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Have any of you ever been in an Ace/Ace relationship? If yes! , How was it??


I have many questions about how cool an Ace/Ace relationship is, I think it is every asexual´s dream, just cuddle, kissing, and supporting each other, But like in every other relationship there are disagreements and fights and jealousy, may be because we all human after all.

Asexuals couples is not different of any other type of couples, the difference is the sex .... nothing else.

It would be great, may be not, maybe we have to stop looking for someone like us and start looking for someone who love us and respect our asexuality.


And It is sad when a chat starts and I can see most of us feel lonely and wish to find the right person, even when we enjoy party, and enjoy our hobbies we would like to share it with someone else.


I hope we all can find another person Ace or not that give us all the companionship we are looking for.

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FlopTart

I hope to experience an ace on ace relationship. I feel I am just not very interesting to a sexual person, and going into a relationship knowing there already will be an issue is just sad. The world is a big place. I'm sure there is hope for anyone who desires a relationship.

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The Astromancer

I want to be in an ace relationship, just because when I'm talking to a sexual and even if they're joking - when they talk with sexual innuendos it just creeps me out.

I also have a weird thing where I can think of someone romantically if they watch porn, I'm sure that's odd, but it's just me.

While I know some aces do -- I also know a lot don't.

So yeaa. My thoughts.

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coz118

would be great... unfortunately, no clue how to start one - or find another asexual for that matter... I haven't met a single person who's asexual, let alone another person who's compatible with me. I find that would be just as hard.

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The Astromancer
would be great... unfortunately, no clue how to start one - or find another asexual for that matter... I haven't met a single person who's asexual, let alone another person who's compatible with me. I find that would be just as hard.

Try talking to some friends about this, if you're willing to be open.

Two of my friends a lesbian and a pansexual guy I know, happened to be aces. =]

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The Great WTF

*raises hands* I'm going to be That Guy for a second. I have no desire to be in an ace/ace relationship or any relationship for that matter and the implication that every person, ace or otherwise, desires a relationship is a bit of a raw nerve with me. I know you meant no offense by it, but after a lifetime of 'You know you want it', it gets on my nerves when people assume we all have romantic desires.

My partner of three years is pansexual. He is my best friend, my confidante, the first person to be truly supportive of my asexuality, and I don't think there is a romantic bone in either of our bodies. I am happy that way and have no doubt that whatever it is we have is a one-off. If and when we end, I will be content to be alone with my cats and my novels for the rest of my life. The chances of me finding another ace that suits me the way Gin does are slim to none and I have better things to do than look for them or daydream about them. Save whoever might be my partner one day for someone who actually needs them.

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Azure.Providence
I also have a weird thing where I can think of someone romantically if they watch porn, I'm sure that's odd, but it's just me.

I'm confused. I am not even sure how to phrase my clairifiying question. Could you elaborate?

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Ace-of-Blades

I've recently found out my partner is a gray-asexual, after he started seeing similarities between my behavior and thought process. I think he was listening during my ramblings about AVEN, and during a big discussion he said thinks he might be on the asexual spectum. We talked about it, I showed him a few sites, and he decided on it.

Even before we both found out about this asexual side to ourselves,we basically living in an asexual relationship.Lots of cuddles with movies. Games nights with popcorn and mountain dew. We would even make sushi together all the time. Sex never was, and never will be a big thing in our relationship, and I think finding out this side of himself has made him realize that he doesn't have to like things, or do things just because he's a male. We still fight, mostly because we don't talk about things, or just generally get on each others nerves. Like any relationship really.

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Philip027

If I ever actually managed to find myself in a long-term relationship (which already seemed extremely unlikely to me even before I was able to put a name to my asexuality) I would think ace/ace is gonna be the only way it works out, unless their "sexual" side is too insignificant to be a factor. I am repulsed ace, so not really willing to make a compromise on that regard >_>

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The Astromancer
I also have a weird thing where I can think of someone romantically if they watch porn, I'm sure that's odd, but it's just me.

I'm confused. I am not even sure how to phrase my clairifiying question. Could you elaborate?

I can't date someone who watches porn because for some reason as soon as I hear that any romantic affection I might have had disappears because I find that act so disgusting.

I think clarifies?

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Ace-of-Blades
I also have a weird thing where I can think of someone romantically if they watch porn, I'm sure that's odd, but it's just me.

I'm confused. I am not even sure how to phrase my clairifiying question. Could you elaborate?

