sex with women. lol.

I've talked to many sexual women about it, and all of them say it hurts way too much and it isn't pleasurable at all. But it seems the pressure to engage in it really exists.

The same goes for oral sex. The most of women don´t like it but it´s considered as normal because it´s normal in porn and their partners often pressure them into it. That´s why I hate porn so much.

Of course there surely were people who invited oral and anal sex before porn but porn made it mainstream and "normal".

I hate it.

I hate it.

I hate it.

I doubt that the most women don't like giving oral sex. There definitely is plenty of women who don't like it, but 'the most' is quite exaggerated, I would say.

And for the sexual part of the poll, I thought it was meant on what are you willing to compromise with asexual partner ( so either give up or do with some restriction) so I voted for - None of the Above. But maybe I got it wrong.

[Tool1989]

No anal sex. Giving oral sex is iffy...I'll do it but I won't enjoy it. I don't like recieving oral (apparently most women think all guys do?) Everything else is ok...from what I can think of anyways.

Oh...just read the poll options. No kinky activities for me.

[Guest member25959]

If they're willing to make it more interesting and kinky then pretty much anything

[shockkkk]

I haven't taken the poll because I feel slightly confused. Being sexual means some of these things I happily do (no need to compromise). In other words, if I mark the ones I would compromise on, I will be leaving unticked both the things I don't want to do at all, and things I would happily do.

Question is probably worded poorly. Just tick off the things you would be willing (or happy) to do. I'm sure some asexuals would happily do some of the activities on the list as well.

[Tenebre]

I haven't taken the poll because I feel slightly confused. Being sexual means some of these things I happily do (no need to compromise). In other words, if I mark the ones I would compromise on, I will be leaving unticked both the things I don't want to do at all, and things I would happily do.

Question is probably worded poorly. Just tick off the things you would be willing (or happy) to do. I'm sure some asexuals would happily do some of the activities on the list as well.

Yeah, I'm ace and I put the things that I'd happily do in as well as the compromising. Massages definitely go in the happily do category (I have scoliosis, massages make my back feel way better and I have nothing against returning the favor. It has nothing to do with sex :P) and I'm pretty sure that kissing goes in there as well. My main clear no line is no anal (giving or receiving) and no kinky things around bodily fluids (I'm very squeamish), sub/dom, or pain. Some things like oral (giving) would probably depend on my partner's sex but I'm not sure I could do it for either.

Of course this is all theoretical because I've never gotten past hugs with people and don't have much drive to ever do anything more than kissing. I do, however, consider myself sex positive in that I'm willing to discuss and probably engage in sexual activities. I'm not sexually attracted to people but I do have a libido so maybe it'd be an interesting way to take care of that.