I can't date someone who watches porn because for some reason as soon as I hear that any romantic affection I might have had disappears because I find that act so disgusting.

I think clarifies?

I agree with this one. I'm like that too, it just seems to...whats the word..demeaning! That and porn is proven to have really bad, effects on the brain.

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trueblue

I would love to experience an ace/ace relationship. I don't think I can think of a single thing that would make me happier :D

Problem is finding someone...... this seems to be the only place where we all hang out, and I don't know about everyone else, but I just don't think it's possible to form a close bond with someone without meeting face to face! Need to get me to a 'meet'.....

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ASF13957

I am in one, and have been since October of 2011. My partner is grey-romantic, so it's not a completely normal romantic relationship, but in terms of our behaviour in it I think it is unremarkable (except for the lack of sex). It is just that his feelings are a bit different than average. We do kiss, cuddle, etc. Yes, we do disagree sometimes, and we've made a lot of mistakes in the past, but it's still working out so far. We each have a number of demons that we have to deal with which aren't directly related to the relationship, as well, so we recognise that when we disagree it's not always about one another. People also think we're gay a lot, since we're both men and are fairly openly affectionate with one another.

That said, I do not think it is necessarily any better than a relationship with a sexual, at least for me. I'm quite definitively indifferent, and wouldn't mind having regular sex with a partner. I enjoy my relationship because I like my partner a lot, but his being asexual doesn't have a whole lot to do with that, I think.

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Sky in Focus

I am curious what an ace/ace relationship would be like. I am currently dating a sexual and it can be rough sometimes, I'm still figuring myself out.

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Zerο

I'm hopeful I can find an ace/ace relationship. It's a shame I'm so lazy when it comes to non-exercise/manga/video game stuff.

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alison_alice

I'd love to be really good overly affectionate friends with another ace. I wouldn't necessarily want a romantic relationship with them, but still.

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Michele74

All my "relationships" have been with guys who were very sexual. :( I'm currently looking for an ace/ace relationship. I'm non-compromising; so either a sexual person will have to give up sex (with me anyway), I need to find another ace or some poor guy who is "unable to perform", or just be alone forever :( . I found this asexual dating site the other day: www.asexualitic.com. I also found Acebook - which seems dead. No activity. But the asexualitic site is a bit more active. Check it out. The more people that get on there - the better our chances are!! ;) ...and it's free!!

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Zerο

Oh wow, first broad search and I noticed a bunch of AVEN members. :blink:

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Striped Sweater

I guess I could say I was in one...? But this was before I knew I even knew asexuality was a thing, so I'm not sure. But to the two of us, a date pretty much meant hanging out and watching a movie or something. There was some physical contact (cuddling and the like), but we had absolutely no sexual contact. We thought sex would be entirely pointless in our relationship. The relationship didn't last long (about five months), and I haven't heard from him since he broke up with me (he turned into a major jerk), but it was an extremely happy time for me. I worry that I'll never find another person like him again.

And It is sad when a chat starts and I can see most of us feel lonely and wish to find the right person, even when we enjoy party, and enjoy our hobbies we would like to share it with someone else
I definitely feel that way too. Right now, I'm in school and WAY too busy for a relationship, but I hope to find someone after I graduate from college. I've been single for almost four years now...I think I can deal with a little bit of loneliness for another year and a half.

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Lady Heartilly

I was in a relationship with another asexual back in college. It was really great for a while. We were very affectionate, fell asleep in each other's arms, and did everything together. However, it didn't work out in the end because he was so prone to depression and turning everything happy into something sad that after a while, I couldn't take it anymore and broke up with him. :( I'd love to be in another asexual relationship, but unfortunately, every guy I dated since then was quite sexual. I also ended up moving out of state after college, so I'm not sure it would have worked out even if we did stay together.

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Qutenkringley

I've had a couple long distance relationships with other asexuals, but, yeah, emphasis on both had and long distance. I suppose I might have better luck if I moved either near a major city or out to the west coast, where all the female aces, who supposedly outnumber the male aces, hang out, but, for now, meh.

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Gwenwyn

I like the idea of an ace-ace relationship, although I'm not sure about the reality. I'm not very good at the whole relationship/people thing, although I guess it'd be far easier without sex and all the related issues. It's a nice dream but I doubt it'll happen.

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this_is_me

I love the idea of an ace/ace relationship but I guess I can't really know until I experience it and I don't feel very hopeful of that ever happening. Trying not to let it get me down.

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